What the flop?! (this is short plz read)

I catch guys staring at me all the time but whenever I try to talk to them via in person or facebook they always seem standoffish or act like they don't want to talk to me so I end up thinking they don't like me. Then when I go back to whatever I was doing. I catch them staring at me again or coming around me. IDK.. This keeps happening to me. Am I just eye candy or are they just being weird? Idk :/ I'm not just talking about one guy.. this has happened multiple times with different guys who don't exactly know eachother.

Girls that chase look desperate...if they are interested, let them pursue you. We are all eye candy, everyone looks. I am happy with my man and I still appreciate a good looking guy when I see one. Not that I'd do anything other than look!

Posted by sweethearts
Girls that chase look desperate...if they are interested, let them pursue you. We are all eye candy, everyone looks. I am happy with my man and I still appreciate a good looking guy when I see one. Not that I'd do anything other than look!

hmm. So you think I shouldn't do anything and just ignore it. :I Is it wrong to just say "hi" and be friendly though? 😢 She I just walk through life just waiting and waiting. Just praying for someone I like to try to reach out for my attention? That doesn't make any sense to me : ( but I can also see what you're saying.

I'd say ignore them. My whole thing with this is that, if they've never talked to you, they can't like you, anyhow, unless they're creepy stalkers. If anything, they just like your appearance, which is shallow and not worth much in a relationship (so yes, eye candy, which may be why they don't seem interested in talking). And it's the same way to you - if you've never talked to them, you don't like them - just their appearance or how you think they are (which likely isn't all that true). I'd rather use terms such as 'fancy' 'admire' are 'intrigued by', etc, instead of 'like' in situations like this. Same with the word 'crush', since it usually goes along with admiring from afar and not actually 'liking' someone based on their actual personality.

Thing is - if you don't feel some special connection with them based on previous experiences (such as hanging out or talking, and NOT just staring at each other or seeing each other around), then why persue a relationship as the first interaction? Look to these people as possible friends, first, unless you've had previous experience with them. At least, that's my view.

I don't know how far off the topic I went, so I apologize. All of what I previously stated are things I feel strongly about, so I wasn't able to resist the urge to say it all. : (

Posted by Scenic
I'd say ignore them. My whole thing with this is that, if they've never talked to you, they can't like you, anyhow, unless they're creepy stalkers. If anything, they just like your appearance, which is shallow and not worth much in a relationship (so yes, eye candy, which may be why they don't seem interested in talking). And it's the same way to you - if you've never talked to them, you don't like them - just their appearance or how you think they are (which likely isn't all that true). I'd rather use terms such as 'fancy' 'admire' are 'intrigued by', etc, instead of 'like' in situations like this. Same with the word 'crush', since it usually goes along with admiring from afar and not actually 'liking' someone based on their actual personality.

Thing is - if you don't feel some special connection with them based on previous experiences (such as hanging out or talking, and NOT just staring at each other or seeing each other around), then why persue a relationship as the first interaction? Look to these people as possible friends, first, unless you've had previous experience with them. At least, that's my view.

I don't know how far off the topic I went, so I apologize. All of what I previously stated are things I feel strongly about, so I wasn't able to resist the urge to say it all. : (

I totally get what you're saying. I'm trying to be their friend to get to know them. We've only kinda talked like in a group of mutual friends. It's just annoying ya'known but I guess I'm just slowly learning how things actually work. This sucks. It's like it's painful for them to talk to me. I don't care if they don't want to be in a relationship. I guess I just want them to be as friendly to me as I am to them and me being an Aquarius, longs for people to be friendly in return. 😢 It's just a big let down because normally people response positively to me being friends. :/ It's just like sheesh man, can I atleast get in the friend zone?

Ah, okay, so you have talked a bit. Well, unfortunately, once you put yourself out there, if he doesn't bite, then there's not a whole lot to do. Don't push it, but try to go out in that group again and see if you can say a few words to him. It may be a really slow process. And how do you mean painful? How does he act that makes you think that?

Also, if you die your hair a lot, or whatever else, people may look at you because it makes you stand out? Haha, yes, I just looked at your profile. I'm sure you've already considered that or threw that idea out, but I thought I'd say it, anyway.

Posted by Scenic
Ah, okay, so you have talked a bit. Well, unfortunately, once you put yourself out there, if he doesn't bite, then there's not a whole lot to do. Don't push it, but try to go out in that group again and see if you can say a few words to him. It may be a really slow process. And how do you mean painful? How does he act that makes you think that?

Okay when I was sitting at a table with him and our friends and when I would talk everyone's eyes at the table would be on me but he'd like try his best to look away or stare at something else and would only make occasional glances when I was talking. He didn't really do that when the others would talk. He's be all over in their conversation. However, that could be because he didn't know me that well. If I remember correctly when I was talking directly to him once and he wouldn't really look at me. Every once in a while he'd say something to me but when I would look he'd look away. The atmosphere just felt kind of painful and uncomfortable to me.

I see. : ( I'm not really sure what to make of that. Did he also deny your facebook request, or were those other people?

If you know his sign, you could probably get some more opinions on what he may be thinking by posting in their section.

Ultimately, I'm sure his reasonings will be made known if you talk to him more (if he even goes along with that). None of your friends happened to pick up on this? They'd probably have some of their own ideas, too.

Posted by Scenic
Also, if you die your hair a lot, or whatever else, people may look at you because it makes you stand out? Haha, yes, I just looked at your profile. I'm sure you've already considered that or threw that idea out, but I thought I'd say it, anyway.

No these are old highschool pics. Hahah I died my hair back to it's natural color like last year. lol.

Posted by ianthepisces
maybe you are just reading him wrong...

people think that i dont like talking to them all the time...

its actually far from the truth..

im just not good at verbal communication at times..

hmmm. Maybe you're right. I asked my friend about him and she said he's a little stuck-up at first. :/
Maybe he's just bad at communication with people he doesn't know.

Posted by Scenic
I see. : ( I'm not really sure what to make of that. Did he also deny your facebook request, or were those other people?

If you know his sign, you could probably get some more opinions on what he may be thinking by posting in their section.

Ultimately, I'm sure his reasonings will be made known if you talk to him more (if he even goes along with that). None of your friends happened to pick up on this? They'd probably have some of their own ideas, too.

We're facebook friends. I'll try to talk to him more when college starts up again. I don't think I'll try to facebook message him since he's so standoffish.

Posted by QLIbraMale
Be yourself, but if a guys is shy, which some of us are girls needs to make a move, if she shyas well she's can't hate on his lack of confidences.

That's the thing. I talked to one of my guy friends about a girl approaching a shy guy and he said it was okay so that's why I thought that it was okay for me to be all bubbly and nice to a guy if I think he shows interest. Just to get my foot in the door even if we just end up being friends.

Posted by ellessque
you are so flipping adorable, aqua!!!!!!!!!!!!! 😄

now if only he'd thought that LOL but thank you! That means a lot to me especially right now 🙂

Posted by QLIbraMale

Posted by kukupuffs093

Posted by QLIbraMale
Be yourself, but if a guys is shy, which some of us are girls needs to make a move, if she shyas well she's can't hate on his lack of confidences.

That's the thing. I talked to one of my guy friends about a girl approaching a shy guy and he said it was okay so that's why I thought that it was okay for me to be all bubbly and nice to a guy if I think he shows interest. Just to get my foot in the door even if we just end up being friends.

And did it workout? or are still in a middle of a transactions?

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I'm still in the middle. I won't see him again until the new semester starts up. lol.