Women hitting/abusing men or vice versa!

Oh my how the times have changed!!!

20+ years ago, it seemed men were the only ones doing the abusing! Even though that was never true, men doing the abusing seemed to be the most reported, while women-abusers was the most under-reported.

But now, I'm hearing mothers teaching their sons to "Hit a woman back if she hits you" when yet BEFORE, mothers used to be completely against men hitting women no matter WHAT the circumstances!

And now I'm seeing so many women having the balls to hit men!

DO YOU THINK IT'S OK FOR A MAN O HIT A WOMOAN BACK IF SHE HITS HIM 1st?

It's amazing how morals/standards change within family dynamics to fit the current times! Whereas 20 years ago, it was unheard of for a woman to raise her hand to her man unless she was under extreme circumstances, NOW it seems like women doing most of the hitting seems to be the current trend! Almost like it's 2nd nature to some women.

I've seen women hit men simply b/c 1. He lied or 2. B/c he cheated or 3. B/c he got caught looking at the opposite sex or 4. B/c she didn't get the gift she wanted...basically women nowadays seem to be raising their fists to a man for the most unvalid reasons! And half of them who do this DARE the men they're hitting to hit them back!

I think it's ALL wrong!

Do you think it's ok for a man to hit a woman BACK if she hits him?

I think a man hitting a woman period is just wrong, BUT I must admit, some of you chicks nowadays are just crazy & deserve an asswhooping! I won't call the police on a man IF I see him hit a woman back AFTER he's been beat on several times by his woman! It's NOT fair to the guys that they are immediately thrown in jail for domestic violence for hitting women when yet the women who commit the same crime are not ever prosecuted or punished.

Not willing beat up to death in defense. But restrain her. And then call the police.


Hopefully they'll believe him.


Gender bias angers me.

DO YOU THINK IT'S OK FOR A MAN O HIT A WOMAN BACK IF SHE HITS HIM 1st?

No... that's what you have female cousins for.

No way, no how. If the chick is crazy and is really trying to hurt you, get the hell away from her. I am a large scale person. Tall, big hands, strong... I'd break her if I hit her. I have had a few women punch at me before. At first when they get angry it's cute. They turn all red and punch me, I just laugh. It hurts about as much as when my buddies play punch me. Of course, laughing just pisses them off more and the next punch is a little harder. When they get serious you tell them stop. Period. One warning. When she swings at you again, catch her hand or grab an arm so she can't keep being crazy. Escort them away from you. Sometimes you just have to defuse the situation, walk away, and come back later when tempers have cooled.

Men should not hit women but it doesn't mean they can hit us either. My brother says that if women want equal rights they can get equal ass beatings if they act up too, but he is a dick. I have only ever seen him act on it once and it was cause she kicked him in the balls. He back handed her (BITCH SLAP) and she went down. They were even.


The ghetto shit you mentioned where a woman hits a guy and gets in his face and literally dares him to hit her back... that chick is just crazy. I haven't seen that since I lived in Baltimore but it happened there quite frequently. If a guy accepts that behavior he is weak. Ditch that bitch.

@Libra sid, not all men are physically stronger than the women they are with so not all would be able to restrain a woman. I have had a quite strong ex fail (miserably) at restraining me and im not even that strong!

No one should hit anyone, but if a woman hits a man he should hit her back, sets the standard of the relationship, otherwise what is to stop her continually hitting him? No one is saying he should beat the crap out of her, just a slap will do the job. Unless he deserves it then he should take it like a man 😛

I personally would not stay in a violent relationship, whether thats me hitting him, him hitting me, or both of us hitting eachother. Too much drama!!

Yeah, I don't really care who is doing the hitting. Whoever is getting hit I think should take on the rule of law that police officers have for using deadly force. I say get the hell out of there, but if you can't then I think using violence is "justified only under conditions of extreme necessity as a last resort, when all lesser means have failed or cannot reasonably be employed." Any additional violence will only escalate the situation.

But I prefer LibraSids answer, "No... that's what you have female cousins for." 😄

I have one that was going to take on that role way before it was needed haha. After a nasty break up, my ex pulled up next to this cousin at a red light. My ex was all happy because the cousin was sweet to her every time they met before. My ex is like, "Oh hi!, you're Sid's cousin". She replies, "Oh, you're that bitch!" and she got out of the car. It's hilarious! My ex took off. Ha-ha, that cousin of mine is awesome. My cousin is a thick chic too, she'd beat up most guys if she needed to.

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Posted by libra sun
@Libra sid, not all men are p

No one should hit anyone, but if a woman hits a man he should hit her back, sets the standard of the relationship, otherwise what is to stop her continually hitting him? No one is saying he should beat the crap out of her, just a slap will do the job. Unless he deserves it then he should take it like a man 😛

and if a man hits a women that means she can hit him back, yeah NO!

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She can but it would probably not be successful depending on who was stronger. If a man hit me (first) I wouldnt be hitting him back I would be leaving him.

If a male family member called me up and asked me to hit a woman for them I would tell them to man the hell up and do it themself! It's not my battle, so i'm not fighting it.

Posted by libra sun
If a male family member called me up and asked me to hit a woman for them I would tell them to man the hell up and do it themself! It's not my battle, so i'm not fighting it.

My family didn't have to be asked. The whole family believes what I do. Let's say my grandparents taught them that...kind of. A man never hits a woman. Oh and we were little hodlums together, my cousins and I are tight. If it is blood, it is my battle.

And if the woman who hit you knocks the shit out of your cousin who has gone to hit her for hitting you, what then? does this just continue until the whole family have had a swing?? Or her male cousins then come after you for sending a female after their cousin?? Dont know about America but here in England these are the sort of situations where people end up dead. Starts of in the playground, ends up with the older guys shooting/stabbing eachother.

I agree. So common society quickly urges the women who are being physically abused in any way to run like hell & never turn back, BUT yet when the men are being physically abused, they aren't usually told to run away until things finally get to the worst stages. It's weird & hypocritical.

And I think this happens b/c people automatically assume that women who hit men are always physically weaker than men. Pst! I've seen some pretty strong women! And if they're not strong, they sure as hell hit like a man! SAME THING if you ask me!

Does it really even matter how strong/weak the punch is? It doesn't really make her punches any less violent just b/c a woman might technically be weaker than a man. That'd be the same as saying it shouldn't count or be taken as seriously for a man to hit a woman IF he hits like a girl/or is weaker than her! Sounds silly, right?! Of course it does. Physical abuse is wrong regardless of whose giving or receiving, male or female.

Some women may not be overall physically stronger than the men they put their hands on BUT some women hit like freakin' dudes! And hey, I'm not gonna lie, if I was a man & a woman hit me like a man, I'd respond by hitting her ass back as if she were a man!

Whether she hits him with a closed fist, open fist, slap to the face, etc. or whatever shouldn't really matter. The same goes vice versa. A man isn't doing a woman a favor just b/c he technically "only" slapped his girlfriend vs. actually punching her. Point is, physically abusing someone in ANY way shape or form is wrong.

I hate that when men actually do strike back, THEY are the ones getting taken away in police cars. Some women feel so entitled to put their hands on a man but yet the minute he retaliates, she's quick to pick up the phone & want him to be charged for a crime she provoked herself. And that's not fair.

Now granted, if a woman slaps a man with an open fist & yet he straight body slams her & beats her up, that's over-kill. As a matter of fact, self-defense is only self-defense if you use a reasonable amount of force to get the other person to stop. Hell, even a man can't beat to death another man when all he really needed to do was put him in a choke hole to get him to stop! The cops wouldn't buy that or go for that! And some men, when they are hit, take it to the extreme & proceed to use maximum force on the woman. And that's 100% unneccessary.

But then again, how is a man supposed to hit a woman back if he's been hit 1st? If you keep bullying someone or beating up on them, you can't necessarily complain about how hard their "right hook" feels! Of course it's gonna hurt like hell if a man hits a woman back, even if he wasn't trying to hit her with all his strength! And the women who are tough enough & have big enough balls to put their hands on a man should also be able to take the retaliation (if given in the right dose =p

I was raised not to hit women, period, for anything. And im not a woman beater either BUT at the same time women shouldnt place themselves in the place of a man and what that means is that she shoukdnt hit a man simply b/c she knows 99% of the time the law will be on her side cuz thats why some women do it. SOme do it out of overwhelmed passion. My temper is fffaaaarrr to quick to let someone man or woman hit me in the face and not get touched back but plain and simple just dont touch me. Those are boundaries that no one should ever cross, physical violence and if you cross them dont be shocked by what happens

Posted by krysrenee7
Does it really even matter how strong/weak the punch is? It doesn't really make her punches any less violent just b/c a woman might technically be weaker than a man. That'd be the same as saying it shouldn't count or be taken as seriously for a man to hit a woman IF he hits like a girl/or is weaker than her! Sounds silly, right?! Of course it does. Physical abuse is wrong regardless of whose giving or receiving, male or female.

Some women may not be overall physically stronger than the men they put their hands on BUT some women hit like freakin' dudes! And hey, I'm not gonna lie, if I was a man & a woman hit me like a man, I'd respond by hitting her ass back as if she were a man!

Whether she hits him with a closed fist, open fist, slap to the face, etc. or whatever shouldn't really matter. The same goes vice versa. A man isn't doing a woman a favor just b/c he technically "only" slapped his girlfriend vs. actually punching her. Point is, physically abusing someone in ANY way shape or form is wrong.

I hate that when men actually do strike back, THEY are the ones getting taken away in police cars. Some women feel so entitled to put their hands on a man but yet the minute he retaliates, she's quick to pick up the phone & want him to be charged for a crime she provoked herself. And that's not fair.

Now granted, if a woman slaps a man with an open fist & yet he straight body slams her & beats her up, that's over-kill. As a matter of fact, self-defense is only self-defense if you use a reasonable amount of force to get the other person to stop. Hell, even a man can't beat to death another man when all he really needed to do was put him in a choke hole to get him to stop! The cops wouldn't buy that or go for that! And some men, when they are hit, take it to the extreme & proceed to use maximum force on the woman. And that's 100% unneccessary.

But then again, how is a man supposed to hit a woman back if he's been hit 1st? If you keep bullying someone or beating up on them, you can't necessarily complain about how hard their "right hook" feels! Of course it's gonna hurt like hell if a man hits a woman back, even if he wasn't trying to hit her with all his strength! And the women who are tough enough & have big enough balls to put their hands on a man should also be able to take the retaliation (if given in the right dose =p

i agree, but

@Pride: Absolutely.

We all roll our eyes when abusive men come up with what they think is "rationale" for why they feel the need to hit their partners, but yet when a woman hits a man, people are much more willing to hear her "excuses" simply b/c he's a man.

Some women are just as abusive as some men are & b/c they know these cases are under-reported, they capitalize on that & take advantage of that fact.

And when the men who actually are being abused by women call the police, the police often laugh at them & make jokes about them being cowards OR they'll speed off in their patrol cars without any action being taken on the woman. And I think that's wrong.

Just b/c a woman's punches may not physically hurt a man doesn't mean that her actions are anything less than domestic violence. Of course there's a difference in pain level b/w a woman hitting a man VS. a man hitting a woman, but it doesn't really matter. Abuse hurts AND effects EVERYONE.

We have to remember that kids don't overlook physical abuse just b/c the woman is the one provoking it. When a man hits a woman, people are so quick to freak out b/c of the effects the abuse has on OTHERS other than just the woman being abused. And the same goes for women. A woman who will carry on, be hootin' & hollerin' & resorting to physical violence as her "fix" to her issues is not someone that man OR any kids should be around.

Domestic violence knows no gender, race, size, etc. Just b/c I might be able to shrug it off & not let it get me down when a man tries to emotionally abuse me doesn't mean that it's ok for him to do so just b/c I don't appear to be suffering from it. Same with men...just b/c a woman's punches may not hurt a man doesn't mean that her doing so is ok.

^ so true! Also a lot of the women that I hear of hitting men its not usually just with their fist it's TV remotes ashtrays, vase's. Why should a guy have to put up with that??