Sag Help please?!?!

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This sag guy who I see occasionally through work started flirting with me and eventually asked me out.
We started seeing each other and everything was great - said he really liked me and acted like he did to!!!
Suddenly he stated that he had been hurt so many times in the past by his ex wife and girlfriends since that he didn't know if he was ready for a committed relationship, and his heart wasn't letting him get fully involved. We were on and off for a few weeks, then Said he needed space as he didnt know what he wanted. I just didnt give him the space he wanted as i had split from my husband of 13yrs 18 months before, and had forgotten how to date. he told me that he just wanted space but I didn't give him it, so no contact from him after that.
Suddenly I saw him, I texted him and we ended up sexting, before arranging to meet up a few days later which we did.
Started texting him after, but no reply (clearly I failed to give him the space he needed again)- weeks later he tells me that he really likes me, but he was sorry and just isn't ready for anything at the minute, and can only offer me friendship right now.
Seen him twice since and he flirted with me, called me darls, and once looked into my car to say hi to my little kids. Haven't seen him since, and have toned down my texts completely to only one or two a week, and have now completely stopped the texts. He has failed to reply to all my texts.
My texts consisted of saying I liked him and was willing to wait for him if he wanted me to. Also told him to not make me wait for no reason, and if he didnt want me or was keeping his options open for someone better or if he fancied someone else to tell me. Also told him I was willing to wait 6months, and wasn't gonna chase him anymore. No reply still.
Really confused coz i really like him n when i see him think he likes me.
Will he chase me now? does he like me and is being honest or is he stringing me along? He seems like a genuinely lovely guy n said he's never had a one night stand n stuff. Thought that if he didnt want me he would just tell me not to wait and leave him alone— Is he just ignoring me to give himself space coz he's been hurt so badly before and wants to just sort his head out n doesn't wanna get hurt again? Do you think he wants to be with me—
I'm now giving him all the space he needs (finally realised) and am not texting him at all. Hard to know what he wants when I rarely see him, and when I do it's only for a few mins!
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But he said he has never had a one night stand and never gone out to 'pull'.
Said he has always liked me too!
So bloody confused!!!!!
I'm hoping that he would just tell me if he didnt want me, and wouldn't just ignore me when I say I will wait for 6months for him and for him to tell me if he doesn't want me! Hoping he is just trying to give himself space to sort his head out, as I know he doesn't want to be hurt again!
Does he really like me and wanna be with me eventually if I give him total space and just concentrate on me and my young kids?!?
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Do you just not think his head is screwed up from his ex, who he thought was 'the one' but really hurt him only 9 months ago?

When we first met he was the one texting n calling n wanting to see me, until he said his guards went up to try and protect himself from being hurt again.

Yes he has completely ignored me via text for 6wks, but he has been away with his son who lives 4hrs away from him.
On the two occasions I have seen him I can tell he likes me by the way he looks and acts!
Why is he not telling me not to wait for him and to move on - thought sags were honest n would just tell you if they didnt want you?
Also with them liking the chase think I chased him 2 much after him
Telling me he needed spaced - if I back off completely n try and move on do u think he will come back n chase me or not?
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Posted by Bailee06
Do you just not think his head is screwed up from his ex, who he thought was 'the one' but really hurt him only 9 months ago?

When we first met he was the one texting n calling n wanting to see me, until he said his guards went up to try and protect himself from being hurt again.

Yes he has completely ignored me via text for 6wks, but he has been away with his son who lives 4hrs away from him.
On the two occasions I have seen him I can tell he likes me by the way he looks and acts!
Why is he not telling me not to wait for him and to move on - thought sags were honest n would just tell you if they didnt want you?
Also with them liking the chase think I chased him 2 much after him
Telling me he needed spaced - if I back off completely n try and move on do u think he will come back n chase me or not?



what sign r you? cause this is like trying to talk to a wall. girlfriend, he's too busy and doesnt want to be the bad guy and just completely destroy your hopes and dreams of walking down the aisle. he just doesnt have the time and doesnt want you to settle for his BS, but kinda sounds like youd settle for that BS anyway.

your mistaking his kindness for something much more. he's only going to come around to hit it.
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I'm Aquarius, which I know is a good match!
Won't settle for his bs at all - just don't know where I stand at all!!!!!
Says he likes me, acts like he likes me when I see him, but tells me he ain't ready for anything but friendship at the moment with me!
Why doesn't he stop flirting, tell me straight not to wait and that he doesn't want anything with me ever, instead of saying he doesn't want anything at the minute?!?
I've told him him a few months ago I would walk away if he wanted me to, and he's said that he didnt want me to, but If I felt I had to then it would be his loss, coz he just ain't ready yet - he just confuses me!!!
And why would he deliberately make an effort to say hello to my kids when he didnt have to, knowing they like him surely he wouldn't have made that contact with them!
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Sorry, ain't got a clue about birth charts - I'm a bit of a novice!!!
My date of birth is 18th February 1980 (born on a Monday)
His is 3rd December 1980 (born on a Wednesday) if that helps!

He definitely ain't a tool - he's a lovely guy - just wish I knew if things were gonna work out eventually with us n he would come back if I initially walk away n concentrate on me!!!
Not saying I will want him if he does come back!!!!
Just think he does want me to wait until he's emotionally ready, coz think he would tell me to f**k off if he didnt like me!
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His birth chart


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Dale Sex M
Hull 1 United Kingdom 12/03/1980 12:00 - Julian day 2444577.00
Adjust 0.00 ST 16.49 Lat 53.45 Long 0.20


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Jane Sex F
Hull 1 United Kingdom 02/18/1980 12:00 - Julian day 2444288.00
Adjust 0.00 ST 21.49 Lat 53.45 Long 0.20


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Posted by Bailee06
I'm Aquarius, which I know is a good match!
Won't settle for his bs at all - just don't know where I stand at all!!!!!
Says he likes me, acts like he likes me when I see him, but tells me he ain't ready for anything but friendship at the moment with me!
Why doesn't he stop flirting, tell me straight not to wait and that he doesn't want anything with me ever, instead of saying he doesn't want anything at the minute?!?
I've told him him a few months ago I would walk away if he wanted me to, and he's said that he didnt want me to, but If I felt I had to then it would be his loss, coz he just ain't ready yet - he just confuses me!!!
And why would he deliberately make an effort to say hello to my kids when he didnt have to, knowing they like him surely he wouldn't have made that contact with them!



he said hi to your kids to be polite
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sag men are sweet and adorable, charming but believe what he says. he doesnt want to have u fall in love and then he cant deliver what he promised.

1.) he said hello to your kids to be polite
2.) he's not going to tell you to "f off". he likes you as a person and if he didnt, he would definitely tell u to f off
3.) he wasnt clear about the 6 month thing because he wants to keep the door opened to come back around and tap it. he's already familiar with you and being that his venus is in scorpio he doesnt want to burn the bridge completely.
4.) if u really want to hold out on other guys for 6 months, so be it. just dont call him at all. no contact. let him come to you. be ready with lots of fun and exciting stories to tell him.
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seriously, i just KNEW i was talking to a mercury in pisces. i just knew it.

LOL, I picked up on the Virgo.

What do you think she should do? I think that libra moon of his is making him say the "nice" things just to save face. (I do it all the time having a Libra asc) When in reality, I'm talking shit about that person in my head.
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(libra moon) he avoids confrontation but he knows what he wants. he loves the fact that shes sweatin him but in reality he cant be the man she wants. but air moons and suns hate when they arent showered with affection and return back to ask "why havent you called me?"

the back and forth is frustrating. she's emotionally invested and he isnt right now. all that libra charm has her wanting more.

they actually have a very compatible chart.

my advice is for her to remove herself emotionally or she will drive herself nuts
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Thanks - I'm not contacting him at all from now on - he can chase me! Yes I want him and think he does like me and think he does probably want me eventually, coz he did say he has always liked me and wished he'd asked me out ages ago (before the ex that just hurt him I'm hoping) but if he waits too long I'm gone and he will lose out!!!
Yes he probably was being polite saying hi to my kids, but he physically came up to my car, and put his head into my window to say hi to them! I wouldn't think he would do that knowing they liked him, so not to get their hopes up!

How compatible would you say we are?
honestly think he really likes me?
How likely is it he will come back chasing me if I ignore him, as I don't see him very often, and when I do it's only for a few minutes?
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Posted by Sagtastic1
First of all, 9 months to a Sag is almost a life time. He has Definitely moved on from it mentally, maybe not so much emotionally. I doubt he was just toying with you love and that's not what I'm trying to imply. I just know myself and also have a Sag ex husband. Do I think he is still "hurt" about our failed marriage, of course. Has he stuck his penis into something else, you damn right he has; It helps numb the pain.

That's besides the point. You are obviously hurt about the situation and all I can offer is my opinion as a Sag and being married to one. LET HIM GO!!!!! DON??T CALL and DO NOT initiate contact even though it may be hard. Sagittarius men are hunters just like their Aries brother. Do you think a hunter would go into the woods a pick up a wounded dear that calls out for help— Hell no, he is going to chase that beautiful gazelle into the sunset and have a bunch of half bread babies....lol (I had to throw a joke in)

Baby girl, he will come back.....we always do. But by the time he does, the question you need to ask yourself is if you you'll WANT him back after he treated you the way he did.

You say "but he so nice" .....yeah Hitler was very charismatic and charming but he killed so many innocent people. Good luck!


LMBO @ First of all, 9 months to a Sag is almost a life time.

This is SOOOOO true! Hell...9 weeks will almost be the moment for me to start thinking...NEXT!