when to let him/her go
This topic was created in the Relationships forum by geminitwin on Sunday, September 29, 2013 and has 9 replies.
When the disadvantages of being with them outweigh the advantages, even if it's just by 1%
That means the relationship is now toxic. And something doesn't stop being toxic just b/c you still love them. Love is not enough. Toxic = It's time to let go!
That means the relationship is now toxic. And something doesn't stop being toxic just b/c you still love them. Love is not enough. Toxic = It's time to let go!
http://www.wikihow.com/Let-Go-of-Someone-Who-You-Deeply-Loved
Grieve. Never stop loving.
But sometimes, love turns into HATE.
Then finally, thankfully, nothing. Absolutely nothing.
That is the worst you know? When you feel nothing for them, and they know it. It's the most painful feeling in the world, especially if you are on the receiving end. They feel NOTHING.
how many can attest to not feeling nothing for someone they used to love? Not many I guess.
That's why the emotions of love, hate, then nothing...
then later, afterwards, you feel sadness. Because it was never meant to be.
Grieve. Never stop loving.
But sometimes, love turns into HATE.
Then finally, thankfully, nothing. Absolutely nothing.
That is the worst you know? When you feel nothing for them, and they know it. It's the most painful feeling in the world, especially if you are on the receiving end. They feel NOTHING.
how many can attest to not feeling nothing for someone they used to love? Not many I guess.
That's why the emotions of love, hate, then nothing...
then later, afterwards, you feel sadness. Because it was never meant to be.
Hi geminitwin,
I have my own issues.....lol
But I think when you know deep down inside that no matter what, it's never going to work no matter how much you love them or want it too.
It's a deep feeling in your stomach and every part of you tries to force it away but it's still there.
You know that its time to let them go, and you try and try not to. Fighting until the bitter end as your love is so powerful but the endings already written.
Then boom, it's staring you in the face and you just have to let go.
It's better to have loved and lost, than to never of been loved
I have my own issues.....lol
But I think when you know deep down inside that no matter what, it's never going to work no matter how much you love them or want it too.
It's a deep feeling in your stomach and every part of you tries to force it away but it's still there.
You know that its time to let them go, and you try and try not to. Fighting until the bitter end as your love is so powerful but the endings already written.
Then boom, it's staring you in the face and you just have to let go.
It's better to have loved and lost, than to never of been loved
When? Who knows? I knew to let go when I realized I loved him and was ignoring the signs that he cared very little for me. I wanted peace in my life again. Cut off all contact and slowly got over him. Do I think of him from time to time? Of course; I'm a Gemini I'm always thinking and he's bound to cross my mind. Am I obsessing over him anymore? NO! Is he trying to insert himself back into my life? YES! But I'm not letting him. When I decided to let go that was it.
Half of what keeps you in a toxic relationship isn't undying love. It's DENIAL. If only people realized how powerful denial is.
Love is only valid when it's 2-sided. The minute love, just like money, becomes 1-sided, it loses it's value. And when something loses it's value, it should no longer be desired the way it was when it had all it's original value
I wish people would be more honest about why they hold on. It's not b/c you have this under-dying love for them. It's not b/c the world will actually end if you're not with them. It's not b/c they are so great of a person that they're worth all that bullsh**t & drama.
No, it's b/c YOU don't want to be alone. It's b/c YOU don't think you can find someone else/better (that's b/c of low self-esteem, not love). It's b/c YOU don't want someone else to have them. It's b/c YOU don't wanna admit that once AGAIN, YOU made a bad choice & used poor judgment in picking someone. It's b/c YOU have abandonment issues. It's b/c YOU define your worth by who wants you and loves you & not by how much you love yourself. It's b/c YOU aren't courageous enough to want better for yourself. It's b/c YOU aren't courageous enough to endure the embarrassment & feelings of rejection that you'd feel if you finally let go.
My point is that usually it's about YOU, not them. But people are denial of that too smh
Love is only valid when it's 2-sided. The minute love, just like money, becomes 1-sided, it loses it's value. And when something loses it's value, it should no longer be desired the way it was when it had all it's original value
I wish people would be more honest about why they hold on. It's not b/c you have this under-dying love for them. It's not b/c the world will actually end if you're not with them. It's not b/c they are so great of a person that they're worth all that bullsh**t & drama.
No, it's b/c YOU don't want to be alone. It's b/c YOU don't think you can find someone else/better (that's b/c of low self-esteem, not love). It's b/c YOU don't want someone else to have them. It's b/c YOU don't wanna admit that once AGAIN, YOU made a bad choice & used poor judgment in picking someone. It's b/c YOU have abandonment issues. It's b/c YOU define your worth by who wants you and loves you & not by how much you love yourself. It's b/c YOU aren't courageous enough to want better for yourself. It's b/c YOU aren't courageous enough to endure the embarrassment & feelings of rejection that you'd feel if you finally let go.
My point is that usually it's about YOU, not them. But people are denial of that too smh
Posted by starloverPosted by KingVirgo
You will be over the person the second you stop thinking about them and start thinking about yourself...
totally trueclick to expand
But this is not a long term fix though
Simply not thinking about them doesn't change the feelings of hurt, betrayal, guilt, anger or whatever emotion that you endured during the relationship
Thinking about yourself & moving on doesn't necessarily get all the gunk out of your heart that the person left. Hence, the reason people go to counselors & psychologists 5+ years later after different traumas they've experienced.
Moving on, & never talking to the person again does not remove the hurt. There's a lot of people who are now single & doing a lot for themselves, but still hurting. Dealing with the hurt heals the hurt! Big difference!
Posted by starloverPosted by KingVirgo
You will be over the person the second you stop thinking about them and start thinking about yourself...
totally trueclick to expand
But this is not a long term fix though
Simply not thinking about them doesn't change the feelings of hurt, betrayal, guilt, anger or whatever emotion that you endured during the relationship
Thinking about yourself & moving on doesn't necessarily get all the gunk out of your heart that the person left. Hence, the reason people go to counselors & psychologists 5+ years later after different traumas they've experienced.
Moving on, & never talking to the person again does not remove the hurt. There's a lot of people who are now single & doing a lot for themselves, but still hurting. Dealing with the hurt heals the hurt! Big difference!
Very powerful answers. Thank u all. KRYS so true. Gemstar me too w the thinking.
Leave Your Feedback
We'd love to hear your thoughts! If you're not logged in, you can still share your feedback below. Your input helps us improve the experience for everyone. To post your own content or join the conversation, please log in or create an account.
Related Topics
I want to start reading them more, but I don't know where to start. I walked into Strands and Forbidden Planet recently
@luxepisces
Joined: Aug 22, 2013 · Topics: 1 · Posts: 15
Okay, here goes: (if you don???t want to read, the question is at the bottom) I???m a Cancer woman. I met this Taurus a
@lnosvu
Joined: Sep 29, 2013 · Topics: 2 · Posts: 4
Honestly, the rap/hip-hop industry is messed up to me. I don't like a lot of hip hop or rap because most of it isn't int
@Agentgem24
Joined: Jul 29, 2013 · Topics: 48 · Posts: 1323
I would love to know real relationship stories about Libra and Aquarius. I am dating with a libra man and i really like
@Anulik
Joined: Sep 28, 2013 · Topics: 1 · Posts: 1
I need tips or advice.
@VenusStar
Joined: Mar 15, 2011 · Topics: 94 · Posts: 1755
I was thinking about all the people I have little DXP crushes on. And I was wondering if anyone else has more then one D
@Sagittarius2315
Joined: Sep 03, 2013 · Topics: 47 · Posts: 892
Ever been in there?
@BlueSandCacoon
Joined: Apr 29, 2012 · Topics: 15 · Posts: 1069
I've done the research and every song that makes me bawl is 9/10 a Cancer artist. Such deep and honest writers! Why isn'
@sefflee
Joined: Sep 24, 2013 · Topics: 9 · Posts: 90
Is it possible for you cap men to come back after a break up or develope feelings again for your ex? If you have moved o
@scorpio0o
Joined: Sep 22, 2013 · Topics: 2 · Posts: 10
Hi I'm 20 and i drink (beer) once in a week. Is it too much? Is it bad/dangerous? Is it un normal?
@Maybelle
Joined: Apr 10, 2013 · Topics: 27 · Posts: 159