Sag went MIA for no apparent reason. Was it me?

I was dating this guy for a while maybe about 2.5 months. He met my 2 kid (teenagers)and pretty much my whole family. He fit in well and everybody loved him. He is genuinely a great guy. When we started talking I was leary to let him in my life, but I gave him a chance. We hit it off real well and had some real good times. Some days were busy for us so we didn't always get to talk on a daily basis. I am In the med feild and am going to school and raising 2 teenagers. so My life is pretty busy but I always make time for him. He lives about an hour away from me and we saw each other every week. about 2 weeks ago he dissappeared for about 4 days. In that time span I only txt him once saying "I am having a lil get together at my place. If he isn't doing anything that he should come by and have some fun. miss u, hope tom see u soon". I got no response. He txt me like 2 days later saying he didn't feel like responding that he had a very busy weekend. Understandable he also has a kid. I did tell him that he could of at least sent a simple txt letting me know he was busy or whatever. to me its common courtesy. He said He didn't want any drama and I told him I wasn;t trying to provoke drama. I am simply communicating with him so that there isn't any misunderstandings. He said that he isn't a man that doesn't have his phone glued to his hand. I understand that as well. So I told him that maybe we can work something out to have a better system on how to contgact eachother. I never heard anything from him since. yesterday I found out that he put himself on a dating website. Now that just killed me because I never got any vibe from hinm that he was unhappy with me nor did I pinn him for the player type. I am so confused and I'm bummed out that he won't even talk to me about all this. Is this typical sagg behavior? I am in the process of moving on and picking up the pices, but at the same time I just want to know what the hell happened.

Unfortunately, this is typical sagg behavior with majority of saggis.

He's not a phone person and you were trying to turn him into one. we dont like to made to do something out of obligation.

I for one HATE the phone and to some extent texting. its so cumbersome and boring.

I barely call my mama back or text her. Hell, i screen most of my calls. I just dont feel like putting forth the effort. laziness. texting for common courtesy is lost on me.

As far as the dating site goes, he's keeping his options open and trying to find a better match.

I think that is just guy behavior. Maybe you got to clingy to for him.

I'd just on about ur business and let time pass and see what happens.

I agree with DMV it is typically behavior, I am not sure how long you too have been dating but you came on too strong when asking why didn't he let you know and so forth they don't like to answer to anyone let alone someone they are not in a SERIOUS relationship with. I think he felt as if it was too much drama too soon, this will run a sagg men away they want things to be care free and easy going. In my dealing with saggs men I keep it care free until you are that point where it is serious enough to confront them about issues and even then they withdraw and ignore you until they are ready to fact the facts.

You did say how long 2.5 months, yep that's way too soon to approach them about what they should or shouldn't be doing. I am a scorp and if a men I am dating questions me about something that soon, I back off real fast..

One time my sag called me and I missed the call, he called 5 more times. Then I called him but he didn't answer. I called another 15 times. He didn't bat an eye.

Would I have done that 4 years ago, no.

He didn't care that I blew up hisphone.

Posted by DMV
One time my sag called me and I missed the call, he called 5 more times. Then I called him but he didn't answer. I called another 15 times. He didn't bat an eye.

Would I have done that 4 years ago, no.

Lol, exactly

Yes I know it may have been too soon. Bur in terms of communication and future misunderstandings. I simply told him that ge could have sent me a simple txt sat yes or no to an invitation. In somw sense its rude to blow somebody off especialky somebody your dating. Thats called manners. In no way was I being clingy or needy. I invited him to a party he didn't answer. When he finally got back to,me days later. I didnt react in a dramatic way. He was the one insinuating that I was causing drama when in fact I wasn't. To be honest his reaction to me saying he could of txt me to give me a quic answer is proof that he has something to hide. Call it what you will. In my books by clear communication you can avoid a whole lot of nonsense. The dating site rhing is understandable as well. If I am not what he us looking for then thats his responsibility to be a real man and be honest and tell,me instead of being a coward ans taking the easy way out. Thats my Mo. Over all thank u for your responses I appreciate the opinions u have given me.

Sorry for the typos. Im in class on my cell.. Ooops..

Moodz2468, what is your sign? you don't think it was dramatic but I bet he thinks it was. Also just from the three years off and on dating my sagg if I had a dollar for every time he didn't txt me right back, took days to txt me or even wouldn't communicate I would be going on a mini vacation right now. At first I would get really upset, but now I know him so well that I know he can't help it, it's just his personality and his sign has something to do with it too but its not going to change.

Shes a cancer.


Saggis also like to avoid drama. To him its only 2.5 months, he wasnt as emotionally invested. Which is why he just isnt responding.

He may call back once he feels youve calmed down. You came across cray cray to him.

Sag me dont like being told what to do, especially with how to call, when to call, etc. That equals restrictions and we value our freedom.

Yeh DMV and scorpdiva sound about right. Last guy I dated was a sag. One day I got pissed at him for not texting he was gonna be late or to cancel or something . And we had already spoken about communication or lack there of. He said he was sorry and it was unintentional. But he basically stopped talking to me after that! Haha I'm laughing cos he went like a month and half no contact! And well he texted yesterday to say he was sorry and he thinks about me all the time. Too bad for him I've moved on. Coincidently I found me a new sag man! Haha so yeh he's doesn't text all the time. But I'm not so worried about it this time around. I hate texting anyway. If rather a call or face to face contact 🙂

Yrs I am a.cancer.and.i.get.that.certain signs need their freedom, but.with out commumication that is not a healthy relationship regardless if its with a man,.friend or with whomever. It sends mix messages. I would respect and understand a person better if they.straight up tell me whats up. its not, like I bombarded this man with a million txt messages. No I did not do that I sent him just one text and he took 4 days to respond. Tjats not how he was. A week prior. If things are consistent then I'm assuming that things are.good. If u simply addressed how I felt about the situation thats just me being real. It don't matter anymore because by me posting tjis and letting.it all out is opening my eyes. I can be patient but 4 days is too long to be waiting for an answer. I thought the guy was in a damn hospital bed. I mean damn have some.courtesy. Thank u ladies for your input. I know what to look out for next time and maybe approach.it in a.different way.

You can't control what people do. If he doesn't want to respond he doesn't have to. Life isn't fair.

Your right. I know u can't control peoples actions. He didn't have to answer,.but at the same time I don't have to put up with that type of behavior. If I.did then he would continue to do the same thing over and over again. thats what u call.disrespect and I value myself enough to know whats acceptable and whats not. I was trying to get a few opinions and vent. Thanks again. Very helpful

Whoa so this is a sags pattern? No wonder I get the cold shoulder from my archer... Doesn't mean I have to put up with it though.... :/

Posted by Eyes84
Whoa so this is a sags pattern? No wonder I get the cold shoulder from my archer... Doesn't mean I have to put up with it though.... :/

That is the thing, it's up to you if you want to deal with it. If you don't let it go....

Posted by Moodz2468
Your right. I know u can't control peoples actions. He didn't have to answer,.but at the same time I don't have to put up with that type of behavior. If I.did then he would continue to do the same thing over and over again. thats what u call.disrespect and I value myself enough to know whats acceptable and whats not. I was trying to get a few opinions and vent. Thanks again. Very helpful

do you really tho?

its important to pick your battles with sag men

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Posted by Moodz2468
Your right. I know u can't control peoples actions. He didn't have to answer,.but at the same time I don't have to put up with that type of behavior. If I.did then he would continue to do the same thing over and over again. thats what u call.disrespect and I value myself enough to know whats acceptable and whats not. I was trying to get a few opinions and vent. Thanks again. Very helpful

do you really tho?

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Yes I do.

Posted by Eyes84
Whoa so this is a sags pattern? No wonder I get the cold shoulder from my archer... Doesn't mean I have to put up with it though.... :/

Not all of us

Whoa whoa time out people!

I'm sorry but this isn't typical Sag behavior "but a sag who doesn't know what they want but wants things on their own terms" behavior. Sounds conflicting right? Well, the behavior bears out the truth and it is conflicting. Hence, the back n forth antics we're known for...a lot of us anyway. We can try to deflect on others for being too clingy yada yada but a little courtesy response to her invite isn't unreasonable especially given the fact that she brought him around her family and they talked intimately. "Well two months isn't a lot of time" BeautifulSoul. Yes it isn't. But its enough time for him to demonstrate the behavior for her to trust him enough to allow him in her life and compromise. I'm sorry but its bullshit pure and simple. If the shoe was on the other foot he'd be inundating her phone with texts and calls. So, its ego.

@OP: move forward because he's not ready. He's still playing the "shoot as many arrows and hope to hit the target" game. You and your children are better off without him. If you still want a Sag...find an evolved one. One who is focused, knows what he wants and makes no bones about coming after it and I'm talking about a relationship. If you find one who's unsure, don't wait for him to "make up his damn mind." Life is simply too short for that.

Yes thats what I'm doing. Slowly but surely I will get over this whole thing. I'm not going to sweat it no more. Thank you

Posted by Moodz2468
Yes thats what I'm doing. Slowly but surely I will get over this whole thing. I'm not going to sweat it no more. Thank you

You're welcome