Virgo help!!!Plz

This topic was created in the Relationships forum by Jus1luv8 on Tuesday, July 26, 2016 and has 11 replies.
I have dated a Virgo man off and on for 4 years. In between we dated others, I got married and we both had a daughter, they are 1month apart. We decided to talk again but, I made it clear that I did not want some of his old habits to interfere with us again. The biggest one was how he never made enough time. He is a father of 2 and so am I, he works 12-14 hours a day, so I understand him not wanting to do much after work. However, I feel on his off days, he could give me just 2 hours. 2 hours a week is all I am requesting, be cause I understand his life. I love this man with all my heart. Well, he started doing this same thing again, and I could not take it anymore. Basically, I flipped out on him thru text and he has not responded. At this point, I am not concerned with him being upset with me ,because I know and believe he loves me. I am worried that I have pushed him away. All I want is to be apart of his life, more than he allows. I feel after 4 years, although we did separate for some time, I should be given that. We have a bond and trust that I know I don't have with another man. If he does. Idk. Will he ever call me again? Or will his Virgo mentality cause him to walk away and love someone else?
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I dated a virgo off and on for 8 years.

Honestly I can not give you any actual advice experience wise. Since that situation is a mess. But...

You said he never responded, but have you tried to talk to him and apologize yet? If you feel like you're going to be unhappy and chances are he won't change then ask yourself if you really need him in your life.
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GypsyInChains, I have thought about that. For those in his circle, which is only family, it isn't an issue. That is where he spends his time. I just want to be apart of that finally. I feel I deserve to be, considering the amount of time we have invested. I'm thinking maybe he isn't there, although he says he wants to "give me his all". I feel like he's waiting to see something from me, but what? How much more do you need to see?
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It could be he's a very reserved guy.. hmm what is his all? How does he define that is the question. Maybe he doesn't see anything is wrong in his eyes..

Sounds like there is a lack of communication. Virgo likes to assume based on their own logic which they believe is the solid truth. But...not always the case. So he needs tim to think. And it wouldnt hurt to apologize or at least get him to have a conversation. He's the one who can help you the best once he shares his feelings and his thoughts on you. Like I said, he probably felt everything was okay prior to you lashing out on him.


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But try to figure out if it's worth fighting for

I hope you find your answers
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Posted by Jus1luv8
I have dated a Virgo man off and on for 4 years. In between we dated others, I got married and we both had a daughter, they are 1month apart. We decided to talk again but, I made it clear that I did not want some of his old habits to interfere with us again. The biggest one was how he never made enough time. He is a father of 2 and so am I, he works 12-14 hours a day, so I understand him not wanting to do much after work. However, I feel on his off days, he could give me just 2 hours. 2 hours a week is all I am requesting, be cause I understand his life. I love this man with all my heart. Well, he started doing this same thing again, and I could not take it anymore. Basically, I flipped out on him thru text and he has not responded. At this point, I am not concerned with him being upset with me ,because I know and believe he loves me. I am worried that I have pushed him away. All I want is to be apart of his life, more than he allows. I feel after 4 years, although we did separate for some time, I should be given that. We have a bond and trust that I know I don't have with another man. If he does. Idk. Will he ever call me again? Or will his Virgo mentality cause him to walk away and love someone else?


If a man can't give you two hours a week then leave him alone.

I don't care what sign he is. He does not value you.

Hell I bet Barack gives Michelle a couple of hours a week.

No man is that busy on earth.
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Posted by zFlavor
Posted by GypsyInChains
It could be he's a very reserved guy.. hmm what is his all? How does he define that is the question. Maybe he doesn't see anything is wrong in his eyes..

Sounds like there is a lack of communication. Virgo likes to assume based on their own logic which they believe is the solid truth. But...not always the case. So he needs tim to think. And it wouldnt hurt to apologize or at least get him to have a conversation. He's the one who can help you the best once he shares his feelings and his thoughts on you. Like I said, he probably felt everything was okay prior to you lashing out on him.

It's defined as an on and off relationship and that's the virgo problem.....and issue.

Virgos give priority and time to their significant other, only when they really like them. When one does. they are priority number one.
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I agree. I just thought since family was first in his life like she kind of mentioned, she's proabaly more number 2. And maybe the guy felt he's doing what he can. Alot of people wouldn't put relationships before family.

Just a guess.


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I have read all the responses here and definitely taken them into consideration. He is a very reserved guy and his family is everything to him. Yes I do know his family but not on a deep level. When we dated 2 years ago, our schedules were different and we were around each others kids. I had 1 and so did he. We Now have 2 a PC and my daughter is 1month older than his. The bond was made slowly in the past but I am a Capricorn, so if I get fed up I walk. Although I did, he still kept in touch while we were in separate relationships, just checking on me, maybe 3-4 times a month. Also, I don't know if I mentioned he is a single father and works 14 hour days. I could tell by his initial response that he did not think anything was wrong. To most people looking at the situation, nothing was but he began to repeat bad habits.. One condition of us talking was, he could not do what he is doing. He was doing great, but after the third time of not keeping his word, I am fed up. I don't feel I should have to guide an adult. Maybe I am being harsh, but its his second Chance and I won't make excuses for him.
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Posted by zFlavor
@gypsyinchains

"Maybe his mom, dad or sister has dire health problems?"

Like if your family had issues like above then I would expect you to put them first.

Why are you in chains>?
Yeah I guess you're right

smile and the in chains is a reference to a band I like

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You have expectations and put conditions on him ..... in which he doesn't seem to really care about.


so, that means you are in the whirlwind by yourself ... placing conditions and getting butthurt over an imaginary relation.


In your deluded mind, you think he's present and he's not. But, you obviously can't see that, and here you are still carrying on with your demands of him as if he actually cared, and as if he was a willing participant of your arrangments.

You even stated that you think you deserve more, and that you should be a part of his family .... wherein, your description clearly shows that you're not even on the back burner .. you're sitting outside on the grill, waiting for 3rds.

A man who wants to be with you will act like it ... this concept seems to escape you. You're so busy trying to control him and this outcome that you fail to see what is right in front of your face.


You can blame being Capricorn if you like ..... people like to blame things, rather than hold themselves accountable ... so, you have many outs here. If the sun doesn't work, you still have your moon, and all other planets and aspects to blame for you behaving like a fool.
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Thank you all for your comments. I got exactly what I was needing here. I have stopped contacting him, although he still contacts me, I don't respond. Notsosure, you are 100% correct, I am an exampl first to my children and P-Angel, love the harsh criticism. We need more like you, honesty is the best way. I appreciate it.
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