Is it normal for a husband to want to bring his ex-girlfriends up in an argument to try and make her jealous/mad? Is it normal for a man to constantly bring his ex-girlfriends up in regular conversations that are only suppose to pertain to us? Why would he feel the need to bring them up in conversations and arguments. If a women does not like it and tells him it hurts and upsets her why would he keep doing it if he's apologized and said it was a mistake. Why is this man constantly thinking about his ex-girlfriends when we just got married eight months ago. Why would he feel the need to constantly compare our body weight, boobs, teeth and everything else if he says he's in love with his partner and is satisfied with what he's got and claims to love everything about his wife? If he's been doing it ever since the dating phase into marriage does this bring a lot of red flags? Why does he give her compliments that sound like harsh insults regarding her appearance and on top of that compare her to all of his exes which confuses her even more? He says he's confused and has no idea why he keeps doing it and that he's not trying to hurt her. When I bring up these concerns for this behavior of his sometimes he'll show love and sympathy and regret for his actions but other times he'll try and change the topic of discussion(ex: trying to bring up good things that he does or his good traits), he'll walk away and say "I'm not talking about this.", or he'll try to dismiss or diminish my feelings as quickly as possible(ex: Me: "Sweetheart I am hurt I've been hurting for 11 months over your behavior you apologized and promised me you'd stop hurting me." His response: ""That's nothing." 11 months of hurting is nothing compared to all the hurt I've been through all my life growing up with no parents around." "You've never experienced hurt like this in your life." "Your not the problem it's me."
