I'm dating this Sag for almost two years now, but now he has started acting really strange, aloof and distant. When we are physically together or on a date or in one of our places everything feels ok and I notice nothing unusual.
What troubles me is his habit of taking these sudden "leaves of absense" by completely shutting of his phone and being completely unreachable for days or a week. I don't /think/ it's because I am too suffocating, but it's hard to say - but it isn't as if I am texting him all the time or even to want to be texting him all day every day. It is really frustrating, because most of the time I end up thinking he is either mad at me or ignoring me, when in fact it's everyone he shuts out while he does this, including his closest friends.
Has any of you encountered this butter before? I really don't know what to make of it. Could it be a Saggy way to try and gain that coveted freedom? Or should I be worried for his mental health or something? Feels a little too much based on just some texting.
When this has happened before, he has afterwards said to me that it isn't about me, but that he just doesn't want to be reachable all the time. Still it bothers me, as he just does this completely out of the blue and leaves me unable to communicate anything, and as a leeb I need that butter, lol. He even has the spare key to my apartment, which kinda leaves me stranded if I really did need it while he's doing this... :/ I've been wondering if it really is about me after all, and he is just unsure about me or some such butter.
I'll add our placements here if it's any help;
me
asc - sagittarius
sun - libra
moon - taurus
venus - libra
mars - leo
him
sun - sagittarius
moon - capricorn
venus - capricorn
mars - capricorn (so much cappy..!)
Any help, tips, comments, anything? Lol what could be up with him, or how do I get him to even open up?
(ps. yay my first post! Been lurking for ages but found no mention of anything similar so had finally to post myself haha.)
Run for the hills, the signs are in what you wrote and you just have to open your eyes to accept it. There are so many red flags that it seems you want us to tell you it, but you already know what's wrong.
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Jun 18, 2017Comments: 3657 · Posts: 5507 · Topics: 76
The good thing about his Sag Sun is that he does have more sense of adventure, meeting new people and curiosity than a Cap sun regardless of the other placements.
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Jun 18, 2017Comments: 3657 · Posts: 5507 · Topics: 76
My best friend has those placements... Sag Sun and everything else is Capricorn.
I'm sorry to say but you're dating a Capricorn more than a Sag lol. I can say that this person gets his energy by being alone rather than with other people regardless of how much he enjoys/loves their company.
One thing you can expect is 100% honesty and sense of responsibility from them. So my suggestion would be to voice your concerns but in a compromising way...for example acknowledge his need for his own time/space away from EVERYONE (including you) but also that since he's in a relationship with you , you both have responsibility to each other to be available in emergencies (whether emotional or practical emergencies). There's nothing that turns a Cap more than thought of responsibility ... lol.
So may be you can come to a compromise where you understand hs need of space and will NOT reach out to him unless it's an emergency. You guys can decide what that emergency entails. But he has to answer your call/text if you do reach out. Then he can feel at peace for taking care of himself but at the same time knowing you are taken care of as well. And you can feel at peace that he's rejuvenating himself and at the same time you are a priority as well.
Set your time of tolerance for how long he has been mia/unavailable. If he goes away passes the time, start to say goodbye for him.
Not worth the time.
I was with a sag before and he pulled that crap on me. I did as per my advice and broke up with him. He was shocked and (as it turns out, was really hurt), but i swear to god I couldn't handle being ignored and left out high and dry like that.
Your call, tho.
So... I failed at keeping my insecurities down. Made him some dinner and texted him if he wanted to come eat. Aaand then called him multiple times. I feel a little embarassed about it, I'm so much drama. Almost scrapped the food I made because didn't feel like eating if he didn't come. Anyways, he did answer the fourth or fifth call while I was already getting teary-eyed thinking he'd never answer me. I only asked him if he'd come to eat and he said he would.
He seemed very sorry. He came in with his own key and walked over to hug me immediately. He had read my messages on the way and seen the pain he put me through. He said he didn't answer me before because he'd been brooding about not getting anything done and treating me bad and not deserving me or something. Which feels contradicting as I feel ignoring me would only have made the "treating me bad" part worse and seems weird he wouldn't have realised it himself.
It was really hard getting anything out of him, I just asked and waited and asked and waited and felt he couldn't get a word out of his mouth. He was so sweet and tender though afterwards, said he wanted to be good to me. I hope I could get him to open up more.