Confused by a male sag?!?!?
This topic was created in the Sagittarius forum by BCJ on Tuesday, November 12, 2013 and has 16 replies.
I split up from this sag after only dating a couple of months. I had just come out of a long term relationship, and he had been hurt by all his exes and been gutted, and seems really scared of putting his heart on the line incase he gets hurt again.
He told me he really liked me, but he wasn't ready emotionally or in the head for anything. He said all he could offer me right now is friendship.
I know he is still single and says he wants to stay that way until he feels ready for a relationship.
He was never much of a texter or called, but he has stopped contacting me completely.
I see him occasionally in person, and he flirts with me, wants to keep me talking, teases me, laughs at stuff I say which ain't even funny, smiles, and seems to care. Just recently he has also started calling me darls and darling, which he only said when we were together, and doesn't seem to call other girls this.
He also got jealous a while ago after I mentioned another guy to him!
His friend also seems to have started talking to me and being nice since.
It feels as though he still really likes me, doesn't want to lose me or want me to find someone else, but just isn't ready for anything!
I've not contacted him in quite a while and am giving him space he clearly needs.
I'm not looking for anyone else and happy to stay single due to my past.
Is his behaviour showing that he will ever come back around and want a relationship with me down the line or not? My gut feeling is saying we are meant to be together, and I know our birth charts match perfectly, but our timing is wrong.
I've text him in the past saying I would like something with him in the future. I've told him not to string me along and if he doesn't see anything with me or is just keeping his options open to be honest and tell me, and I will walk away and find someone else, but he never answered me!
He told me he really liked me, but he wasn't ready emotionally or in the head for anything. He said all he could offer me right now is friendship.
I know he is still single and says he wants to stay that way until he feels ready for a relationship.
He was never much of a texter or called, but he has stopped contacting me completely.
I see him occasionally in person, and he flirts with me, wants to keep me talking, teases me, laughs at stuff I say which ain't even funny, smiles, and seems to care. Just recently he has also started calling me darls and darling, which he only said when we were together, and doesn't seem to call other girls this.
He also got jealous a while ago after I mentioned another guy to him!
His friend also seems to have started talking to me and being nice since.
It feels as though he still really likes me, doesn't want to lose me or want me to find someone else, but just isn't ready for anything!
I've not contacted him in quite a while and am giving him space he clearly needs.
I'm not looking for anyone else and happy to stay single due to my past.
Is his behaviour showing that he will ever come back around and want a relationship with me down the line or not? My gut feeling is saying we are meant to be together, and I know our birth charts match perfectly, but our timing is wrong.
I've text him in the past saying I would like something with him in the future. I've told him not to string me along and if he doesn't see anything with me or is just keeping his options open to be honest and tell me, and I will walk away and find someone else, but he never answered me!
He isn't a player, and seems a genuinely honest guy.
He isn't good at talking about his feelings either.
I thought sags were honest , and if he didn't see anything with me down the line he would bluntly tell me and not string me along
He isn't good at talking about his feelings either.
I thought sags were honest , and if he didn't see anything with me down the line he would bluntly tell me and not string me along
My 2nd longest relationship was with a Sagittarius guy. Omg such a roller coaster, committed at first, then just on and off for the rest of our lives. Sagittarius' feelings are always the same but their actions are so fickle. He always ravishes me, randomly tells me he wants me, but then we don't talk for months. They're just not consistent nor do they know how to make decisions. I don't know your guy so I can't say, but I know their actions are very weird and awkward. Just be cautious because they're not really "ready" for much and they need a good shove. It's not like they lie or aren't genuine they're just confused themselves usually. If he isn't willing to be more serious than a casual fling though then don't give him anything. What's your sign?
I'm Aquarius, February 18th, so virtually an Aries!
I got someone to look at our charts and they are a good match!
Don't get him at all - said he likes me, and he always had, doesn't feel ready (he said he was sick of putting everything into a relationship with previous girlfriends only to get hurt and have his guts ripped out)
Don't know if he will ever want anything with me down the line or not!
Surely he would either just tell me he sees something with me down the line or he just tells me that he doesn't want anything and stops flirting and getting jealous!
Everytime I see him at his work even if he's busy he will take time to talk to me and show interest!
Why can't they just communicate their feelings ?!? Why do you think he refused to answer my question to tell me if he doesn't see a future with me and I will walk away and find someone else
I got someone to look at our charts and they are a good match!
Don't get him at all - said he likes me, and he always had, doesn't feel ready (he said he was sick of putting everything into a relationship with previous girlfriends only to get hurt and have his guts ripped out)
Don't know if he will ever want anything with me down the line or not!
Surely he would either just tell me he sees something with me down the line or he just tells me that he doesn't want anything and stops flirting and getting jealous!
Everytime I see him at his work even if he's busy he will take time to talk to me and show interest!
Why can't they just communicate their feelings ?!? Why do you think he refused to answer my question to tell me if he doesn't see a future with me and I will walk away and find someone else
And why would he act this way and flirt knowing that I like him and want a relationship with him - surely he wouldn't string me along like this knowing I've been hurt in the past - he has always said he doesn't wanna get hurt and he doesn't wanna hurt me!
Posted by BCJ
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He told me he really liked me, but he wasn't ready emotionally or in the head for anything. He said all he could offer me right now is friendship.
boom. Answered your own question.
AGAIN
^This.
I'm sorry but Saggies are really bad at deciding what we want or which way to go and will string you along in the process.
He did you a huge favor. Be friends with him...platonic. Don't get involved with him romantically until he shows he's ready
I'm sorry but Saggies are really bad at deciding what we want or which way to go and will string you along in the process.
He did you a huge favor. Be friends with him...platonic. Don't get involved with him romantically until he shows he's ready
Sagittarius are only quiet when they're paying attention to someone else and when they don't want to answer. If he didn't answer your question it might have been him dodging it, they're honest but choose not to talk and have a filter suddenly when they don't want to answer something hard. I also think they're super blunt and know what they say inevitably hurts people's feelings lol. But anyway he in no way sounds reliable. You seem to be really interested in him and the situation, even if he decides he wants something you shouldn't have to feel this way when problems arise for you and him. It's a red flag. Def agree with beautifulsoul
Do you ever think he will want a relationship with me when he does feel ready though by his actions and what he has said?!?
I'm giving him all the space he needs and not contacting him, but still flirting back when he does.
I don't wanna hang around if he won't ever want anything with me down the line. Surely he would just be honest with me and tell me if he doesn't see anything with me when he's ready instead of stringing me along knowing I like him and want something with him?!?
I'm giving him all the space he needs and not contacting him, but still flirting back when he does.
I don't wanna hang around if he won't ever want anything with me down the line. Surely he would just be honest with me and tell me if he doesn't see anything with me when he's ready instead of stringing me along knowing I like him and want something with him?!?
Posted by BCJ
Do you ever think he will want a relationship with me when he does feel ready though by his actions and what he has said?!?
I'm giving him all the space he needs and not contacting him, but still flirting back when he does.
I don't wanna hang around if he won't ever want anything with me down the line. Surely he would just be honest with me and tell me if he doesn't see anything with me when he's ready instead of stringing me along knowing I like him and want something with him?!?
why do u keep writing the same thing over and over again?
is your mercury in pisces?
Posted by DMVPosted by BCJ
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He told me he really liked me, but he wasn't ready emotionally or in the head for anything. He said all he could offer me right now is friendship.
boom. Answered your own question.
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heres your own answer again. he wants NOTHING down the line.
"stringing me along" - dont dare put that on him. your stringing yourself along.
Sorry, but don't know how you can say he wants nothing down the line when he is showing interest n getting jealous
Posted by BCJ
Sorry, but don't know how you can say he wants nothing down the line when he is showing interest n getting jealous
sorry, but i dont know how your drawing that the man wants a relationship when hes clearly told you that he doesnt.
he's not showing interest, hes being friendly. lawda mercy, were friendly people. he just wants to be friends.
F-R-I-E-N-D-S
Posted by BCJ
Sorry, but don't know how you can say he wants nothing down the line when he is showing interest n getting jealous
That's the part you don't get. Yeah he's interested but he's afraid. He probably loves the good part of you. So he feels that by fully committing, the good times would end because of what he's been through. So he'd rather keep it this way and have it stay positive than to commit and it changes. One thing about is is that we don't realize we have the power to change things and keep them positive ....that takes commitment and work. Something we don't like because we can't be as laid back and carefree...you know...roam which means coming in and out when we choose...loosing our freedom because we know that most will not allow that and its understandable. The sad thing is if you truly act like you love someone and take care of their needs...they actually will give you that space when you need it because they love you. It can't just be your way because you're scared.
I've definitely done this to someone before.
The reason he's being this way is because he is attracted to you. He just doesn't know if its worth it for the potential hurt. I feel like Sags run a cost-benefit analysis in their heads for all major decisions. We aren't indecisive, we just don't want to make the wrong decisions, duh :p Seriously though, that's kind of what this is. He's trying to figure out A. how attracted he is to you B. How much of a chance it has of working or not and C. If either of those other two factors outweigh his serious risk aversion that he's trying to use in order to protect himself. We don't like getting hurt...once is enough. We don't make that mistake twice. But, because of that, it turns us into "indecisive" non-commitall trouble makers. We also don't want to say no outright because we worry about your feelings no matter how we feel about you. We hate to hurt others. I feel like your only real option is to give it some time. Although if he starts putting out signals that indicate he wants more than friendship, you should try to talk to him about it and see if you can't convince him that you won't hurt him. You won't, not 100% , but if you can make him feel any more secure in the decision, you might get the answer you want. After all, we also hate uncertainty when it comes to other people's actions.
The reason he's being this way is because he is attracted to you. He just doesn't know if its worth it for the potential hurt. I feel like Sags run a cost-benefit analysis in their heads for all major decisions. We aren't indecisive, we just don't want to make the wrong decisions, duh :p Seriously though, that's kind of what this is. He's trying to figure out A. how attracted he is to you B. How much of a chance it has of working or not and C. If either of those other two factors outweigh his serious risk aversion that he's trying to use in order to protect himself. We don't like getting hurt...once is enough. We don't make that mistake twice. But, because of that, it turns us into "indecisive" non-commitall trouble makers. We also don't want to say no outright because we worry about your feelings no matter how we feel about you. We hate to hurt others. I feel like your only real option is to give it some time. Although if he starts putting out signals that indicate he wants more than friendship, you should try to talk to him about it and see if you can't convince him that you won't hurt him. You won't, not 100% , but if you can make him feel any more secure in the decision, you might get the answer you want. After all, we also hate uncertainty when it comes to other people's actions.
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