The worst secret your SO is keeping from you...

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I am late to this thread, probably will just get buried, but I need to vent. Just spent a romantic and expensive 3-day weekend in Denver attending the Comic Con with my wife. Spent over $ 1,000 not including tickets to make sure we had a good time. She told me TONIGHT that she was going out to drink wine and paint with her sisters who live an hour away. I already had my suspicions, so I didn't buy it. Googled the dude I thought she was cheating on me with, got his address, packed the kids in the car and drove over to find the car I bought her parked in his driveway. Took the car (the loan, insurance, registration is in my name), dropped it off somewhere she can't get to it. Meanwhile, her older sister texts me to tell me she had too much to drink and was going to pass out at her house, but would be home early in the morning. So much BULLSHIT! Went home and bagged up all her clothes and shoes, her wedding dress, our wedding album, actually any photos of the two of us I could find, her toiletries, and laid them out on the driveway. Changed the locks to the doors, disabled the garage door, and locked all the windows so she cannot get in. Took our 3 year old daughter and my 6 year old step-son to my parents house. Put her bicycle in the middle of her pile of shit. Now I am just sitting here, waiting for her to figure out what has happened. Tomorrow, it will be time to cancel her cell phone (I pay for it), lawyer up, and start hitting the gym. It is also my first day on a new job, one I only accepted since the pay would make providing for MY FAMILY so much easier. This wasn't the first time she has cheated, but it will be the last. I just don't know how to tell my 6 year old son, who has lived with me since he was 1 and who I have always loved as if he were biologically mine, that I probably won't get to be his Daddy anymore. Fuck my life and fuck that cheating whore.
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It decided the rest of my life but I'm still confused as to whether it is more of a blessing or burden.
My girlfriend asked me to come inside her during sex and I said I didn't want to, she insisted and said she'd get 'plan b' the next day (we'd done it before). I went ahead and did so, she found it arousing. She told me she took it the next day.
4 days pass, we're both asleep and her phone vibrates. The preview of her text said something along the lines of 'Watch us both be preggo, lol.' Piqued my curiosity so I opened the conversation. Apparently her coworker asked her if she took the pill. She said she didn't.
At this point I figured it was too late to do anything and I'd take the consequences as they come.
My little princess is due in 4 days. I'm beyond happy in my relationship and life. I doubt I'll ever tell her I know. Oh well.


(Making the best of the situation?)
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. . . Fuck my life and fuck that cheating whore.



Wow! It sounds like he had this well planned, as in "The next time she cheats, I'm going to . . . ."

I don't mean to come across as "Mr. Oblivious," and I am sure my various SIGOs have had secrets, but I usually don't pry.

My ex-wife, however, had an abortion I didn't know about (some other guy's child), but which I found out about later. A real piece of work she is.
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Aww man. That's pretty damn harsh and I'm sorry. IF I may ask, how did you end up finding out about it?
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My wife and I started dating when we were fifteen. We broke up here and there, but were on most of that time. We went to different colleges, but were mostly together. Then grad school, same deal, only we ended up renting an apartment together and sharing more than hallways and back seats of cars. We got married, got real jobs, bought a house. We have been together for more than half of our lives, we're 38 and 39 years old now. We have two wonderful kids together, a boy and a girl, five and three years old, and my wife isn't just the best wife in the world, she's also, apparently, the best mom in the world. That said, I know for goddamn's sake she knows how to use the remote. I caught her switching the tv from cable to PS3, then log into Netflix, then navigate to a movie. When she says, "can you put on the movie, I don't know how," I know she's a healthy, intelligent, successful, athletic, active, funny, caring, loving, kind, generous, selfless phony. I love my wife beyond anything and I'm glad she asks for my help at times, even when not needed.

(Aww that's kind of nice. Alright, maybe this marriage thing isn't so bad lol)
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My ex was a pimp and arranging "escorts" for men, in addition to drug dealing (high level import/export) when he promised he'd stopped the latter. The pimping stuff meanwhile I just never would have envisioned, ever. He had been going to "work" everyday as a manager for some company I never knew the name of, and now I understand why he didn't want me coming to the "Christmas work party". There were endless red flags that I didn't once pick up on because I trusted blindly. It wasn't even a case of me giving him the benefit of the doubt - there was no doubt - I absolutely believed every piece of crap he fed me, for a very long time.



Wow Nina! How long did you know before you had your "Come to Jesus" talk about it?
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He's using my coconut oil to masturbate. Seriously it is disappearing way too fast and there is oil in the toilet. I don't care if he masturbates, but I'd rather he not use my coconut oil.

(Haha)



He must have luscious penis skin. I use that stuff on my body after every evening shower and it makes your skin sooo smooth and aromatic.
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Hahah I think one of the responses was along those lines and mainly because I guess the oil isn't cheap.
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He doesn't think I'm as attractive as his ex but is with me because he thinks I'm a nicer person.

(I brought this up with a few others earlier but how would any of you feel if you were the person depicted here?)



That one is really doubled-edged. Stings, but somewhat redeems itself. But I still really wouldn't like that to be applied to me.
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Yea, it really is. It's like meeting someone who is a 6 but their kick ass personality makes them a 10.

Conversely it's also like meeting a 10, she open's her mouth and it turns her into a 4.
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My ex was a pimp and arranging "escorts" for men, in addition to drug dealing (high level import/export) when he promised he'd stopped the latter. The pimping stuff meanwhile I just never would have envisioned, ever. He had been going to "work" everyday as a manager for some company I never knew the name of, and now I understand why he didn't want me coming to the "Christmas work party". There were endless red flags that I didn't once pick up on because I trusted blindly. It wasn't even a case of me giving him the benefit of the doubt - there was no doubt - I absolutely believed every piece of crap he fed me, for a very long time.



Wow Nina! How long did you know before you had your "Come to Jesus" talk about it?



I never had a talk with him about it. He still doesn't know I know about the pimping or the fact that he was still involved with the drugs (unless he reads this hahaha). I was initially alerted when I found stuff in his email... I shouldn't have looked, I know. Something caught my eye and when that turned out to be dodgy I kept searching through his trash. Then I had it confirmed to me through other people when I started asking around. Prior to us getting back together he had admitted to having been involved with the drug imports for the entire two years we were together, which explains the money tbh, but before we got back together he swore to me it was all in the past. I still loved him so I guess I wanted to believe it, and honestly I just did. He thinks I broke up with him purely because of me and my issues. I was really scared of him but I'm not anymore.
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Crazy. Love will do that to you but I'm really glad you got out of that situation.
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Wowser! Ninj... 😢



Hey Wags — 🙂 You got any?



Heya! Nooo, I don't think so... I was trying to remember,
but I think when the wool is pulled over my eyes it tends to stay there =\

I'm working on it though =)

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All it means is you're a trusting person, Wag 😄 Just got to be with someone worthy of said trust.
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My ex was a pimp and arranging "escorts" for men, in addition to drug dealing (high level import/export) when he promised he'd stopped the latter. The pimping stuff meanwhile I just never would have envisioned, ever. He had been going to "work" everyday as a manager for some company I never knew the name of, and now I understand why he didn't want me coming to the "Christmas work party". There were endless red flags that I didn't once pick up on because I trusted blindly. It wasn't even a case of me giving him the benefit of the doubt - there was no doubt - I absolutely believed every piece of crap he fed me, for a very long time.



Wow Nina! How long did you know before you had your "Come to Jesus" talk about it?



I never had a talk with him about it. He still doesn't know I know about the pimping or the fact that he was still involved with the drugs (unless he reads this hahaha). I was initially alerted when I found stuff in his email... I shouldn't have looked, I know. Something caught my eye and when that turned out to be dodgy I kept searching through his trash. Then I had it confirmed to me through other people when I started asking around. Prior to us getting back together he had admitted to having been involved with the drug imports for the entire two years we were together, which explains the money tbh, but before we got back together he swore to me it was all in the past. I still loved him so I guess I wanted to believe it, and honestly I just did. He thinks I broke up with him purely because of me and my issues. I was really scared of him but I'm not anymore.



Crazy. Love will do that to you but I'm really glad you got out of that situation.
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Second that! Besides, doesn't sound like it would've been any use for you to point out his flaws, best for you to just get out of that one. Safer and happier x
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Wowser! Ninj... 😢



Hey Wags — 🙂 You got any?



Heya! Nooo, I don't think so... I was trying to remember,
but I think when the wool is pulled over my eyes it tends to stay there =\

I'm working on it though =)



All it means is you're a trusting person, Wag 😄 Just got to be with someone worthy of said trust.
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Indeed, it's all uphill from here lol
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Hahah I know, I know, Leebs.

The thread is closing in on 25000 comments (WOW!) but truthfully it just reinforces what I want out of a lady and what my expectations are 😄

(A not so terrible excerpt)
My husband waits until I fall asleep and then tells me how beautiful he thinks I am, how much he loves me, etc. I only know because I've woken up a few times during, once I couldn't help but smile and he said "Oops! You're waking up." kissed my forhead and rolled over. He tells me he loves me and what not when I'm awake, but he is rarely overly emotional so it's cute to know he gets mushy when I fall asleep.

See? They aren't all terrible hah
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. . . Fuck my life and fuck that cheating whore.



Wow! It sounds like he had this well planned, as in "The next time she cheats, I'm going to . . . ."

I don't mean to come across as "Mr. Oblivious," and I am sure my various SIGOs have had secrets, but I usually don't pry.

My ex-wife, however, had an abortion I didn't know about (some other guy's child), but which I found out about later. A real piece of work she is.




Aww man. That's pretty damn harsh and I'm sorry. IF I may ask, how did you end up finding out about it?




She was also smoking dope. That I knew about. You could smell it on her. She denied it, of course. I warned her repeatedly to stop (and this was recreational use, not an addiction). The sheer wrong of it aside, our daughter was in the house when she was doing it, and in my position I can't afford someone I am living with having criminal/police involvement. By this time, the "marriage" had long since ended and we were cohabiting for the sake of our daughter.

The soon-to-be ex kept right on, despite my warning that I would find her stash and have her arrested. So, I set out to find the stash, and in the process I found her journal. It led to the stash, along with lots of other interesting doings-- including her kitchen-table-top coupling with some rascal and the subsequent abortion.

And yes, I had her arrested.
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Wow man. I'm sorry you had to go through all that and at the same time applaud your love for your kiddo. Thanks for sharing that.

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Hahah I know, I know, Leebs.

The thread is closing in on 25000 comments (WOW!) but truthfully it just reinforces what I want out of a lady and what my expectations are 😄

(A not so terrible excerpt)
My husband waits until I fall asleep and then tells me how beautiful he thinks I am, how much he loves me, etc. I only know because I've woken up a few times during, once I couldn't help but smile and he said "Oops! You're waking up." kissed my forhead and rolled over. He tells me he loves me and what not when I'm awake, but he is rarely overly emotional so it's cute to know he gets mushy when I fall asleep.

See? They aren't all terrible hah



Awww 🙂 —
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Haha I know, right?
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He's using my coconut oil to masturbate. Seriously it is disappearing way too fast and there is oil in the toilet. I don't care if he masturbates, but I'd rather he not use my coconut oil.

(Haha)



Lol!
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This one had me giggling like a school girl too...

She secretly records and watches every episode of Maury - the Maury Povitch show. I have no idea why. She watches them every morning on her commute into work. I brought it up once and she angrily denied it. I said it wasn't a big deal and I was just curious. We haven't spoken about it since. It's been going on for a few years.

(The horrifying secrets we keep from our loved ones haha)
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The Guinea pig one was hilarious more so this comment to it bahahaha

I'm so sorry to hear about your wife, that's terrible to find out that someone you love and trust is cheating on you.

In other news, my girlfriend and I have guinea pigs (6, jesus christ) and one of them is a fucking asshole like yours. She goes CHOMPCHOMPFUCKINGCHOMP on the water bottle at all hours of the night and fucking floods the cage and stomps around in poop and then in the water and smells like a dirty ass because of it. She's a fucking fat whore pig who eats everything and is verbally and physically abusive to my other pigs who are INNOCENT little shitbags.

That's my story. Her name is Snickers. Fuck Snickers.

Anyhow, I hope I made you feel better about the pig situatio
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The Guinea pig one was hilarious more so this comment to it bahahaha

I'm so sorry to hear about your wife, that's terrible to find out that someone you love and trust is cheating on you.

In other news, my girlfriend and I have guinea pigs (6, jesus christ) and one of them is a fucking asshole like yours. She goes CHOMPCHOMPFUCKINGCHOMP on the water bottle at all hours of the night and fucking floods the cage and stomps around in poop and then in the water and smells like a dirty ass because of it. She's a fucking fat whore pig who eats everything and is verbally and physically abusive to my other pigs who are INNOCENT little shitbags.

That's my story. Her name is Snickers. Fuck Snickers.

Anyhow, I hope I made you feel better about the pig situatio



HAHAHA the guiniea pig one was freaking HILARIOUS!

Look at this fat son of a bitch haha
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lmao u had and go and make a thread VH



Hahah Nights, I shit you not. I kept reading until 4am and the thread was still going strong this morning. There was so much goodness I had to share it with ya'll! 😄



Did u finally finish the thread yet?? haha
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Haha yea it's finally dying down. I check back every now and then for updates. Here's an update from the gentleman who had the first story I posted.

Promised Update: It is still early but she came home, alone. I made the mistake of letting her in the house. I told her I was done and she needed to leave, she doesn't live here anymore. She called her dad who came and helped get her shit off my driveway. I told her she was cut off. Anything she has/had that I pay for is gone. No house. No car. No phone. No health/dental insurance. I texted her sister back to let her know I had already picked up my car from her fireman fuckbuddy's driveway when she texted and to never contact me again, since she is full of as much shit as her sister. My (soon-to-be-ex) wife and her dad packed her shit and left. I made sure to remind her that she chose this, not me. I made her take her wedding dress, our photo albums, and any pictures I could find of us without the kids in them. I told her not to contact me during my business hours, but that if she needed anything out of the house, we would make arrangements. Basically just hammered the point home that we were done. She cried and told me she doesn't want a divorce, doesn't want to split our family up, and tried to convince me that she has never fucked the guy. I asked her to leave, and she has. Not much else to report at the moment. Will be back later today to add more info as it develops. Thanks for the support, Reddit, it means more than any of you know.
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"She cried and told me she doesn't want a divorce, doesn't want to split our family up, and tried to convince me that she has never fucked the guy. I asked her to leave, and she has. Not much else to report at the moment. Will be back later today to add more info as it develops. Thanks for the support, Reddit, it means more than any of you know."


lol..@ alligator tears. (because she got caught) Good for the husband. 😄
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Posted by VirgoHero
My wife and I started dating when we were fifteen. We broke up here and there, but were on most of that time. We went to different colleges, but were mostly together. Then grad school, same deal, only we ended up renting an apartment together and sharing more than hallways and back seats of cars. We got married, got real jobs, bought a house. We have been together for more than half of our lives, we're 38 and 39 years old now. We have two wonderful kids together, a boy and a girl, five and three years old, and my wife isn't just the best wife in the world, she's also, apparently, the best mom in the world. That said, I know for goddamn's sake she knows how to use the remote. I caught her switching the tv from cable to PS3, then log into Netflix, then navigate to a movie. When she says, "can you put on the movie, I don't know how," I know she's a healthy, intelligent, successful, athletic, active, funny, caring, loving, kind, generous, selfless phony. I love my wife beyond anything and I'm glad she asks for my help at times, even when not needed.

(Aww that's kind of nice. Alright, maybe this marriage thing isn't so bad lol)



omg, it's me and my Libra!! lol

in fairness, he does it to me too
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Any other secrets he's keeping from me, he must be really good at because I am unaware.

He is a Scorp moon though, not much would surprise me with that one



You know, I'm kind of the same way. I've never had anyone keep any really PROLONGED, deep, dark secrets. Usually if there was a relationship breaking action taken, I picked up on it fairly quickly. Either that or I'm the biggest fool ever! (Which is quite possible)
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Posted by james tate
GEEZE I AM GLAD I HAVE NEVER BEEN MARRIED
WHAT A FUCKING DEPRESSING THREAD THIS IS
I WISH SOME ONE WOULD POST A RELATIONSHIP THREAD WHERE THEY ARE HAPPY



Haha there were some happy stories but the majority of them tended to reinforce that every single person on the planet is a filthy, filthy whore!

Though I suppose your astrophysics makes for an interesting and time consuming companion, Tate 😄
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$ 10 says that dude is a Scorpio. 😄




No way....definitely a Virgo! Scorp male wouldn't be able to handle this in such a dignified, calculating way. Not to mention the story states it was the SECOND time she got caught cheating. Virgo's will give a chance when a family is involved, if he were a Scorp, he wouldn't let her out of his sight to have a second fling after the first imo.