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I am a Capricorn woman and I was chatting with a Sagittarius man for about 10 months. We talked on the phone all the time I mean everyday a few times a day for hours at a time. He was living in NY and took a summer trip with a group touring part of the Country. Then he moved across the Country with friends. We didn?t date anyone because there was such a connection we wanted to see where this might lead. After he moved he started acting funny. I asked him if he met someone? He said no and finally said there was a girl from work who needed a place to stay so he let her move in with him and his roommate. He said she was sleeping on the couch. Then he said she was sleeping in his room and in his bed but he wasn?t ?sleeping with her?. I?m really not stupid. I told him if that?s what he wanted then that was fine with me but I was really hurt that we never did meet to see what might have happened. I was also hurt that he didn?t tell me for a long time. I think he wanted me not to date while he was. He wanted to keep me as a back up. Well I started dating again and he flipped out. Calling me yelling at me. I couldn?t take it anymore so I stopped answering my phone when he would call. We didn?t speak for about 5 months and he started calling again. This lasted for another 3 months and the last time we spoke everything was fine he was back in NY for a family emergency. He said he would call me and let me know what was happening. Never heard from him again.
Friday I came on-line and seen his screen name. I debated weather to send him an im or just leave it alone. I had stopped coming on-line for a long time. After an hour of yes?no?.I sent him a message I just said it was nice to see him on-line and I hoped he was doing well. He responded and we chatted off and on all day. He asked for my phone number again, he said he had been going crazy looking for it. I gave it to him and after we both got home from work he called and we talked for eight hours.
He was living with a girl and he had been in my city for work about 2 months ago. After he got here his girlfriend he was living with called him and told him she couldn?t take it any longer and was moving out and was gone before he got back. I think that?s why he was looking for my phone number. This was the second girl he lived with since we stopped talking in the last 14 months.
He asked me what I had been doing and I told him. I have never lied to him and am not about to start now. I had been dating a few men. One was pretty serious for a while but since then I have just dated a few men. Now I have an 11 years old son at home and I don?t let anyone around my son unless I know the guy will be around. I don?t want my son to get attached to a guy if he?s not gonna be around. He said he was sorry he messed up with us and he missed me and still loves me. As much as you can love someone for just talking.
He said it was strange that after all this time we were talking again and it felt like we had never stopped and maybe there is a reason for this. Everything was great when we got off the phone.
Saturday he called me and flipped out. It was all about the guys I had dated. He acted like I was cheating on him. I tried to tell him that I was just dating them and yes the last date I had was a week prior and that really seemed to bug him. I tried to explain that I never lived with anyone like he had. Big difference?.he wouldn?t accept it so then he had to hurt me. He told me there was a women across the street from where he lives that is married but he was going to sleep with her before x-mas. I told him to do what he needed to do and that we just needed to be friends and he could see whoever he wanted to see and that I would do the same. He didn?t seem to take that every well.
Well he was on-line yesterday and I sent him a message that just said hi, how was your day. He waited for half an hour b
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You sound like your heart isn't in it all the way! If it was, you wouldn't have all the questions! You gave out a whole lot of information, but what I picked up on the most was, that you are both playing games and expecting each other to figure them out. Like read each others mind. If I were you, I would maybe ask him over for dinner or go out, and see if you can both come to an understanding about how you feel towards one another. See where the relationship is going. This back and forth is just tying up your life and is wasting time and energy! Find out for sure and then you can start living!
Good Luck and hope it turns out the way you wish!!!
S.
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It not only sounds like he's a game player but one can add confusion and "needs to grow up" to that list.
I would let things be. Someone once posted this on one of these boards and I loved it. Goes like this...
"You can't find love where there is none, and you can't hide it where there is".
Truly words of wisdom IMO. And how true huh? I think the decision will be yours as to what you want to do? Somehow I think you already know though.
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I liked wthat!!!! Always love reading your posts!
Thanks
I think that he doesnt know what he wants and the girl that he was with when she did what she did it hurt him, and in order to make himself feel better, he is going to do what he can to make u miserable. Delete him off ur buddie list, dont anwser the phone, just dont talk to him, this will save u alot of grief. It is not right that u have to go through trying times like this because someone doesnt know how to deal with thier emotions. You said that u have a kid too, dont put up with crap from him, u are a grown woman and u have the right to fredom. Go date and have a good time.
Best Wishes to you and ur Son.