Why Do Young People Bother Anymore..
This topic was created in the Relationships forum by flipyourwig on Sunday, August 11, 2013 and has 14 replies.
When it comes to dating?
Let me explain. As I said, I'm about to move to Los Angeles in Mid-September. I've been out of the dating scene a long time. Was taking care of my father who died back in June.
Part of moving to LA for me was to have fun. With dating being apart of that fun. So I decided to polish up on what to do and what not to by this girl who teaches men how to interest women -
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And slso to learn how interest a girl who knows a friend of mine in LA. But as I am watching these videos by this woman, everything in dating now seems to be one intricate chess move.
Like watching the length of the first text you send a girl, letting a girl get super interested in conversation in a social setting like bar or party then walk away at peak of her interest so you dont come off needy, how to avoid the "Let's Facebook" tactic women use and other stuff like that.
Whatever happened to just approaching immediately after making eye contact, having an interesting conversation without the guy resorting to being a court jester? And if you still like each other at the end of the encounter, a phone number or even email (I know women have to be leery of stalkers) Then a simple phone call the next day or day after instead of a text?
Even a thing such as a phone call instead of text after first meeting screams "Needy" now to young women. The dating scene wasn't like this in my twenties. If there was mutual like between boy and girl they would both put an effort in. Now, it seems the girls put effort into their appearance and nothing else.
While the guys have to look good, have to have witty banter with good conversation ready while having to jump through 30 dirty hoops to prove they are not creepy to a girl. This all seems to be happening with people in their 20's. I don't know about people in the 30's which is my age cause where I live most are married and have kids now.
I'm only going through all this effort to learn this stuff cause of this girl. I would not have bothered listening to the female instructor if she didn't have the same astrological chart as girl I like - Sun in Virgo, Moon in Sagittarius.
But I figured if these tactics are going to be what interests the female instructor it's going to go the same for the girl I like. I swear, if this doesn't work out with Virgo girl,
Let me explain. As I said, I'm about to move to Los Angeles in Mid-September. I've been out of the dating scene a long time. Was taking care of my father who died back in June.
Part of moving to LA for me was to have fun. With dating being apart of that fun. So I decided to polish up on what to do and what not to by this girl who teaches men how to interest women -
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And slso to learn how interest a girl who knows a friend of mine in LA. But as I am watching these videos by this woman, everything in dating now seems to be one intricate chess move.
Like watching the length of the first text you send a girl, letting a girl get super interested in conversation in a social setting like bar or party then walk away at peak of her interest so you dont come off needy, how to avoid the "Let's Facebook" tactic women use and other stuff like that.
Whatever happened to just approaching immediately after making eye contact, having an interesting conversation without the guy resorting to being a court jester? And if you still like each other at the end of the encounter, a phone number or even email (I know women have to be leery of stalkers) Then a simple phone call the next day or day after instead of a text?
Even a thing such as a phone call instead of text after first meeting screams "Needy" now to young women. The dating scene wasn't like this in my twenties. If there was mutual like between boy and girl they would both put an effort in. Now, it seems the girls put effort into their appearance and nothing else.
While the guys have to look good, have to have witty banter with good conversation ready while having to jump through 30 dirty hoops to prove they are not creepy to a girl. This all seems to be happening with people in their 20's. I don't know about people in the 30's which is my age cause where I live most are married and have kids now.
I'm only going through all this effort to learn this stuff cause of this girl. I would not have bothered listening to the female instructor if she didn't have the same astrological chart as girl I like - Sun in Virgo, Moon in Sagittarius.
But I figured if these tactics are going to be what interests the female instructor it's going to go the same for the girl I like. I swear, if this doesn't work out with Virgo girl,
I am only going to focus on dating women my age after this. As there are a lot more single 30ish women in LA who dont have kids. I'm guessing they are a little more mature than doing these dating tactics.
To the single people in their 20's dating, I salute you. Cause if I was your age and not going to LA, I'd be a monk.
To the single people in their 20's dating, I salute you. Cause if I was your age and not going to LA, I'd be a monk.
Does she even like you?
I don't think you should take everything said in this video literally. Why not talk to her and let her speak for herself?
I don't think you should take everything said in this video literally. Why not talk to her and let her speak for herself?
Everything she said is plain common sense .... you have to be told this shit?
Seriously?
wow
Posted by Eula
I don't think you should take everything said in this video literally.
wtf kind of answer is that ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
She told dudes not to embarrass himself and her in public .... and you think that should be taken seriously?
You made a comment here without even watching the video ... or you're 12 years old. One of the two.
@P-Angel, the video is ridiculous. What happen to being just courteous about the matter and simply saying no. All this back and forth silliness should not be taken literally. A man should handle a rejection with dignity and move on. It's really that simple.
Posted by Eula
@P-Angel, the video is ridiculous. What happen to being just courteous about the matter and simply saying no. All this back and forth silliness should not be taken literally. A man should handle a rejection with dignity and move on. It's really that simple.
That's not how you win!
The girl in the video makes a lot of sense.
So, when the guy calls or text at some point and realize it's not your number and ends up running into you again, then what? Couldn't that all be avoided by being a mature adult and kindly saying no? Then theres no fake number involved, no chance of him calling then and there to make sure the number is real, and you both can go your seperate ways like dignified adults.
I understand the intention of the woman in the video is to help men who may not know better, but I have never seen a man call any women once he get's her number to check if it's real. So, that is why I maybe looking at this with a different set of eyes compared to other people. If that is what men and women have resorted to, then yea, like OP said whats the point anymore...
Posted by Eula
So, when the guy calls or text at some point and realize it's not your number and ends up running into you again, then what? Couldn't that all be avoided by being a mature adult and kindly saying no? Then theres no fake number involved, no chance of him calling then and there to make sure the number is real, and you both can go your seperate ways like dignified adults.
Then he should realize she wasn't interested from the get go and not ever mention it again.
L.A. CALIF U.S.A.
THATS RAPE AND PILLAGE FROM WHAT I HERE
THATS RAPE AND PILLAGE FROM WHAT I HERE
FOR THE SPELLING NAZIES THAT HEARING
Sorry, been busy with work project which will fund my move to LA. BTW I would never call a girl's number right after getting it to make sure it's real. That is common sense. If she doesn't dig me then I move on.
Let me be clear on something - I'm not studying all this stuff just for Virgo Girl. I've been out of the dating game for years due to looking after my father full-time. I am completely and totally rusty.
I need to know what I'm doing so when I make my first screw-up's they won't be as big. BTW here is another video I was watching from her-
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And it is on point. See this guy? -
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That was me 100% for years. It took me a long time to be become somewhat extroverted. I had/still have a dark sense of humor and a wary view of the world in general. I could express that quality in other ways, but in person? No way. People scared the hell out of me for a long time.
I fought hard to overcome my reticience socially with people. I can socialize now but when it's people I dont know or feel comfortable around, I end up a babbling mess. My real friends know I'm getting anxiety when I'm joking around all the time in conversation. Essentially, I'm an introvert who fakes extroversion well on some days, bad on others.
So I dont have a choice in learning this crap. Very few women unless they have a lot of fire and air in their chart, rarely give introverts a second look. Cause they took the assumption we are weak. When it just comes down to the fact we want to know for certain a girl likes us so we don't waste time in degrading ourselves in approaching.
In essence, I have to retrain myself not to come off as a needy, creepy dude in interactions with women. Wish dating was the way it used to be, two people mutually participating in the dance. But it's come to the point where men now have to go through trials by fire just to ask for the dance. I made my peace with it, just doing what I can to know how to endure the trials..
Let me be clear on something - I'm not studying all this stuff just for Virgo Girl. I've been out of the dating game for years due to looking after my father full-time. I am completely and totally rusty.
I need to know what I'm doing so when I make my first screw-up's they won't be as big. BTW here is another video I was watching from her-
< width="560" height="315" ="
And it is on point. See this guy? -
< width="560" height="315" ="
That was me 100% for years. It took me a long time to be become somewhat extroverted. I had/still have a dark sense of humor and a wary view of the world in general. I could express that quality in other ways, but in person? No way. People scared the hell out of me for a long time.
I fought hard to overcome my reticience socially with people. I can socialize now but when it's people I dont know or feel comfortable around, I end up a babbling mess. My real friends know I'm getting anxiety when I'm joking around all the time in conversation. Essentially, I'm an introvert who fakes extroversion well on some days, bad on others.
So I dont have a choice in learning this crap. Very few women unless they have a lot of fire and air in their chart, rarely give introverts a second look. Cause they took the assumption we are weak. When it just comes down to the fact we want to know for certain a girl likes us so we don't waste time in degrading ourselves in approaching.
In essence, I have to retrain myself not to come off as a needy, creepy dude in interactions with women. Wish dating was the way it used to be, two people mutually participating in the dance. But it's come to the point where men now have to go through trials by fire just to ask for the dance. I made my peace with it, just doing what I can to know how to endure the trials..
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