Sags and detachment
This topic was created in the Sagittarius forum by Sagittarius89 on Tuesday, February 24, 2009 and has 17 replies.
I've come to notice that though we are emotional and very loyal in our relationships, we always have one foot out the door. I think it's just the freedom thing. I feel like our sign has the hardest time being fully invested. Like if our personally rules are broken than we just leave. It's like that's just what we care about most above all. Anyone know what I mean?
I feel like we are most detached sometime:/
^ LOL. Gift and curse.
Do you think it's true of both men and women?
I've dated a couple of sags and a handful of aquarians and the aquas seem SO much more detatched. Sag seems to want to be loyal at least, whereas the aqua seems to fear being loyal to somebody or ANYTHING.
I've dated a couple of sags and a handful of aquarians and the aquas seem SO much more detatched. Sag seems to want to be loyal at least, whereas the aqua seems to fear being loyal to somebody or ANYTHING.
I mean in the sense. A sag would leave a relationship for freedom. Because that what they value more.
Yeah
That was me a few years ago. I'd leave in a heartbeat.
But I think once we find the right person, that changes.
I've been with my boyfriend since high school - on and off, of course.
I broke up with him more times than I can even count at this point, simply because I "felt unhappy."
Since he's a libra, he was obviously able to weasel his way back into my good graces everytime.
But within the past two years I think I've finally come to terms with the fact that he's not going anywhere. (Plus no other guy has been able to keep my attention for so long - so that must count for something.)
Now I'm pretty content being in a serious committed relationship. Although, a few years ago it made my skin crawl.
But I think once we find the right person, that changes.
I've been with my boyfriend since high school - on and off, of course.
I broke up with him more times than I can even count at this point, simply because I "felt unhappy."
Since he's a libra, he was obviously able to weasel his way back into my good graces everytime.
But within the past two years I think I've finally come to terms with the fact that he's not going anywhere. (Plus no other guy has been able to keep my attention for so long - so that must count for something.)
Now I'm pretty content being in a serious committed relationship. Although, a few years ago it made my skin crawl.
Yeah, I like have my venus in aqua on top of a sag sun sucks!
...we always have one foot out the door.
this is true for me but as long as I am checking whether or not this is MY RELATIONSHIP.
I think it's just the freedom thing.
of course we will never enter a situation where our freedom is in danger. Even if we love a dominant Scorpio we need a good adaptation time and a big realistic reason why we are giving up our freedom of mind for LOVE. yet I have not achieved it.
I feel like our sign has the hardest time being fully invested.
"fully invested"? how does this happen? everybody has lots of other folks who wants things from them. Parents, mother country, clubs, friends, siblings, children etc.
I am happy that I am not as aloof as Aqua and Virgo who are most of the time giving service to somebody on the earth where at home the abeloved ones are waiting for them.
Like if our personally rules are broken than we just leave.
true for me. My own rules and definition of relationship is much more important to me than what society defined.
MY RELATIONSHIP must offer divesity and motion. Else it is not MINE.
but this is very egoistic from me. It is not 50-50.
I know for sure the problem is my being Sag (Mars, Venus, Mercury, Sun).
I avoid intersting guys (Aqua and Sag) cause they are not focused.
Then I come to stable ones (Taurus, Scorp and Virgo). There I get an impulse of "things are going to be boring" and leave.
The amazing point is that I do not regret. I love all these people whom I left. But I do not miss them.
Men are like books for me. I read them and put them in the bookcase. Or give them back to the library.
My rule is: the right one will be able to keep me.
PS: Actually three years ago I accepted for my future life that I am made to live as single. Only guys do not give up on me.
this is true for me but as long as I am checking whether or not this is MY RELATIONSHIP.
I think it's just the freedom thing.
of course we will never enter a situation where our freedom is in danger. Even if we love a dominant Scorpio we need a good adaptation time and a big realistic reason why we are giving up our freedom of mind for LOVE. yet I have not achieved it.
I feel like our sign has the hardest time being fully invested.
"fully invested"? how does this happen? everybody has lots of other folks who wants things from them. Parents, mother country, clubs, friends, siblings, children etc.
I am happy that I am not as aloof as Aqua and Virgo who are most of the time giving service to somebody on the earth where at home the abeloved ones are waiting for them.
Like if our personally rules are broken than we just leave.
true for me. My own rules and definition of relationship is much more important to me than what society defined.
MY RELATIONSHIP must offer divesity and motion. Else it is not MINE.
but this is very egoistic from me. It is not 50-50.
I know for sure the problem is my being Sag (Mars, Venus, Mercury, Sun).
I avoid intersting guys (Aqua and Sag) cause they are not focused.
Then I come to stable ones (Taurus, Scorp and Virgo). There I get an impulse of "things are going to be boring" and leave.
The amazing point is that I do not regret. I love all these people whom I left. But I do not miss them.
Men are like books for me. I read them and put them in the bookcase. Or give them back to the library.
My rule is: the right one will be able to keep me.
PS: Actually three years ago I accepted for my future life that I am made to live as single. Only guys do not give up on me.
^^^ I so agree. That was nicely said.
"but when I do, I want to go all the way and more,, extreme sort of behavior" Yes, don't you hate it? It feels so uneven.
"but when I do, I want to go all the way and more,, extreme sort of behavior" Yes, don't you hate it? It feels so uneven.
Detachment - This word has been very ironical in my case...(M a sag, a quieter variety of it, and i wud stick my neck out to extrapolate it for most of the sags!
!
They say sags think thru both their heart and mind...and therein lies the conflict...
There are times when i 'want' to be devoted and attached but i just dont feel it coming...surprisingly the harder i try to be devoted to ppl and ideals the more the tendency to run away for sometime on my own( physically or mentally)...and just when ur not expecting it...u suddenly go weak on ur knees for that special one....till date i havent been able to predict when this feeling comes and goes neither have i mastered it
its confusing...but as Briana pointed out...at some pt in time...u just want to get grounded with that one person and not run arnd helter skelter....
Till that time....the explorer lives on...
!They say sags think thru both their heart and mind...and therein lies the conflict...
There are times when i 'want' to be devoted and attached but i just dont feel it coming...surprisingly the harder i try to be devoted to ppl and ideals the more the tendency to run away for sometime on my own( physically or mentally)...and just when ur not expecting it...u suddenly go weak on ur knees for that special one....till date i havent been able to predict when this feeling comes and goes neither have i mastered it
its confusing...but as Briana pointed out...at some pt in time...u just want to get grounded with that one person and not run arnd helter skelter....
Till that time....the explorer lives on...
hmm well i have venus in sag and i am somewhat able to compartmentalise my feelings. if i think i'm about to get hurt or i'm getting in too deep i am able to snap out of it and go 'don't be so stupid'.
sag89 you look so upset in your avatar! are you depressed about being detached lol?
sag89 you look so upset in your avatar! are you depressed about being detached lol?
^^ Haha yeah thats what happens. LOL!!!! No I was waiting for my friend to close up shop that night and I took a pic cause I was bored haha. And the expression came out on my face haha!
Ahhh lol
im soooo flippin annoyed about being this conveluted work of art.
yes i said work of art. lol
i hate that the only stable guys who are sweet and always there are the ones i dont want. and although i care, it seriously makes my skin crawl when i think about getting close to him.
right now im with a virgo but im really contemplating my escape.
he ssuper sweet, but i have this feeling hes got marriage on the mind.
i miss my aqua.. even though he is soooo unstable and completely detached from everything.
one minute he says he loves me and wants to be with me yada yada, and the next hes gone.. dissapeared into the abyss.
its like, if the two could merge i would be the happiest girl in the world.
but i guess im still at that stage where im unconfortable in a relationship, even tho when im not in one i only crave to be in one.
i hate being a saggie sometimes.
yes i said work of art. lol
i hate that the only stable guys who are sweet and always there are the ones i dont want. and although i care, it seriously makes my skin crawl when i think about getting close to him.
right now im with a virgo but im really contemplating my escape.
he ssuper sweet, but i have this feeling hes got marriage on the mind.
i miss my aqua.. even though he is soooo unstable and completely detached from everything.
one minute he says he loves me and wants to be with me yada yada, and the next hes gone.. dissapeared into the abyss.
its like, if the two could merge i would be the happiest girl in the world.
but i guess im still at that stage where im unconfortable in a relationship, even tho when im not in one i only crave to be in one.
i hate being a saggie sometimes.
I know how you feel...
I tried a few times to date the nice guy, who had it all together, as well.
But in the end they were literally just "too nice." Too nice is too boring maybe? Or maybe I'm not mature enough? Idk. I feel horrible about it.
I used to think all women will look for the "nice guy" when they're ready (and sick of all the jerkoffs.)
But I'm starting to think that's just not my style . I won't EVER be ready.
*sigh*
I tried a few times to date the nice guy, who had it all together, as well.
But in the end they were literally just "too nice." Too nice is too boring maybe? Or maybe I'm not mature enough? Idk. I feel horrible about it.
I used to think all women will look for the "nice guy" when they're ready (and sick of all the jerkoffs.)
But I'm starting to think that's just not my style . I won't EVER be ready.
*sigh*
my sagittarius friend, best friend, distances her self too. i dont think its about people though, im pretty sure in fact. sagittarius are odds 1s, arent they? i think the "freedom-loving" thing they do is what makes a sagittarius person a... sagittarius person, lol. if youre sagittarius and not detached -- we have a problem!
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