White lies

How damaging are they? I'm not talking about cheating/romantic deceit, I'm referring to lesser, stupid things. It's like the more trivial the worse it seems because it's so unnecessary. Hmmm

In the beginning of my relationship, my boyfriend would white lie about the weirdest shit. Like saying he didn't eat at tacobell, even if he did. He doesn't do that anymore, but it stemmed from his ex-wife getting mad at him for the simplest of shit.

So I don't necessarily look at the "little lies" themselves, but the reasoning behind them doing that since the lie is trivial, there is always some sort of underlying defensive mechanism, or emotional issue that creates this weird habit.

If it can be worked on, and addressed, it's not an issue. But if they continue to exhibit the issue, without acknowledging they are lying, then HARD PASS.

I think they are insulting and demeaning, basically lack of respect in a sense that the person thought so little of your intelligence they thought the lie would pass.

On the other hand, i'm pretty sure i'd white lie my way into allowing myself one joint a week or two weeks for which the person i'd be with can't even know about.

Double standards galore, i know. rip

A petty-liar? I'd pass 🤦

I always confront it right there, but I'm just like wtf, why do it in the first place. It's pissing me off!

Depends on context and intent.

oh I hate lies, all of them but I lied today to the cap im getting to know 😢 and i feel bad about it.

He called me, I was feeling really sad I didn't pick up, later sent him a text that I was at the lecture (he knows about it but I was so sad I didn't even go to it) .. I am not ready to tell him why im sad cause its bec. of my dad and he is on good terms with dad.

I have promised myself not to complain about my dad, mom or brother to any future partner, cause I learned the hard way how this makes one too vulnerable.

I still dont think ill lie again. The feeling of guilt is enormous