More talkative but lacking eye contact

This topic was created in the Sagittarius forum by backnforth on Wednesday, June 3, 2020 and has 35 replies.
This guy and I have been having a secret (bc of work, we are both looking to leave) flirtation for a while. I (cap sun, scorp moon, cap venus) was more blunt to him (sag sun, Pisces moon, cap venus) about my attraction. He is talking to me more, being more open and forthcoming but even though he looks at me when he thinks I can't see him, he won't give direct eye contact. I want to be like 'dude wtf?', but I feel I should let him be to gather himself. Thoughts, please?
Be blunt and ask him why he can't take his eyes off you Big Grin
Posted by saggurl88

Be blunt and ask him why he can't take his eyes off you Big Grin


😁 next time I catch him I might just do that!
Posted by alexscaries

I'm not a big eye contact person. I sort of save it for when it's needed, plus I subconsciously think I intimidate people which could be false.
I feel like that a lot.

We were always stealing quick bouts of eye contact until last week when I was a little more forward. I've caught him looking at me since but he has literally come and sat in front of me unprompted and had a conversation where he didn't look at me once; which is unusual.
He is hiding his feelings. Whatever they are. Pretty Obvious.
Posted by sagaciouscorp

They are not Scorpio s with the eye contact lol
Yeah. I definitely try to not over do it with the eye contact with him because my Scorpio moon burns holes in people's souls 🤣
Posted by Lostthoughts

He is hiding his feelings. Whatever they are. Pretty Obvious.
I figured that...
Posted by backnforth
Posted by Lostthoughts

He is hiding his feelings. Whatever they are. Pretty Obvious.


I figured that...
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So what are you asking, how to get him to stop doing that? What you guys mars and mercury?
He is torn between the potential of breaking the bedpost with you vs the very real possibility that (in his mind) he may lose his job for doing so.

He is playing it safe as I would too since he doesnt know if you're going to jump out and accuse him of harassment or not

I definitely would be much less obvious with my interest if it were me. He is already being risky when if it was any other woman might complain about him being creepy. Even if he is not intending to be
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Posted by backnforth
Posted by Lostthoughts

He is hiding his feelings. Whatever they are. Pretty Obvious.
I figured that...

So what are you asking, how to get him to stop doing that? What you guys mars and mercury?
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His Mars and mercury are sag.

My Mars is Leo. Mercury is sag.
I stare women deep in the eyes until they look away, it's one of my talents
Posted by backnforth
Posted by saggurl88

Be blunt and ask him why he can't take his eyes off you Big Grin


😁 next time I catch him I might just do that!
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He’ll probably just laugh, if you say it in a cute/funny way.

Watch for the shyness ☺️
Posted by backnforth
Posted by Lostthoughts
Posted by backnforth
Posted by Lostthoughts

He is hiding his feelings. Whatever they are. Pretty Obvious.


I figured that...

So what are you asking, how to get him to stop doing that? What you guys mars and mercury?


His Mars and mercury are sag.

My Mars is Leo. Mercury is sag.
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You didn't openly say you flirt with him, so start there. Not with real intention at first, start with being playful. Honestly shy guys can be really thick in general when it comes to these things. Being at work means we are less likely to take chances as well. Starting off playful to get him to relax will help a lot. Eventually after you start making eye contact more regularly, ask him out if your sure about dating him. Assuming he does beat you to the punch. Honestly it's really hard now a days to engage someone on a personal level. There is real fear of losing your job if your not 100% the feelings aren't mutual. People first at work for entertainment too.

There is this one trick a girl did too me long ago that I will always remember. She said I had something in my eye and to hold still. She grabbed my chin and and got really close to me. Then she told me look straight forward which a course her eyes where LMAO. She had the grin on her face and I just broke right then and there.
If he’s a Pisces moon, he may just be more sensitive to direct eye contact. I have my moon in the 12th and though I do look people in the eyes when speaking, some people make me very uncomfortable with theirs. Like I can feel what they are thinking through that or something. Idk it’s very intimate though most people see it as a sign of confidence. I ignore the feeling of wanting to look away sometimes and I feel like I’m just acting dumb. It’s weird. I have days where I wear sunglasses everywhere including inside, like I don’t have the energy to be that intimate with anyone. It’s very relaxing on those days.
I've like almost every Cap I've met. It's weird
Posted by Snakes_N_Ladders

He's shy and you have Scorp moon cap sun death stare.
That's why I try to follow his cues for eye contact. I know I can be INTENSE 👁️
Posted by slowdive80

He is torn between the potential of breaking the bedpost with you vs the very real possibility that (in his mind) he may lose his job for doing so.

He is playing it safe as I would too since he doesnt know if you're going to jump out and accuse him of harassment or not

I definitely would be much less obvious with my interest if it were me. He is already being risky when if it was any other woman might complain about him being creepy. Even if he is not intending to be
Yeah. I've been mindful of that because he could lose not only his job but his career. I'm not asking for anything more until one of us leaves, because of that. He has been known to turn people he works with down point blank. He hasn't with me. I'm technically a client. He doesn't work directly with me. Any crossing over he has made sure to avoid. I've been assigned here and as soon as my tenure is up someone else will be assigned here. He has told me a few times that he wants to spend time with me when either he or I leave.
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Posted by backnforth
Posted by Lostthoughts
Posted by backnforth
Posted by Lostthoughts

He is hiding his feelings. Whatever they are. Pretty Obvious.


I figured that...

So what are you asking, how to get him to stop doing that? What you guys mars and mercury?


His Mars and mercury are sag.

My Mars is Leo. Mercury is sag.

You didn't openly say you flirt with him, so start there. Not with real intention at first, start with being playful. Honestly shy guys can be really thick in general when it comes to these things. Being at work means we are less likely to take chances as well. Starting off playful to get him to relax will help a lot. Eventually after you start making eye contact more regularly, ask him out if your sure about dating him. Assuming he does beat you to the punch. Honestly it's really hard now a days to engage someone on a personal level. There is real fear of losing your job if your not 100% the feelings aren't mutual. People first at work for entertainment too.

There is this one trick a girl did too me long ago that I will always remember. She said I had something in my eye and to hold still. She grabbed my chin and and got really close to me. Then she told me look straight forward which a course her eyes where LMAO. She had the grin on her face and I just broke right then and there.
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I actually had planned to do something along those lines in the last paragraph either on our last day together at work or the first day we hang out together after we've left the job lol

I should add the thing that caused the change was I called him sexy. Prior to that I let it be known I was interested in pursuing a relationship and he was fine. He has started giving a little eye contact again and is still talkative and open otherwise. I'm still sensing shyness though.
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Posted by saggurl88

Be blunt and ask him why he can't take his eyes off you Big Grin


😁 next time I catch him I might just do that!


He’ll probably just laugh, if you say it in a cute/funny way.

Watch for the shyness ☺️
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I didn't do it because people were around. I knew he was going to look at me so I looked at him with a smile and when he looked at me he faltered a little, did his usual trick of trying not to smile, then looked away.
Posted by HearttofTopazz

Tell him to look you right in the pupils if he wants you

I bet he’ll find a way to make eye contact
He's away for 2 weeks so I'll see when he comes back.
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Posted by backnforth
Posted by Lostthoughts

He is hiding his feelings. Whatever they are. Pretty Obvious.


I figured that...

So what are you asking, how to get him to stop doing that? What you guys mars and mercury?


His Mars and mercury are sag.

My Mars is Leo. Mercury is sag.

You didn't openly say you flirt with him, so start there. Not with real intention at first, start with being playful. Honestly shy guys can be really thick in general when it comes to these things. Being at work means we are less likely to take chances as well. Starting off playful to get him to relax will help a lot. Eventually after you start making eye contact more regularly, ask him out if your sure about dating him. Assuming he does beat you to the punch. Honestly it's really hard now a days to engage someone on a personal level. There is real fear of losing your job if your not 100% the feelings aren't mutual. People first at work for entertainment too.

There is this one trick a girl did too me long ago that I will always remember. She said I had something in my eye and to hold still. She grabbed my chin and and got really close to me. Then she told me look straight forward which a course her eyes where LMAO. She had the grin on her face and I just broke right then and there.


I actually had planned to do something along those lines in the last paragraph either on our last day together at work or the first day we hang out together after we've left the job lol

I should add the thing that caused the change was I called him sexy. Prior to that I let it be known I was interested in pursuing a relationship and he was fine. He has started giving a little eye contact again and is still talkative and open otherwise. I'm still sensing shyness though.
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why wait last minute? When he gets a bit more comfortable, give him a some more pokes lol

Dare him to go have some fun with you outside of work :-)

Posted by Lostthoughts
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Posted by Lostthoughts
Posted by backnforth
Posted by Lostthoughts

He is hiding his feelings. Whatever they are. Pretty Obvious.


I figured that...

So what are you asking, how to get him to stop doing that? What you guys mars and mercury?


His Mars and mercury are sag.

My Mars is Leo. Mercury is sag.

You didn't openly say you flirt with him, so start there. Not with real intention at first, start with being playful. Honestly shy guys can be really thick in general when it comes to these things. Being at work means we are less likely to take chances as well. Starting off playful to get him to relax will help a lot. Eventually after you start making eye contact more regularly, ask him out if your sure about dating him. Assuming he does beat you to the punch. Honestly it's really hard now a days to engage someone on a personal level. There is real fear of losing your job if your not 100% the feelings aren't mutual. People first at work for entertainment too.

There is this one trick a girl did too me long ago that I will always remember. She said I had something in my eye and to hold still. She grabbed my chin and and got really close to me. Then she told me look straight forward which a course her eyes where LMAO. She had the grin on her face and I just broke right then and there.


I actually had planned to do something along those lines in the last paragraph either on our last day together at work or the first day we hang out together after we've left the job lol

I should add the thing that caused the change was I called him sexy. Prior to that I let it be known I was interested in pursuing a relationship and he was fine. He has started giving a little eye contact again and is still talkative and open otherwise. I'm still sensing shyness though.

why wait last minute? When he gets a bit more comfortable, give him a some more pokes lol

Dare him to go have some fun with you outside of work :-)
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He could get into a lot of trouble if we start something sooner. I think he has spoken to his boss about it too and they've advised him how to keep it professional while we're both still here. It's only for a few more weeks (couple months at the latest). Not too long ago he thought I was asking him about us and he told me he couldn't talk to me about it yet because of work. Then the lockdown happened.

It sucks but I felt like we were slowly getting to know and be comfortable with each other.
Cap Venus .. observing, checking you out, etc. doesn’t everyone do that? 😂😂
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Posted by backnforth
Posted by Lostthoughts

He is hiding his feelings. Whatever they are. Pretty Obvious.


I figured that...

So what are you asking, how to get him to stop doing that? What you guys mars and mercury?


His Mars and mercury are sag.

My Mars is Leo. Mercury is sag.

You didn't openly say you flirt with him, so start there. Not with real intention at first, start with being playful. Honestly shy guys can be really thick in general when it comes to these things. Being at work means we are less likely to take chances as well. Starting off playful to get him to relax will help a lot. Eventually after you start making eye contact more regularly, ask him out if your sure about dating him. Assuming he does beat you to the punch. Honestly it's really hard now a days to engage someone on a personal level. There is real fear of losing your job if your not 100% the feelings aren't mutual. People first at work for entertainment too.

There is this one trick a girl did too me long ago that I will always remember. She said I had something in my eye and to hold still. She grabbed my chin and and got really close to me. Then she told me look straight forward which a course her eyes where LMAO. She had the grin on her face and I just broke right then and there.


I actually had planned to do something along those lines in the last paragraph either on our last day together at work or the first day we hang out together after we've left the job lol

I should add the thing that caused the change was I called him sexy. Prior to that I let it be known I was interested in pursuing a relationship and he was fine. He has started giving a little eye contact again and is still talkative and open otherwise. I'm still sensing shyness though.

why wait last minute? When he gets a bit more comfortable, give him a some more pokes lol

Dare him to go have some fun with you outside of work :-)


He could get into a lot of trouble if we start something sooner. I think he has spoken to his boss about it too and they've advised him how to keep it professional while we're both still here. It's only for a few more weeks (couple months at the latest). Not too long ago he thought I was asking him about us and he told me he couldn't talk to me about it yet because of work. Then the lockdown happened.

It sucks but I felt like we were slowly getting to know and be comfortable with each other.
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Oh wow. This changes everything.

Please go easy on him with the flirting. Tell him you promise to be a good girl with no funny business until the job is over. He will relax almost instantly. He isn't shy. He is straight up trying to resist lmao.
Posted by PuzzlePieces

Cap Venus .. observing, checking you out, etc. doesn’t everyone do that? 😂😂

It's more then that with a cap Venus. They will watch what you prioritize too. It's part of cap's shit testing. Well at least with woman.
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Posted by PuzzlePieces

Cap Venus .. observing, checking you out, etc. doesn’t everyone do that? 😂😂

It's more then that with a cap Venus. They will watch what you prioritize too. It's part of cap's shit testing. Well at least with woman.
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Haha I know! I’m cap mercury, Venus & mars & i’m a Sag sun.. think i get it. Oh & I dated a Scorpio moon and it completely freaked him out.. He told me to stop watching him 😂😂
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Posted by PuzzlePieces

Cap Venus .. observing, checking you out, etc. doesn’t everyone do that? 😂😂

It's more then that with a cap Venus. They will watch what you prioritize too. It's part of cap's shit testing. Well at least with woman.


Haha I know! I’m cap mercury, Venus & mars & i’m a Sag sun.. think i get it. Oh & I dated a Scorpio moon and it completely freaked him out.. He told me to stop watching him 😂😂
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Haha that's classic.
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Posted by Lostthoughts
Posted by backnforth
Posted by Lostthoughts

He is hiding his feelings. Whatever they are. Pretty Obvious.


I figured that...

So what are you asking, how to get him to stop doing that? What you guys mars and mercury?


His Mars and mercury are sag.

My Mars is Leo. Mercury is sag.

You didn't openly say you flirt with him, so start there. Not with real intention at first, start with being playful. Honestly shy guys can be really thick in general when it comes to these things. Being at work means we are less likely to take chances as well. Starting off playful to get him to relax will help a lot. Eventually after you start making eye contact more regularly, ask him out if your sure about dating him. Assuming he does beat you to the punch. Honestly it's really hard now a days to engage someone on a personal level. There is real fear of losing your job if your not 100% the feelings aren't mutual. People first at work for entertainment too.

There is this one trick a girl did too me long ago that I will always remember. She said I had something in my eye and to hold still. She grabbed my chin and and got really close to me. Then she told me look straight forward which a course her eyes where LMAO. She had the grin on her face and I just broke right then and there.


I actually had planned to do something along those lines in the last paragraph either on our last day together at work or the first day we hang out together after we've left the job lol

I should add the thing that caused the change was I called him sexy. Prior to that I let it be known I was interested in pursuing a relationship and he was fine. He has started giving a little eye contact again and is still talkative and open otherwise. I'm still sensing shyness though.

why wait last minute? When he gets a bit more comfortable, give him a some more pokes lol

Dare him to go have some fun with you outside of work :-)


He could get into a lot of trouble if we start something sooner. I think he has spoken to his boss about it too and they've advised him how to keep it professional while we're both still here. It's only for a few more weeks (couple months at the latest). Not too long ago he thought I was asking him about us and he told me he couldn't talk to me about it yet because of work. Then the lockdown happened.

It sucks but I felt like we were slowly getting to know and be comfortable with each other.

Oh wow. This changes everything.

Please go easy on him with the flirting. Tell him you promise to be a good girl with no funny business until the job is over. He will relax almost instantly. He isn't shy. He is straight up trying to resist lmao.
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🤣 Trying to resist makes sense! He started telling me that he can cook and pushing into my conversations with other people, so the interest has increased. But avoiding eye contact because he is trying to resist totally makes sense. I don't flirt with him all the time. I was just compelled to tell him how sexy he is 😋
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Posted by PuzzlePieces

Cap Venus .. observing, checking you out, etc. doesn’t everyone do that? 😂😂

It's more then that with a cap Venus. They will watch what you prioritize too. It's part of cap's shit testing. Well at least with woman.


Haha I know! I’m cap mercury, Venus & mars & i’m a Sag sun.. think i get it. Oh & I dated a Scorpio moon and it completely freaked him out.. He told me to stop watching him 😂😂
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He definitely does observe. I don't mind being watched if it means he is interested in me. That could be because I'm a Leo mars tho 💃😂
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Posted by PuzzlePieces

Cap Venus .. observing, checking you out, etc. doesn’t everyone do that? 😂😂

It's more then that with a cap Venus. They will watch what you prioritize too. It's part of cap's shit testing. Well at least with woman.


Haha I know! I’m cap mercury, Venus & mars & i’m a Sag sun.. think i get it. Oh & I dated a Scorpio moon and it completely freaked him out.. He told me to stop watching him 😂😂


He definitely does observe. I don't mind being watched if it means he is interested in me. That could be because I'm a Leo mars tho 💃😂
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Lol 😂 I do very well with Leo Mars 😉

Ah it’s what we do. Have to figure things out first. But I also do better if the other person initiates. With Saggie I’m used to people getting my attention. So if I’m watching, it means you have my attention. Now for what reason? Lol I’d say initiate and find out.
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Posted by Lostthoughts

He is hiding his feelings. Whatever they are. Pretty Obvious.


I figured that...

So what are you asking, how to get him to stop doing that? What you guys mars and mercury?


His Mars and mercury are sag.

My Mars is Leo. Mercury is sag.

You didn't openly say you flirt with him, so start there. Not with real intention at first, start with being playful. Honestly shy guys can be really thick in general when it comes to these things. Being at work means we are less likely to take chances as well. Starting off playful to get him to relax will help a lot. Eventually after you start making eye contact more regularly, ask him out if your sure about dating him. Assuming he does beat you to the punch. Honestly it's really hard now a days to engage someone on a personal level. There is real fear of losing your job if your not 100% the feelings aren't mutual. People first at work for entertainment too.

There is this one trick a girl did too me long ago that I will always remember. She said I had something in my eye and to hold still. She grabbed my chin and and got really close to me. Then she told me look straight forward which a course her eyes where LMAO. She had the grin on her face and I just broke right then and there.


I actually had planned to do something along those lines in the last paragraph either on our last day together at work or the first day we hang out together after we've left the job lol

I should add the thing that caused the change was I called him sexy. Prior to that I let it be known I was interested in pursuing a relationship and he was fine. He has started giving a little eye contact again and is still talkative and open otherwise. I'm still sensing shyness though.

why wait last minute? When he gets a bit more comfortable, give him a some more pokes lol

Dare him to go have some fun with you outside of work :-)


He could get into a lot of trouble if we start something sooner. I think he has spoken to his boss about it too and they've advised him how to keep it professional while we're both still here. It's only for a few more weeks (couple months at the latest). Not too long ago he thought I was asking him about us and he told me he couldn't talk to me about it yet because of work. Then the lockdown happened.

It sucks but I felt like we were slowly getting to know and be comfortable with each other.

Oh wow. This changes everything.

Please go easy on him with the flirting. Tell him you promise to be a good girl with no funny business until the job is over. He will relax almost instantly. He isn't shy. He is straight up trying to resist lmao.


🤣 Trying to resist makes sense! He started telling me that he can cook and pushing into my conversations with other people, so the interest has increased. But avoiding eye contact because he is trying to resist totally makes sense. I don't flirt with him all the time. I was just compelled to tell him how sexy he is 😋
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I'm starting to get a clear picture. Lol poor guy. I've been in his shoes. Just let him know he has a chance when the job is over.

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Posted by Lostthoughts
Posted by PuzzlePieces

Cap Venus .. observing, checking you out, etc. doesn’t everyone do that? 😂😂

It's more then that with a cap Venus. They will watch what you prioritize too. It's part of cap's shit testing. Well at least with woman.


Haha I know! I’m cap mercury, Venus & mars & i’m a Sag sun.. think i get it. Oh & I dated a Scorpio moon and it completely freaked him out.. He told me to stop watching him 😂😂


He definitely does observe. I don't mind being watched if it means he is interested in me. That could be because I'm a Leo mars tho 💃😂


Lol 😂 I do very well with Leo Mars 😉

Ah it’s what we do. Have to figure things out first. But I also do better if the other person initiates. With Saggie I’m used to people getting my attention. So if I’m watching, it means you have my attention. Now for what reason? Lol I’d say initiate and find out.
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I'm definitely going to find out what that reason is 😁🤗
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Posted by Lostthoughts

He is hiding his feelings. Whatever they are. Pretty Obvious.


I figured that...

So what are you asking, how to get him to stop doing that? What you guys mars and mercury?


His Mars and mercury are sag.

My Mars is Leo. Mercury is sag.

You didn't openly say you flirt with him, so start there. Not with real intention at first, start with being playful. Honestly shy guys can be really thick in general when it comes to these things. Being at work means we are less likely to take chances as well. Starting off playful to get him to relax will help a lot. Eventually after you start making eye contact more regularly, ask him out if your sure about dating him. Assuming he does beat you to the punch. Honestly it's really hard now a days to engage someone on a personal level. There is real fear of losing your job if your not 100% the feelings aren't mutual. People first at work for entertainment too.

There is this one trick a girl did too me long ago that I will always remember. She said I had something in my eye and to hold still. She grabbed my chin and and got really close to me. Then she told me look straight forward which a course her eyes where LMAO. She had the grin on her face and I just broke right then and there.


I actually had planned to do something along those lines in the last paragraph either on our last day together at work or the first day we hang out together after we've left the job lol

I should add the thing that caused the change was I called him sexy. Prior to that I let it be known I was interested in pursuing a relationship and he was fine. He has started giving a little eye contact again and is still talkative and open otherwise. I'm still sensing shyness though.

why wait last minute? When he gets a bit more comfortable, give him a some more pokes lol

Dare him to go have some fun with you outside of work :-)


He could get into a lot of trouble if we start something sooner. I think he has spoken to his boss about it too and they've advised him how to keep it professional while we're both still here. It's only for a few more weeks (couple months at the latest). Not too long ago he thought I was asking him about us and he told me he couldn't talk to me about it yet because of work. Then the lockdown happened.

It sucks but I felt like we were slowly getting to know and be comfortable with each other.

Oh wow. This changes everything.

Please go easy on him with the flirting. Tell him you promise to be a good girl with no funny business until the job is over. He will relax almost instantly. He isn't shy. He is straight up trying to resist lmao.


🤣 Trying to resist makes sense! He started telling me that he can cook and pushing into my conversations with other people, so the interest has increased. But avoiding eye contact because he is trying to resist totally makes sense. I don't flirt with him all the time. I was just compelled to tell him how sexy he is 😋


I'm starting to get a clear picture. Lol poor guy. I've been in his shoes. Just let him know he has a chance when the job is over.
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🤣 ahaha what is the clear picture you're getting? Lol why poor guy?

I really like him so once it's possible I will be letting it be known without reserve. In your situation did you like the person interested in you? What happened?
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Posted by Lostthoughts

He is hiding his feelings. Whatever they are. Pretty Obvious.


I figured that...

So what are you asking, how to get him to stop doing that? What you guys mars and mercury?


His Mars and mercury are sag.

My Mars is Leo. Mercury is sag.

You didn't openly say you flirt with him, so start there. Not with real intention at first, start with being playful. Honestly shy guys can be really thick in general when it comes to these things. Being at work means we are less likely to take chances as well. Starting off playful to get him to relax will help a lot. Eventually after you start making eye contact more regularly, ask him out if your sure about dating him. Assuming he does beat you to the punch. Honestly it's really hard now a days to engage someone on a personal level. There is real fear of losing your job if your not 100% the feelings aren't mutual. People first at work for entertainment too.

There is this one trick a girl did too me long ago that I will always remember. She said I had something in my eye and to hold still. She grabbed my chin and and got really close to me. Then she told me look straight forward which a course her eyes where LMAO. She had the grin on her face and I just broke right then and there.


I actually had planned to do something along those lines in the last paragraph either on our last day together at work or the first day we hang out together after we've left the job lol

I should add the thing that caused the change was I called him sexy. Prior to that I let it be known I was interested in pursuing a relationship and he was fine. He has started giving a little eye contact again and is still talkative and open otherwise. I'm still sensing shyness though.

why wait last minute? When he gets a bit more comfortable, give him a some more pokes lol

Dare him to go have some fun with you outside of work :-)


He could get into a lot of trouble if we start something sooner. I think he has spoken to his boss about it too and they've advised him how to keep it professional while we're both still here. It's only for a few more weeks (couple months at the latest). Not too long ago he thought I was asking him about us and he told me he couldn't talk to me about it yet because of work. Then the lockdown happened.

It sucks but I felt like we were slowly getting to know and be comfortable with each other.

Oh wow. This changes everything.

Please go easy on him with the flirting. Tell him you promise to be a good girl with no funny business until the job is over. He will relax almost instantly. He isn't shy. He is straight up trying to resist lmao.


🤣 Trying to resist makes sense! He started telling me that he can cook and pushing into my conversations with other people, so the interest has increased. But avoiding eye contact because he is trying to resist totally makes sense. I don't flirt with him all the time. I was just compelled to tell him how sexy he is 😋


I'm starting to get a clear picture. Lol poor guy. I've been in his shoes. Just let him know he has a chance when the job is over.


🤣 ahaha what is the clear picture you're getting? Lol why poor guy?

I really like him so once it's possible I will be letting it be known without reserve. In your situation did you like the person interested in you? What happened?
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I did like them. In

In hindsight: A lot of miscommunication though. As in words and actions didn't line up. The difference caused confusion then assumptions on both our parts. Insecurities on both our ends showed it's ugly head. This situation has come up a couple of times. As I got older I got better at handling it.

This is why I suggested to you to let him know your interested and waiting. Removes any confusion. Although I bet watching him scrum is amusing to you lol
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He is hiding his feelings. Whatever they are. Pretty Obvious.


I figured that...

So what are you asking, how to get him to stop doing that? What you guys mars and mercury?


His Mars and mercury are sag.

My Mars is Leo. Mercury is sag.

You didn't openly say you flirt with him, so start there. Not with real intention at first, start with being playful. Honestly shy guys can be really thick in general when it comes to these things. Being at work means we are less likely to take chances as well. Starting off playful to get him to relax will help a lot. Eventually after you start making eye contact more regularly, ask him out if your sure about dating him. Assuming he does beat you to the punch. Honestly it's really hard now a days to engage someone on a personal level. There is real fear of losing your job if your not 100% the feelings aren't mutual. People first at work for entertainment too.

There is this one trick a girl did too me long ago that I will always remember. She said I had something in my eye and to hold still. She grabbed my chin and and got really close to me. Then she told me look straight forward which a course her eyes where LMAO. She had the grin on her face and I just broke right then and there.


I actually had planned to do something along those lines in the last paragraph either on our last day together at work or the first day we hang out together after we've left the job lol

I should add the thing that caused the change was I called him sexy. Prior to that I let it be known I was interested in pursuing a relationship and he was fine. He has started giving a little eye contact again and is still talkative and open otherwise. I'm still sensing shyness though.

why wait last minute? When he gets a bit more comfortable, give him a some more pokes lol

Dare him to go have some fun with you outside of work :-)


He could get into a lot of trouble if we start something sooner. I think he has spoken to his boss about it too and they've advised him how to keep it professional while we're both still here. It's only for a few more weeks (couple months at the latest). Not too long ago he thought I was asking him about us and he told me he couldn't talk to me about it yet because of work. Then the lockdown happened.

It sucks but I felt like we were slowly getting to know and be comfortable with each other.

Oh wow. This changes everything.

Please go easy on him with the flirting. Tell him you promise to be a good girl with no funny business until the job is over. He will relax almost instantly. He isn't shy. He is straight up trying to resist lmao.


🤣 Trying to resist makes sense! He started telling me that he can cook and pushing into my conversations with other people, so the interest has increased. But avoiding eye contact because he is trying to resist totally makes sense. I don't flirt with him all the time. I was just compelled to tell him how sexy he is 😋


I'm starting to get a clear picture. Lol poor guy. I've been in his shoes. Just let him know he has a chance when the job is over.


🤣 ahaha what is the clear picture you're getting? Lol why poor guy?

I really like him so once it's possible I will be letting it be known without reserve. In your situation did you like the person interested in you? What happened?

I did like them. In

In hindsight: A lot of miscommunication though. As in words and actions didn't line up. The difference caused confusion then assumptions on both our parts. Insecurities on both our ends showed it's ugly head. This situation has come up a couple of times. As I got older I got better at handling it.

This is why I suggested to you to let him know your interested and waiting. Removes any confusion. Although I bet watching him scrum is amusing to you lol
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That's a shame. But I suppose things work out the way they're supposed to in the end.☺️

There has definitely been some confusion esp. with words and action not matching at first. But I stepped back, because I like clarity, and adjusted what I was doing on my part to cause confusion. The added issue of having to keep the attraction under wraps hasn't helped. I do let him know I'm interested in him. Hence telling him he is sexy and why. It is amusing to me to see how his behaviour with me changes and increases😂. Mostly because it means (hopefully?) that he is interested.