My question... are they manipulative or should I take him seriously?
I've been in contact with a sun sag, aries moon venus in scorpio. I am scorp sun sag moon venus in Scorpio. He's a pretty happy guy usually but I explained to him that I have to stop seeing him. We started as friends and I feel he's more serious and wants more (sex). he was OK at first... over the past 2 weeks our texts have dwindled down which is fine. I text him last Sunday to wish him happy Father's day. He thanked me and said he misses me alot and I replied me too.
The following day he text me good morning as usual. I text back a few hours later like hey how was your weekend. He said good but sad. Then he starts talking about how he's going to Puerto Rico for months because he's so sad he misses his friends and needs to see his family. I figured he needed to take some time and space so I said I understand. Do what you need to do. I wondered what had triggered this but if he wanted to talk he would. I didn't hear from him for 2 days then Thurs.
He text me good morning how have you been? So i said good and you? He said I think someone is doing something to me. He's never talked like that before... he said he's just so sad. Something to do with his family and Well I was trying to offer support and encouragement and he asked me to call him. I had a meeting so i couldn't and he said that's OK don't call. I offered to call him when I was done and he said no don't bother. Jokingly I said Im calling anyways and if u don't answer then whatever. He went off on me saying I respected your decision when you said you couldn't see me anymore why can't you respect my decision when I ask you not to call me. So again i backed off. Then he said it's probably better like this you probably don't want to see me anyways. So I said it's not like that we already talked about this and you b know why so what are you acting brand new?
Why are you being cold toward me and I've been nothing but nice to you from day 1.
Anyways he said I know and thanked me. He just started going on about how he is so sad and mad at the same time and how he doesn't care about anything anymore. Nothing nothing nothing! Then he sends another text saying i don't even know if I want to live in this ugly fuxing world anymore. So i said you're depressed. He said I'm not depressed sweetie just fucking tired. He went on this rant talking about how he knows it sounds crazy and he's crying right now because he doesn't know what else to do. He tries to make everyone happy friends, people but inside he just wants to die.
I don't want to think Im the cause of this. I believe some outside source triggered this whole thing. The whole time we were cool he was so sweet, cheerful, fun loving so I take depression and suicide ideation seriously.
He started reminiscing about the first day we met and said that night was fun. I will never forget. So I'm thinking OK why is he going down memory lane? So I jumped on board because it was happy thoughts at least. So I said yes and I loved your stories. I felt like I was there! You know I'm always here for you.
Then he said but you don't want to see me You... remember you said that? So I offered to see him again and at first he was reluctant but I told him I just want to hug him and if he doesn't want to talk he doesn't have to. He agreed and we met Friday.
After just watching a movie for an hour he finally said you know what? I think I love you. Do You love me too? So I said yes but I don't! I care about him but I don't love him like that. I just felt like he was fragile so I just wanted to keep him cool.
He seemed back to his old self by the time we parted ways. He opened up, told me everything that had been happening and admitted when I said i couldn't see him anymore it messed him up.
I asked him if, he felt better and he said yes You always make everything right with me. I felt like I just got sucked into something.
He text me later. I love you. I text him back saying I care about you alot as far as love im not sure about that. Did I just get suckered back into a thing that I'm trying to get out of? I'm treading lightly not initiating any texts hopefully this will all blow over and if he tries it again I will call him out on it.
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Nov 10, 2010Comments: 285 · Posts: 30815 · Topics: 650
You're most likely more manipulative than him.
Manipulative? Who me? game recognize game... I would never play a suicide card or imply that I want to end my life... i didn't think sags were cut like that. I've only known him 2 months.
I am a sag with aries moon and Venus in Scorpio...and if I'm emotional....it's best to just leave me alone otherwise...you'll get pulled into my world of emotions and I'll be all over the place...making you think I'm playing games ..just let us get over it..it doesn't take long
Men are different though he may be a little damaged as well....I would not go as far as he did...