How do you deal with an impossible Saggitarius?

I'm a Libra I was in a 4 month relationship with a Sagg. She recently broke up with me, went to her ex. We still keep in contact, its really minimum.
She tells me she is miserable in this relationship but yet she still loves her current girlfriend but yet she plans to break up with her eventually. I feel like she is getting revenge on me when she tells me in detail what her and her girlfriend do. I admit, I wasn't the best girlfriend and I know she's doing this out of spite.

I don't know if its her moon in cancer whose making her to be really immature or what. She's just keeping me around as an option when it does end?

She knows I still love her. What is a girl to do?

It ends when you stop enabling her to string you along, cut contact, move on....she's not going to dump her girlfriend for you, why would she do that when it's clear you have no boundaries, no pride, no self respect and being her doormat, she has no respect for you b/c your not respecting yourself and no respect for self equals UNATTRACTIVE, she's not attracted to you b/c your behaving like an unattractive desperate fool over her.

She's stringing you along, IMO respect yourself and dump her for good, there is someone in the world that won't be this way with you, will respect, love and appreciate you.

Misery (Her) loves company (You).....Stop being miserable and go date other people, go have fun, let her dwell in her misery ALONE.

Dynamite, its hard to see that she's untrustworthy, I didn't see that before. It's always good to get perspective on any issue, its so hard when emotions are involved.

Thanks Tiki, I think you're right, harsh but right. I needed that.
I gave her the benefit of the doubt for too long. I thought she needed a friend and I was going to be there for her. I feel bad for the breakup still because I wasn't a loving enough girlfriend but for how long should it be held over my head? I didn't contact her for so long but I thought I'd give it one more shot. I guess not! No more moments of weakness for this slew. I'm so done.


Aw, the truth hurts but I'll get over it.

You seem really sweet crudemood, we all make mistakes, you really can't make up for the past mistakes you made, all you can do is be better with the next girl that comes into your life...You shouldn't have to suffer and lose your pride and respect trying to prove yourself, don't allow her to use you like that...You couldn't have been any worse than the woman she's with now b/c she's now in a new miserable relationship so maybe she's the problem (not you or this new lover), maybe she brings out the worse in people and then portrays herself as the victim (something to think about)...

She clearly has issues, best to leave her to it and start new with someone else. I doubt she's miserable or she would get out, time to cut contact (only b/c it seems she's contacting you to spite you not to really be there for you) and maybe in the future if the love is still there you both can reconcile and try again.

Plus how can you trust someone that wants revenge...That's so not good and will eat at your self esteem.

Oh, Tiki, this is something I should know. I feel awful but she is treating me like sh*t and I was too blind to see it. I have to admit, it does hurt to not have love returned. Your right it isn't attractive to have her use me like that. I guess love makes you do stupid things and makes you blind to them especially.

I knew from the beginning about what I'm supposed to do but I just wasn't doing it. Its time to disappear from this girls life forever.

You've said some truth that I never wanted to hear bear but makes so much sense. I think the hardest part is not contacting her but like you said , if I respect myself, I won't. Yeah, I did make mistakes which I'm sorry for she knows it and if she's going to use it against me forever then its best I walk away isn't it?

To be honest, I was trying to win her back so that I can hurt her as much as she hurt me. I know its petty but I want her to know how it feels because apparently she has never had her heart broken like that before.

I really appreciate your input on this Tiki.

Petty maybe but it's definitely not healthy to behave this way...It's time to grow up and move on, love is not pain, love is not about getting revenge b/c they hurt you, you are not practicing love if your ultimate goal is to get her back to hurt her...Stop the whole pain cycle, it's not worth it and it doesn't prove anything to anyone....If all you both wanna do is treat each other like shit then it can't be love sounds more like hate and anger to me.

Good luck, I hope you can move on from this eventually.

Posted by crudemood
I'm a Libra I was in a 4 month relationship with a Sagg. She recently broke up with me, went to her ex. We still keep in contact, its really minimum.

How typical. :/
I would just move on if I were you. She's in love with her ex...she's not going to leave her

Hey guys, I needed that hard kick in the ass.

Thank you Tiki, Dynamite and Brianfay. =D

Whenever I get a moment of weakness all I'm going to do is reread this thread again and again as a reminder.


I have taken your advice into consideration. I appreciate it all. Thanks, giving you all e-hugs. =]