Why hasn't this happened yet?

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Seanna93
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I don't mean to sound melodramatic but why don't guys notice me and or ask me out? I'm 19 years old and have never kissed nor had a boyfriend. I'm not conceited at all. It really sucks... and I don't know why guys don't like me. People (both guys and girls) have told me how pretty I am and they tell me guys notice me all the time but I doubt they do. (Not to be conceited at all) I've been told how great of a personality I have as well and how I'm too pretty to be single. I only attract creeps it seems. It's not that I'm picky, I'm just not easy. Guys don't approach or flirt with me unless they are creepers. I've talked to guys who've liked me, but they didn't want a relationship. My friends say to wait and that boyfriends aren't all that great, but it's easy for them to say... I just don't understand how some people can get anyone and I can't! I hate being told that I'm too pretty to be single 😢
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Do you put yourself out there? In the sense of...do you go a lot of places, meet a lot of different people, actively talk to those who you aren't too familiar with yet?
Back in high school I only ended up dating guys I was already friends with because no one else knew me. I didn't talk to a whole lot of people. By chance, my first serious relationship started when the guy approached me first in gym class. But, that doesn't really happen often. People just mind their own business. Afterwards, I started putting myself out there more, talking to more people, going more places where I didn't know the majority of people, etc. After that, quite a few guys have said that they were interested (though, part of that is because of online dating, but still, even in person this has happened).
Even if you're pretty, if you don't try to socialize with (new) people, then your options will be slim. Don't always expect the guy to make the first move, especially when they don't know you yet.

But, if you already have that down, I can't think of anything else, really. I'm not that great at deducing reasons like this.
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Agree with Scenic,

Plus, if you have a serious exterior..the look of wanting a "relationship" less guys will approach. As you've experienced the creeps will come out of the woodworks because all they see is a challenge. But for the majority, they will sense you're more of a committed type and some people just aren't ready to go there.

Patience and keep learning who you are and appreciate yourself and your friends...relationships change woman in the craziest of ways!
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Seanna93
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Posted by P-Angel
Posted by Seanna93

... why don't guys notice me and or ask me out?

... and I don't know why guys don't like me.

I just don't understand how some people can get anyone and I can't!







maybe you smell

You made it perfectly clear how looks/personality-wise isn't the issue. So, maybe it's something else. maybe you have bad breath, maybe you have BO

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HAHAHA nahhh I actually take care of how I smell... I wear perfume all the time and people tell me I smell very good
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Posted by Seanna93
Posted by cunninglinguist
It's hard to tell, but it looks like you're overweight, which is the biggest turn-off to guys. You have a pretty face, so once you lose some weight (try to aim for the lower end of normal BMI), guys will swarm you. 😉

Just do it in a healthy way.



How in the hell can you tell that I'm overweight? 😕 I'm a healthy size 14...


There are lots of men that like curves. 😉

It is not only models that have sex or relationships. People of all sizes and heights have relationships and have sex. That's just bs
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THANK YOU! 😄 I know!
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Seanna93
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Posted by P-Angel
How much you weigh isn't likely the issue ... a lot of men like women with meat.

Perhaps, the problem is your expectations ... you did mention that you approach the boys who like you about a serious relationship and they decline. so, perhaps, you need to back off from expecting a guy to be so fully forthcoming before he's even gotten the chance to say, 'hello'



MMMMmmmmm you're right
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Posted by Seanna93
Posted by cunninglinguist
It's hard to tell, but it looks like you're overweight, which is the biggest turn-off to guys. You have a pretty face, so once you lose some weight (try to aim for the lower end of normal BMI), guys will swarm you. 😉

Just do it in a healthy way.



How in the hell can you tell that I'm overweight? 😕 I'm a healthy size 14...



If this is in American sizes, that's pretty big. Even in UK size that's pretty big. You can still be healthy and curvy at a US size 6. And that's if you're tall.
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I suggest you just stop responding as you have no idea what you're talking about. While you're at it, you can kindly go fuck yourself. Kthx.
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Posted by geminicandle
And according to some chauvinists, we are dead at the age of 30, lol. I agree on easy whores getting the attention with sex. But doormats also get the attention and guys. Why not? You sit home alone, on dxp, and he is off somewhere fucking whoever. He has it the best of the both worlds...
Rocky, we will never win in this male-dominated world:/



Nope. And I wish more people would realize that. I see so much bullshit in advice when it comes to dating. Dating is still very male oriented as in it benefits them the most.

Women are "too old" after 30. Just because a guy can't get an erection as he gets older and needs to be a perv by getting younger ass to get it up doesn't mean these women are less desirable. Most likely, he's insecure and feels undesirable since his penis doesn't want to work anymore. So it's all women's fault.

You can't put out fast enough or slow enough. If you want to equal out the playing field and view sex as they do, they think less of you (notice that women don't devalue men based off of sex and the rate in which it happens). If you don't want to put out fast enough, they move on to someone easier.

While it can be true in instances, if he loses interest or isn't interested, it must be something you're doing wrong. Nevermind that it could just be that you two don't click, that he's a player, that he has issues with monogamy, doesn't want a relationship or to be tied down, etc.

If you're with a man who cheats, you did something wrong and/or didn't give him sex on every beck and call. On the flip side, if you cheat, you're a whore.

OP- I went through the same thing, and still do at times at this point. But I realized that all the women who do get the dates, attention, etc all have some raging issues and they attract guys because essentially, guys look for easy targets while they're younger. Not to say that there aren't decent guys out there, but unfortunately, while guys are out and about dating around, this is what happens. If you fall into the "marriage" type, you're gonna fall into the wayside until these morons decide that they want to settle down. So let them party whore doormats be the victims of these guys sowing their oats. Enjoy you and let it come to you. It always happens when you least expect it.
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coz im such a chick i googled ett...

+ Twenty years ago the average model weighed 8% less than the average woman.
+ Today, the average model weighs 23% less than the average woman.
+ 10 years ago plus size models were between the sizes 12-18.
+ Today, most plus size fashion models are between the sizes 6-14.
+ In America, 50% of women are actually are a size 14 or larger.


Thank you :3
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coz im such a chick i googled ett...

+ Twenty years ago the average model weighed 8% less than the average woman.
+ Today, the average model weighs 23% less than the average woman.
+ 10 years ago plus size models were between the sizes 12-18.
+ Today, most plus size fashion models are between the sizes 6-14.
+ In America, 50% of women are actually are a size 14 or larger.


Thank you :3



u kinda look like...

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She's beautiful! 😄 May I ask who she is?
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You remind me of a younger Danielle Fishel—the woman who starred as Tapanga in the sitcom, "Boy Meets World".


You're beautiful.


I wouldn't ask you out simply for that reason however. Perhaps the guys that pass you over don't think with their dicks as the others here would lead you to believe.

The world is always changing ever so slowly.

Isn't it time we change our approach to relationships?
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Posted by Seanna93

I'm 19 years old and have never kissed nor had a boyfriend.








If that is the truth, then something is seriously wrong with this picture. Even the fugly girls get kissed. Even the obese girls get kissed. Even the trashy, bitchy, homely girls get kissed.

You say you are pretty and have a good personality, and you don't have a funky odor ..... but, in reality, one those is likely incorrect.

perhaps, instead of asking strangers this question .... it would be more prudent to do a serious self evaluation without the presence of your ego
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Seanna93
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Posted by Caplove
Seanna93,

You are a beautiful young woman. Don't you worry, it will happen! There is nothing wrong with you. Don't compare yourself to others. You set your own standards.

If it helps, I was your age when I had my first kiss! Don't feel bad. 🙂I was just more serious and very much into my studies, trying hard to get good grades in college, etc.

Keep being yourself, laugh, have fun with your friends, go out and enjoy yourself and it will happen and it will be with a very nice young man who thinks you're special and then you'll look back and remember it with fond memories.


Awe thank you 🙂
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And according to some chauvinists, we are dead at the age of 30, lol. I agree on easy whores getting the attention with sex. But doormats also get the attention and guys. Why not? You sit home alone, on dxp, and he is off somewhere fucking whoever. He has it the best of the both worlds...
Rocky, we will never win in this male-dominated world:/
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Nope. And I wish more people would realize that. I see so much bullshit in advice when it comes to dating. Dating is still very male oriented as in it benefits them the most.

Women are "too old" after 30. Just because a guy can't get an erection as he gets older and needs to be a perv by getting younger ass to get it up doesn't mean these women are less desirable. Most likely, he's insecure and feels undesirable since his penis doesn't want to work anymore. So it's all women's fault.

You can't put out fast enough or slow enough. If you want to equal out the playing field and view sex as they do, they think less of you (notice that women don't devalue men based off of sex and the rate in which it happens). If you don't want to put out fast enough, they move on to someone easier.

While it can be true in instances, if he loses interest or isn't interested, it must be something you're doing wrong. Nevermind that it could just be that you two don't click, that he's a player, that he has issues with monogamy, doesn't want a relationship or to be tied down, etc.

If you're with a man who cheats, you did something wrong and/or didn't give him sex on every beck and call. On the flip side, if you cheat, you're a whore.

OP- I went through the same thing, and still do at times at this point. But I realized that all the women who do get the dates, attention, etc all have some raging issues and they attract guys because essentially, guys look for easy targets while they're younger. Not to say that there aren't decent guys out there, but unfortunately, while guys are out and about dating around, this is what happens. If you fall into the "marriage" type, you're gonna fall into the wayside until these morons decide that they want to settle down. So let them party whore doormats be the victims of these guys sowing their oats. Enjoy
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Hmm, no. You know where you can put your lil suggestion. 😉

A US size 14 is a 35 inch waist. And that entails health risks. You didn't hear it from me:

http://www.nhlbi.nih.gov/health/public/heart/obesity/lose_wt/risk.htm<BR>
And health is what potential suitors seek out.

But, feel free to deny reality all you want. After all, being PC enough to keep rockyroadicecream pacified is much, much more important than the health of the OP. *nodnod*



You know...I'm not prone to saying stuff like this but I think I'll make an exception in your case.......














SHUT THE FUCK UP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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bhahahhaha my thoughts exactly.
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Posted by cunninglinguist


Hmm, no. You know where you can put your lil suggestion. 😉

A US size 14 is a 35 inch waist. And that entails health risks. You didn't hear it from me:

http://www.nhlbi.nih.gov/health/public/heart/obesity/lose_wt/risk.htm<BR>
And health is what potential suitors seek out.

But, feel free to deny reality all you want. After all, being PC enough to keep rockyroadicecream pacified is much, much more important than the health of the OP. *nodnod*



Sweetcheeks, I have a freaking degree in this stuff. I know what the hell I'm talking about. Kthx. Please, tell me what your credentials are??

BMI is only good in certain circumstances as it's not entirely accurate because of body types. A perfectly fit person could have a BMI that says they're overweight when they aren't. There is also a waist/hip ratio aspect to take into consideration when it comes to health risks, so the waist number alone isn't adequate enough.

So please, your attempt to "prove" your knowledge is laughable. In the meantime, you need to get your sad little shit together. Your view of women and where they stand in society is disgusting.
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Posted by WoundedLeo
Posted by cunninglinguist

I'm personally bi, and I actually prefer fuller-figured women. But she's trying to attract *men*, not scrawny Asian girls. lol

Seriously though, I agree. I hate how superficial guys tend to be. No one should be bullied. But that's not what I'm doing.



What the hell are you talking about??

It's obvious you have absolutely no clue what men want and like so just shut up. You're an idiot.
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I don't think she realizes that there's a difference between media and what real guys want. The media perpetuates one thing, but when you talk to the average guy, they like many different things. They may like to ogle the media standard, but personal preferences vary quite a bit. I've always made it a point to ask most guys that I know what their preferences are. You'd be amazed at the range of answers I've gotten. Hint- it's far from the media standard.

Even then, if you were to live up to the standard that media presents, which is usually some sort of objectification to begin with, guess what? That's exactly what you'll be treated as by guys- a sexual object. So to pine over such an image is sorely misguided, tbh. It's better to be wanted for admiration and not for lust.