What do you do when ..

This topic was created in the Relationships forum by TxOgal on Monday, August 2, 2021 and has 15 replies.
What do you do when your ex bf tells you that they still miss you till now (after over 5 years of almost no contact)?

You don't intend to get back and don't want to lead them on, but you miss them too

Do you keep it to yourself and ignore their message? Do you express anything?
The answer is within you, you know it, your gut instinct is what you should go with.
"You don't intend to get back and don't want to lead them on, but you miss them too"

^^^Just tell him this. It's perfectly said and honest too, imo....
Posted by TxOgal

What do you do when your ex bf tells you that they still miss you till now (after over 5 years of almost no contact)?

You don't intend to get back and don't want to lead them on, but you miss them too

Do you keep it to yourself and ignore their message? Do you express anything?

Um, well if you believe sharing your feelings would lead to endless badgering in an effort to get you back and that isn't the goal, then just ignore. I mean you haven't had any contact in 5 years, the text could have got lost in cyberspace.

Geeze, who save someone's number for 5 years? You get deleted as soon as we said our "goodbyes".

Curious, not that you have to share...if you also miss him, why have you already made up your mind to not go back?
Posted by stardustmop

Experience would tell me that he is probably recently gone through a breakup and desperately reaching out to people from his past to comfort his ego. I personally would ignore it.

*like* This, or issues within the current relationship.
Send him a message saying

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Posted by TxOgal

What do you do when your ex bf tells you that they still miss you till now (after over 5 years of almost no contact)?

You don't intend to get back and don't want to lead them on, but you miss them too

Do you keep it to yourself and ignore their message? Do you express anything?

Um, well if you believe sharing your feelings would lead to endless badgering in an effort to get you back and that isn't the goal, then just ignore. I mean you haven't had any contact in 5 years, the text could have got lost in cyberspace.

Geeze, who save someone's number for 5 years? You get deleted as soon as we said our "goodbyes".

Curious, not that you have to share...if you also miss him, why have you already made up your mind to not go back?
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He would send me a text like once or twice a year just asking how I'm doing n that's it. It's the first time he shows any feelings since we broke up. We've been in a relationship that lasted for a year n a half, figured we're not that much compatible, I don't think it would work now .. I've also never gone back to an ex
I think to myself, how pathetic... getting yet another number to try an contact me on. BLOCKED
Posted by LadyNeptune

I think to myself, how pathetic... getting yet another number to try an contact me on. BLOCKED
Don't get what you mean
Posted by TxOgal
Posted by LadyNeptune

I think to myself, how pathetic... getting yet another number to try an contact me on. BLOCKED


Don't get what you mean
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You asked what do you do when...

The only ex who still reaches out to me changes his phone number every few years because he knows I have him blocked. Then leaves some bs voicemails, sometimes sad and dopey other times threatening and angry. Either way, pathetic.

So I block that number.
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Posted by PhoenixRising
Posted by TxOgal

What do you do when your ex bf tells you that they still miss you till now (after over 5 years of almost no contact)?

You don't intend to get back and don't want to lead them on, but you miss them too

Do you keep it to yourself and ignore their message? Do you express anything?

Um, well if you believe sharing your feelings would lead to endless badgering in an effort to get you back and that isn't the goal, then just ignore. I mean you haven't had any contact in 5 years, the text could have got lost in cyberspace.

Geeze, who save someone's number for 5 years? You get deleted as soon as we said our "goodbyes".

Curious, not that you have to share...if you also miss him, why have you already made up your mind to not go back?


He would send me a text like once or twice a year just asking how I'm doing n that's it. It's the first time he shows any feelings since we broke up. We've been in a relationship that lasted for a year n a half, figured we're not that much compatible, I don't think it would work now .. I've also never gone back to an ex
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Is he a Scorpio!?
Posted by Truemara
Posted by TxOgal
Posted by PhoenixRising
Posted by TxOgal

What do you do when your ex bf tells you that they still miss you till now (after over 5 years of almost no contact)?

You don't intend to get back and don't want to lead them on, but you miss them too

Do you keep it to yourself and ignore their message? Do you express anything?

Um, well if you believe sharing your feelings would lead to endless badgering in an effort to get you back and that isn't the goal, then just ignore. I mean you haven't had any contact in 5 years, the text could have got lost in cyberspace.

Geeze, who save someone's number for 5 years? You get deleted as soon as we said our "goodbyes".

Curious, not that you have to share...if you also miss him, why have you already made up your mind to not go back?


He would send me a text like once or twice a year just asking how I'm doing n that's it. It's the first time he shows any feelings since we broke up. We've been in a relationship that lasted for a year n a half, figured we're not that much compatible, I don't think it would work now .. I've also never gone back to an ex

Is he a Scorpio!?
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Leo sun, Aqua moon, Virgo mercury/mars/venus
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by TxOgal
Posted by LadyNeptune

I think to myself, how pathetic... getting yet another number to try an contact me on. BLOCKED


Don't get what you mean


You asked what do you do when...

The only ex who still reaches out to me changes his phone number every few years because he knows I have him blocked. Then leaves some bs voicemails, sometimes sad and dopey other times threatening and angry. Either way, pathetic.

So I block that number.
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God.. this sounds very stalkerish
Posted by TxOgal
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by TxOgal
Posted by LadyNeptune

I think to myself, how pathetic... getting yet another number to try an contact me on. BLOCKED


Don't get what you mean


You asked what do you do when...

The only ex who still reaches out to me changes his phone number every few years because he knows I have him blocked. Then leaves some bs voicemails, sometimes sad and dopey other times threatening and angry. Either way, pathetic.

So I block that number.


God.. this sounds very stalkerish
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He can't take no for an answer smh
Uh... Exactly that! I have no intentions of getting back with you and I'm not trying to lead you on but I missed you too in my own way, period.