My Sagittarius Brother

This topic was created in the Sagittarius forum by HappyCapper on Saturday, July 11, 2015 and has 14 replies.
grew up with earth sun mother(virgo), father(taurus) and sister(capricorn). Does any other sag have similar experiances with their surroundings and in that case, what was that like. I would really like to understand what it would have been like for him. I have talked to him, ofc, but even if we are close and can talk about things, I feel he can be too nice at times(he is no whimp by any means, he is just very very protective of our feelings) and I want the ugly...or not so ugly truth.
Im a pisces with a virgo mom nd cappy dad and an y unfortunate childhood becase of them. But im not sag so....id if u wnt to hear it but my aries mixed with pisces make me very sag like.
excus the spelling -_-
Posted by SuperMissMan
Im a pisces with a virgo mom nd cappy dad and an y unfortunate childhood becase of them. But im not sag so....id if u wnt to hear it but my aries mixed with pisces make me very sag like.

Thanks for the offer! smile
Posted by 4ND5
lol does it look that bad?

I'm too stupid to get that.
Posted by dontgetmewrong
I'm Sag with virgo mom, aqua dad though. My daughter is a cap. If he doesn't have anything bad to say about you, then what's to say....

Sag usually accept people for who and what they are, especially family. He's looking at the big picture here, he loves you guys. Besides, he probably knows that earth signs are way to sensitive to take the ugly truth (if he sees any)... He loves you, and thats all that matters.

Thank you for the kind words! I do think he loves us, but you can love people and still wish they would treat you differently. I mean, we do mean well, but we can't see things from his perspective and the more we learn to understand each other the better we can be at treating them as well as possible - the way they should be treated rather than the way we think is a good way of treating them.
Posted by dontgetmewrong
Have you asked him straight up what he thinks?... you have to be more specific about what areas you want to know about exactly?

Not straight up, no. We have been discussing our growing up more in general terms.

I'd take any input, as I don't know what the issues might be. All I know is that he was a fire sun, surrounded by earth and it seems to me that might have made an impact on him. I wonder, for instance, if he might have felt slightly suffocated in some ways and in other ways I feel I may have been withdrawing a bit too much - I think he might have wanted a sister to do more things with. I was a lot on my own missions. I did things with other people too, but I needed a lot of me time. I think he might have felt I was pushing him away.
Posted by dontgetmewrong
A lot of Sag has a hard time asking or being emotional about what they want...they just pretty much stay in their own head, stay their own course. To Sag, they have bigger fish to fry. Understand?

Yes and no. One of the reasons I haven't asked him straight up is just that - that he does have a hard time asking for what he wants emotionally.
I'm honestly not that afraid of his surroundings being too serious. My mother was a home maker and actually pretty fun and when I did hang out with him it was fun most of the time. It's just that I was always fiercely independent and unafraid to a fault, so I just took off. And I guess me and my parents kind of expected him to be like that too, while I suspect that he would have needed more guidance, support and company. He's two years younger, btw.

I think your strategy there is probably a good one. That's how we usually talk and I'm glad I wasn't way off, so I'll keep doing that plus ask him a bit more direct questions, like you suggest.
Posted by dontgetmewrong
... there is a part of your brother I think that keeps a bit to himself with certain things only bc he knows he's a bit different than the rest but perhaps was expected to follow the same path?....I may be wrong, just giving my own opinion based on my own experiences.

Interesting what you say.

I was always supportive and proud of my siblings. But now after 500 years of living on the earth I've recently noticed the three of them are too watery for my taste. All that drama has been killing me. I feel their pains and I don't want to feel it.

So either we had a happy childhood anyway. Or I had kept things to myself. I know that they sent me to neuro doc when I was about 10-12 years old. Cause one day in the morning I was behaving like crazy in my bed. But that's the only bad thing I can remember about my childhood.

Thank to my Aries-Taurus mom we had lots of fun and picnic in our childhood. In the spring we did gardening and had own herbage at home. I was in love with them. herbage.
Not me, but my mom - she's a Leo with a Sag Moon and her parents are both Caps.
She had a very stable and healthy upbrining, but she has said numerous times it was frustrating to have people constantly breathing down your neck, telling you what to do, when to do it, how to do it repeatedly, and making decisions for you.

To this day she calls my grandma "the talking clock"
Posted by dontgetmewrong
My daughter who is a Capi is fiercely independant as well, too independant at times I forget to check in on her about stuff like school. She even brought up durong the school year that I ask my younger two more about their grades... I told her bc I don't have to worry about hers as much bc I know she does great...but moral of the story was she just wanted me to check on her like I do the younger two...and I do more now, just bc it males her feel better.

Not saying serious as in earth signs don't know how to have fun, bc I know you guys do..I have an earth virgo mom, and all my kids are each of the earth signs. I have tons of fun with them. But there is a part of your brother I think that keeps a bit to himself with certain things only bc he knows he's a bit different than the rest but perhaps was expected to follow the same path?....I may be wrong, just giving my own opinion based on my own experiences.

My parents hardly ever checked in on me for school work and such either...but did with my brother. I didn't mind, though...except just a little as me bringing home good grades was just as it should be, while my brother got a friggin party(just to clarify: the guy is really intelligent - just didn't like school work in the way it was presented to him - and he is very successful in his career now). But I'm not and wasn't mad - I knew I could get attention if or when I wanted it. But I do think my brother should possibly have gotten more positive attention.

Yes, I think you may be right about him feeling a bit different from the rest of us, yet felt expected to be more like us, in a way. And I think our parents may even have been slightly worried about him because of him being different. Thing is, the difference wasn't bad in any way - it was just different and we earthies should all have taken more of an opportunity to learn from him, imo.
Posted by DwellingOnMove
Posted by dontgetmewrong
... there is a part of your brother I think that keeps a bit to himself with certain things only bc he knows he's a bit different than the rest but perhaps was expected to follow the same path?....I may be wrong, just giving my own opinion based on my own experiences.

Interesting what you say.

I was always supportive and proud of my siblings. But now after 500 years of living on the earth I've recently noticed the three of them are too watery for my taste. All that drama has been killing me. I feel their pains and I don't want to feel it.

So either we had a happy childhood anyway. Or I had kept things to myself. I know that they sent me to neuro doc when I was about 10-12 years old. Cause one day in the morning I was behaving like crazy in my bed. But that's the only bad thing I can remember about my childhood.

Thank to my Aries-Taurus mom we had lots of fun and picnic in our childhood. In the spring we did gardening and had own herbage at home. I was in love with them. herbage.
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My father has a cancer moon and I am scorpio dominant, but it was actually my super virgo mother(sun, moon, venus and possibly rising) who inserted emotional drama into our lives(although my mother might argue that I helped... Winking)

What happened to you there? Are you okay now?
Posted by brianafay
Not me, but my mom - she's a Leo with a Sag Moon and her parents are both Caps.
She had a very stable and healthy upbrining, but she has said numerous times it was frustrating to have people constantly breathing down your neck, telling you what to do, when to do it, how to do it repeatedly, and making decisions for you.

To this day she calls my grandma "the talking clock"

Yeah, that would be our mother...smile