So, I met my Sag wife 1 yr and 2 mos ago. We married 4 mos ago and are now preparing to move in together.
Let me just say, this experience has been one helluva ride. The first 4 mos were like heaven on earth. She did and said all the things to make my heart skip. It was all π & π¦s until she got wasted one night at my house. She got violent, verbally abusive, and all out disrespectful. I π’ primarily because my dream of finding my perfect lover came crumbling down as she stumbled around slurring her slandering curses at me. I was deeply saddened and completely broken in that moment and decided to "end it" the following π.
The next night I found myself π and missing the love of my life. I texted her and we rekindled. There were several more moments of shame and somehow we made it to matrimony.
She still hurts me at least weekly at most every other day. Don't get me wrong, she doesn't walk away unscathed. I usually respond in anger and go straight for her jugular.
I'm convinced that we love each other but not 100% convinced that we'll make it the long haul with the level of toxicity we have developed in our relationship and marriage.
All thoughts and comments welcomed.
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Sep 26, 2012Comments: 1648 Β· Posts: 8573 Β· Topics: 67
Two words my fren
Marriage.Counselling
Exhaust all possibilities and make the required effort in the relationship investment stakes.
Maybe suggest it and see how you both feel...
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Apr 29, 2018Comments: 4043 Β· Posts: 3659 Β· Topics: 89
Is this real?
Because this is no way a loving relationship
Its a trauma bond, abusive one with layers of disfunction.
I canβt even handle it... seriously...
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Jan 05, 2020Comments: 514 Β· Posts: 454 Β· Topics: 6
I think personally fire gets bored with water over time Idk
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Oct 21, 2015Comments: 11066 Β· Posts: 36034 Β· Topics: 110
Sounds unhealthily and toxic and abusive af. Neither of you should be married. Please donβt add a baby to the mix.