What age does a guy have to be max in order for the woman chasing him to be a "Cougar"?
This topic was created in the Relationships forum by deckedandecker on Wednesday, September 1, 2021 and has 39 replies.
They say cougars are older women that go for younger men, what is the maximum age a guy can be for her to be a cougar versus just a woman going for another guy?
You sure are into older women.
I think it has more to do with men or women below 29. Once you are in your 30's, you are basically out of the "cougar" stereotype.
People in their 30's have enough life experience to know what they want in a partner, whether same age or older.
I think it has more to do with men or women below 29. Once you are in your 30's, you are basically out of the "cougar" stereotype.
People in their 30's have enough life experience to know what they want in a partner, whether same age or older.
I hardly actually hear the term anymore. But I think of cougars being women in 40’s going after those in their 20’s. Most ironically I find sometimes it’s the younger guy going for the older woman.
For your question, what’s the age range?
For your question, what’s the age range?
Posted by PuzzlePiecesTerrible word lol 🥴😬
I hardly actually hear the term anymore. But I think of cougars being women in 40’s going after those in their 20’s. Most ironically I find sometimes it’s the younger guy going for the older woman.
For your question, what’s the age range?
Posted by The_Spirit_of_Alex_TrebekYou can be anything you want on the internet.Posted by stardustmop
Cougar is a woman 40+
Puma is a woman in her 30s
Oddly enough kitten is an asexual Capricorn man with a fetish for Pisces women. Strangely exact, I know.click to expand
Posted by jukeyWhy 14? Who made that figure up? 😂
Some DD.
"The term has been variously applied to middle-aged women who pursue sexual relations with men more than fourteen years younger than they are. [4][2][5][6][7][8]"
Posted by jukeyLike doubting God 🙏😀Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by jukey
Some DD.
"The term has been variously applied to middle-aged women who pursue sexual relations with men more than fourteen years younger than they are. [4][2][5][6][7][8]"
Why 14? Who made that figure up? 😂
Who are you to doubt the wiki?click to expand
Posted by The_Spirit_of_Alex_TrebekPosted by saggurl88Posted by The_Spirit_of_Alex_TrebekPosted by stardustmop
Cougar is a woman 40+
Puma is a woman in her 30s
Oddly enough kitten is an asexual Capricorn man with a fetish for Pisces women. Strangely exact, I know.
You can be anything you want on the internet.
I told you to address me as BATMAN!!! My friends are gonna laugh if you don't go along!! Jeez! How many times I gotta say it!click to expand
so if the guy is 30 or older, then the woman is no longer a cougar?
Posted by deckedandeckerYou're grown at that point.
so if the guy is 30 or older, then the woman is no longer a cougar?
If you want to be taken care of and mooch off of a female for her house to live in, have her work and cook for you, she becomes a sugar mama then. Not a cougar anymore!
Posted by saggurl88Okay..now I am lostPosted by deckedandecker
so if the guy is 30 or older, then the woman is no longer a cougar?
You're grown at that point.
If you want to be taken care of and mooch off of a female for her house to live in, have her work and cook for you, she becomes a sugar mama then. Not a cougar anymore!click to expand
You are assuming that all men in their 20s do not have their stuff together and men in their 30s do. I think you mean more stage then age then?
Plenty of men in their 20s who are independent and plenty of men in their 30s who are still figuring out life even if they can financially support themselves.
We are talking finances here which I do not see as being relevant.
Posted by deckedandeckerI think it's relevant because both sexes in their 20's are looking for more of a good time or experience dating older.Posted by saggurl88Posted by deckedandecker
so if the guy is 30 or older, then the woman is no longer a cougar?
You're grown at that point.
If you want to be taken care of and mooch off of a female for her house to live in, have her work and cook for you, she becomes a sugar mama then. Not a cougar anymore!
Okay..now I am lost
You are assuming that all men in their 20s do not have their stuff together and men in their 30s do. I think you mean more stage then age then?
Plenty of men in their 20s who are independent and plenty of men in their 30s who are still figuring out life even if they can financially support themselves.
We are talking finances here which I do not see as being relevant.click to expand
Most people in their 30's have already had their good times and have better ideas about what they prefer in a partner.
Some still choose older, but it's for security. I don't think of the person being in a daddy or cougar role at 30 and the partner being 40 or even 50. It's pushing the boundary, but a person who likes older people wants the security of experience and a solid relationship.
Being broke in your 20's isn't that much of a big deal like still being broke in your 30's.
That's when you see how ambitious a person really is.
Posted by saggurl88I think you are mixing up ambition and success with sex and a fun time.Posted by deckedandeckerPosted by saggurl88Posted by deckedandecker
so if the guy is 30 or older, then the woman is no longer a cougar?
You're grown at that point.
If you want to be taken care of and mooch off of a female for her house to live in, have her work and cook for you, she becomes a sugar mama then. Not a cougar anymore!
Okay..now I am lost
You are assuming that all men in their 20s do not have their stuff together and men in their 30s do. I think you mean more stage then age then?
Plenty of men in their 20s who are independent and plenty of men in their 30s who are still figuring out life even if they can financially support themselves.
We are talking finances here which I do not see as being relevant.
I think it's relevant because both sexes in their 20's are looking for more of a good time or experience dating older.
Most people in their 30's have already had their good times and have better ideas about what they prefer in a partner.
Some still choose older, but it's for security. I don't think of the person being in a daddy or cougar role at 30 and the partner being 40 or even 50. It's pushing the boundary, but a person who likes older people wants the security of experience and a solid relationship.
Being broke in your 20's isn't that much of a big deal like still being broke in your 30's.
That's when you see how ambitious a person really is.click to expand
You can be a 25 year old guy with a lot of success and the woman in her 40s is still getting her stuff together.
By your logic, a 25 year old with his stuff together going for a 45 year old woman is not really a part of a cougar cub relationship while a 35 year old wandering about life going for a 50 year old woman is.
I think you are going by success and maturity than age itself, falsely assuming that age determines financial and social maturity when it really doesn't.
Posted by deckedandeckerHave you seen many successful relationships like that? Because I haven’t.Posted by saggurl88Posted by deckedandeckerPosted by saggurl88Posted by deckedandecker
so if the guy is 30 or older, then the woman is no longer a cougar?
You're grown at that point.
If you want to be taken care of and mooch off of a female for her house to live in, have her work and cook for you, she becomes a sugar mama then. Not a cougar anymore!
Okay..now I am lost
You are assuming that all men in their 20s do not have their stuff together and men in their 30s do. I think you mean more stage then age then?
Plenty of men in their 20s who are independent and plenty of men in their 30s who are still figuring out life even if they can financially support themselves.
We are talking finances here which I do not see as being relevant.
I think it's relevant because both sexes in their 20's are looking for more of a good time or experience dating older.
Most people in their 30's have already had their good times and have better ideas about what they prefer in a partner.
Some still choose older, but it's for security. I don't think of the person being in a daddy or cougar role at 30 and the partner being 40 or even 50. It's pushing the boundary, but a person who likes older people wants the security of experience and a solid relationship.
Being broke in your 20's isn't that much of a big deal like still being broke in your 30's.
That's when you see how ambitious a person really is.
I think you are mixing up ambition and success with sex and a fun time.
You can be a 25 year old guy with a lot of success and the woman in her 40s is still getting her stuff together.
By your logic, a 25 year old with his stuff together going for a 45 year old woman is not really a part of a cougar cub relationship while a 35 year old wandering about life going for a 50 year old woman is.
I think you are going by success and maturity than age itself, falsely assuming that age determines financial and social maturity when it really doesn't.click to expand
Most successful people don’t want someone older who doesn’t have their shit together.
Even successful men who want young women wives usually go after women straight out of college or who are smart and mature for their age.
I’ve said previously that anyone past 30 isn’t in the cougar arena.
Cougars and sugar mamas are different. Cougars are sex with younger guys for fun, IMO.
You’re middle aged by 30.
I’m not sure cougars even call themselves cougars lol. Do women like that term?
Posted by saggurl88Once again, you are thinking success + finances rather than age alone. 30 is not middle aged at all, middle age is defined as 45 to 65:Posted by deckedandeckerPosted by saggurl88Posted by deckedandeckerPosted by saggurl88Posted by deckedandecker
so if the guy is 30 or older, then the woman is no longer a cougar?
You're grown at that point.
If you want to be taken care of and mooch off of a female for her house to live in, have her work and cook for you, she becomes a sugar mama then. Not a cougar anymore!
Okay..now I am lost
You are assuming that all men in their 20s do not have their stuff together and men in their 30s do. I think you mean more stage then age then?
Plenty of men in their 20s who are independent and plenty of men in their 30s who are still figuring out life even if they can financially support themselves.
We are talking finances here which I do not see as being relevant.
I think it's relevant because both sexes in their 20's are looking for more of a good time or experience dating older.
Most people in their 30's have already had their good times and have better ideas about what they prefer in a partner.
Some still choose older, but it's for security. I don't think of the person being in a daddy or cougar role at 30 and the partner being 40 or even 50. It's pushing the boundary, but a person who likes older people wants the security of experience and a solid relationship.
Being broke in your 20's isn't that much of a big deal like still being broke in your 30's.
That's when you see how ambitious a person really is.
I think you are mixing up ambition and success with sex and a fun time.
You can be a 25 year old guy with a lot of success and the woman in her 40s is still getting her stuff together.
By your logic, a 25 year old with his stuff together going for a 45 year old woman is not really a part of a cougar cub relationship while a 35 year old wandering about life going for a 50 year old woman is.
I think you are going by success and maturity than age itself, falsely assuming that age determines financial and social maturity when it really doesn't.
Have you seen many successful relationships like that? Because I haven’t.
Most successful people don’t want someone older who doesn’t have their shit together.
Even successful men who want young women wives usually go after women straight out of college or who are smart and mature for their age.
I’ve said previously that anyone past 30 isn’t in the cougar arena.
Cougars and sugar mamas are different. Cougars are sex with younger guys for fun, IMO.
You’re middle aged by 30.
I’m not sure cougars even call themselves cougars lol. Do women like that term?click to expand
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Middle_age
As for what successful people want, it is irrelevant to this discussion based solely on age. Someone can be successful at 25 and a failure at 50. You are not getting this for some reason and instead pushing your own biases into an objective discussion hence denying any sort of objective answer to this question.
Posted by deckedandeckerI still have said that I don’t think a person is cougar status if they are messing with someone 30 and above. No matter the reasoning behind it.Posted by saggurl88Posted by deckedandeckerPosted by saggurl88Posted by deckedandeckerPosted by saggurl88Posted by deckedandecker
so if the guy is 30 or older, then the woman is no longer a cougar?
You're grown at that point.
If you want to be taken care of and mooch off of a female for her house to live in, have her work and cook for you, she becomes a sugar mama then. Not a cougar anymore!
Okay..now I am lost
You are assuming that all men in their 20s do not have their stuff together and men in their 30s do. I think you mean more stage then age then?
Plenty of men in their 20s who are independent and plenty of men in their 30s who are still figuring out life even if they can financially support themselves.
We are talking finances here which I do not see as being relevant.
I think it's relevant because both sexes in their 20's are looking for more of a good time or experience dating older.
Most people in their 30's have already had their good times and have better ideas about what they prefer in a partner.
Some still choose older, but it's for security. I don't think of the person being in a daddy or cougar role at 30 and the partner being 40 or even 50. It's pushing the boundary, but a person who likes older people wants the security of experience and a solid relationship.
Being broke in your 20's isn't that much of a big deal like still being broke in your 30's.
That's when you see how ambitious a person really is.
I think you are mixing up ambition and success with sex and a fun time.
You can be a 25 year old guy with a lot of success and the woman in her 40s is still getting her stuff together.
By your logic, a 25 year old with his stuff together going for a 45 year old woman is not really a part of a cougar cub relationship while a 35 year old wandering about life going for a 50 year old woman is.
I think you are going by success and maturity than age itself, falsely assuming that age determines financial and social maturity when it really doesn't.
Have you seen many successful relationships like that? Because I haven’t.
Most successful people don’t want someone older who doesn’t have their shit together.
Even successful men who want young women wives usually go after women straight out of college or who are smart and mature for their age.
I’ve said previously that anyone past 30 isn’t in the cougar arena.
Cougars and sugar mamas are different. Cougars are sex with younger guys for fun, IMO.
You’re middle aged by 30.
I’m not sure cougars even call themselves cougars lol. Do women like that term?
Once again, you are thinking success + finances rather than age alone. 30 is not middle aged at all, middle age is defined as 45 to 65:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Middle_age
As for what successful people want, it is irrelevant to this discussion based solely on age. Someone can be successful at 25 and a failure at 50. You are not getting this for some reason and instead pushing your own biases into an objective discussion hence denying any sort of objective answer to this question.click to expand
People can create their own narrative, this is my opinion.
Grown men shouldn’t act like babies but some have baby fetishes and do- should there be a black and white, solid line drawn 🙄
Older/ younger couple are called too many different things. It’s hard to say where the concrete answers lye.
Why do you want to label a cougar so bad?
Do what you want and if she’s for it, then it works.
Posted by saggurl88You just wasted my time by pushing your opinion and agenda on to a question. It doesn't matter what you think or feel, it matters what is. If anyone in here has created their own narrative on this thread, it has been you.Posted by deckedandeckerPosted by saggurl88Posted by deckedandeckerPosted by saggurl88Posted by deckedandeckerPosted by saggurl88Posted by deckedandecker
so if the guy is 30 or older, then the woman is no longer a cougar?
You're grown at that point.
If you want to be taken care of and mooch off of a female for her house to live in, have her work and cook for you, she becomes a sugar mama then. Not a cougar anymore!
Okay..now I am lost
You are assuming that all men in their 20s do not have their stuff together and men in their 30s do. I think you mean more stage then age then?
Plenty of men in their 20s who are independent and plenty of men in their 30s who are still figuring out life even if they can financially support themselves.
We are talking finances here which I do not see as being relevant.
I think it's relevant because both sexes in their 20's are looking for more of a good time or experience dating older.
Most people in their 30's have already had their good times and have better ideas about what they prefer in a partner.
Some still choose older, but it's for security. I don't think of the person being in a daddy or cougar role at 30 and the partner being 40 or even 50. It's pushing the boundary, but a person who likes older people wants the security of experience and a solid relationship.
Being broke in your 20's isn't that much of a big deal like still being broke in your 30's.
That's when you see how ambitious a person really is.
I think you are mixing up ambition and success with sex and a fun time.
You can be a 25 year old guy with a lot of success and the woman in her 40s is still getting her stuff together.
By your logic, a 25 year old with his stuff together going for a 45 year old woman is not really a part of a cougar cub relationship while a 35 year old wandering about life going for a 50 year old woman is.
I think you are going by success and maturity than age itself, falsely assuming that age determines financial and social maturity when it really doesn't.
Have you seen many successful relationships like that? Because I haven’t.
Most successful people don’t want someone older who doesn’t have their shit together.
Even successful men who want young women wives usually go after women straight out of college or who are smart and mature for their age.
I’ve said previously that anyone past 30 isn’t in the cougar arena.
Cougars and sugar mamas are different. Cougars are sex with younger guys for fun, IMO.
You’re middle aged by 30.
I’m not sure cougars even call themselves cougars lol. Do women like that term?
Once again, you are thinking success + finances rather than age alone. 30 is not middle aged at all, middle age is defined as 45 to 65:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Middle_age
As for what successful people want, it is irrelevant to this discussion based solely on age. Someone can be successful at 25 and a failure at 50. You are not getting this for some reason and instead pushing your own biases into an objective discussion hence denying any sort of objective answer to this question.
I still have said that I don’t think a person is cougar status if they are messing with someone 30 and above. No matter the reasoning behind it.
People can create their own narrative, this is my opinion.
Grown men shouldn’t act like babies but some have baby fetishes and do- should there be a black and white, solid line drawn 🙄
Older/ younger couple are called too many different things. It’s hard to say where the concrete answers lye.
Why do you want to label a cougar so bad?
Do what you want and if she’s for it, then it works.click to expand
Posted by deckedandeckerWasting time is what I do best. 💅🏽 But no one else gave you any attention or as many answers.Posted by saggurl88Posted by deckedandeckerPosted by saggurl88Posted by deckedandeckerPosted by saggurl88Posted by deckedandeckerPosted by saggurl88Posted by deckedandecker
so if the guy is 30 or older, then the woman is no longer a cougar?
You're grown at that point.
If you want to be taken care of and mooch off of a female for her house to live in, have her work and cook for you, she becomes a sugar mama then. Not a cougar anymore!
Okay..now I am lost
You are assuming that all men in their 20s do not have their stuff together and men in their 30s do. I think you mean more stage then age then?
Plenty of men in their 20s who are independent and plenty of men in their 30s who are still figuring out life even if they can financially support themselves.
We are talking finances here which I do not see as being relevant.
I think it's relevant because both sexes in their 20's are looking for more of a good time or experience dating older.
Most people in their 30's have already had their good times and have better ideas about what they prefer in a partner.
Some still choose older, but it's for security. I don't think of the person being in a daddy or cougar role at 30 and the partner being 40 or even 50. It's pushing the boundary, but a person who likes older people wants the security of experience and a solid relationship.
Being broke in your 20's isn't that much of a big deal like still being broke in your 30's.
That's when you see how ambitious a person really is.
I think you are mixing up ambition and success with sex and a fun time.
You can be a 25 year old guy with a lot of success and the woman in her 40s is still getting her stuff together.
By your logic, a 25 year old with his stuff together going for a 45 year old woman is not really a part of a cougar cub relationship while a 35 year old wandering about life going for a 50 year old woman is.
I think you are going by success and maturity than age itself, falsely assuming that age determines financial and social maturity when it really doesn't.
Have you seen many successful relationships like that? Because I haven’t.
Most successful people don’t want someone older who doesn’t have their shit together.
Even successful men who want young women wives usually go after women straight out of college or who are smart and mature for their age.
I’ve said previously that anyone past 30 isn’t in the cougar arena.
Cougars and sugar mamas are different. Cougars are sex with younger guys for fun, IMO.
You’re middle aged by 30.
I’m not sure cougars even call themselves cougars lol. Do women like that term?
Once again, you are thinking success + finances rather than age alone. 30 is not middle aged at all, middle age is defined as 45 to 65:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Middle_age
As for what successful people want, it is irrelevant to this discussion based solely on age. Someone can be successful at 25 and a failure at 50. You are not getting this for some reason and instead pushing your own biases into an objective discussion hence denying any sort of objective answer to this question.
I still have said that I don’t think a person is cougar status if they are messing with someone 30 and above. No matter the reasoning behind it.
People can create their own narrative, this is my opinion.
Grown men shouldn’t act like babies but some have baby fetishes and do- should there be a black and white, solid line drawn 🙄
Older/ younger couple are called too many different things. It’s hard to say where the concrete answers lye.
Why do you want to label a cougar so bad?
Do what you want and if she’s for it, then it works.
You just wasted my time by pushing your opinion and agenda on to a question. It doesn't matter what you think or feel, it matters what is. If anyone in here has created their own narrative on this thread, it has been you.click to expand
So be grateful and just say thank you 😌😏
There doesn’t need to be a damn reason.
Why do men like to be called daddy when they aren’t fathers? 🙄
You want a specific age range that isn’t there.
And PS.
It’s nice that you aren’t as combative and disrespectful as you were before. You’ve shown a lot of growth on the site. Kuddos to you! 🤝
I still said what I said though 😅
Posted by saggurl88Since when is 30 middle aged? 45+ is much more considered middle aged. There are reasons for that. Physically, emotionally etc. a 30 year old is still a baby seriously. Just getting started in life.Posted by deckedandeckerPosted by saggurl88Posted by deckedandeckerPosted by saggurl88Posted by deckedandecker
so if the guy is 30 or older, then the woman is no longer a cougar?
You're grown at that point.
If you want to be taken care of and mooch off of a female for her house to live in, have her work and cook for you, she becomes a sugar mama then. Not a cougar anymore!
Okay..now I am lost
You are assuming that all men in their 20s do not have their stuff together and men in their 30s do. I think you mean more stage then age then?
Plenty of men in their 20s who are independent and plenty of men in their 30s who are still figuring out life even if they can financially support themselves.
We are talking finances here which I do not see as being relevant.
I think it's relevant because both sexes in their 20's are looking for more of a good time or experience dating older.
Most people in their 30's have already had their good times and have better ideas about what they prefer in a partner.
Some still choose older, but it's for security. I don't think of the person being in a daddy or cougar role at 30 and the partner being 40 or even 50. It's pushing the boundary, but a person who likes older people wants the security of experience and a solid relationship.
Being broke in your 20's isn't that much of a big deal like still being broke in your 30's.
That's when you see how ambitious a person really is.
I think you are mixing up ambition and success with sex and a fun time.
You can be a 25 year old guy with a lot of success and the woman in her 40s is still getting her stuff together.
By your logic, a 25 year old with his stuff together going for a 45 year old woman is not really a part of a cougar cub relationship while a 35 year old wandering about life going for a 50 year old woman is.
I think you are going by success and maturity than age itself, falsely assuming that age determines financial and social maturity when it really doesn't.
Have you seen many successful relationships like that? Because I haven’t.
Most successful people don’t want someone older who doesn’t have their shit together.
Even successful men who want young women wives usually go after women straight out of college or who are smart and mature for their age.
I’ve said previously that anyone past 30 isn’t in the cougar arena.
Cougars and sugar mamas are different. Cougars are sex with younger guys for fun, IMO.
You’re middle aged by 30.
I’m not sure cougars even call themselves cougars lol. Do women like that term?click to expand
Posted by deckedandeckerI just googled it and by this definition, it looks like it can be any age as long as the woman is older and he is "much younger" and there is a predatory sexual nature involved.Posted by saggurl88Posted by deckedandeckerPosted by saggurl88Posted by deckedandeckerPosted by saggurl88Posted by deckedandeckerPosted by saggurl88Posted by deckedandecker
so if the guy is 30 or older, then the woman is no longer a cougar?
You're grown at that point.
If you want to be taken care of and mooch off of a female for her house to live in, have her work and cook for you, she becomes a sugar mama then. Not a cougar anymore!
Okay..now I am lost
You are assuming that all men in their 20s do not have their stuff together and men in their 30s do. I think you mean more stage then age then?
Plenty of men in their 20s who are independent and plenty of men in their 30s who are still figuring out life even if they can financially support themselves.
We are talking finances here which I do not see as being relevant.
I think it's relevant because both sexes in their 20's are looking for more of a good time or experience dating older.
Most people in their 30's have already had their good times and have better ideas about what they prefer in a partner.
Some still choose older, but it's for security. I don't think of the person being in a daddy or cougar role at 30 and the partner being 40 or even 50. It's pushing the boundary, but a person who likes older people wants the security of experience and a solid relationship.
Being broke in your 20's isn't that much of a big deal like still being broke in your 30's.
That's when you see how ambitious a person really is.
I think you are mixing up ambition and success with sex and a fun time.
You can be a 25 year old guy with a lot of success and the woman in her 40s is still getting her stuff together.
By your logic, a 25 year old with his stuff together going for a 45 year old woman is not really a part of a cougar cub relationship while a 35 year old wandering about life going for a 50 year old woman is.
I think you are going by success and maturity than age itself, falsely assuming that age determines financial and social maturity when it really doesn't.
Have you seen many successful relationships like that? Because I haven’t.
Most successful people don’t want someone older who doesn’t have their shit together.
Even successful men who want young women wives usually go after women straight out of college or who are smart and mature for their age.
I’ve said previously that anyone past 30 isn’t in the cougar arena.
Cougars and sugar mamas are different. Cougars are sex with younger guys for fun, IMO.
You’re middle aged by 30.
I’m not sure cougars even call themselves cougars lol. Do women like that term?
Once again, you are thinking success + finances rather than age alone. 30 is not middle aged at all, middle age is defined as 45 to 65:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Middle_age
As for what successful people want, it is irrelevant to this discussion based solely on age. Someone can be successful at 25 and a failure at 50. You are not getting this for some reason and instead pushing your own biases into an objective discussion hence denying any sort of objective answer to this question.
I still have said that I don’t think a person is cougar status if they are messing with someone 30 and above. No matter the reasoning behind it.
People can create their own narrative, this is my opinion.
Grown men shouldn’t act like babies but some have baby fetishes and do- should there be a black and white, solid line drawn 🙄
Older/ younger couple are called too many different things. It’s hard to say where the concrete answers lye.
Why do you want to label a cougar so bad?
Do what you want and if she’s for it, then it works.
You just wasted my time by pushing your opinion and agenda on to a question. It doesn't matter what you think or feel, it matters what is. If anyone in here has created their own narrative on this thread, it has been you.click to expand
Cougar is a term used to describe an older woman who uses the same predatory sexual techniques as men, including focusing on members of the opposite sex who are much younger than she is. It began as a term of thinly veiled abuse, considered a derisive insult to older single women.
Posted by PuzzlePiecesIt wasn't to be taken literally, it was said in the same context of you calling them a baby.Posted by saggurl88Posted by deckedandeckerPosted by saggurl88Posted by deckedandeckerPosted by saggurl88Posted by deckedandecker
so if the guy is 30 or older, then the woman is no longer a cougar?
You're grown at that point.
If you want to be taken care of and mooch off of a female for her house to live in, have her work and cook for you, she becomes a sugar mama then. Not a cougar anymore!
Okay..now I am lost
You are assuming that all men in their 20s do not have their stuff together and men in their 30s do. I think you mean more stage then age then?
Plenty of men in their 20s who are independent and plenty of men in their 30s who are still figuring out life even if they can financially support themselves.
We are talking finances here which I do not see as being relevant.
I think it's relevant because both sexes in their 20's are looking for more of a good time or experience dating older.
Most people in their 30's have already had their good times and have better ideas about what they prefer in a partner.
Some still choose older, but it's for security. I don't think of the person being in a daddy or cougar role at 30 and the partner being 40 or even 50. It's pushing the boundary, but a person who likes older people wants the security of experience and a solid relationship.
Being broke in your 20's isn't that much of a big deal like still being broke in your 30's.
That's when you see how ambitious a person really is.
I think you are mixing up ambition and success with sex and a fun time.
You can be a 25 year old guy with a lot of success and the woman in her 40s is still getting her stuff together.
By your logic, a 25 year old with his stuff together going for a 45 year old woman is not really a part of a cougar cub relationship while a 35 year old wandering about life going for a 50 year old woman is.
I think you are going by success and maturity than age itself, falsely assuming that age determines financial and social maturity when it really doesn't.
Have you seen many successful relationships like that? Because I haven’t.
Most successful people don’t want someone older who doesn’t have their shit together.
Even successful men who want young women wives usually go after women straight out of college or who are smart and mature for their age.
I’ve said previously that anyone past 30 isn’t in the cougar arena.
Cougars and sugar mamas are different. Cougars are sex with younger guys for fun, IMO.
You’re middle aged by 30.
I’m not sure cougars even call themselves cougars lol. Do women like that term?
Since when is 30 middle aged? 45+ is much more considered middle aged. There are reasons for that. Physically, emotionally etc. a 30 year old is still a baby seriously. Just getting started in life.click to expand
I meant old enough to know what is what, for the most part.
I am in 30s but look like a teenager apparently. I will always be surrounded by cougars 😂
Also cougar is any lady that reaches the "lady" stage. They dress a certain way regardless of age and they usually lusting over youthful guys
Its more in the action and intent (fetish?) Than the actual age
Also cougar is any lady that reaches the "lady" stage. They dress a certain way regardless of age and they usually lusting over youthful guys
Its more in the action and intent (fetish?) Than the actual age
Posted by saggurl88Posted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by saggurl88Posted by deckedandeckerPosted by saggurl88Posted by deckedandeckerPosted by saggurl88Posted by deckedandecker
so if the guy is 30 or older, then the woman is no longer a cougar?
You're grown at that point.
If you want to be taken care of and mooch off of a female for her house to live in, have her work and cook for you, she becomes a sugar mama then. Not a cougar anymore!
Okay..now I am lost
You are assuming that all men in their 20s do not have their stuff together and men in their 30s do. I think you mean more stage then age then?
Plenty of men in their 20s who are independent and plenty of men in their 30s who are still figuring out life even if they can financially support themselves.
We are talking finances here which I do not see as being relevant.
I think it's relevant because both sexes in their 20's are looking for more of a good time or experience dating older.
Most people in their 30's have already had their good times and have better ideas about what they prefer in a partner.
Some still choose older, but it's for security. I don't think of the person being in a daddy or cougar role at 30 and the partner being 40 or even 50. It's pushing the boundary, but a person who likes older people wants the security of experience and a solid relationship.
Being broke in your 20's isn't that much of a big deal like still being broke in your 30's.
That's when you see how ambitious a person really is.
I think you are mixing up ambition and success with sex and a fun time.
You can be a 25 year old guy with a lot of success and the woman in her 40s is still getting her stuff together.
By your logic, a 25 year old with his stuff together going for a 45 year old woman is not really a part of a cougar cub relationship while a 35 year old wandering about life going for a 50 year old woman is.
I think you are going by success and maturity than age itself, falsely assuming that age determines financial and social maturity when it really doesn't.
Have you seen many successful relationships like that? Because I haven’t.
Most successful people don’t want someone older who doesn’t have their shit together.
Even successful men who want young women wives usually go after women straight out of college or who are smart and mature for their age.
I’ve said previously that anyone past 30 isn’t in the cougar arena.
Cougars and sugar mamas are different. Cougars are sex with younger guys for fun, IMO.
You’re middle aged by 30.
I’m not sure cougars even call themselves cougars lol. Do women like that term?
Since when is 30 middle aged? 45+ is much more considered middle aged. There are reasons for that. Physically, emotionally etc. a 30 year old is still a baby seriously. Just getting started in life.
It wasn't to be taken literally, it was said in the same context of you calling them a baby.
I meant old enough to know what is what, for the most part.click to expand
Ah ok. That’s really the point you should be a lot more mature than early 20’s in terms of real life decisions .. should be being the key 😉
Boy we are always learning & the bad decisions of so many people in their 30’s, 40’s and 50’s 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️ I personally have a ten year rule & was very married in my 30’s and most of my 40’s. There is such a difference between getting a little bit of young meat & a real relationship 😂😂 I do know people who have been real relationships though that I absolutely would not call the woman a cougar. Every situation is different..
Half the women’s age + 7, anyone younger you’re a cougar
Can’t remember where I heard that from… probably some young guy trying prove himself to score!
Can’t remember where I heard that from… probably some young guy trying prove himself to score!
I’ve had relationships with younger men...i’m not a cougar...
Posted by alexscariesAmen to this
Just more terminology representing the pornification of culture. It really is pathetic. I've heard people described as a gilf (grandma I'd like to fuck). I think someone can look good at any age, I'm just disgusted at how dehumanising society has become.
I’ve always found the label degrading and society’s need to label somewhat puerile
what was that rule again? like 1/2 age +7 or something?
Posted by rabidtalkerRules are meant to be broken 😋
what was that rule again? like 1/2 age +7 or something?
Posted by rabidtalkerThis gives even more leeway than just 10 years 😅😂🤣
what was that rule again? like 1/2 age +7 or something?
Posted by xiongmaoThat escalated quickly! 😧Posted by Hypnotoad
10 years.
10 years old?click to expand
Well, since most men are still child-like their entire life - if a woman is close to the age of 30 or above - she's probably a cougar. 😏
Geezuz 30 years younger!!
Posted by bmoon8The lady in question is probably about 42-45 and smokin hot 🔥
Not to mention, I don’t think the OP fits the bill as a much younger man being preyed on by an older woman.
He’s 31.
Posted by bmoon8No, I agreed that labels are pathetic not that everyone can look good at any age ...Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by alexscaries
Just more terminology representing the pornification of culture. It really is pathetic. I've heard people described as a gilf (grandma I'd like to fuck). I think someone can look good at any age, I'm just disgusted at how dehumanising society has become.
Amen to this
I’ve always found the label degrading and society’s need to label somewhat puerile
Not all labels are degrading. I think some people have a fear of them, but they help us identify others.
And you agree with Alex that anyone can look good at any age (I guess as long as it applies to you), but Biden is too old to be working as the President?click to expand
....I didn’t say all labels .... “the” label ie cougar
This draws no parallels with my experiences with younger men. I met one at work and the others online .... all long term relationships
Cougar is a derogatory and degrading label. I’m not a label, I’m me....
“According to Gibson, labeling older women “cougars” actually originated in Vancouver long before Demi and Ashton hooked up. Canadians used the term “cougar” as a derogatory word for older women who hung out at bars to go home with whatever men were left lingering at the end of the night”
Cougar is a derogatory and degrading label. I’m not a label, I’m me....
“According to Gibson, labeling older women “cougars” actually originated in Vancouver long before Demi and Ashton hooked up. Canadians used the term “cougar” as a derogatory word for older women who hung out at bars to go home with whatever men were left lingering at the end of the night”
I think the word has lost its power, 5-10 years ago it was offensive… that’s watered down heaps in today’s society, as with older men younger women, same sex and everything else out there.
Posted by sweetheartsI still think its a terrible word 😂
I think the word has lost its power, 5-10 years ago it was offensive… that’s watered down heaps in today’s society, as with older men younger women, same sex and everything else out there.
Posted by HypnotoadI cannot believe we agree on something
10 years.
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