Confused Libra chick about Sag Guy! Help!
This topic was created in the Sagittarius forum by octobergirl18 on Friday, March 15, 2013 and has 3 replies.
Hey everyone! this is my first post and I want to lay out the facts about this guy I'm friends with and possibly seeing? He's confusing as hell even though I pretty much have him figured out as of RIGHT now haha. anyways he's a sagittarius and I'm a libra and of course I've done my fair share of research, while contemplating my every move because who knew sag guys could be so sensitive?!
So the story is we met in high school and dated for a couple months, which only really affects our future in the sense that his girlfriend in HS ended up becoming my best friend (the break up didnt end so well) and that only made things a little weird for him, not us though. Anyways, I haven't talked to him in yeaaaarrrss and in late November sometime he messages me on facebook about how awesome it is that I'm so into basketball to the point where I can talk to him about it like any other dude haha and after that the relationship took off. At the time I had a boyfriend of 3 years, cancer man, and we had been going through our constant fights and mood swings.
Eventually me and the sag guy go out to a bar and watch the game, totally friendly and fun! I was definitely shy at times, but he's always been hilarious (shocker) and that helped a lot. A week later we hang out again, (him pursuing me by the way, and texting ME first) and we have a lovely time and we go back to his place and watch tv and then woah.. we're cuddling and then we kinda hook up?! I've never cheated before that and never even thought of it, so that was a huge surprise! Shortly after was New Years, he was still extremely cute and constantly texting me throughout the days. But boy was January a tough month! Me and my boyfriend eventually end it, I really couldn't handle it anymore although I still feel extremely guilty about it all.
So to sum up January, sag guy is cute while I was in Vegas for a weekend, I come back, he withdrawals a little, jump starting my anxiety roller coaster! We eventually hook up again, AFTER he gives me my "late Christmas gift" which, you named it, was a poem! It was adorable and sweet and all that, and after that I start to experience a side I have come to know tooo too well.
So what I've learned by my experiencing this, if I ever insinuate hang out it won't happen?! I have to wait for him to ask ME, which I understand now but still come on! I eventually confronted him about what this little thing was between us and he said he likes me but we're just good friends an
So the story is we met in high school and dated for a couple months, which only really affects our future in the sense that his girlfriend in HS ended up becoming my best friend (the break up didnt end so well) and that only made things a little weird for him, not us though. Anyways, I haven't talked to him in yeaaaarrrss and in late November sometime he messages me on facebook about how awesome it is that I'm so into basketball to the point where I can talk to him about it like any other dude haha and after that the relationship took off. At the time I had a boyfriend of 3 years, cancer man, and we had been going through our constant fights and mood swings.
Eventually me and the sag guy go out to a bar and watch the game, totally friendly and fun! I was definitely shy at times, but he's always been hilarious (shocker) and that helped a lot. A week later we hang out again, (him pursuing me by the way, and texting ME first) and we have a lovely time and we go back to his place and watch tv and then woah.. we're cuddling and then we kinda hook up?! I've never cheated before that and never even thought of it, so that was a huge surprise! Shortly after was New Years, he was still extremely cute and constantly texting me throughout the days. But boy was January a tough month! Me and my boyfriend eventually end it, I really couldn't handle it anymore although I still feel extremely guilty about it all.
So to sum up January, sag guy is cute while I was in Vegas for a weekend, I come back, he withdrawals a little, jump starting my anxiety roller coaster! We eventually hook up again, AFTER he gives me my "late Christmas gift" which, you named it, was a poem! It was adorable and sweet and all that, and after that I start to experience a side I have come to know tooo too well.
So what I've learned by my experiencing this, if I ever insinuate hang out it won't happen?! I have to wait for him to ask ME, which I understand now but still come on! I eventually confronted him about what this little thing was between us and he said he likes me but we're just good friends an
Well to me it sounds like he liked you, pursued you, even though he knew you had a boyfriend, and was able to get the goodies. Maybe he was thinking you would stay with your dude and he would be able to play around a little, nothing serious. Now that you have dumped your dude, things have changed on his end because he wasn't expecting anything to come of it. Even the withdrawal thing seems to me like he was just busy.
Your talking about December and January but it is now March so I'm a little confused about the gap in time.
It seems like when he initiates, he knows it's on a friendly/sexual level but he may think that you are trying to make it relationship status and that could be the reason he ignores you.
Your talking about December and January but it is now March so I'm a little confused about the gap in time.
It seems like when he initiates, he knows it's on a friendly/sexual level but he may think that you are trying to make it relationship status and that could be the reason he ignores you.
I would just keep this relationship platonic from now on because he doesn't seem like he wants to commit. Now that you are single, if you want to keep having sex with him, you need to act like a friend and not like you are falling in love and looking for extras. Men run from that, especially when they weren't expecting that type of relationship. If he said you guys are just good friends, then that's what he means. Sex doesn't change the opinion, even if it is good sex. It still mean friends with benefits. He may start ignoring you if you start acting like you want a relationship.
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