Will a man seek revenge on a woman?

What things would cause a man to do this? Anger? Hurt? Why seek revenge when the break up was mutual? Then go back and talk shit about me with someone who you know doesn't like me? I don't get it.

What would cause*

If he feels like you emasculated him

Men like that can be bitchier than any woman.

May want to steer clear for a minute.

Posted by Montgomery
If he feels like you emasculated him

Men like that can be bitchier than any woman.

May want to steer clear for a minute.

I steered clear for almost two months. He is talking shit about me with someone that he knows doesn't like me.

When we had fights in the past, most of times I would be the one that want to talk it out. This time I let him say what he wanted and never contacted him again. I didn't fight the break up this time. I walked away.

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Posted by Montgomery
If he feels like you emasculated him

Men like that can be bitchier than any woman.

May want to steer clear for a minute.

I steered clear for almost two months. He is talking shit about me with someone that he knows doesn't like me.

When we had fights in the past, most of times I would be the one that want to talk it out. This time I let him say what he wanted and never contacted him again. I didn't fight the break up this time. I walked away.

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Laugh it off and make sure he & the other sees that big beautiful smile on your face. 😉

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Posted by Noreallynow

Posted by Montgomery
If he feels like you emasculated him

Men like that can be bitchier than any woman.

May want to steer clear for a minute.

I steered clear for almost two months. He is talking shit about me with someone that he knows doesn't like me.

When we had fights in the past, most of times I would be the one that want to talk it out. This time I let him say what he wanted and never contacted him again. I didn't fight the break up this time. I walked away.

Laugh it off and make sure he & the other sees that big beautiful smile on your face. 😉

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I do. I try not to let it affect me in any way. Thank you. 🙂

he sounds like a kid trying to cover his tracks.

Does he have relations with said girl?

Posted by DMV
Does he have relations with said girl?

Yes, he did. This is why I broke it off with him. It's been two months since I've spoken to him. Now, he's talking shit about me with her. She's telling her friends shit. But the sad part is, what good is it to be dealing with him if all he does is talk about me? And he's only dealing with her, because I'm not dealing with him. He's talking shit and he wants it to get back to me. I don't understand it.

The drama that I'm going through now, is because of him.

Posted by DMV
he sounds like a kid trying to cover his tracks.

Cover his tracks how? I hope it's not to prove he wasn't dating me, because everyone knew about it. Including her. I

i say split ties with everyone. this all sounds exhausting

ive seen this with plenty aries guy. they dont like to look bad to their current conquests. they never seem to want the world to know that theyre douchebags.

some aries guys are cool beans.

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Posted by Noreallynow
What things would cause a man to do this? Anger? Hurt? Why seek revenge when the break up was mutual? Then go back and talk shit about me with someone who you know doesn't like me? I don't get it.

Possible answers?

He's feeling scorned AKA "butt-hurt"; perhaps said breakup wasn't really as "mutual" as you thought. Maybe he only made the split SEEM 2-sided as a way to save face.

He needed to vent for whatever reason thus sought out someone whom he knows isn't a fan of yours. So that way he'd be "preaching to the choir" while trash-talking you. Misery loves company.

Perhaps he's the type of ex who routinely acts childish following EVERY breakup he's ever experienced, regardless of whether the relationship ended on good terms. It may be tough for him to accept defeat, and copes by acting like a petulant kid who lost at a board game.

Unfinished business due to perceived slight(s)from your end. He'd rather talk ABOUT you than TO you, for unknown reasons--possibly personal pride?

He wants to convince others that he was in the right & you were in the wrong, or aims to turn people against you by bad-mouthing/exaggeration/straight up lying to make you look like the villain.

Complains & slanders you because he's vying for sympathy or validation from others.

At any rate, I'm sure your guess is better than any of mine because you know the guy personally & I do not.

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You're absolutely correct. This is exactly how it is.