confused by sagittarius guy

he sounds like he wants to hit it and you saying no, which is ok, kinda put the brakes on things.

Something in the 3rd paragraph is not clear...did y'all have sex on the 2nd date?

^^^^ only Tension I guess, Wynty.

So how many days are passed now?

"I asked if I said or did anything wrong but he just casually says everything's ok.... nothing's wrong, everything's fine"

it smells of a dead horse.

you made three mistakes (for my taste)
1. making time for him after you said you date already someone else.
2. kiss and blabla
3. asking if you did something wrong (the worst. he is not bf. that question make you seem needy).

good things you did:
truth about the other guy
not going to his place

what to do in future?
- wait.
- decide about the other guy.

maybe he is busy with other stuff. maybe he is a player (despite or for his Moon). his moon may make him slow down.

men could choose a not better looking girl for good or devil reasons. at this stage the information level is very low. you cannot judge if he is sincere or just a lost soul. be harder on him in your mind and check what is so good about him.

Thank you everyone for your input!! 🙂

@Wynter No, we have not slept together.

@Dwellingonmove it's been 2 days. You're right, I should be harder on him and find out more of what's good about him. Well, he asked me to meet like 4 times before I agreed and everything was pretty platonic till the 3rd date.

@Dontgetmewrong he did joke about me breaking his heart over text once and i told him that it won't happen. But it's hard to say as we joke A LOT. Are you Sagittarius?

I did tell him that I was not sure about the other guy and will probably end things soon. I'm not sure what kind of signals to give regarding showing my interest. Well, I respond to his texts throughout the day... and he told me 5 traits he liked about me and I told him 5 traits I liked about him... surely that means something?

I will admit that being Capricorn, I can be subtle at times but I don't want to come across as needy as far as possible, unless the other party is equally needy.

@HoneyDip
Thanks for your advice. It's what I plan to do for now too. Although, I am pretty sure he knows I feel the same. A kiss says something, no?

" A kiss says something, no?"

It depends on the cultureal codex.
environment. age. gender.

I was shocked when I first time saw in a New Year's Eve party of high schoolers how girls kissed one boy and then another one.

Some people are saints in their 20ies and become s.lu.ts later.
Some people are s.lu.ts in their 20ies and become saints later.
Some people stay always saints.
Some are always s.lu.ts.

The book cover doesn't say anything.

"he asked me to meet like 4 times"
No matter what happens you stay critical and look beyond the words&actions. You are the woman. Flattering/chasing is nothing. Real life tests are much more important than this. It's not a movie.

Alternatively you can say "it's too much responsibility to watch and be critical", I just wanna have fun. It's your choice. Some Gems, Pisces, Aries and Aqua people have built their family based on "being just relaxed and take it as it comes".

There are more than one successful approach.

i don't get why everyone is saying show him you are interested. the op is going on dates with him, isn't that showing interest? the fact he backed away is because she said no to going to his place and he was going to be away. my guess is he will contact you again when he is back from his vacation. and if he really is upset that you said no to staying at his place, maybe you need to think about him again. a person really interested in you should not be hurrying on what he wants. but also, op what about the other guy, you are dating him so technically you are not available. think about that too.

Posted by DwellingOnMove

"he asked me to meet like 4 times"
No matter what happens you stay critical and look beyond the words&actions. You are the woman. Flattering/chasing is nothing. Real life tests are much more important than this. It's not a movie.

Alternatively you can say "it's too much responsibility to watch and be critical", I just wanna have fun. It's your choice. Some Gems, Pisces, Aries and Aqua people have built their family based on "being just relaxed and take it as it comes".

There are more than one successful approach.

^^this

I agree with Puhleeze. You've been out with him 4 times and have even kissed, I'm sure he knows you're interested. Probably even more now, because when you met you told him you were dating someone, then you told him of your intentions of breaking up with that person after you guys have been out a couple of times AND you asked if you did or said anything wrong, because you hadn't heard from him. Trust, he knows!

It does sound a little like he just wants some. He ended the date, but wanted you to come over to his house and you haven't heard from him since...

Pump your brakes.

hey everyone,

thanks for replying and your input. So, after a couple weeks of not speaking to each other he wrote me again and asked how i was. In the end i decided to ask him why he just stopped contacting me, etc. Apparently, he thought I was angry at him for having to leave early the last time we saw each other and he didn't know what to do or say. More messages were exchanged and he started to ask me out a few times but only today did I agree to see him (as I've been a bit occupied with work lately). Well, he has asked to see me again soon and he kissed me goodnight and.... texts are back on.

Still feel a little confused and I just hope he doesn't have a new reason to disappear again. I'm Capricorn... so probably can't deal much with this. On verra!

@bnr7013

You might just be right ha ha! 🙂

Eventually i had to just do my own thing and pretend he's gone and.... lo' & behold! he's back.

However, I'm gonna not be as available as i was before now. 🙂

@bnr7013

You might just be right ha ha! 🙂

Eventually i had to just do my own thing and pretend he's gone and.... lo' & behold! he's back.

However, I'm gonna not be as available as i was before now. 🙂