Don't want to hurt his feelings.

The sag I've been hanging out with is very clear about not believing in monogamy, I think he's been disappointed before.

We kiss and cuddle, he seems to feel weird the morning after and at school because I don't do PDA unless I'm in a relationship. He basically just follows me around and tries to be nonchalant about it....

Seems to confuse him.

He also makes odd points of my ex of 6 years and another of 3, as if they weren't important to me or something.

He also acts like I'm not going to see him again of my own choice.

I usually just flatter him at some point after and that seems to smooth him over.

Why do some people say they don't want a monogamous relationship but still try to adhere to the progression of those behaviors?

I don't see anything special about people overcoming emotional boundaries they set on themselves.

I think that you are a confusing person. Youre title has nothing to do with what you wrote.

I think you contradict yourself to him which is why he make those passive aggressive jabs at exes. And shut him out in public.

Even your last sentence is just weird.

Shyt you confuse me and i dont want to sleep with you.

He just seems put off by me not wanting to hug him goodbye or be super engaging with him in class or durning break. He's a student instructor for my math class and I would find it uncomfortable.

I'm sorry, I'm asexual and autistic so I try to be clear about my boundaries but they still seem to confuse people.

It seems like he wants me to be very openly affectionate and not expect a relationship.

I'm ok being affectionate when we are alone, and by no means want to expect a relationship, or even ask for much of his time.

I found it hurtful, he jabs in public. Super passive aggressive..

Interesting. You guys sound like you want different things. Go find someone who is more compatible.

He gets passive aggressive because hes frustrated with the sitiuation. Its how he lashes out. He doesnt want to yell and scream so he chooses other methods of communication.

Posted by Plagued
Why not let the little doggy chase his tail in another yard?

Yes. It might be that time

Posted by PhytoLilith
He just seems put off by me not wanting to hug him goodbye or be super engaging with him in class or durning break. He's a student instructor for my math class and I would find it uncomfortable.

I'm sorry, I'm asexual and autistic so I try to be clear about my boundaries but they still seem to confuse people.

It seems like he wants me to be very openly affectionate and not expect a relationship.

I'm ok being affectionate when we are alone, and by no means want to expect a relationship, or even ask for much of his time.

I found it hurtful, he jabs in public. Super passive aggressive..

That's exactly what he wants.

You seem confused that someone can be affectionate outside of a monogamous relationship.

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Posted by PhytoLilith
He just seems put off by me not wanting to hug him goodbye or be super engaging with him in class or durning break. He's a student instructor for my math class and I would find it uncomfortable.

I'm sorry, I'm asexual and autistic so I try to be clear about my boundaries but they still seem to confuse people.

It seems like he wants me to be very openly affectionate and not expect a relationship.

I'm ok being affectionate when we are alone, and by no means want to expect a relationship, or even ask for much of his time.

I found it hurtful, he jabs in public. Super passive aggressive..

That's exactly what he wants.

You seem confused that someone can be affectionate outside of a monogamous relationship.

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Yeah, and that actually doesn't sit well with me because that is highly unempathetic

I feel sad I can't give the kind of love and affection this person would like.

I should just curl up with a ball python. Less fuss

Sags always plan an escape route, we suck at planning to stick around. That doesn't mean he doesn't care about you. You probably have about 4 days and he is gonna ride out. We sags want our passion anywhere at any time if you restrict it, it's interpreted as a loss of freedom. Don't worry it will be over quick. I personally avoid labels but I'm very loyal and honest. Holler at me in 4 days I got 18 cents I bet he bolts.

Posted by PhytoLilith
I feel sad I can't give the kind of love and affection this person would like.

I should just curl up with a ball python. Less fuss

It's not love he's missing. The fiery sparks and curiosity of a new relationship. Sags love humor and spontaneous things. Passion and the new adventure. Your pda rule, I find strange, like he does. It's like you care more about outsiders opinions rather than someone who cares about you. Your giving him what he wants, just behind closed doors. If I was him I'd probably call you soon and forget to call.

Just hurt his feelings, who cares.

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Posted by PhytoLilith
I feel sad I can't give the kind of love and affection this person would like.

I should just curl up with a ball python. Less fuss

It's not love he's missing. The fiery sparks and curiosity of a new relationship. Sags love humor and spontaneous things. Passion and the new adventure. Your pda rule, I find strange, like he does. It's like you care more about outsiders opinions rather than someone who cares about you. Your giving him what he wants, just behind closed doors. If I was him I'd probably call you soon and forget to call.

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I would too.. I don't mix well with people who can't tell the difference from the person who cares about you and the rest of the World..

even if I'm not exclusively yours, if we are fooling around etc... I'll still be the same way, I need passion. Sag's need passion... any fire sign to be exact.

Not vulnerable, it's just inappropriate. PDA is a form of possession.

He set the standard for saying he doesn't want a monogamous relationship, so in my opinion he doesn't get to set the social boundaries. What if someone who would be more interested in me wants to approach me but his body language suggests that we are pair bonded?

It would be manipulative for him to expect me close around males and undesirable females but when a women of his taste arrives expects me to be on the sideline.

I maintain the boundaries for the respect of us both.

Perhaps it is a matter of pride. Some people might feel loss that someone wouldn't want to possess them, especially if they're a great person.

He honestly is the best guy friend i have had in a while, very attentive and considerate otherwise.

His verbal jabs seem experimental if anything now.

Yeah, being asexual and autistic makes interpreting emotions like navigating an active mine field for me.

I'm very clinical in that I don't get carried away with my own emotions and people can see that as very detached. :/ I just want to be sensitive and as accurate as possible.

He may just get bored of me, I would be sad of course but honestly the sponteneity of getting to know each other is gone and at this point he just extends an open door invitation (I can go over to his house any day I want supposedly) I haven't taken his offer.

Honestly I think he's confused I'm not more infatuated and not testing boundaries to become more intimate.

Maybe if he would ask a sensitive question instead of barking questions about my personal life in public I would be more affectionate..

I agree with Swagittarius.

I am very genuine and passionate when we exist as two individuals behind closed doors.

He's obviously not trying to smash since he hasn't tried being pushy or sexually charged about getting his member out.

This is probably one of the healthier sexual friendships I've had.

I feel so lukewarm for an Aries

Aries Sun

Scorpio Rising

Capricorn Moon

Taurus Venus

I exist on two levels sexually

1. Don't touch me

2. Omg where are our bodies going?

Posted by PhytoLilith
I exist on two levels sexually

1. Don't touch me

2. Omg where are our bodies going?

Well of course he's testing you... with the jabs. If you seem detached and don't have emotions, he might see if he can bring you out of that shell...

And, you guys will have sex soon. Sparks will fly also.

He also gets uncomfortable that people pay for platonic dates with me, he seems insecure that I'm not charging him or something..

I told him he's more than welcome to give me money

It's actually really funny because he thinks feminism is not paying for dates.

He's cute and has paid for our pizza and drinks a few time begrudgingly

Seems to me.. like you like him.

Are you toying with him?

I do really like him, especially when he isn't fixated on my exes or platonic dates.

If he wants more intimacy or a relationship he's free to express that.

However he has maintained that he doesn't believe in monogamy, and that agrees with my life style currently as a platonic escort and as an asexual.

I'm just sad he might not find what he desires intimately.

It's obvious he doesn't want to just hookup

I can be sensual and genuine in that, but he might not find fulfillment in how that's expressed

Humm.. you think a lot.. a lot lot lot...

I can tell, because I overthink everything also.

He is supportive of ball python solution, so clearly is a fine individual.

However I must back up some savings if I'm to get a companion.

Aries sun

Scorpio rising

Capricorn moon

Taurus Venus

He's just a student instructor, like an in class tutor.

I just don't think it's appropriate to express overt romantic, sexual, or personal behaviors in a classroom dynamic.

He and a few other male students have had physiological reactions to me giving them too much attention..

we sags are known for making points

wether we like u or not hate u or love u

so if he makes points abt ur exes no biggy

we sags are monogamous when it comes to marriage real love commitments

not flings one night stands