StillHaveLove
@StillHaveLove
17 Years
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Why do men BAIL AND NOT CALL?
wow, you are actually subjecting yourself to such ignorance and then asking other people for no ignorant responses?
Really?
Really?
Posted by StillHaveLove
Me and my Only Love (gosh i hate that he's it) Have Parted ways.
Keep telling yourself that ^^^^^^^^^^ no matter what happens in your life, no matter what you feel .. keep telling yourself that this loser was the Only One ... and whatever you do, ignore everything else because to believe anything other than him being your only love in your life would just fucking be ignorant.
Wow. I'm sorry that this has happend to you. Obviously there is something very wrong going on here. It's a possibility that he could be on drugs, thus that might explain the all of the sudden changes in his mood and/or attitude towards you & the relationship. If your gut isn't telling you that the rumor about him being on drugs is true, then don't worry about it. If there's no proof and/or if you've asked him about this & he's said no, then keep it moving. Even if he is on drugs, I'm sure there are some OTHER unaddressed factors that are more important (and that probably led to him starting such a bad habit in the 1st place).
Some men have their reasons for why they all of the sudden pull the disappearing act. Generally, this is the most common when a man isn't very serious with a woman yet OR when he's noticing that he's starting to catch feelings; men in these situations usually disappear b/c they believe the "space" will allow them to retreat into a shell & get their minds clear (Men feel making big decisions strictly off emotion alone). Sometimes the only way for them to restore some logic back into someting is to distance themselves from the very situation that was causing them so much emotional turmoil.
However, if you've been with this man for 4 years & yet you've NEVER noticed this side of him, it could be 1. That he's cheating on you 2. Him disappearing is his way of showing both you AND himself that he's emotionally detaching from the relationship (for whatever reason, only HE will know) 3. He's picked up a habit that he cannot reveal (example: drugs), thus the ONLY thing the other person (you) would be able to notice are the side effects that stem from him picking up such a habit. 4. And so many other possibilities.
If this man is UNWILLING to give you closure or to atleast discuss the issues that made him stray (out of respect for you & the relationship that he obviously once cherished) then that alone should be grounds for why the relationship is over. Something has happend; idk what, but something has triggered these attitudes in him. Another possibility is that you are just now finally seeing his true colors. Relationships are always rosy in the very beginning & sometimes true colors are still covered up even towards the middle of a relationship.
If this guy doesn't know how to manage/balance his emotions so much so that his 1st instinct is to run & leave what he's taken so long to build, in turmoil, then move on 😢
Some men have their reasons for why they all of the sudden pull the disappearing act. Generally, this is the most common when a man isn't very serious with a woman yet OR when he's noticing that he's starting to catch feelings; men in these situations usually disappear b/c they believe the "space" will allow them to retreat into a shell & get their minds clear (Men feel making big decisions strictly off emotion alone). Sometimes the only way for them to restore some logic back into someting is to distance themselves from the very situation that was causing them so much emotional turmoil.
However, if you've been with this man for 4 years & yet you've NEVER noticed this side of him, it could be 1. That he's cheating on you 2. Him disappearing is his way of showing both you AND himself that he's emotionally detaching from the relationship (for whatever reason, only HE will know) 3. He's picked up a habit that he cannot reveal (example: drugs), thus the ONLY thing the other person (you) would be able to notice are the side effects that stem from him picking up such a habit. 4. And so many other possibilities.
If this man is UNWILLING to give you closure or to atleast discuss the issues that made him stray (out of respect for you & the relationship that he obviously once cherished) then that alone should be grounds for why the relationship is over. Something has happend; idk what, but something has triggered these attitudes in him. Another possibility is that you are just now finally seeing his true colors. Relationships are always rosy in the very beginning & sometimes true colors are still covered up even towards the middle of a relationship.
If this guy doesn't know how to manage/balance his emotions so much so that his 1st instinct is to run & leave what he's taken so long to build, in turmoil, then move on 😢
Posted by P-AngelPosted by StillHaveLove
Me and my Only Love (gosh i hate that he's it) Have Parted ways.
thank you for the long entry just below wow you just gave me insight all of u actually even the 2 mean ones. i wish i was strong like that and i think im getting there but u guys are so right i didnt do anything WRONG to not get a call i mean come on. Im doing so great in my life now anyways and for sum reason my love is fading
Keep telling yourself that ^^^^^^^^^^ no matter what happens in your life, no matter what you feel .. keep telling yourself that this loser was the Only One ... and whatever you do, ignore everything else because to believe anything other than him being your only love in your life would just fucking be ignorant.click to expand
What's the deal with the random capital letters? Do you place them specifically or is it just a spasm of the finger?
Awww fuck, Immo ig'noant.
Awww fuck, Immo ig'noant.
because if they don't stick around to see you cry, they can pretend they haven't hurt you. yaeh. how weak is that?
I'm just going to be blunt with you.
He was through with you and no longer cared how you felt or what you deserved. He left without telling you to avoid confrontation and any fighting, simply mentally knocking you out of his life. You probably shouldn't expect closure or anything from him at this point.
He was through with you and no longer cared how you felt or what you deserved. He left without telling you to avoid confrontation and any fighting, simply mentally knocking you out of his life. You probably shouldn't expect closure or anything from him at this point.
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PLEASE no ignorant answeres. Me and my Only Love (gosh i hate that he's it) Have Parted ways. Or should i say He Did the leaving. We were together for 4 years. He & I have been fighting horribly. We turned on Each other in Times of distress. In turn He said he was "walking the dog" Before that He made Love to me Hugged Me Explained How much he Loves me And Left and 2 Weeks Later he still hasnt Called or Returned. Rumors Have it Hes Gotten into Drugs WOW i will be Upset to know i was so close to someone and didnt notice He was High. There are some strange Hints though. Anywyas What Could Make someone Be so Uncaring To not even CALL? no closure. I told him a few nights before I didnt love him NOT TRUE & we actually got physical. Another suprise. (he wouldnt work he was treating me badly ) Never Treated me bad EVER till the last 3 months.I know Its Like DUH look WHat ur writing But I love this Man. we met 4 years ago & NEVER parted. Space I guess was needed. BUT MEN PLEASE ANSWER> WHYY THE NO CALLLLL?? WHAT KEEPS MEN FROM CALLING? Believe me I wont haggle over a man if he Doesnt want to make this work or just fled i Can Move RIGHT on but i Think I deserve closure. & there is no way of me contacting him either. As $ holes.