Make a plan in Advance!

Why can't a Sag seem to make a plan in advance and why do you have to make every decision such a big production? Every Sag I know, man or woman always has to "let me know later" when I ask them to do something or invite them to something. I can't help but take it personally even though they tell me it's not. It's just so rude to keep people hanging like that. It makes me stop asking and then I get calls saying "Don't you love me anymore? Why didn't you ask me to go?" like it's my fault. It's like you have to be begged or something. You have to be dragged to whatever it is kicking and screaming and then when you get there you have an awesome time. It is so exhausting for us people who can commit to a plan. I really want to understand this behavior because other than that I love my Sags and I don't want to not be friends or lovers with them anymore.

What goes through your mind when someone asks you to do something and you look at your schedule and it's free. Why don't you just say O.K. Do you think a better option might come along? Are you afraid you will not feel like going at the last minute and want to cancel so you think you are doing me a favor by not giving me an answer right away because that is less rude than canceling? Do you want to be begged?? What is it?? I need to find a way to not take it personally and not think that you are being rude or my sag days are over. Especially in the relationship department.

We just never know whats gonna be happing. It's our logic. Don't take it personal🙂

That's it? That's all I get?? LOL!!!

LOL! gslove, what kind of answer are you looking for?🙂

"LOL! gslove, what kind of answer are you looking for?"

I don't know!! I'm looking for how do I get you to give me a straight answer I guess. What do I have to say to make you just say yes I would love to go and not make up some excuse. Most of the time you end up going anyway so why not just commit? I'm having this problem with my sag boyfriend so I was asking my my Sag girl friend about this yesterday and I was teasing her about all the lies she makes up when I ask her to do something. I ask her to do something and she says. "I don't know, my dog might get sick so I will have to let you know." She just laughed and she admitted that she is like this and she doesn't know why. She said it has driven every boyfriend she has ever had crazy. I asked to take a guy that I just started to date again to take him out for a birthday dinner and he said "That sounds good, I will let you know tomorrow, I might have my child." He told me last week that he never has his kid on the weekend so he is just making stuff up, but when we are together he tells me he loves me so you think he would be excited to see me.

Yes, Rivendell I am a Scorp which is why It's just so confusing to me because when I do that to somebody (which I do) it is because I don't like them and I am avoiding them. I AM purposely being rude because I don't care. When I like someone and they ask me out I say "yes" if I'm free. I don't have to think about it and lie to the people I love. There are times when I just can't make a decision about going somewhere though and on those times I just tell the truth. I just say.

"I'm not sure how I feel about doing that let me think about it and I will let you know. If you need an answer right now then I will have to say no. Go ahead and ask someone else or make your own plans if you need to"

I think that is what bothers me the most is the lying part. Just so you Sags know everybody knows that you are lying. You are not fooling anybody. 😉

Yes, sometimes and I HATE to admit this. But sag's are like libra's in the sense they want to please.

^^ True.

Great advice!! I will try that next time. I'm sure it won't work every time though so I will have to pick and choose my times to do that carefully. 🙂 I'm still not sure if I can deal with this, but at least I understand it a bit more. I also have to look at myself and my issue with feelings of rejection.