Okay, I need some advice. Me and my best guy friend (SAG)- who is a Sagittarius, decided to take our friendship to the next level two years ago and start dating. I have gotten to that point twice where I wanted us to be official and brought it up, but each time he changed the conversation and never answered the question. I have asked him even directly does he like me or have any feelings for me. He'll say "I Do But I Don't" and then run to our mutual friends and say he does have feelings for me- which only confused me more. Well two months ago after he made a promise to me and didn't keep it and ended standing me up- I finally gave up and told him I just wanted to be friends because in my own opinion he was basically getting the benefits of a relationship (not sex though), but refusing to call it that. Well I moved on and I've started talking to a new guy- GREAT GUY(Taurus- which is a handful in itself), and my best guy friend(SAG) doesn't like that and is trying to do everything possible to get me back at this point. He's tried to plan outings that some how turn into a date, and all it does is make me upset because I feel like he is playing with my emotions and sending me mixed signals. Let it be known I Do Not Want Him Anymore but I do want to maintain a friendship. Which seems like it's impossible at this point because us hanging out turns into a date every time- even though I'm trying to set up boundaries. So my question would be do you guys think that this friendship is worth saving or should I just get some space from this guy and let him go and just loose my best friend?
Little background information on both me and my guy best friend:
- we're both virgins
- we NEVER slept together before or our friendship
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Nov 10, 2010Comments: 285 · Posts: 30788 · Topics: 649
You have so many more friends to make and lose.
Don't get caught up on this one person.
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Nov 10, 2010Comments: 285 · Posts: 30788 · Topics: 649
Besides, all man basically want to be the one to smash your cakes and will attempt to wait you out.
Chase money and not men
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Aug 24, 2011Comments: 17 · Posts: 5119 · Topics: 78
Well congrats on not getting yourself in the murky "friend with benefits" zone. Basically you're going to find that maintaining a friendship to be somewhat tricky in this situation. You wanted him when he wasn't ready to be demonstrative. Now that you're done, he is chasing you. This unfortunately a missed opportunity for both of you.
Sagittariuses don't respond well to be chased, forced, or smothered emotionally. This is because they value their space and freedom to make their own decisions. As a result they respond well to partners who give them the space to feel out their emotions. As a Scorpio you crave emotional intensity and loyalty. As a result your emotions are practically opposite to that of this Sag guy. When you wanted more emotion from him, he felt smothered and backed away. However now that you've backed off entirely, he wants your attention.
Do you see why the friendship will be difficult now?
You're literally doing the exact thing that attracts him. The only thing you can do is be direct and let him know that you only want his friendship. As a fire sign he will have no choice but to listen to a direct statement from you. What he does from there is up to him, but Sagitarriuses are known to accept friendship and get over old hurts better than most in the zodiac (unless you TRULY hurt them).