When should I invite him over ??

This topic was created in the Relationships forum by goldrockett on Tuesday, October 20, 2015 and has 9 replies.
I actually haven't been in a relationship for a few years. I've dated here and there but these days I'm selective bc the person I choose I want or would like to be the person I end up with for the long term. I'm seeing this new guy and its going on 3 weeks now. Our 2nd date will be this Saturday coming up. My question is , how many dates or how long should we I guess we see each other before he or I visit each others home ? I don't want it to be too soon thats for sure. I also don't intend on any sexual encounters with him aside from maybe some kissing and feeling lol but I really want to spend time with him without sex included , at least for now to see that he enjoys my company for just that and not for sex. Thanks in advance.
Posted by goldrockett
I actually haven't been in a relationship for a few years. I've dated here and there but these days I'm selective bc the person I choose I want or would like to be the person I end up with for the long term. I'm seeing this new guy and its going on 3 weeks now. Our 2nd date will be this Saturday coming up. My question is , how many dates or how long should we I guess we see each other before he or I visit each others home ? I don't want it to be too soon thats for sure. I also don't intend on any sexual encounters with him aside from maybe some kissing and feeling lol but I really want to spend time with him without sex included , at least for now to see that he enjoys my company for just that and not for sex. Thanks in advance.

If you don't intend on any sexual encounters with him so soon, then I'd advise you not to have a home date with him for a while. Being alone together in an empty house, with a couch, with a bed, could be quite tempting. Especially if you start kissing and feeling. I'm just saying don't put yourself in a situation until you are ready.

You know the line "Netflix and chill" means sex.

Just sayin'.
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Posted by Dyxpnetuser424
Excerpt from The power of the P.....RELATIONSHIP PRINCIPLE 19 There’s nothing more prized to a man than something he had to wait for, work for, or struggle a little bit to get.The longer you keep him in a suspended state of not knowing if he’s won you over, the more he’ll cherish you and the more attached he’ll become. A man must feel desired for who he is before committing, and in his mind you can’t possibly know him well enough after a couple of weeks to make that decision.

When you don’t become needy, he’ll become fixated on why you aren’t fixated. Read more at location 1030

Maybe it takes more to impress this one. I better step up my game.â€Read more at location 1032

Men are intrigued by anything they do not completely control.Read

Loooooove this !! Just what I needed , thanks so much xoxo
Posted by Dyxpnetuser424
Excerpt from The power of the P.....RELATIONSHIP PRINCIPLE 19 There’s nothing more prized to a man than something he had to wait for, work for, or struggle a little bit to get.The longer you keep him in a suspended state of not knowing if he’s won you over, the more he’ll cherish you and the more attached he’ll become. A man must feel desired for who he is before committing, and in his mind you can’t possibly know him well enough after a couple of weeks to make that decision.

When you don’t become needy, he’ll become fixated on why you aren’t fixated. Read more at location 1030

Maybe it takes more to impress this one. I better step up my game.â€Read more at location 1032

Men are intrigued by anything they do not completely control.Read

Where can I find more of this book at ??
Posted by tiziani
Posted by truecap
You know the line "Netflix and chill" means sex.

Just sayin'.


I'm way too old fashioned for that - has to be Blockbuster video. Just sayin.
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Don't age us! lol!!!
Posted by RainDancer
Posted by busyeyes88
Posted by RainDancer
Posted by truecap
You know the line "Netflix and chill" means sex.

Just sayin'.


I'm probably the worst tease

I've had this major issue come up where I want to be alone in the middle of a movie,and I'll turn to "whomever" and ever so sweetly ask them to leave. Like now. I invite them over again but when I feel like they want to cross boundaries I freak out. Part of it is because I know these people are not what I'm looking for,when I say Netflix and chill I really mean just chill.

I tell them why. So far no one seems bothered by it but friends have accused me of being rude in the past.

Not rude,sincere. I sincerely want to leave or for them to leave. Period.

Sag trait or total bitch move?

You are defo a sag.

I would go over to my sisters house and in the middle of a movie she would just simply disappear in her bedroom and leave me stranded after all the effort I.have made to visit.

I love my sister.. But sags have got totally bad manners.


And I laughed at this. I can so relate!

But you always know a sag won't linger about when they don't wish to, its a brand of honesty you can rarely expect. If a sag does this, it is truly a sign of respect, as backwards as it sounds. It's sincere.
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I had a get together at my house once with about 3-4 married couples. My Sag friend disappeared on us. I found her taking a nap in one of the spare bedrooms. We joke about it - "you know you're best friends when you can take a nap at each other's houses".
Posted by goldrockett
Posted by Dyxpnetuser424
Excerpt from The power of the P.....RELATIONSHIP PRINCIPLE 19 There’s nothing more prized to a man than something he had to wait for, work for, or struggle a little bit to get.The longer you keep him in a suspended state of not knowing if he’s won you over, the more he’ll cherish you and the more attached he’ll become. A man must feel desired for who he is before committing, and in his mind you can’t possibly know him well enough after a couple of weeks to make that decision.

When you don’t become needy, he’ll become fixated on why you aren’t fixated. Read more at location 1030

Maybe it takes more to impress this one. I better step up my game.â€Read more at location 1032

Men are intrigued by anything they do not completely control.Read

Where can I find more of this book at ??
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Glad you liked it. http://www.amazon.com/Power-Pussy-What-Respect-Commitment/dp/1477544585/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1445432759&sr=8-1&keywords=the+power+of+pussy