Who pays?

Posted by ellesbelles
we split it.

Posted by Dreamyboy
I pay, but tomorrow I'll ask for gas money to go to work

Posted by LibraLovesHim
50/50 if she's in the position to. Whats mine is yours/yours mine. I aint hoarding all my cash n makin him skint. Kinda treachery is that?!

Posted by aquarius_man
if its my gf, its me who pays

always have always will

if its just a date, we split the check and i tip

water signs ive noticed expect you to pay all the time, i dated a scorpio woman she never even pretended to take out her wallet and we were just dating.one of the reasons i didnt want to see her again. also, the stingy cancer women - (ok ok i know they are generous when they care about u) - same; never even bother to pretend they want to split, they expect you to be 'the man' although its just a fucking date

on the other hand, fire signs always want to pay the check themselves

ps: once a libra woman paid for my drinks on our 1st date together coz i had forgotten my wallet at home (yes it sounds like a barefaced lie but it was the naked truth); she was pretty furious she had to pay i totally get her

Posted by aquarius_man

Posted by bkbella86

Posted by aquarius_man
if its my gf, its me who pays

always have always will

if its just a date, we split the check and i tip

water signs ive noticed expect you to pay all the time, i dated a scorpio woman she never even pretended to take out her wallet and we were just dating.one of the reasons i didnt want to see her again. also, the stingy cancer women - (ok ok i know they are generous when they care about u) - same; never even bother to pretend they want to split, they expect you to be 'the man' although its just a fucking date

on the other hand, fire signs always want to pay the check themselves

ps: once a libra woman paid for my drinks on our 1st date together coz i had forgotten my wallet at home (yes it sounds like a barefaced lie but it was the naked truth); she was pretty furious she had to pay i totally get her

Not this fire sign!

I do have a lot of water tho,

Could be why

now let me add some insult to injury - the libra was a black girl who called herself a bounty (if you know what that means) so my failure to pay for dinner was... aggravating (i was also stealing her drugs and she was a forensic science graduate therefore she could tell i was stealing but hey - those were my salad days i was young and dumb)

true, ive met aries ppl who are pretty exact about their money (but its only a handful, most aries are generous) but hey if youre a man and have the money why not pay for the fucking dinner. shell repay you tenfold when she gives you some punani

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Posted by SourPie
If he has money he pays. Most of the guys i've dated have always been such gentlemen.

If he doesn't have money then I pay. I don't mind beign the bread owner, lol. I've never split though. If you don't have enough money to pay for the both of us then I'll just pay it all. That's the type of woman I am.

Posted by VenusianCartel
Is this before or after sex?

Posted by Astrology101
I'm not going out with the guy.

For appearances sake or whatever.. I like when a guy pays. I can buy him a gift or something he needs. But when we go out he should pay. Atleast in the beginning.

Posted by bkbella86

Posted by VenusianCartel

Posted by bkbella86

Posted by VenusianCartel
Is this before or after sex?

LOL. We’ll assume after since the post says bf.

Take all my $ 50 then I can barely walk!!

What about the tip doe?

@rockyroadicecream is sub $ 2 even an appropriate tip on $ 48 worth of food?

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Posted by Teena

Posted by SourPie
If he has money he pays. Most of the guys i've dated have always been such gentlemen.

If he doesn't have money then I pay. I don't mind beign the bread owner, lol. I've never split though. If you don't have enough money to pay for the both of us then I'll just pay it all. That's the type of woman I am.

Same! I really dislike splitting the bill for some reason lol

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Posted by Gob_Shite
Thank God I don't live in the US...

Posted by Astrology101

Posted by bkbella86

Posted by Astrology101
I'm not going out with the guy.

For appearances sake or whatever.. I like when a guy pays. I can buy him a gift or something he needs. But when we go out he should pay. Atleast in the beginning.

Agreed!

I'm not joking I used to pay when I used to be with my ex. He didn't use to have money.. so i would pay.

Then one day he comes to me with a roll of cash and tells me to keep it.

Not doing that again.

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Posted by SourPie

Posted by Teena

Posted by SourPie
If he has money he pays. Most of the guys i've dated have always been such gentlemen.

If he doesn't have money then I pay. I don't mind beign the bread owner, lol. I've never split though. If you don't have enough money to pay for the both of us then I'll just pay it all. That's the type of woman I am.

Same! I really dislike splitting the bill for some reason lol

Right? It feel like it draws a line between me and my partner. I like to share everything with my boo, even my money (not my savings of course unless you're my husband) but my daily allowance is for the both of us, not just for me.

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Posted by aquarius_man

Posted by bkbella86

Posted by aquarius_man
if its my gf, its me who pays

always have always will

if its just a date, we split the check and i tip

water signs ive noticed expect you to pay all the time, i dated a scorpio woman she never even pretended to take out her wallet and we were just dating.one of the reasons i didnt want to see her again. also, the stingy cancer women - (ok ok i know they are generous when they care about u) - same; never even bother to pretend they want to split, they expect you to be 'the man' although its just a fucking date

on the other hand, fire signs always want to pay the check themselves

ps: once a libra woman paid for my drinks on our 1st date together coz i had forgotten my wallet at home (yes it sounds like a barefaced lie but it was the naked truth); she was pretty furious she had to pay i totally get her

Not this fire sign!

I do have a lot of water tho,

Could be why

now let me add some insult to injury - the libra was a black girl who called herself a bounty (if you know what that means) so my failure to pay for dinner was... aggravating (i was also stealing her drugs and she was a forensic science graduate therefore she could tell i was stealing but hey - those were my salad days i was young and dumb)

true, ive met aries ppl who are pretty exact about their money (but its only a handful, most aries are generous) but hey if youre a man and have the money why not pay for the fucking dinner. shell repay you tenfold when she gives you some punani

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Posted by bkbella86

Posted by yung_wisegem

Posted by aquarius_man

Posted by bkbella86

Posted by aquarius_man
if its my gf, its me who pays

always have always will

if its just a date, we split the check and i tip

water signs ive noticed expect you to pay all the time, i dated a scorpio woman she never even pretended to take out her wallet and we were just dating.one of the reasons i didnt want to see her again. also, the stingy cancer women - (ok ok i know they are generous when they care about u) - same; never even bother to pretend they want to split, they expect you to be 'the man' although its just a fucking date

on the other hand, fire signs always want to pay the check themselves

ps: once a libra woman paid for my drinks on our 1st date together coz i had forgotten my wallet at home (yes it sounds like a barefaced lie but it was the naked truth); she was pretty furious she had to pay i totally get her

Not this fire sign!

I do have a lot of water tho,

Could be why

now let me add some insult to injury - the libra was a black girl who called herself a bounty (if you know what that means) so my failure to pay for dinner was... aggravating (i was also stealing her drugs and she was a forensic science graduate therefore she could tell i was stealing but hey - those were my salad days i was young and dumb)

true, ive met aries ppl who are pretty exact about their money (but its only a handful, most aries are generous) but hey if youre a man and have the money why not pay for the fucking dinner. shell repay you tenfold when she gives you some punani

No p***y is worth being broke

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Posted by poison_ivy

Posted by bkbella86

I would pay!

Simply because I have more funds... At the end of the day, if we together, we both should be straight... I pick up where he lacks and vice versa.. SO many women out here expect a man to go above and beyond their needs.. Women expect way to much of men but not enough of themselves.. ANYWAY.. that's a whole other subject..

But if I have more than my man, why wouldn't I pay.. Easy.

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Posted by bkbella86

Posted by yung_wisegem

Posted by aquarius_man

Posted by bkbella86

Posted by aquarius_man
if its my gf, its me who pays

always have always will

if its just a date, we split the check and i tip

water signs ive noticed expect you to pay all the time, i dated a scorpio woman she never even pretended to take out her wallet and we were just dating.one of the reasons i didnt want to see her again. also, the stingy cancer women - (ok ok i know they are generous when they care about u) - same; never even bother to pretend they want to split, they expect you to be 'the man' although its just a fucking date

on the other hand, fire signs always want to pay the check themselves

ps: once a libra woman paid for my drinks on our 1st date together coz i had forgotten my wallet at home (yes it sounds like a barefaced lie but it was the naked truth); she was pretty furious she had to pay i totally get her

Not this fire sign!

I do have a lot of water tho,

Could be why

now let me add some insult to injury - the libra was a black girl who called herself a bounty (if you know what that means) so my failure to pay for dinner was... aggravating (i was also stealing her drugs and she was a forensic science graduate therefore she could tell i was stealing but hey - those were my salad days i was young and dumb)

true, ive met aries ppl who are pretty exact about their money (but its only a handful, most aries are generous) but hey if youre a man and have the money why not pay for the fucking dinner. shell repay you tenfold when she gives you some punani

No p***y is worth being broke

How would you go broke paying for a dinner? That poses another issue if that the case.

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Posted by SourPie

Posted by Teena

Posted by SourPie
If he has money he pays. Most of the guys i've dated have always been such gentlemen.

If he doesn't have money then I pay. I don't mind beign the bread owner, lol. I've never split though. If you don't have enough money to pay for the both of us then I'll just pay it all. That's the type of woman I am.

Same! I really dislike splitting the bill for some reason lol

Right? It feel like it draws a line between me and my partner. I like to share everything with my boo, even my money (not my savings of course unless you're my husband) but my daily allowance is for the both of us, not just for me.

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Posted by bkbella86

Posted by SourPie

Posted by Teena

Posted by SourPie
If he has money he pays. Most of the guys i've dated have always been such gentlemen.

If he doesn't have money then I pay. I don't mind beign the bread owner, lol. I've never split though. If you don't have enough money to pay for the both of us then I'll just pay it all. That's the type of woman I am.

Same! I really dislike splitting the bill for some reason lol

Right? It feel like it draws a line between me and my partner. I like to share everything with my boo, even my money (not my savings of course unless you're my husband) but my daily allowance is for the both of us, not just for me.

You sound too nice.

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Posted by SugarandSpunk
A relationship is usually 50/50. However, depending on the type of relationship and circumstance things can change. I've been in a relationship where bill is split. Or I've been in a relationship where I take care of bill and the next date, the bf will. Then I've been in relationships where even though I may make more money than the guy does salary wise but due to his pride and old school gentleman ways, dude will want to always pay because in his mind; "that's how it should always be". My father is the same way; old school mentality where the man should always pay ? I used to argue with that specific ex who was old school because sometimes I wanted to pay for our meals or the movies or etc.

Anyways, in this case if guy only has $ 50 and he's not getting paid till Friday or the following week, put your pride aside and pay for the man if you really like him. Not everyone is going to make 50k+ a year or ballin all the time, some people have debt to pay off, unexpected things in life that hit them left field, etc. If your pride is too much to allow yourself to pay for your mans meal at least once or twice in your life then I hope you never lose your job or end up in a situation where you're broke like a joke for reasons you couldn't control but still wish you could do something nice for your significant other. Just my 2 cents. No disrespect to anyone of course.

Posted by bkbella86

Posted by poison_ivy

Posted by bkbella86

I would pay!

Simply because I have more funds... At the end of the day, if we together, we both should be straight... I pick up where he lacks and vice versa.. SO many women out here expect a man to go above and beyond their needs.. Women expect way to much of men but not enough of themselves.. ANYWAY.. that's a whole other subject..

But if I have more than my man, why wouldn't I pay.. Easy.

I think the opposite actually. I see so many women over compensating to keep a man and it’s sad.

The picks mes and 50/50 women have the game all fucked up.

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Posted by nikkistar
My initial thought is, why the fuck you going out on a date if you only got $ 50.00 to cover expenses?

Economically speaking, you shouldn't be going out taking anyone out, if you only have $ 50.00 to your name.

My second thought is, is I don't expect anyone to HAVE to pay for me. I can pay my own way. That doesn't take away from me wanting a traditional role. That doesn't mean my dude doesn't pay for me more often than not. What that means is, I will do for him, as he does for me. So I will go sneak and pay the bill for us sometimes, because I want him to know I appreciate him as well. He gets annoyed I do it, but he gets the benefit of feeling what I feel when he does it for me as well.

And if this is someone I am serious with, what is mine is his, and what is his is mine. So this isn't isn't him having $ 50, and me having $ 200, this is us having $ 250.

XOXO,

The Woman Hater

Posted by bkbella86

Posted by SugarandSpunk
A relationship is usually 50/50. However, depending on the type of relationship and circumstance things can change. I've been in a relationship where bill is split. Or I've been in a relationship where I take care of bill and the next date, the bf will. Then I've been in relationships where even though I may make more money than the guy does salary wise but due to his pride and old school gentleman ways, dude will want to always pay because in his mind; "that's how it should always be". My father is the same way; old school mentality where the man should always pay ? I used to argue with that specific ex who was old school because sometimes I wanted to pay for our meals or the movies or etc.

Anyways, in this case if guy only has $ 50 and he's not getting paid till Friday or the following week, put your pride aside and pay for the man if you really like him. Not everyone is going to make 50k+ a year or ballin all the time, some people have debt to pay off, unexpected things in life that hit them left field, etc. If your pride is too much to allow yourself to pay for your mans meal at least once or twice in your life then I hope you never lose your job or end up in a situation where you're broke like a joke for reasons you couldn't control but still wish you could do something nice for your significant other. Just my 2 cents. No disrespect to anyone of course.

50k is nowhere near balling and in nyc it’s pennies. Granted life happens and comes at you fast but the one should always strive for more. I can’t date a broke man tho. And I really wonder why they date period.

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Posted by poison_ivy

Posted by bkbella86

Posted by poison_ivy

Posted by bkbella86

I would pay!

Simply because I have more funds... At the end of the day, if we together, we both should be straight... I pick up where he lacks and vice versa.. SO many women out here expect a man to go above and beyond their needs.. Women expect way to much of men but not enough of themselves.. ANYWAY.. that's a whole other subject..

But if I have more than my man, why wouldn't I pay.. Easy.

I think the opposite actually. I see so many women over compensating to keep a man and it’s sad.

The picks mes and 50/50 women have the game all fucked up.

I believe in men being head of household, being able to be the man and take the lead.. Alpha men are what I love and mostly what I attract.. I've always been able to rely on my man...

If we're talking about a rare case and not an all the time thing, I have no problem dishing out money... Now if he just always broke, there lies an issue and I won't settle for a man that I have to take care of.. NOPE! If my man is always looking out for me, takes care of me etc... Why wouldn't I pay.. I still would end up with more cash than him.. *shrug**

I think the women that say gimme gimme gimme and want a man to do it all are selfish.. just my opinion.. Roles are roles.. My man can be dominant, I can be submissive.. no problem.. But I wouldn't let my man be broke off no damn dinner.. TF?

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Posted by bkbella86

Posted by poison_ivy

Posted by bkbella86

Posted by poison_ivy

Posted by bkbella86

I would pay!

Simply because I have more funds... At the end of the day, if we together, we both should be straight... I pick up where he lacks and vice versa.. SO many women out here expect a man to go above and beyond their needs.. Women expect way to much of men but not enough of themselves.. ANYWAY.. that's a whole other subject..

But if I have more than my man, why wouldn't I pay.. Easy.

I think the opposite actually. I see so many women over compensating to keep a man and it’s sad.

The picks mes and 50/50 women have the game all fucked up.

I believe in men being head of household, being able to be the man and take the lead.. Alpha men are what I love and mostly what I attract.. I've always been able to rely on my man...

If we're talking about a rare case and not an all the time thing, I have no problem dishing out money... Now if he just always broke, there lies an issue and I won't settle for a man that I have to take care of.. NOPE! If my man is always looking out for me, takes care of me etc... Why wouldn't I pay.. I still would end up with more cash than him.. *shrug**

I think the women that say gimme gimme gimme and want a man to do it all are selfish.. just my opinion.. Roles are roles.. My man can be dominant, I can be submissive.. no problem.. But I wouldn't let my man be broke off no damn dinner.. TF?

I agree with your entire statement.

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Posted by nikkistar
My initial thought is, why the fuck you going out on a date if you only got $ 50.00 to cover expenses?

Economically speaking, you shouldn't be going out taking anyone out, if you only have $ 50.00 to your name.

My second thought is, is I don't expect anyone to HAVE to pay for me. I can pay my own way. That doesn't take away from me wanting a traditional role. That doesn't mean my dude doesn't pay for me more often than not. What that means is, I will do for him, as he does for me. So I will go sneak and pay the bill for us sometimes, because I want him to know I appreciate him as well. He gets annoyed I do it, but he gets the benefit of feeling what I feel when he does it for me as well.

And if this is someone I am serious with, what is mine is his, and what is his is mine. So this isn't isn't him having $ 50, and me having $ 200, this is us having $ 250.

XOXO,

The Woman Hater

Posted by bkbella86

Posted by nikkistar
My initial thought is, why the fuck you going out on a date if you only got $ 50.00 to cover expenses?

Economically speaking, you shouldn't be going out taking anyone out, if you only have $ 50.00 to your name.

My second thought is, is I don't expect anyone to HAVE to pay for me. I can pay my own way. That doesn't take away from me wanting a traditional role. That doesn't mean my dude doesn't pay for me more often than not. What that means is, I will do for him, as he does for me. So I will go sneak and pay the bill for us sometimes, because I want him to know I appreciate him as well. He gets annoyed I do it, but he gets the benefit of feeling what I feel when he does it for me as well.

And if this is someone I am serious with, what is mine is his, and what is his is mine. So this isn't isn't him having $ 50, and me having $ 200, this is us having $ 250.

XOXO,

The Woman Hater

but a bf in the eyes of the law is diff than a husband. So how can the what’s mine is his rule apply? Is this something discussed at the on set of the relationship? Or is it assumed?

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Posted by bkbella86

Posted by poison_ivy

Posted by bkbella86

Posted by poison_ivy

Posted by bkbella86

I would pay!

Simply because I have more funds... At the end of the day, if we together, we both should be straight... I pick up where he lacks and vice versa.. SO many women out here expect a man to go above and beyond their needs.. Women expect way to much of men but not enough of themselves.. ANYWAY.. that's a whole other subject..

But if I have more than my man, why wouldn't I pay.. Easy.

I think the opposite actually. I see so many women over compensating to keep a man and it’s sad.

The picks mes and 50/50 women have the game all fucked up.

I believe in men being head of household, being able to be the man and take the lead.. Alpha men are what I love and mostly what I attract.. I've always been able to rely on my man...

If we're talking about a rare case and not an all the time thing, I have no problem dishing out money... Now if he just always broke, there lies an issue and I won't settle for a man that I have to take care of.. NOPE! If my man is always looking out for me, takes care of me etc... Why wouldn't I pay.. I still would end up with more cash than him.. *shrug**

I think the women that say gimme gimme gimme and want a man to do it all are selfish.. just my opinion.. Roles are roles.. My man can be dominant, I can be submissive.. no problem.. But I wouldn't let my man be broke off no damn dinner.. TF?

I agree with your entire statement.

I def agree with some of your points too, cause I'd be damn if I take care of a man! LMAO! I already got a child and I'm a single mother.. I'm by no means taking care of a grown ass man.. hahah!

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Posted by nikkistar

Posted by bkbella86

Posted by nikkistar
My initial thought is, why the fuck you going out on a date if you only got $ 50.00 to cover expenses?

Economically speaking, you shouldn't be going out taking anyone out, if you only have $ 50.00 to your name.

My second thought is, is I don't expect anyone to HAVE to pay for me. I can pay my own way. That doesn't take away from me wanting a traditional role. That doesn't mean my dude doesn't pay for me more often than not. What that means is, I will do for him, as he does for me. So I will go sneak and pay the bill for us sometimes, because I want him to know I appreciate him as well. He gets annoyed I do it, but he gets the benefit of feeling what I feel when he does it for me as well.

And if this is someone I am serious with, what is mine is his, and what is his is mine. So this isn't isn't him having $ 50, and me having $ 200, this is us having $ 250.

XOXO,

The Woman Hater

but a bf in the eyes of the law is diff than a husband. So how can the what’s mine is his rule apply? Is this something discussed at the on set of the relationship? Or is it assumed?

A piece of paper is the difference between a bf and a husband. I don't need a ring and a piece of paper to determine if we are serious or not, to denote this.

Most people, when relationships begin, usually tell the other person what their beliefs are. My Cancer and I have already discussed this topic within the first 6 months of dating. We know exactly where we both stand when it comes to finances. The "what's mine" rule would apply, when two people are economically entwined somehow.

I have personally seen a woman, that was so stout in her beliefs that a man should always provide for her, that he suffered so badly, while she watched it happen. The husband, got hurt in the military, and was discharged, while the wife remained in active duty. He lost his career path, and income. She still forced him to pay all the bills on his disability check, because "that was his role". She never gave a sent to him for bills, and would get pissed if she needed to buy food for the house. She was later deployed, and kept the separation pay that the military gives in addition to income, to help offset costs, because it was "her money" and she expecting him to continue paying all the bill solely, leaving him with 40 bucks a month for food. If he couldn't afford a vacation, oh well, she was still going. Too bad for him. I personally don't understand how any woman, could sit there and watch the person she married and said she loved, suffer like that and not want to help.

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Posted by bkbella86
I forgot to answer. But he pays.

Why?

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Posted by Teena

Posted by SourPie

Posted by Teena

Posted by SourPie
If he has money he pays. Most of the guys i've dated have always been such gentlemen.

If he doesn't have money then I pay. I don't mind beign the bread owner, lol. I've never split though. If you don't have enough money to pay for the both of us then I'll just pay it all. That's the type of woman I am.

Same! I really dislike splitting the bill for some reason lol

Right? It feel like it draws a line between me and my partner. I like to share everything with my boo, even my money (not my savings of course unless you're my husband) but my daily allowance is for the both of us, not just for me.

That's true.

Actually I'm not used to splitting bills even with friends. One of us pays n the next time someone else pays. We don't even remember who paid when. Whoever is carrying enough cash/card will pay.I feel splitting bill is super awkward ?? Also if the friends are guys n we are close, they usually just pay...no questions asked(unless we know they don't have enough cash).

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Posted by Fortuna
I'd get it this time and he would next time. If he wants to tip and I get the bill that would be ok too. Another scenario I am a fan of is splitting based on salary or assigning certain bills based on our pay. It'd be equal for the most part based on our salaries.

Posted by Gob_Shite
Who Pays?

The thread where two-faced hoes, in possession of dubious double-standards, congregate...

Posted by CrimsonGirl
Either or. I really don't care. I could pay for him on every date and wouldn't care