After brooding over my Sag's disappearing and reappearing, he finally admitted he was scared.

The never ending push-pull lol

And I never even demanded a commitment or anything of the sort. He ran before we could even get into that. He just recently told me after several months of me wondering WTF, that he disappears 'on everyone, even friends.' Also that he 'gets anxious when getting close to most people, nothing personal.'

I haven't smothered him or demanded anything. Merely communication when he upset me the other day -- just had to get what I was feeling off my chest. And he dealt with it, I was impressed.

He is Sag dominant and has moon opposite pluto natally, so he's clearly gonna have a battle within himself in regards to these sorts of things.

But anyway, I'm glad we cleared the air. I'm just gonna take it slow and be his friend. Don't wanna jump back into anything. Advice?

Posted by youngali
That's the best thing to do in my opinion. just be his friend and if things happen later on in life, it's going to happen naturally.

Thank you 🙂 He's also a Taurus moon which I think gives him some stability. Cap merc, Sag rising, Sag Venus and Aries Mars. I see you have a Taurus moon also. I'm curious to know what having a Taurus moon with a Sag sun is like?

My Taurus Venus and Taurus Merc are conjunct his moon, among so many other aspects.

I had a thing with a Taurus Sun Sagittarius moon a while back and he was really consistent until a point where he just slowly started to fade out on me. I was really confused at the time about what was going between us and how I felt too.

Now that I learned more about astrology and just have a better grasp on people in general, I can see that he probably wasn't sure either and might have been scared about being tied down or losing his freedom. He made a really subtle point of contact with me too a couple months ago, after like 2 years of not talking, but it wasn't one that lead to conversation or anything. I decided to just not read much into it.

Your Sag sounds like he doesn't want to be tied down to commitment either. But his Taurus moon ultimately says he wants security and stability, and would prefer to take things really slowly.

Posted by xomelindabelle
The never ending push-pull lol

And I never even demanded a commitment or anything of the sort. He ran before we could even get into that. He just recently told me after several months of me wondering WTF, that he disappears 'on everyone, even friends.' Also that he 'gets anxious when getting close to most people, nothing personal.'

I haven't smothered him or demanded anything. Merely communication when he upset me the other day -- just had to get what I was feeling off my chest. And he dealt with it, I was impressed.

He is Sag dominant and has moon opposite pluto natally, so he's clearly gonna have a battle within himself in regards to these sorts of things.

But anyway, I'm glad we cleared the air. I'm just gonna take it slow and be his friend. Don't wanna jump back into anything. Advice?

Gets anxious?? A Sag? That's what he said? I've known plenty of my own sign and anxious isn't a word I'd used to describe us or explain why we would ghost on someone. Truth is he didn't know what he wanted and commitment definitely wasn't one of them so anytime someone would get too close he'd bounce. But that Taurus moon(and Sag wanting to always be friends) kept him around or coming back. Anxious? Nah, I ain't buying that lol.

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Posted by xomelindabelle
The never ending push-pull lol

And I never even demanded a commitment or anything of the sort. He ran before we could even get into that. He just recently told me after several months of me wondering WTF, that he disappears 'on everyone, even friends.' Also that he 'gets anxious when getting close to most people, nothing personal.'

I haven't smothered him or demanded anything. Merely communication when he upset me the other day -- just had to get what I was feeling off my chest. And he dealt with it, I was impressed.

He is Sag dominant and has moon opposite pluto natally, so he's clearly gonna have a battle within himself in regards to these sorts of things.

But anyway, I'm glad we cleared the air. I'm just gonna take it slow and be his friend. Don't wanna jump back into anything. Advice?

Gets anxious?? A Sag? That's what he said? I've known plenty of my own sign and anxious isn't a word I'd used to describe us or explain why we would ghost on someone. Truth is he didn't know what he wanted and commitment definitely wasn't one of them so anytime someone would get too close he'd bounce. But that Taurus moon(and Sag wanting to always be friends) kept him around or coming back. Anxious? Nah, I ain't buying that lol.

Me neither.. that's a load of old tosh lol ?

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Ok, then enlighten me. I'd like to hear from all Sags.

Eh....nothing scares me if im interested and ive deemed it a priority.

Goes for friends, family, etc.

In terms of taking time off from people...its called having a wide range of different circles.

Saggis have to find some way to.expand. i do some of it through friends, sometimes you will see me everyday for months and then bam im gone.

Im not disappearing..i went to go hang out with someone else.

I'm a Scorpio and I was with a sag for 7 YEARS! asked me to marry him twice and I said no..too young to settle..I didn't really have a nack on keeping him around.. I'm not your typical Scorpio..I love my freedom..maybe it's my Gemini rising? I don't know.. I did get the feeling the more I couldn't be bothered with him the more and more clingy he got.. the more I wanted a career the more needy he got etc.. there not really freedom loving people.. but In the end he cheated on me and then shit got real! I didn't even want to know him and he became a stalker and would call me 100 times a day.. so really acting like you don't need him is what kept us together for 7 long years

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I'm a Scorpio and I was with a sag for 7 YEARS! asked me to marry him twice and I said no..too young to settle..I didn't really have a nack on keeping him around.. I'm not your typical Scorpio..I love my freedom..maybe it's my Gemini rising? I don't know.. I did get the feeling the more I couldn't be bothered with him the more and more clingy he got.. the more I wanted a career the more needy he got etc.. there not really freedom loving people.. but In the end he cheated on me and then shit got real! I didn't even want to know him and he became a stalker and would call me 100 times a day.. so really acting like you don't need him is what kept us together for 7 long years

Did acting like you didn't need him lead him to cheat as well?

My experience with Sag males is that they really want a passionate woman who is independent and can hold their own without them. Someone emotionally independent. This is what one Sag said to me and he was VERY clingy. But my emotional independence made him frustrated too because I wasn't really all that passionate about him as a mate though, I really just liked the attention he gave me.

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Posted by Kygo
I'm a Scorpio and I was with a sag for 7 YEARS! asked me to marry him twice and I said no..too young to settle..I didn't really have a nack on keeping him around.. I'm not your typical Scorpio..I love my freedom..maybe it's my Gemini rising? I don't know.. I did get the feeling the more I couldn't be bothered with him the more and more clingy he got.. the more I wanted a career the more needy he got etc.. there not really freedom loving people.. but In the end he cheated on me and then shit got real! I didn't even want to know him and he became a stalker and would call me 100 times a day.. so really acting like you don't need him is what kept us together for 7 long years

Did acting like you didn't need him lead him to cheat as well?

My experience with Sag males is that they really want a passionate woman who is independent and can hold their own without them. Someone emotionally independent. This is what one Sag said to me and he was VERY clingy. But my emotional independence made him frustrated too because I wasn't really all that passionate about him as a mate though, I really just liked the attention he gave me.

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No he seemed to love that.. what made him cheat even though he still to this day denies it.. was he got mixed with the wrong people.. and was badly influenced..started getting an ego about him which resulted in him and this girl to catch eyes.. strange though I still acted like I wasn't bothered.. I did have a broken heart by it and I did cry and beg for a while but as soon as I stopped that's when the stalking from him began ?

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Posted by xomelindabelle
The never ending push-pull lol

And I never even demanded a commitment or anything of the sort. He ran before we could even get into that. He just recently told me after several months of me wondering WTF, that he disappears 'on everyone, even friends.' Also that he 'gets anxious when getting close to most people, nothing personal.'

I haven't smothered him or demanded anything. Merely communication when he upset me the other day -- just had to get what I was feeling off my chest. And he dealt with it, I was impressed.

He is Sag dominant and has moon opposite pluto natally, so he's clearly gonna have a battle within himself in regards to these sorts of things.

But anyway, I'm glad we cleared the air. I'm just gonna take it slow and be his friend. Don't wanna jump back into anything. Advice?

Gets anxious?? A Sag? That's what he said? I've known plenty of my own sign and anxious isn't a word I'd used to describe us or explain why we would ghost on someone. Truth is he didn't know what he wanted and commitment definitely wasn't one of them so anytime someone would get too close he'd bounce. But that Taurus moon(and Sag wanting to always be friends) kept him around or coming back. Anxious? Nah, I ain't buying that lol.

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This^. I know too many Sages who are completely fine with commitment (even the ones who are prone to ghosting have long term boyfriends and girlfriends) as long as they don't feel like you're going to take way their freedom to pursue their own goals and interests. In fact I know a Sag who ghosts on ALL of his close friends, but keeps track of his acquaintances, and NEVER ghosts on his girlfriend.

From what it sounds like your Sag has admitted to having avoidant behavior. This has nothing to do with his sign/placements and more to do with his inability to form close bonds with people. When someone gets too close, he darts. This behavior generally stems from childhood.

Do you know what his upbringing was like? On another note, do you know of any negative causes that could inspire him to avoid close relationships? Avoidant behavior generally stems from either an emotionless upbringing (parents were cold or often absent) OR emotional trauma. It's possible he's never shared this with you, but there are clues. The fact that he treats everyone this way is one.

Another is if his past relationships (even the long term ones) were shaky to the point that they made no sense for him to be in at all. Avoidant people tend to enter relationships they know will end. The fact that you're not smothering him is probably very confusing since that's what he's used to doing. It gives him a reason to run away. If you're not giving him a reason to run, he'll find tiny reasons, but will always come back (the push-pull your described). Sound familiar?