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Dec 15, 2015Comments: 0 · Posts: 236 · Topics: 21
So I'm working as an au pair for a family. At first everything was OK, until this kid decided she doesn't like me... now I have to put up with name calling, hitting, pinching, biting, screaming... she's actually insane! When we are alone, I can usually get along with her, I just turn everything in to a game or competition and her need to win distracts her... but if her friends are there... I am literally a walking punch bag! When I finally get angry and tell her off she ignores me for like 3 days hahaha... HELP ME with this crazy sag child!! Sag are my favorite star sign but this kid is changing my mind aaaahhh.
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Jan 07, 2009Comments: 305 · Posts: 14219 · Topics: 239
I had once a neighbour. He was Sag-Dragon. He confessed he has harmed every nany he had had in the childhood.
as a sag-cat pisces moon i was so peaceful nobody was ever bothered by me.
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"but if her friends are there... I am literally a walking punch bag! When I finally get angry...."
I hope you get several suggestions to try and test.
my suggestion is to be distant and hard to read when friends are with you.
show yourself busy with cooking, bills, important calls, life emergency issues..... put yourself out of the circle of things which give her emotional kick.
could it be this child needs always motion?
if yes let them dance (fake bday party or motto day party) and gym. or you all go to the parks........ swimming pool.
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I wouldn't be inclined to let her have friends over
then... How old is she?
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That was meant for montgomery
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"Have a talk with her"
yeah, talk works well with us.
still
I have Pluto problems. so intimidating talk will harm the relationship with me.
maybe this is the reason why
when I talk to a child I use always the "give them a positive perspective" scheme. otherwise I would feel their bad feeling if I were intimidating to them. because of my moon in pisces. your feeling is my feeling. so I always try to distract children from emotional reasons. I tell them stories. or why that would surprise momy big if we do this and that. I've done babysitting multiple times.
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Dec 15, 2015Comments: 0 · Posts: 236 · Topics: 21
I have spoken to her about wanting to get along and be friends, as her favourite line is " you're not my friend" but when I confronted her she went quiet and nothing else was said, she changed the subject... however I have noticed an improvement since then but only when we're alone.
Its true, they really are hard to control, she wants to be in charge of everything!! And when I tell her what to do it just makes it worse because she also enjoy a good argument. I will try talking to her some more, maybe I can get through to her. Thank you guys