What if your doctor told you...

That unless you have kids within the next 6 months, you won't ever be able to have them. Assume that you don't have anyone in your life that you're serious with or even dating.

Would you hurry up, try finding someone & perhaps rush a relationship/marriage so that you'd feel less guilty about having a child with a stranger?

Would you hurry up & just pick "someone" (you like them a little but not necessarily in love) & just "hope for the best?"

Or would you just say oh well, I'm not gonna get pregnant/get someone pregnant unless I'm committed & truly know and love them?

It may sound completely ludicrous that anyone would just go find a stranger to knock them up/knock up simply b/c you've been told that you're "running out of time,"

BUT women/men actually do this kinda stuff every day!

Even if they haven't been told by a doctor exactly how much more time they have, they're biological clocks def. translate a similar kind of message: Hurry up!

*So women/men will go & rush a relationship, praying it leads to marriage b/c of pressure either from family/friends or from their own biological clocks

*Women/men will become way more lax on their standards (that were higher way before they felt their clocks start ticking) & jump into a pregnancy or a marriage, NOT b/c they're in love, found the right person or b/c they're ready, but simply b/c of pressure!

Crazy

Wow. What a question. I think I would wait and adopt, or try to freeze my eggs for a surrogate....
Wouldnt want to rush a relationship/marriage just for a child...
What if they had bad breathe eww and smlly feet! LOL

It's almost as if they're thinking, "F the child's wellbeing or the fact that I haven't found the right person or aren't ready myself for a huge responsibility! As long as I can produce a physical baby, that's all that matters!"

I think this is so dead wrong!

Children shouldn't be "accessories" or "void-fillers." They shouldn't be brought into the world b/c you got desperate or decided to be a whore for a night!

*Decided to be a WH*RE for the night! lmao

Posted by Ssasy
Wow. What a question. I think I would wait and adopt, or try to freeze my eggs for a surrogate....
Wouldnt want to rush a relationship/marriage just for a child...
What if they had bad breathe eww and smlly feet! LOL

Agreed! Same goes for marriage! Some women are like "F the marriage itself! I just want an actual wedding," & I just don't understand how thinking that way does you or your future any justice—!!!

THE #1 CAUSE OF DIVORCE IS MARRIAGE lmao

RIGHT! TOni braxton has a song called never for a ring or something like that! I want to marry where we can be best friends first....
I could have been married to some wealthy guy I dated 6 years ago.. But I knew I wouldnt be happy...
SO! Never Just for a ring! OR A KID!

I saw an episode about something similar on that TLC show, Shocking Family Secrets. This lady, a married lady, had some kind of disorder & was having a hard time conceiving. The Dr told her that with her illness she is only allowed to be pregnant only once or she'll die. She & her husband tried their last chance at IVF & it was a success. Coincidentally, another couple with the same surname was at the clinic seeking the same treatment at the same time & the clinic mixed up their stuff & inseminated each with the other's husband. She was understandably crushed over the mix up, but couldn't let her only chance at being a mother pass her by..so she kept the baby. It was heartbreaking.

I'm only 17.. I would just adopt or steal somebody's kid.. Maybe work at a daycare or something.

Posted by WaterCup
I saw an episode about something similar on that TLC show, Shocking Family Secrets. This lady, a married lady, had some kind of disorder & was having a hard time conceiving. The Dr told her that with her illness she is only allowed to be pregnant only once or she'll die. She & her husband tried their last chance at IVF & it was a success. Coincidentally, another couple with the same surname was at the clinic seeking the same treatment at the same time & the clinic mixed up their stuff & inseminated each with the other's husband. She was understandably crushed over the mix up, but couldn't let her only chance at being a mother pass her by..so she kept the baby. It was heartbreaking.

Holy crap! Yeah that does suck!

1 of my best friends got caught up cheating last year around Christmas time. They were engaged & what made his cheating so scandalous was that he decided to do so while she always in & out of the hospital for problems with her cervix & uterus, which is the reason she couldn't have sex with him. It turns out that she had a huge tumor on her cervix & the doctor told her that although they can remove the tumor successfully, there's a huge chance that it'll come back so she needed to have kids right away!! Right away as in her needing to get pregnant within the next 6 months!

Sucks b/c the only reason we think she took him back is b/c she didn't want to have to take the risk of newly dating someone new & them not end up serious enough in enough time for her to get pregnant & feel secure about it.

Had the doctor told her that she could have kids "whenever" like they tell most women, I strongly believe she would've dumped my friend & moved on! But sadly, she's willing to take him back, whether he's "fixed" or not, all b/c she'd rather have a baby by someone toxic BUT someone she can technically say she was with for 4 years, as opposed to having a baby by someone new or not being able to find anybody else period

I can't say that I disagree or agree with her decision though b/c I can only imagine being told that I need to have kids RIGHT NOW, when just a week ago I found out that my partner of 4 years that I had planned on starting a family with anyway, had cheated on me with over 10 women.

Posted by krysrenee7

Posted by WaterCup
I saw an episode about something similar on that TLC show, Shocking Family Secrets. This lady, a married lady, had some kind of disorder & was having a hard time conceiving. The Dr told her that with her illness she is only allowed to be pregnant only once or she'll die. She & her husband tried their last chance at IVF & it was a success. Coincidentally, another couple with the same surname was at the clinic seeking the same treatment at the same time & the clinic mixed up their stuff & inseminated each with the other's husband. She was understandably crushed over the mix up, but couldn't let her only chance at being a mother pass her by..so she kept the baby. It was heartbreaking.

Holy crap! Yeah that does suck!

1 of my best friends got caught up cheating last year around Christmas time. They were engaged & what made his cheating so scandalous was that he decided to do so while she always in & out of the hospital for problems with her cervix & uterus, which is the reason she couldn't have sex with him. It turns out that she had a huge tumor on her cervix & the doctor told her that although they can remove the tumor successfully, there's a huge chance that it'll come back so she needed to have kids right away!! Right away as in her needing to get pregnant within the next 6 months!

Sucks b/c the only reason we think she took him back is b/c she didn't want to have to take the risk of newly dating someone new & them not end up serious enough in enough time for her to get pregnant & feel secure about it.

Had the doctor told her that she could have kids "whenever" like they tell most women, I strongly believe she would've dumped my friend & moved on! But sadly, she's willing to take him back, whether he's "fixed" or not, all b/c she'd rather have a baby by someone toxic BUT someone she can technically say she was with for 4 years, as opposed to having a baby by someone new or not being able to find anybody else period

I can't say that I disagree or agree with her decision though b/c I can only imagine being told that I need to have kids RIGHT NOW, when just a week ago I found out that my partner of 4 years that I had planned on starting a family with anyway, had cheated on me with over 10 women.

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Wow

That would be kind of unfortunate since I'm just 23.

I don't want to be a father right now and in the near future, so I guess I would just adopt if the time comes.

Poor woman.

Posted by AriesIntrovert16
I'm only 17.. I would just adopt or steal somebody's kid.. Maybe work at a daycare or something.

lmao...you would steal the kid from the daycare?

idk its not that serious to me..i dont ever have to be pregnant

I can adopt

Posted by krysrenee7
That unless you have kids within the next 6 months, you won't ever be able to have them. Assume that you don't have anyone in your life that you're serious with or even dating.

Would you hurry up, try finding someone & perhaps rush a relationship/marriage so that you'd feel less guilty about having a child with a stranger?

Would you hurry up & just pick "someone" (you like them a little but not necessarily in love) & just "hope for the best?"

Or would you just say oh well, I'm not gonna get pregnant/get someone pregnant unless I'm committed & truly know and love them?

I would say, "Oh, well..."

But I don't want kids, so it was a no-brainer. 😄


But if I did, I would still go with the second option-- when you have to force something, it usually isn't the best idea-- at least for me, it isn't.

oh well. guess i wouldnt be having them then.

i wouldnt try to rush to have kids. that is a big step and life, and one must be financially, emotionally, and mentally stable to deal with such a task. besides, i dont want kids anyway.