What is your negative relaitonship cycle?

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What types of people , habits, or poison do you attract in relationships and are you aware early on or do they show up later?
I tend to attract guys that aren't romantic but they take pride in being solid providers so I'm not complaining but a girl can dream smile
I am too go with the flow so I can rush in and since i've mostly dated Sags, Gems, and Leos so very bad idea because the relationship just burns out. @Koniucha Do you guys fantasize about the impossible?
I attract men who can read me like a book! They KNOW they cannot use me, abuse me, be their sugar momma, etc! My aura is that strong! Hug In other words, THEY know they are too weak for me. I'm looking for a STRONG independent mature man, WITH a good heart! (did I mention money, looks, and a car? nope!).

Love, Smug
Eva
Oh, forgot about the latter part of your question....when I do get involved with a man, their true colors start to show up (less than two months). Since I have a strong 6th sense and powerful dreams that I myself interpret (I thank God for this) I don't stick around...why? Because I'm a Piscean....I just cast my fishing rod and see what I "catch" this time.

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Love,

Eva
I attract alcoholics and depressive characters. In my younger years I tended to cling to these relationships until I meet someone else. Now at 30 I am fine to be alone.
I attract alcoholics and depressive characters. In my younger years I tended to cling to these relationships until I meet someone else. Now at 30 I am fine to be alone.
Posted by EvatheDiva
Oh, forgot about the latter part of your question....when I do get involved with a man, their true colors start to show up (less than two months). Since I have a strong 6th sense and powerful dreams that I myself interpret (I thank God for this) I don't stick around...why? Because I'm a Piscean....I just cast my fishing rod and see what I "catch" this time.

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Love,

Eva


#Slay! LOl
Posted by heliumfiasco
I attract alcoholics and depressive characters. In my younger years I tended to cling to these relationships until I meet someone else. Now at 30 I am fine to be alone.

I think this can be a Libra thing because we want to believe the best in people and that there is a reason or another side to why people are the way they are. So it can be half curiosity half trying to save a person and people who are broke are attracted to someone who will stick around for their bullshit.
I attract much older guys, or over enthusiastic wannabes. Lol! Also mysterious guys who can be found in bars etc alone and who tend to "send the girl over there whatever she's having"
Posted by cheekyfaerie
I attract takers. Or maybe I start out as too much of a giver (Virgo Mars) and they decide to take advantage. It's been a recurring theme in my longest relationships, but since identifying that, I've been more careful about how I invest in people. The problem is (to quote a Bojack Horseman episode), when you're looking at someone through rose colored glasses, the red flags just look like flags (i have Neptune influences too :/).

I am the same way. I love that quote by the way I need that on my wall.
Posted by ladylibra21
I am too go with the flow so I can rush in and since i've mostly dated Sags, Gems, and Leos so very bad idea because the relationship just burns out. @Koniucha Do you guys fantasize about the impossible?

I attract and am attracted to libras mostly but it burns out so fast and I'm left yearning for them. A lot of libra male friends though

I am attracted to Aquarius men too but are usually more distance than I am. (i have a scorpio venus) and all over the place to make anything work

Posted by cheekyfaerie
I attract takers. Or maybe I start out as too much of a giver (Virgo Mars) and they decide to take advantage. It's been a recurring theme in my longest relationships, but since identifying that, I've been more careful about how I invest in people. The problem is (to quote a Bojack Horseman episode), when you're looking at someone through rose colored glasses, the red flags just look like flags (i have Neptune influences too :/).

Crying... me too.

I don't know what it is though, maybe my moon in 12th. However, eventually the rose colored glasses come right off.
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Why'd you hide it, bumhead? Tongue
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Haha. I'm about to board a plane, and was typing too fast. It was all messed up. Lol
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Posted by cheekyfaerie
I attract takers. Or maybe I start out as too much of a giver (Virgo Mars) and they decide to take advantage. It's been a recurring theme in my longest relationships, but since identifying that, I've been more careful about how I invest in people. The problem is (to quote a Bojack Horseman episode), when you're looking at someone through rose colored glasses, the red flags just look like flags (i have Neptune influences too :/).

Crying... me too.

I don't know what it is though, maybe my moon in 12th. However, eventually the rose colored glasses come right off.
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I have moon in 12th as well I feel your pain!
Posted by starlover
Emotionally unavailable men







Ugh bless you that's all I seem to pick up too. I just broke off a 5 year relationship last year with an emo no no last year lol
1. The ones who will do ANYTHING to get my attention and when I give it to them, they run off or act super cruel towards me

2. The girls everyone adores so it's like they choose me (why idk I'm not flashy or anything and working hard to be rich with my company and don't come from cash) ... But then they end up liking me and they RUN..

3. These girls be popular and all, but I see their pain... They're super insecure... And some of them are kind of depressive... I see right through them, and I call them out on it when they're acting like idiots..


4. Girls who have never really talked to women before .. They choose me.. Tease me.. And like they put me on a chase.. But they are cruel at times, so I leave them alone ... And it's like they hate me even worse... And the cycle starts over. A lot of cat and mouse games
Posted by CruellaWhite
FFS it's IN my name!

LOL are you perhase a Virgo?
perhaps *
In all relationships I've had so far I behaved like a wolf in sheep's clothing.

Acted like an overconfident guy who has it all at first, but as time passed it became harder to keep my secret, which was my insecurity and need for somebody to cling to - and got exposed, and dumped.

Love doesn't exist for you, when you don't love yourself.

Posted by risesafterall
In all relationships I've had so far I behaved like a wolf in sheep's clothing.

Acted like an overconfident guy who has it all at first, but as time passed it became harder to keep my secret, which was my insecurity and need for somebody to cling to - and got exposed, and dumped.

Love doesn't exist for you, when you don't love yourself.



I attract that quite a bit usually it is mutables with water placements. Why do you feel like you are this way I really respect that you can see that about yourself.
Posted by ladylibra21
What types of people , habits, or poison do you attract in relationships and are you aware early on or do they show up later?


I attract musicians, artists, writers, those talented old souls... But they are prideful too. I'm totally aware and driven to draw them in but I'm more the type to spit them back out, sadly. My pride is always bigger.

I'm the problem in relationships.
Posted by ladylibra21
Posted by risesafterall
In all relationships I've had so far I behaved like a wolf in sheep's clothing.

Acted like an overconfident guy who has it all at first, but as time passed it became harder to keep my secret, which was my insecurity and need for somebody to cling to - and got exposed, and dumped.

Love doesn't exist for you, when you don't love yourself.



I attract that quite a bit usually it is mutables with water placements. Why do you feel like you are this way I really respect that you can see that about yourself.
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That's interesting, almost half of my chart is Pisces,
I feel this way because I started looking at my life and relationship more realistically, I saw love for what it was then as an escape to some sort of perfection, which is probably typically Pisces. Just unnoticed rose colored glasses while there was yet so much going on.
I now focus on fixing my insecurities etc so I can just give. But I take life and love kind of seriously.
And thank you, that's good to hear smile

One question, how do you deal with those people?
I'm attracted to bi-polar people in general, and it extends to partners.

They are a very different bunch from the main gene pool
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Posted by ladylibra21
Posted by risesafterall
In all relationships I've had so far I behaved like a wolf in sheep's clothing.

Acted like an overconfident guy who has it all at first, but as time passed it became harder to keep my secret, which was my insecurity and need for somebody to cling to - and got exposed, and dumped.

Love doesn't exist for you, when you don't love yourself.



I attract that quite a bit usually it is mutables with water placements. Why do you feel like you are this way I really respect that you can see that about yourself.

That's interesting, almost half of my chart is Pisces,
I feel this way because I started looking at my life and relationship more realistically, I saw love for what it was then as an escape to some sort of perfection, which is probably typically Pisces. Just unnoticed rose colored glasses while there was yet so much going on.
I now focus on fixing my insecurities etc so I can just give. But I take life and love kind of seriously.
And thank you, that's good to hear smile

One question, how do you deal with those people?
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Usually I find that they are lacking in their dreams or confidence no matter how bold they come off and then I am playing the encourager and nurturer to the point I feel like a life coach because the tune always changes one day they play the ou are so right I'm ready for this I am ready to change my life and I give them space to work on their projects then 2 to 3 days later it is who am I kidding I can't do this. I am very patient up until they decided to pick someone else who is stuck in the place in life they are afraid to leave or at an even lower point and I'm left with my heart in my hands. Because I have "welcoming eyes" and "I feel like I could tell you anything in the world and you wouldn't judge me." Yeah but you neglect to tell me that you are done with me I mean bored. (Sag and Gems with Scorp and Cancer placements)
So to answer your question @risesafterall I haven't done any prevention of this not sure how I can guard myself from this except to date someone who already is happy in their career, but I find that people I attract will never be satisfied.
My Cancer Venus is telling me the answer to this topic for me is Aqua placements in people.

But then..but then...my Aries and Sag placements vehemently disagree.

Momma's boy who has to call her every 5 minutes because he can't figure out shit! Which is weird because I love a manly, independent man.
Posted by BullShit
I attract broken ladies who tend to be dramatic storms. And i like that. Makes me think that I'm kinda broken in that way too.


Same here but these be the girls who have a lot of admirers idk... I wonder why the cling to me...
it hitting up on the LIbra ladies.

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Posted by heliumfiasco
I attract alcoholics and depressive characters. In my younger years I tended to cling to these relationships until I meet someone else. Now at 30 I am fine to be alone.

Please don't take this in a negative way or in a way that makes me seem like I'm trying to flirt or hit on you. But you're gorgeous. Just wanted to say that. kthxbye
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she looks like a young version of Susan Sarandon.



well I thought I had a bad pattern but after my 2nd ex, I didn't attract drug addicts/alcoholics/criminals anymore. I didn't want to save them/fix them.
cause I needed fixing/saving it seems (the wheel went a turn around!!) so the 3rd and last ex, was virgo dominant. isn't that interesting? lol *smh* he was fixing me I guess. lolLaughing
sigh.
well the end of the line for me, cause my hubs is the last stop until death. and it's a good healthy one!!

(sounds like we're talking about a market of guys and gals here)

ie, "Hey can I get one of those guys in the window there? the one that looks like he needs saving?"

"How about that guy, with the hammer,nails and toolbox? he could fix me up!!!'

"where's the women who are funny and sweet?"

"I want one of those ladies there, with the long blonde hair and blue eyes, preferably Eastern European please."

"do we get to have any of these women for a DISCOUNT?"

Laughing
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lmao @Bullshit hitting up on the LIbra ladies.

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Posted by heliumfiasco
I attract alcoholics and depressive characters. In my younger years I tended to cling to these relationships until I meet someone else. Now at 30 I am fine to be alone.

Please don't take this in a negative way or in a way that makes me seem like I'm trying to flirt or hit on you. But you're gorgeous. Just wanted to say that. kthxbye

she looks like a young version of Susan Sarandon.




I'm just point out the pretty pretty in these two leebs i ran across Big Grin big eyes high cheek bones *faints again*
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aw that's sweet!!! makes them feel good. you make some of the ladies on here happy today.
I had a vicious cycle of attracting abusive relationships with emotionally unavailable men. It was so bad that I became emotionally unavailable too.

Now that I've finally realized my cycles, I'm shooting for wishes upon falling stars.
Yes people realize selfish and emotionally unavailable partners before you have kids because your kids will get the same treatment.
I usually attract very submissive people that let me call the shots. They tend to be really needy at first, and constantly want to see me. Which flatters my ego, and I love to serve the person I'm with. It tends to fizzle into me being the only one putting in effort because they become tired of my expectations. It's true, I do expect a lot from my partner but I know I'm capable of reciprocating it. I'm not sure if that's the reason or because their true colors arise. Selfish, detached and distant. I admire selflessness and being needed. I carry that through out my relationships to the end. Most relationships have been with water signs, though.
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Posted by heliumfiasco
I attract alcoholics and depressive characters. In my younger years I tended to cling to these relationships until I meet someone else. Now at 30 I am fine to be alone.

Please don't take this in a negative way or in a way that makes me seem like I'm trying to flirt or hit on you. But you're gorgeous. Just wanted to say that. kthxbye
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You and your libra Suns Tongue
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Posted by ladylibra21
What types of people , habits, or poison do you attract in relationships and are you aware early on or do they show up later?

I normally attract the "nice guys" that give me the world. 2 men have proposed, 3 bought me a diamond ring and necklaces, countless flower deliveries, beautiful romantic dates, would have never possibly cheated on me, took care of me whenever I was sick, etc. I made a thread sort of about this not too long ago. The problem comes with MY own behaivorLaughing I'm fucked up you guys, I don't want them. I don't based much on physical attraction, but these guys were alright. Cute guys, attractive, not sexy. I remain honest that I don't see it going anywhere with a couple of them, but I think men like to try to change your mind if they really want something. They don't seem to listen to the words coming out of your mouth.

I guess I am the poisonous one, I don't know. I thought biologically, women were supposed to very much desire those kinds of relationship.

I attracted a hot dickhead some time ago, to try something new to see if my feelings were different. They were. Lol.

I'm with a gem guy now and he's different

aw that's sweet. you found someone you finally love and respect.
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got cut off. pfff. anyway I wrote
that's sweet. you found someone you finally love and respect. it feels good when you finally do.
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Posted by heliumfiasco
I attract alcoholics and depressive characters. In my younger years I tended to cling to these relationships until I meet someone else. Now at 30 I am fine to be alone.

Please don't take this in a negative way or in a way that makes me seem like I'm trying to flirt or hit on you. But you're gorgeous. Just wanted to say that. kthxbye

You and your libra Suns Tongue

Listen lady, it's not my fault you leebs are pretty. Hogging so much beauty for yourself. I mean look at you *faints again*
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this is like the FEEL GOOD topic. Big Grin


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Posted by heliumfiasco
I attract alcoholics and depressive characters. In my younger years I tended to cling to these relationships until I meet someone else. Now at 30 I am fine to be alone.

Please don't take this in a negative way or in a way that makes me seem like I'm trying to flirt or hit on you. But you're gorgeous. Just wanted to say that. kthxbye

You and your libra Suns Tongue

Listen lady, it's not my fault you leebs are pretty. Hogging so much beauty for yourself. I mean look at you *faints again*

^______^


this is like the FEEL GOOD topic. Big Grin




The good with the bad, goes hand in hand!
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can't have it any other way. Tongue
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Posted by BullShit
I attract broken ladies who tend to be dramatic storms. And i like that. Makes me think that I'm kinda broken in that way too.


Same here but these be the girls who have a lot of admirers idk... I wonder why the cling to me...

You may not show them as much attention, and you may not be as catering to them. And that makes you "different" i guess in their eyes.
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Ehh... They're weird... But I'm ignoring them all. I have five different girls RIGHT NOW, who hates me and can't leave me alone for good. I truly be chilling, and they'll start coming back around and ANNOY ME. Purposely try to piss me off etc. I swear two of them comes around the same time and leaves around the same time ... Lol. I used to think about it, but now I just gone about my business... I'm focused on my company and getting rich... So it is what it is. I'm just annoyed by the fact I'll have ten girls chose me, bait me in... Only to like "play games" 🙄 But all my friends (guys) told me it's a compliment I pull that easily. But it's no fun due to the fact I want someone to build with and get this money!!
Posted by Capri_unicorn
I attract emotionally unavailable types. Guys that give just enough to lead you on, but not enough to make you want to stay long term. Then when I leave because I'm not satisfied with their lack of depth, the love and emotions come rushing in.

SEE EXACTLY!!! And they get so mad when I leave them alone because I'm not playing with ya bra... I graduate with two degrees in a year and a half, and I just closed my first deal for my apparel line in a store... I DO NOT HAVE THE TIME.
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Posted by Capri_unicorn
I attract emotionally unavailable types. Guys that give just enough to lead you on, but not enough to make you want to stay long term. Then when I leave because I'm not satisfied with their lack of depth, the love and emotions come rushing in.

SEE EXACTLY!!! And they get so mad when I leave them alone because I'm not playing with ya bra... I graduate with two degrees in a year and a half, and I just closed my first deal for my apparel line in a store... I DO NOT HAVE THE TIME.
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#Slay!
^^ trying too hunny!! I'm on the bus now about to get ready for a pop up this weekend.. Flying to meet their headquarters in June... Debating shark tank...

You'd think me being on my stuff, attractive, and genuine would keep these type of people away from me... But it's all good lol... Heated marble floors and Foreign whip when I graduate ... I need that. The cat and mouse so lame to me now, those days are over...
Sagittarius sun..
Leo moon...
Cancer Mars....
Aquarius Venus....

@capri_unicorn
I attract emotional, mommy issue dudes. Seriously I have been the alpha in my last two relationships😞
That's crazy, lol... Relationships are weird... I'm noticing, every relationship is different... I don't know, but I'm a believer in true love...
This whole site is full of these answers haha. Just look around all the negative and few positive.
Well it takes a minute but if you ask the right questions you'll find out what that of person is like before you met them.
@MysteriousPresence- and not only that I have something in my chart to be able to sense that shit out. I try not to judge the answers guy spew out because I feel if they told me the truth I won't accept them.
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