need help to understand this sagit male...plzzz

hi evry1
Am too confused with a sagit guy am in love with.
Prob is that i had been in love with him since over 1 yr but never told him..but he somehow came to realize my feelings and forced me to confess my love for him..Actually he's already in a relationship...since 3 yrs,,so i never told him..but after coming to know abt this,he started calling me everyday..and then after 2 weeks he told me that he was also feeling somethng for me...but even then we didnt stop..we continued talking for hrs at night.Then 2 days back,he told me that he wanted to take me out for a candlelight dinner,give me a red rose,and kiss my hand....then we talked abt very intimate stuff..and he was very passionate and romantic,he insisted me to sound romantic too,..I too became passionate and started sharing my secret desires ..(For info-->we are both in the same office..and preparing for higher studies..).so w.r.t. that i said that supposes if we both get into the same college for higher edu,then what wud happen ?he replied that he wud propose me like a college student.Then i askd him what if neither of us get into any collge,then wudnt he propose??So he said ,he wud do so at the right time.infact i never imagined that sagit person cud be such a romantic..and he alwaz insists me to become romantic,when i start to joke...i feel weak and lose control over my passions...
.but afterwards suddenly he said that it wasnt possible since he was in a relationship already..and asked me to forget all we had discussed.. i said fine..he must also forget me then..and told him that we musnt b in contact anymore.but right after 1 day,he called me to check in my status,i said i was just fine...but wasnt obviously.we talked for only 2-3 mins only.
For info--he has his venus in scorpio...moon in aries...mars in libra..sun in sagit
mine--> moon in leo, sun in pisces..,venus in aries,mars in aries..

Can u plzz tell me...are we really compatible?And is a scorpio venus so passionate??
Also for info->We had known each other for 1 & half yr since the very 1st day of office since both joined the same office n the same day in the same domain.We had also been in the same college for 4 yrs but had never known each other then.

infact while in college , i had never noticed him ,being in a diff department from his..But he had seen me he says.Anywaz, but i also need to add that he is a very needy guy,since he often resortes to alcohol,drugs.I had made him take neww year oath that he wud never toch drugs else i wud not go from his life.In fact he is scared of me since i have emotionally blackmailed him that if he breaks his promise then i wud take to alcohol,which infact i am capable of doing.He infact has also told me that why i cudnt come into his life when we were in college because that was when he became frustrated ,and started taking alcohol & drugs.At that time ,he made a gf not from our college,
I told him that if he is not happy with his current gf,then he must twice think abt sticking to her since he wudnt be able to keep her happy ,neither wud he be ever happy the.To this he said,nothing can be done since both his and her parents already know abt their relationship

Ew it sounds like he's playing with your emotions. What a sicko.
If he was your friend he wouldn't do that.

Agreed. I doubt he'll leave his girlfriend, he'll just cheat on her.

He thinks he's a player too. How adorable...


"I told him that if he is not happy with his current gf,then he must twice think abt sticking to her since he wudnt be able to keep her happy ,neither wud he be ever happy the.To this he said,nothing can be done since both his and her parents already know abt their relationship"

What a shit ass excuse. "Both of our parents know we're dating - we can't break up."

Seriously, I wouldn't give him the satisfaction, if I were you.

yes..whatthe..i do come from such a country..INDIA..where things are quite orthodox..marriages require approval of parents and lots ofsocial norms are involved..
but what do u guys feel i shud do??leave him alltogether?and not even try to maintain such a frndship?

And do u think i shud tell about this to his gf?Though i dont know her,just seen her once with her "BF"....and she doesnt know anything about me i suppose except that i am her bf's office colleague..
But i can make contact with her via orkut..i told this guy to tell his current gf all about me since otherwise it wud be burden to his life as well (just to be polite..i hate to be rude)..to this he said that he wud tell her but at the right time..
I dont know whether he will at all say everything to her,but i cant make up my mind as to whether i shud go and tell her myself ,but then things might turn even bitter between me and that guy since we r in the same office it wudnt be a healthy situation,moreover we've got many common pals..though no one knows about our secret affair.Actually,we were very good friends in office,he had helped me in numerous ways,i have also helped him sometimes,that is the reason why i feel sad to lose his frndship..infact in office,no 1 had helped me to the extent he had..

hmmmmm...thanks a lot for ur advice..last night i have smsed him "i have decided never to call u again.But i want to know the ans to 1 last question-did u ever love me more than as a frnd bcoz i will never contact u again,even u dont need to contact me again.this is good for both of us.hope 2009 will make us forget each other."

he didnt reply stil.i dont even expect now. coz i think u r right that he appears to be more caring than he actually feels .So i guess that at that time when he was sharing all such secrets with me,he was feeling at ease that no 1 was crushing his independance ,but when the truth is that his future is completely planned,a great barrier to his adventurous spirit.But as u say,he probably wants to do the "right thing". So i was a medium through whom he could release his secret desires,through whom he could see another future,not the one already planned for him. I have given him lots of emotional support and gave him a lot of encouragement,confidence that he could fulfill his dreams and he has also said this to me that the way i have given him support was never provided by any1 else in his life.
But definitely i wish him all the best from my heart .hope he remains happy in his life.

All men are dogs.

Oh Pisces, Pisces, Pisces. Don't you know that Sags aren't good for you?

I've known Pisces all my life. So I know no matter what you hear on this board you are going to follow your heart. And it WILL get broken. I don't know maybe it's because I'm an Aries and I'm not very diplomatic when it comes to telling people what they need to hear. I say it straight and like it is. No sugarcoating. And I know that tends to not work with water signs to well. They tend to pull back when you do that (known a lot of Scops/Cancers/Pisces like that... though I admit Scorps are a lot more well equipped for things like that).

You came on here for advice and let me give it to you, because I have a best friend who is a Pisces and in a VERY similar situation, but with a Gem, hahaha another bad sign for Pisces. HE IS NOT GOING TO BREAK UP WITH HER. If he hasn't done so yet, he won't anytime soon. Even if he does would you want to be with a man that goes behind his girlfriend/lovers back with other women? How do you know he wouldn't do the same to you? If you had any respect or value for yourself you would forget about this, because he's just playing with your heart. You don't want sloppy seconds do you? You deserve better than that. Being an Aries I'm suppose to be a champion for underdogs but it's hard because I realized that it is hard for people to change. And I'm not talking about dogs that take advantage of women, I'm talking about those insecure women, who have no value or respect for themselves, who constantly let themselves be taken advantage of. Happens once, fine learn your lesson, but twice? Shame on you. I'm going on a big tangent here. But stay away from him! But you're not going to do that are you?

Just know I'm telling you this because you seem like a very sweet girl and I'm an Aries who cares.

ARRGHH... PLUS GUYS DON'T THINK LIKE WOMEN DO THEY AREN'T EMOTIONAL LIKE WE ARE THEY THINK WITH THEIR DICKS. Just because he says all these romantic things.... That's the one big mistake girls make, he's not a knight in shining armor. He just likes getting attention from you don't you see. He likes hearing how much you adore and worship him it boost his damn ego to compensate for his tiny dick. Please, you're not stupid enough to fall for this spiel. ARRGHHH!!! Someone help me before I have a heart attack!

"leave him alltogether?and not even try to maintain such a frndship?"

Sorry I'm reading this as I go I just read this, but friendship— Really?? That's what my Pisces friends did and now they're just sex buddies.

You have too much emotional tie into this relationship for you to maintain a successful friendship. You know that. Just forget the guy. Don't you know there are better guys out there? You deserve better.

FLeo made a very good point. Sagitarrius men view emotional women as weak. Wishy-washiness is a dealbreaker for them.

I think that's with ALL men. Men are not an emotional bunch. Emotion is not their language, it's ours and they don't really understand it. Yes, even for the sensitive water signs. Start speaking emotions in the beginning of any relationship and they will run for they hills, or the equivalent of not respecting you.