What keeps guys interested??

Curious- what do guys enjoy most in a woman- like what attracts you, what intrigues you and what do we do that touches the depths of your soul?

tight snatch

Not exactly what I was looking for... I was hoping that guys were not that shallow...but lol anyway

Sag .. it's not shallow from the male perspective, only the females. You ask this question, "what attracts you, what intrigues you and what do we do that touches the depths of your soul?"

What you are asking is for an answer that stirs the emotions, yet, this is asked of men. That is a female mind-set, not male.

Men are looking for physical attributes .. looking sexy, feminine, or perhaps physical services to be provided .. cooking, laundry, sex

The old phrase, "The way to a man's heart is through the stomach" .. isn't far from the mark.

If you listen in here .. the population is prodominately female and probably close to 90% of these females are asking about their relationships from an emotional point of view (naturally) .. whereas, if you listen to the male population .. they talk about sex, how a woman looks, boobs ..

It's not a matter of shallow, or deep .. for the perspective between male and females, is one of physical versus emotional respectively, and to men depth of respect means .. stay out of his face, do what he says, sex him up and keep him fed. That's not shallow from their perspective, because they process love physically, not emotionally.

Daily, I sit in here listening to women go on and on about feelings with men and they cannot understand why a man doesn't feel the way she wants him to and the answer is simple .. he's male.

If you "listen" .. you will come to comprehend that when relationships fall apart .. the majority of the time it's because the woman expected a man to behave as a woman and bombarded him with emotions with the attempt to change him and make him feel as a she.

I can't tell you how many times I've asked a man who was with or married to a woman to whom brings out the bad side of him, they fuss, the compatibility is horrible .. his answer 90% of the time ..

"She's tight", or, "Gives good head"

And though, this may sound shallow to a woman, but, don't women actually KNOW this? No matter how much we protest and say it's unfair .. in reality, we know it ..

.. that's why we USE sex appeal .. we USE it, we therefore already comprehend, don't we? We keep ourselves looking sexy, alluring, excerise our kegels, swing our hips, get boob-jobs .. com'on ..

Let's get real .. it is what it is .. afterall, if a woman is going to USE her sex appeal to get a man, how does she then have merit to claim he doesn't "feel" her?

So, that was my explanation as to why I answered the way I did.

Sag .. the word "you" is in the 3rd person .. just thought I would clarify that, though, being a Sag, I'm sure I didn't have to.

OK- I understand I think what you are saying. To guys its physical love- so what I as a woman need to do is to- understand that when he says he likes me very much and thinks about me all the time- is that he really would like to have his hands all over me. When he says he has feelings for me (whatever that might even mean) that I should not take it to mean too much? So then, how do guys end up being inlove??

Good question .. perhaps they never do, rather, the idea of love as according to their physical gain or benefit.

A man is in love with a woman who provides physical qualities to him, so, if this is true .. then do they ever really fall in love?

Frightening, this theory, isn't it?

A man could say, "I love her emotionally" .. what does this mean, though, to him?

Let's say this woman he loved emotionally cheated on him, eh? This is his property, isn't it .. since he measures by the physical .. so, if she cheats on him, then will he then say he still loves her emotionally?

The answer is "no" .. he drops her like a bad habit .. yet, how many times have we heard in our lifetimes about a man cheating on his wife and the woman is suppose to forgive him because he claims it has nothing to do with the love he holds for her?

See the point? If he should be forgiven because it was just a physical thing, and shouldn't effect his love for her, while maintaining that he loves her emotionally, yet, WON'T tolerate her physically cheating on him .. then this love he has for her is purly physical, he is simply calling it emotional because that is how he knows he can get her to forgive him. If it was indeed, emotional, he would be able to forgive her her indiscretion in a moment of passion .. such as she forgives the man because her love IS emotional.

lol, this is just theorizing 🙂 What do you think?

if she can cook dinner everyday, and not only when she "spontaneously" decide to cook some...just joking:-) (a bit:-)

Oh, and another one besides the tight snatch ..

Never bitch, no matter what .. just remain quiet with a loving smile, even if they are being complete dicks.

Yes .. maybe that one is the number one answer, isn't it? Men could probably even put up with less than wonderful sex, cooking skills under par .. so long as there was no bitching for any reason.

OK- very interesting to me- from the physical side and the emotional side. Very very good comments in from the male point of view. The mysteries about me-
I am sassy, confident, love to listen, love to try new things and can imagine making love anywhere at any time. I like to joke and dont want to be taken too seriously (unless I am in a business deal) I dont like a lot of drama except between the sheets. And when you make love to me- I want to see me in your eyes. But I am humble and I am compassionate also. I like pleasing you if I am into you and you are me. I think most women are like that. Except for the gold digging snobby girls who see themselves in their own eyes. Actually, not too many mysteries- just 2 kind of women- one who pleases and one who teases.

I've really enjoyed reading this. 🙂

My $ .02 - So many women are worried about doing "the right thing" to get & keep a guy. The BEST thing you could do is be yourself.
Be how you are around your friends.
Be silly & goofy & fun.
Have conversations.

And for goodness sakes - ✨GIVE THE GUY SOME SPACE!!!✨

I can't emphasize that enough. Guys need at least a little space. They don't need to tell you what they're thinking every 2 seconds, they don't remember every single thing that happened in their day(even though you're asking because you love him and are fascinated with everything he does - HE'S NOT fascinated with his daily routine). It's not fair to expect them to remember every single thing that's important TO YOU! He has a hard enough time remembering what's important to him. 😛

He needs time to not talk & not think about feelings. He needs to be able to go be a guy sometimes and belch & fart and talk about "hooters" while watching "the game." Even if he doesn't need that part, he will still value the fact that YOU HAVE YOUR OWN LIFE and that you let him have his.

Sorry. Just had to get that off of my chest after seeing a lot of female friends smother really great guys to DEATH!

Oh..
P.S. You can have HIM do something -OR- You can have it done YOUR WAY.

✨You can't have BOTH!✨

Don't b!tch when he does what you asked him to do, but he did it "wrong." If you don't like how he did it, next time you'll be doing it yourself. 😉

That's all. 🙂

HMM GEMFOX YOU MEAN I HAD FAKE WOMEN SOFAR. LET ME THINK!

A real man does not always show the intentions. You must believe in it. I think in other forums i explained, how a man can tick. Well either ur with us or against us. (Macho think) but works all the time in the beg. or end....

This was bit for my ego. I need to boost it so i can handle 500 things in a short time. Did not mean to step on your shoes.

Is there really that great of a complication and difference between men and women? I find that the women most successful in relationships, or the ones who get what they want from their boyfriends, are the women who aren't too polarized in society's standards.

I believe "fake" women are the ladies who lost touch on their instincts, and real women are the earthy, instinctive women who know when to cross the line and when to ease. Who know when to give and when to take. Women who are not afraid to actually read men... and not fluff up this cushion of "oh, I'm sure i can understand the depth of his soul..."

My opinion is that we're all the same here, we all want love, sex, affection, and emotion, support and respect to varying degrees. Why should we over-analyze? Everything is quite simple and straightforward if you know where to look. I do beleive you can take things at face value... if. you. know. where. and how. to look.

Situations and people are only as complicated as we make them. At our core, we're all the same (san society expectations)

Just my 2cents.

What keeps guys interested??
All males have different interest levels..some are only pleased sexually, while others are pleased simply, spiritually, mentally, etc.
The best way to know what interest your man is to know his personality, hobbies, &/or 'love language'.
Some guys like it when their ladies wash their cars for them, buy them little stuff, compliment them, dress in skin-tight clothes, touch them, whatever.

I think it's the essence of a person, if he sees and recognises it, not so much the physical attributes. It's like a glimmer and spark of recongition when lovers meet, reflected in the eyes. How often do you get that with someone?
Although I feel "interest" can be a conscious effort on either part, conscious effort is really driven by unconscious desire.
I think long lasting interest can be built by really getting to know someone, and liking the aspects you see.

Many men hate to be controled, so dont try to control or change them in a harsh way or with things like this: "If you dont do that this way there is no sex this nite".

I personally do not believe that keeping a man interested has anything to do what how a woman looks on the outside. Outer appearance aids in sexual attraction and first time appearances... but to create a long lasting form of interest there's really an art to it.

Some women are in possession of this art form and are complete naturals at keeping a man interested. I use to be an adult entertainer. What would amaze me most, is that men seem to be more interested in women who are flirty... yet withdrawn. When we first meet a man, we are naturally flirtacious and withdrawn... because we've just met some handsome stranger. This creates attraction, especially if the woman is well kept in the eyes of the male.

Over time a man can lose this attraction, because the woman is no longer withdrawn. The more she falls in love, the more she wants to surrender her love. The more she surrenders... the less interested he becomes. She doesn't know why he seems to be less interested, because men do not verbalize their emotions the way women do. They are also afraid of hurting a woman's feelings. So the woman will panick. She will want to talk to him and find out why he is pulling away. She doesn't realize, that this makes him pull away even more.

She will start to wonder if she is not loving him enough.... so she holds him tighter and gives all of her love. She sexes him, cooks for him and she can't wait to see him. She thinks that her actions of love will make him love her more without realizing that she is becoming too easy and available for him. Thus never experiencing the love and passion that a man can give.

For the most part, a woman doesn't have to surrender to a man and give all of herself completely. Men despise what is easily obtained. He may be flattered by the attention, but the attention she gives will not create true love in his heart.

Men equate love with longing. Sometimes after a wonderful date and a followup phone call... a woman should pull away and stay busy. Work later, take a class, go to an evening function with friends. She should keep him wondering.... the more he longs to be in her company.. the more he realizes that he is falling in love.

Falling in love has to be his ideas... as with anything in a relationship with a man.. marriage has to be his idea. Just have fun with him... look beautiful, relax and be yourself. If there's a ton of compatibility and a sexual connection.. he will enjoy being with you.

The less you pressure him for committment and marriage... because you have a life, and other things that you are committed to, the more he will consider keeping you long term.

The minute he thinks that a woman wants to pin him down... he will fear losing his freedom and run. It is difficult for women to pull back, because it is in our nature to give. We are nurturing and giving.... but save that for when you have kids LOL.

And as women, we want them to open up.... so we may squeeze him tight and hold on too tightly.

It's like an ice cube... if you have an ice cube in her hand, if you hold it too tight, it will slip out of your hand... but if you just hold it in your palm... and be patient, it will melt on it's own.