You Think Finding A Relationship is Tough?

Now you can't even find people who will be a fuck buddy.

This is what the world is going to come to folks. Vibrators and jerking off to porn on the internet.


Say bye to human connection and passion.



That shit is leaving..

And males watch your back cause you may just be a personal baby maker toy that will only be taken of the shelf for that

Posted by geminicandle
Hugssssss my fave sag girl)))))

What happened hun?
My friend found a fuck buddy on plentyoffish.com and another one met a guy on Craig's list.

Have you tried hooking up with friends of friends? I met guys randomly through Facebook too.

Thats cool! It just makes my ( mars in scorpio ) sad to see how unfeeling and unpassionate people are becoming cause of drinking, drugs or the stress of

life. I understand it but we only live once. ( as we know ) and its like no one cares. Idk, I'm moody today!!

Posted by geminicandle
What happened to gemini guy?

What about scorpio guys?

He lives far away. And the scorps are too up and down to have fun w anything and its like just uhhh lol

Posted by tiziani
I hear they have professional cuddlers.

Lol

i read somewhere on marriages that are fortunate are usually due to 60-70 percent luck. Something like that. Luck is a huge factor in success in love.

You know that old saying: lucky in love?

Even Jagger sings it:


"A betting fool, a gambling man
No sooner up you're down again
Mama said you won't get hurt
Don't play the cards, you won't get burned
But there's a place where I still win
But there's no money in this thing
The game of hearts puts me in spades
The only game I got it made

Oh, I'm lucky in love!"

Yeah Im also pretty jaded. Another Gemini joining in on this complain train!

Not lucky in love what so ever. But there never seems to be a shortage of the WRONG man you know?

Just found out my younger sister is eloping and getting married to her 3rd guy she met off the internet. She's a dating amateur including meeting off dating sites. I can't believe it too. I've been on places like match.com, okcupid, blah blah. Just like she did and she meets this foreign guy and BAM eloping. I can't even find someone I can stand for more than five minutes or who DOESN'T just want to F on the first date. UHHH!

*awkward silence*


I'm sorry to hear that. some people in life are lucky in different areas. I'll bring up Hugh Hefner again as an example....he's been lucky in all his past 80 plus years, in finance/business/building an empire. Ok, I personally don't think he's lucky in love as he goes through them like water. But you know sometimes, those "moments" are what we should all live for. Not everyone is going to be lucky in everything. There's so very few in this world that would even achieve that. Even so, the ones that are considered lucky don't feel lucky at all.

Ok so are you with someone? Cause Im about to be a mega bitch and say no single people want to hear that kind of thing, especially from people that are in relationships.

Last thing that we need to hear is something like "Oh don't worry your time will come", or "It will find you when you aren't looking", "I used to be like that"...Yeah um shut up for real. That isn't constructive. Like what so ever.

Oh love will find you when you aren't looking. Um it doesn't work like that at all. Everyone knows that too. So every time I hear that I maim someone. How the hell can you find something when you aren't even looking. Nothing just falls into your lap. It takes a shit ton of work, trials and tribulations, sometimes people do luck out but I don't believe in luck.

I believe more over in compromising. And I get that. Im fine with compromising with someone on petty reasons such as personality quirks and what not. But I will NOT budge on the set ground rules. Like having a car, place, and a job. Also you need to be over your ex, no past loves still in the picture. But the things I just mentioned someone has something messed up with those fundamentals which I don't deal with.

I for one will NOT budge on my standards. It just lets me know a lot of women are putting up with some straight up crappy guys. I won't do it. I can bitch in the mean time how it's shitty dating because it is.

is it luck, or is it settling?

some girls just like the attention a man gives them. - "he likes me so I'm sure I can eventually find myself liking him back the same way" thus... settling for less than you deserve.

I refused to settle. Now I can say I'm finally with someone that gives me butterflies every time I think of him. - It wasn't easy, but it was worth it.

Be patient...

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I believe more over in compromising. And I get that. Im fine with compromising with someone on petty reasons such as personality quirks and what not. But I will NOT budge on the set ground rules. Like having a car, place, and a job. Also you need to be over your ex, no past loves still in the picture. But the things I just mentioned someone has something messed up with those fundamentals which I don't deal with.

I for one will NOT budge on my standards. It just lets me know a lot of women are putting up with some straight up crappy guys. I won't do it. I can bitch in the mean time how it's shitty dating because it is.

Sometimes we need to look from afar and pick and choose our battles. - Although i do agree it is wise to have standards - sometimes we need to compromise. If a guy is perfect for you and you see yourself falling deeply in love and he can see himself falling for you... are you really going to hold it against him because something doesnt meet one of your standards... or can you work with him? Hold him by the hand and help him up when he's down?

We all go through that phase and question the person we find ourselves beginning to fall for... but we aren't perfect either. It's wise to look at ourselves and look at our own flaws before allowing another's to determine whether they're worthy of our love or not.

I'm def like you though... I spent a very long time out there in single world... good lord... from online dating, to friend hookups, to meeting nice guys that would have been great to take home to mom but I just didn't see myself with... it's HARD... it is NOT easy... and then when you find the right guy... that's hard too. It takes work, self-sacrifice, dedication, and patience...

Interesting. Ralph Emerson (Gemini sun/Leo moon/mars)quoted:

"Shallow men believe in luck. Strong men believe in cause and effect."

And astrology always talks about how luck factors in alot. (especially with Jupiter in the mix, unless the aspects are malefic?)

So i guess astrology is shallow. lol

well i'm guessing he's talking about those "gambling men" and not about love. :-P Not gonna bother about his love history to find out about him, if he's had disasters or not.

Aine - Understood.

However my past has a lot of the whole "help him when he's down" turns more into like pay for all his stuff and let him mooch off you because "wounded man" needs a shoulder to cry on. More like pay his bills. And I will NOT budge on that. To me you need to have those things settled like house, car, job, emotional availability. Yes maybe not like completely like a woman is with the emotions but you should BE READY. Why wouldn't you want those things in order before you date a female? Why would you approach anyone with your life not in order? See I don't understand that. I don't want to date a man that needs "help" that is what his family is for.

Im a woman who wants to enhance my life NOT take on an adult child. I will say there are very few rules I break and these are the rules no questions asked. Like I mentioned before I felt (in my early 20's) maybe I was being too hard on them. No maam. I found out the hard way. Very hard way. Now I will NOT date you unless things are in order. Why would you want to date a charity case? Oh help me get on my feet. Or my divorce sob story or I hate my ex so much cry me a river. No damn reason in the world why you should be out in the dating scene if you are not ready. And as I've aged my age limit has gotten very strict. I used to love younger men but that changed very quickly. The pool keeps getting smaller and smaller.

Young guys are just that too young. All they want to do is bed a model and throw her out. They usually live with parents, just starting out, they aren't built for a female like me that will eat them for breakfast. I expect the career, job, car, etc. They don't usually have any of those and yeah not having it. Older men though on the other hand are usually out of a marriage, have kids, on second or third divorce, OR they are just wanting to be a single man for life. Like one of my exes. An Aqua. He's now maybe 38 or 39? And single, never married. He told me he dumped a girl once because she had fuzz on her ass and didn't get it waxed. Not bad fuzz but barely there. Really? LOL!

Posted by geminicandle
Oh hell no xin!!!!

No car, no place, no job= no date!!!!!!!

Which is why I eat young guys for a snack only😈

See? Exactly this is what im trying to say. At least im not the only one who is like HELL NO.

Posted by starlover
What if he is a lovely genuine guy with little money

Would he stand a chance?

Yes he would however I would inspect the shit out of him if it's because he's not trying hard enough, the situation, and his personality. If it's because he just is lazy or wants to whine about his plight in life no fucking chance. If it's because he's giving it all to his ex wife and shes reaping the benefits nope.

Girls, calm down..its all about cycles, circumstances around us are constantly changing. I see dating/relationships like fishing, sometimes you get some good fish, sometimes none, sometimes you get fish but you and the fish are better off if its released again into the water.

Just make sure to enjoy this period of no relationships and no fuck buddies, things will come back to "normal" when you least expect it 🙂

Oh Gems... lol. You all sound like my mom, my aunt, my last several roommates, and basically every Gem I have ever known.

As some sag said: " JUST WANT A MAN WHO WILL HAVE SEX EVERY NIGHT AND PAY HALF THE RENT " lull, I like where this thread went haha, so many ideas.

I'm starting to wonder if luck is just it. Like in life, love everything? Chance sometimes, who really knows. Life is damn hard. Or maybe it's not? Who knows.


Jupiter come bless me!

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Posted by geminicandle
Right biker chick.
Two of my friends recently divorced. They spent their whole youth with these cheating spouses and they did nothing wrong.

And now single and divorced. One has a kid too.

Just live your life. Irregardless of some guy. Guys come and go.
Marriage is obsolete and a trap😉

how about kids? Do you reckon we become single mums?

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I can't believe people still want children after the way the world seems to be heading..

Mostly what I was complaining about was how passion seems to slip of of people so quickly. Everything just seems to grow colder and colder as it goes on....

Your right Boom....

Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
Girls, calm down..its all about cycles, circumstances around us are constantly changing. I see dating/relationships like fishing, sometimes you get some good fish, sometimes none, sometimes you get fish but you and the fish are better off if its released again into the water.

Just make sure to enjoy this period of no relationships and no fuck buddies, things will come back to "normal" when you least expect it 🙂

but how do you know for sure? my cycle if I go by what your saying has been my whole life of dating...starting from about 5th or 6th grade...when will it end?

Posted by BikerCh1ck
passion?
There is passion. It is just not in out lives.
I know other forums that men cry like babies that women don't love them. LOL
We are just not the desirable type of women

omg is that it

I meet only men have desired sex with me and even the few I agreed to have those situations with started acting like controlling assholes with mind games especially as of late. and my closest friends are all settling with no good assholes that I almost lost hope. im the only single one but i will die lonely with my dog...because being in another bs liaison would hurt me too much

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Posted by bkbella86

Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
Girls, calm down..its all about cycles, circumstances around us are constantly changing. I see dating/relationships like fishing, sometimes you get some good fish, sometimes none, sometimes you get fish but you and the fish are better off if its released again into the water.

Just make sure to enjoy this period of no relationships and no fuck buddies, things will come back to "normal" when you least expect it 🙂

but how do you know for sure? my cycle if I go by what your saying has been my whole life of dating...starting from about 5th or 6th grade...when will it end?

i end my cycle this year. it's been clashing with my spouse pillar since i was 19. sadly ever since that decade i think my best relationship happened when i was 17. but i was a young deutsche. 😛

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how do you know this info...do tell

Posted by RomancingA
nope....never found it hard

Ive never had a shortage of dates or people to date and I dont take walk ins lol....

I still know and talk to the guys I've dated and I still get along with them. If anything if I became single I'd go back and date them again lol maybe.

It depends on your social circle, how you meet people, your process of dating, expectations and much more.

oh is that it? so simple

Posted by bkbella86

Posted by BikerCh1ck
passion?
There is passion. It is just not in out lives.
I know other forums that men cry like babies that women don't love them. LOL
We are just not the desirable type of women

omg is that it

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What do you mean by this?

Posted by Stuckinpurgatory

Posted by Sag89
Now you can't even find people who will be a fuck buddy.

This is what the world is going to come to folks. Vibrators and jerking off to porn on the internet.


Say bye to human connection and passion.



That shit is leaving..

Pretty much.

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yeah man seems as so

Posted by Sag89

Posted by bkbella86

Posted by BikerCh1ck
passion?
There is passion. It is just not in out lives.
I know other forums that men cry like babies that women don't love them. LOL
We are just not the desirable type of women

omg is that it

What do you mean by this?

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Nothing at all...was joking

Posted by bkbella86

Posted by Sag89

Posted by bkbella86

Posted by BikerCh1ck
passion?
There is passion. It is just not in out lives.
I know other forums that men cry like babies that women don't love them. LOL
We are just not the desirable type of women

omg is that it

What do you mean by this?

Nothing at all...was joking

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that was suppose to be at biker chick

Posted by Stuckinpurgatory

Posted by Sag89

Posted by Stuckinpurgatory

Posted by Sag89
Now you can't even find people who will be a fuck buddy.

This is what the world is going to come to folks. Vibrators and jerking off to porn on the internet.


Say bye to human connection and passion.



That shit is leaving..

Pretty much.

yeah man seems as so

😢

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Oh hush, stop expecting for everyone to be 'the one.'

If everybody was good enough for you, I'd ask you, "Well damn, who do you turn down?!!?!"

Yes relationships and even friendships have gotten harder to find but the rules still remain the same. It just takes an extra amount of courage & guts to still stay in the game!

It's simple...
Know who you are
Know what you want
Be open & honest about those 2 things
Realize that every guy/girl isn't bad. Only the ones YOU choose were.
Find out what it is about you that's making you choose the wrong people & change it
Being willing to take risks & be vulnerable
And cherish the friends & loved ones that you get b/c you conquered all the things mentioned above!

No it's not always that simple but then again it IS just that simple

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Posted by bkbella86

Posted by Sag89

Posted by bkbella86

Posted by BikerCh1ck
passion?
There is passion. It is just not in out lives.
I know other forums that men cry like babies that women don't love them. LOL
We are just not the desirable type of women

omg is that it

What do you mean by this?

Nothing at all...was joking

that was suppose to be at biker chick

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oh lol

Posted by RomancingA

Posted by bkbella86

Posted by RomancingA
nope....never found it hard

Ive never had a shortage of dates or people to date and I dont take walk ins lol....

I still know and talk to the guys I've dated and I still get along with them. If anything if I became single I'd go back and date them again lol maybe.

It depends on your social circle, how you meet people, your process of dating, expectations and much more.

oh is that it? so simple

Some people have a harder path in life and some easy....easy is not always a blessing.

I never felt lonely or had to look for a date....or "buddy" but I also have to reason the intentions of men wanting to spend time with me. I don't rush into things often or welcome that erratic behavior but I assume if I did Id be a biiiig slut lol.

There are tons of men looking for the easy way. Its about relationships and communicating, respecting your body and spirit.....connect and keep the good energy going.

It may sound corny but I always put positive energy out there.....throw my problems to the universe and give it my blessing.
What returns to me is usually good natured because I ask for it.....
I ask for good things to come.....
I welcome the unorthodox......

Im with a huge Nerd whos in the tech industry who is the most beautiful man ive ever dated.....If I judged him at first look Id think he was a player. Turns out he only plays video games haha.....

Great things can be found by looking under odd rocks and giving things the benefit.

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nice speech but its not that easy

Posted by krysrenee7
Oh hush, stop expecting for everyone to be 'the one.'

If everybody was good enough for you, I'd ask you, "Well damn, who do you turn down?!!?!"

Yes relationships and even friendships have gotten harder to find but the rules still remain the same. It just takes an extra amount of courage & guts to still stay in the game!

It's simple...
Know who you are
Know what you want
Be open & honest about those 2 things
Realize that every guy/girl isn't bad. Only the ones YOU choose were.
Find out what it is about you that's making you choose the wrong people & change it
Being willing to take risks & be vulnerable
And cherish the friends & loved ones that you get b/c you conquered all the things mentioned above!

No it's not always that simple but then again it IS just that simple

you hush....if it were that simple then we wouldnt even be talking about it

Posted by RomancingA

Posted by bkbella86

Posted by RomancingA
nope....never found it hard

Ive never had a shortage of dates or people to date and I dont take walk ins lol....

I still know and talk to the guys I've dated and I still get along with them. If anything if I became single I'd go back and date them again lol maybe.

It depends on your social circle, how you meet people, your process of dating, expectations and much more.

oh is that it? so simple

Some people have a harder path in life and some easy....easy is not always a blessing.

I never felt lonely or had to look for a date....or "buddy" but I also have to reason the intentions of men wanting to spend time with me. I don't rush into things often or welcome that erratic behavior but I assume if I did Id be a biiiig slut lol.

There are tons of men looking for the easy way. Its about relationships and communicating, respecting your body and spirit.....connect and keep the good energy going.

Im with a huge Nerd whos in the tech industry who is the most beautiful man ive ever dated.....If I judged him at first look Id think he was a player. Turns out he only plays video games haha.....

Great things can be found by looking under odd rocks and giving things the benefit.

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congratulations. Those are the best kinds imo, the guys who are so "focused" that they're not going to be distracted or care about anyone else. LOL ;-D

Posted by starlover
~~~~ hip hip bloody hooray hooray ~~~


moral of story ~~~ heal yourself first before you jump into a relationship for the wrong reasons

🙂

+1000
Why is it that women in general are so smart in creating an argument but dumb enough to realize this...

#just wondering

*i should quote "SOME" women... *

I agree with some of these post too about love finding you and be patient type of bull shit ive been single for 4 years but it just started to sink in and every where I go now im self conscience of others in relationships seeing guys kiss there girls and going out to eat all that stuff just kills me so lately ive been trying and its just so tough. from a guy stand point nowadays females have a specific guy in mind and they live by that now and its so hard to find an easy going girl or just something ya know so yeah it is tough nowadays