what is your falling style?

This topic was created in the Relationships forum by memyself on Friday, April 19, 2013 and has 12 replies.
how/when/why do you fall for someone? for me, i usually start falling for someone after they have shown interest in me or given me attention. i might like someones looks/personality/nature, but that won't make me think romantically, unless they have acted romantic towards me. once i've noticed that, and like them too, like a typical virgo, i start obsessing and noticing and feeling lol. but usually, after a while they stop or change track and i am left thinking, thinking, feeling, feeling. not good for a virgo, who already thinks 24/7 Tongue
so what makes you fall for someone. do you feel interest first, or only after they have shown interest?
being an outsider.....
I'm pretty much the same as you. I start liking (not falling) someone once they have given me attention. The slightest gesture would work. For example, I would notice if someone creates small talks with me. I also would know once they get nervous around me and treat me differently from others. They then would get my attention.
I start falling for someone once the communication continues and we'd talk 24/7. I like it. The attention. Lol typical Aries trait.
BUT! With my Scorpio moon, it's either I let myself like or dislike someone. I mean, if in the first place, I feel there's a chance of me liking you (looks, wit, humor) then I would let you come closer to me but if there's one thing about you that turns me off (attitude, habit, or I just simply don't like you) I would push you away and would never ever let you near me. So, there's no chance of falling.
Posted by Lobo
being an outsider.....


meaning??
Posted by Ariangirl
I'm pretty much the same as you. I start liking (not falling) someone once they have given me attention. The slightest gesture would work. For example, I would notice if someone creates small talks with me. I also would know once they get nervous around me and treat me differently from others. They then would get my attention.
I start falling for someone once the communication continues and we'd talk 24/7. I like it. The attention. Lol typical Aries trait.
BUT! With my Scorpio moon, it's either I let myself like or dislike someone. I mean, if in the first place, I feel there's a chance of me liking you (looks, wit, humor) then I would let you come closer to me but if there's one thing about you that turns me off (attitude, habit, or I just simply don't like you) I would push you away and would never ever let you near me. So, there's no chance of falling.


hmm.. i am aries moon, so i wonder if it is aries trait then.
Posted by CluelessCancer
looks usually, but if they are good looking and very into me, that makes me fall hard.


i hate to admit it, but looks help. alright, i'll call it style /personality smile
Posted by Ligeia
When my interest is piqued by someone I start observing their
every move. I like to get a feel of what makes them tick. Their
likes and dislikes. I might get a giddy school girl moment here
and there shamelessly flirting/seducing them smile Their looks, how
they carry themselves and mental repore with me will draw me in.


+1000000 giddy yessss
Posted by Ligeia



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LOL!
Posted by TheMoodyVulcan
phase 1) Noticing and acknowledging their existence: this first phase may be the trickiest since I tend to live in my own headspace most of the time.
phase 2) Observation: what generally makes them tick.
phase 3) The dance: I won't typically bother with someone that hasn't shown the first signs of interest)
phase 4) Courtship: I have to do my own little scuttle around the subject of whether or not I'm really ready and willing to submit to the relationship.
phase 5) Now what: if no one has run away by this point, they're stuck with me. And now they have to deal with me and decide if that's what they really want.
phase 6) That four letter word: I'll rarely if ever say the 'L' word and I'll never be the first. But they'll know when I feel it because it bleeds out through my actions.


^^ +1000000
LOL! I read the title of this thread and thought, "What?...I'm a bit of quick recovery klutz I suppose". Sort of like this:



^^^To answer the OP, it's hard to say (I haven't been able to give a straight answer to anything lately....). I guess there isn't a specific time or event (e.g. after first few dates, after first kiss, etc...), but I notice it when the person is on my mind more times than I'd like to count. It sort of creeps up on me.
I have difficulty staying in the present and a strong indication of my feelings for someone will show itself through my thoughts (e.g. future plans, past conversations). If thoughts of them do not take place in the future or the past, meaning we talked, it ended, you don't cross my mind again until I see or hear from you, this is a good indication that the feelings aren't "there" yet.
Posted by TheMoodyVulcan
phase 1) Noticing and acknowledging their existence: this first phase may be the trickiest since I tend to live in my own headspace most of the time and wander the Earth generally oblivious to passersby. A good looking body might catch my eye for about thirty seconds, but after that they're in the rearview mirror and long forgotten. The only way to really capture my attention in a lasting way--that I've discovered thus far--is if the other person starts a debate, does something intriguing or to confuse me, or otherwise assert themselves as a priority. Of course, shameless flattery doesn't hurt. I love to have my ego stroked as much as anybody else lol.
phase 2) Observation: after I know they're there, I kick back and watch what they're going to do next. This begins the process of figuring out what they're all about, what some of their habits are, what they like or dislike, how they interact with others, and what generally makes them tick. And perhaps more importantly, if they're as interested in me as I am in them.
phase 3) The dance: if they've survived the first two phases with my attention intact and remain interested in me (because I won't typically bother with someone that hasn't shown the first signs of interest) then I start feeling how what they think or feel about me more. That involves a lot of hit and run tactics, making contact or the like and then backing away to see what they do about it. If motions are returned then the dance continues. If they go unanswered or if the attraction doesn't seem mutual, then I'll play it all off as friendly gestures and move on. The dance has never previously stopped before the other person has made the first obvious, beyond a doubt, move or I've given up and turned my attentions elsewhere.
phase 4) Courtship: gaining a more in-depth knowledge about the person and their character. This can be a bit make or break since the hot and cold routine generally starts about this time. I want them, but I don't. I want my personal freedom, but I don't. I have to do my own little scuttle around the subject of whether or not I'm really ready and willing to submit to the relationship.
phase 5) Now what: if no one has run away by this point, they're stuck with me. And now they have to deal with me and decide if that's what they really want.
phase 6) That four letter word: I'll rarely if ever say the 'L' word and I'll ne
+1 zillion... I swear we are the same person lol!

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