To All My Saggie Sisters....

Is it just me or do most men not know how to take us?

A snippet of history about me, I was one of 3 girls raised by a single Dad and have inherited many masculine traits. I am all woman mind you, but I am a woman with a mind and I'm not afraid to call it like I see it. Add that to being a Sagittarius (actually a Saggie/Cap cusp, Dec 21st) and you have what one of my co-workers coined me as "Butch-Petite"...Lol. He being Leo seems to be down with my demeanor totally, he loves the wit, humor and laid back attitude, but most men I meet aren't sure what to do with me I think...haha. I'm not saying I haven't had my fun with men, but it seems none want to stick it out for the long haul since my divorce 4 years ago and none that REALLY get me. I'm not bad looking, so I'm starting to think it's something with my demeanor that's a turn off. I don't mind being alone, not at all...but there are times I do wish I had someone there to turn to.

I guess what I am trying to find out from you Saggie girls is, do you have this problem as well? Do you ever think that there may not be anyone out there "compatible" with you, who REALLY gets you? I pride myself on being an optimist, but I sometmes wonder if Mr-Right-for-Saggiegirl is really out there. Men of other signs, please feel free to chime in as well with your thoughts on us November/December girls. I know we are all different even if we are the same sign, but I wonder if you've had any similar feelings...

I kind of agree. The man that comes closest to "getting" me is my Leo ex. When we were together, it wasn't too good lol. But 15 years later, as friends, I feel he 85% gets me. My problem with Men, is they take my strong demeanor and sexy outward appearance to mean I'm a bitch, or I don't want a man. They also don't like my love of working out and weightlifting. They take it as a power thing, when really it's just a stress reliever for me. I guess overall they don't get that I'm a bundle of walking contradictions.

So in general, I tend to get men who want to be dominated (boo!), or men who want an easy lay (boo!). The only other guy who remotely understood me was this Scorp. He liked me being sexy, but came to understand I was picky. He also wasn't afraid to take control in the bedroom and put a little pain on me and dominate me. Most men are too intimidated by me to try that. He also loved that I lifted weights and always wanted to feel how strong I was...but he wasn't a bitch that wanted to be dominated. He just respected strength. I think he still bought into the cool exterior too much. But all in all, I'd say he got me about 60% . Maybe that water sign intuitiveness helped him out.

@Beccy lmao! That too!! Haha!

Posted by beccy
you know I think alot men are afraid of confident women.
and sagittarian babes are very confident and they wont let anyone treat them like a stupid little bitch.
but men like naive little girls.
we know what we want. we are intelligent and funny.
but we can be very serious too.

I think they're just too stupid, really. and too boring. and....and....and...

they should kiss your ass because you share your time with them, but they dont see that.
lol^^

BUT....

I believe there's mister right for you.....
somewhere...

😉

LOL!! Yeah, you're right. Most men I've met seem to want the demure girlie type. I think they're taken aback with my matter of factness and the fact I do actually have a brain. I love your sense of humor...totally! haha

But, I hope you're right and Mr Right-for-me is out there somewhere...now taking applications gents! 😉

Posted by Mebs
I kind of agree. The man that comes closest to "getting" me is my Leo ex. When we were together, it wasn't too good lol. But 15 years later, as friends, I feel he 85% gets me. My problem with Men, is they take my strong demeanor and sexy outward appearance to mean I'm a bitch, or I don't want a man. They also don't like my love of working out and weightlifting. They take it as a power thing, when really it's just a stress reliever for me. I guess overall they don't get that I'm a bundle of walking contradictions.

So in general, I tend to get men who want to be dominated (boo!), or men who want an easy lay (boo!). The only other guy who remotely understood me was this Scorp. He liked me being sexy, but came to understand I was picky. He also wasn't afraid to take control in the bedroom and put a little pain on me and dominate me. Most men are too intimidated by me to try that. He also loved that I lifted weights and always wanted to feel how strong I was...but he wasn't a bitch that wanted to be dominated. He just respected strength. I think he still bought into the cool exterior too much. But all in all, I'd say he got me about 60% . Maybe that water sign intuitiveness helped him out.

I seem to attract the same...although it's more of the men who just want to get laid. I may like sex and I seriously don't believe there is a time period in waiting for it, if it feels right I say go for it....but that doesn't mean I'm a slut. I am VERY picky about who I spread my legs for no matter how much I want it. Maybe I need to take a vow of celibacy and see where that gets me...Lol...but I like it too much me thinks 😉

Posted by Mebs
I kind of agree. The man that comes closest to "getting" me is my Leo ex. When we were together, it wasn't too good lol. But 15 years later, as friends, I feel he 85% gets me. My problem with Men, is they take my strong demeanor and sexy outward appearance to mean I'm a bitch, or I don't want a man. They also don't like my love of working out and weightlifting. They take it as a power thing, when really it's just a stress reliever for me. I guess overall they don't get that I'm a bundle of walking contradictions.

So in general, I tend to get men who want to be dominated (boo!), or men who want an easy lay (boo!). The only other guy who remotely understood me was this Scorp. He liked me being sexy, but came to understand I was picky. He also wasn't afraid to take control in the bedroom and put a little pain on me and dominate me. Most men are too intimidated by me to try that. He also loved that I lifted weights and always wanted to feel how strong I was...but he wasn't a bitch that wanted to be dominated. He just respected strength. I think he still bought into the cool exterior too much. But all in all, I'd say he got me about 60% . Maybe that water sign intuitiveness helped him out.

You know, the man who has come closest to "getting me" was a Scorp too. He was unfortunately a big time manipulator and always accused me of being of passive-aggressive nature which is bullshit. Yeah, I get angry and upset when provoked, but I am surely not going to hide it and be sneaky about it...you'll definitely know it 😉

Yep I have the same problems as the rest of you. I think the only person who comes closest to getting me is my Libra ex. I really can't forgive him for evrythg he put me through.

I agree that a lot of men really don't know what to do with us. A lot of us are very independent so that also intimidates them.

SagGal what sign was your ex-husband and how long were you married?

Posted by SagLadyHere
Yep I have the same problems as the rest of you. I think the only person who comes closest to getting me is my Libra ex. I really can't forgive him for evrythg he put me through.

I agree that a lot of men really don't know what to do with us. A lot of us are very independent so that also intimidates them.

SagGal what sign was your ex-husband and how long were you married?

My ex husband was a Sun Virgo (Rising Libra) Moon Scorp, Venus Scorp and Mars Virgo. We were married almost 16 years, together almost 19. The thing with him was we made fabulous friends, but the actual love wasn't there for me and being 18 years old, I thought being great friends would turn to actual love eventually. It never did. Our downfall was he was a cheater, insecure and untrusting and I was resistant to his controlling ways. I felt smothered and needed out so that's what I did. In hindsight I don't know why I stuck around that long (I guarantee I wont repeat that mistake again), perhaps it was the stability he offered? He was a hard worker and provided for his family. But my god, so insecure...

To this day we are still very good friends and he'd still give the shirt off his back to help me out. He's a good person and means well, but he needs someone that is less independent, wants to be by his side 24/7 and would rely on him for more than I did.

@SagGal I'm sorry to hear that. It sucks when you can have so much love with someone, but it can't work.

That Venus in Scorp is powerful. It wasn't until the other day I realized my daughter's father had a Venus in Scorp (he's a Sag). He was smothered me to death and was very possessive. I couldn't understand how a Sag could be that way. It was that damned Venus kicking in lol.

wow....this sounds familiar to me.

i feel like i end up with guys that just want to sleep with me but, see me as a friend. or as one of the guys.

i think that my bluntness scares and hurts people and they have a hard time appreciating that i am honest, but often put my foot in my mouth.

Posted by Mebs
@SagGal I'm sorry to hear that. It sucks when you can have so much love with someone, but it can't work.

That Venus in Scorp is powerful. It wasn't until the other day I realized my daughter's father had a Venus in Scorp (he's a Sag). He was smothered me to death and was very possessive. I couldn't understand how a Sag could be that way. It was that damned Venus kicking in lol.

Would you believe my Venus, Mars and Jupiter are all in Scorp? Lol...I can see where I would be "possessive", but only in the fact the man who is with me better be with me and only me. He can do his thing and have his "me" time as I am a-ok with seperate time and I don't need to know what he's doing all hours of the day...but when he's out doing it, it better not be getting down with another woman or all Saggie hell will break lose 😉 There has to be something else in my chart that counteracts all that Scorp in me because I really do not feel nor think I am possessive in the literal sense...I would be a total hypocrite if I was.

Posted by littlearcher
wow....this sounds familiar to me.

i feel like i end up with guys that just want to sleep with me but, see me as a friend. or as one of the guys.

i think that my bluntness scares and hurts people and they have a hard time appreciating that i am honest, but often put my foot in my mouth.

Lol...I have my foot in my mouth all the time 😉

Posted by SagGal70

Posted by littlearcher
wow....this sounds familiar to me.

i feel like i end up with guys that just want to sleep with me but, see me as a friend. or as one of the guys.

i think that my bluntness scares and hurts people and they have a hard time appreciating that i am honest, but often put my foot in my mouth.

Lol...I have my foot in my mouth all the time 😉

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+1

Yes of course.

Why do you think we have the least threads?

Cause we don't play into stupid baby emotional bullshit like everyone else.

We are just honest and forward.

Does that turn people off. Ya!

Men? Ya!


Does wanting to be a equal turn men off?

Ya!


The biggest thing is we don't kiss ass. Does that turn a man off?

HELL FUCKING YA.

😛

that's the other thing that is so important to me
being equals
mutual respect
and BOTH people investing in any relationship

if i feel like things aren't equal or i'm not getting treated as an equal, i get very upset

and i have a huge and fiery temper...but, it flares up and disappears again pretty quickly.

then the other person is usually super mad at me, and i am over it and trying to do damage control 😢

Posted by littlearcher
that's the other thing that is so important to me
being equals
mutual respect
and BOTH people investing in any relationship

if i feel like things aren't equal or i'm not getting treated as an equal, i get very upset

and i have a huge and fiery temper...but, it flares up and disappears again pretty quickly.

then the other person is usually super mad at me, and i am over it and trying to do damage control 😢

Totally lol

Posted by beccy
you know I think alot men are afraid of confident women.
and sagittarian babes are very confident and they wont let anyone treat them like a stupid little bitch.
but men like naive little girls.
we know what we want. we are intelligent and funny.
but we can be very serious too.

I think they're just too stupid, really. and too boring. and....and....and...

they should kiss your ass because you share your time with them, but they dont see that.
lol^^

BUT....

I believe there's mister right for you.....
somewhere...

😉

It's true, a lot of men are afraid of confident women (just keeping it 100% ). There are men who are not, though. I'm not afraid of confident women, I actually encourage it. Though I have my flaws, too. It's vice verse for me, I'm afraid of insecure women.

I think if you are confident, you are not afraid of dealing with other confident people. Usually when a person is insecure, they always seem to resort to bullshit like manipulation, lying, cheating, testing, mind games, et cetera, which spoils an awesome relationship, exposing their true nature. I have to admit that I turn into a passive-aggressive psycho, and can be very vindictive (a true nightmare) if I discover my partner is playing with my emotions. But I never start the shit. Must be that Scorpio Moon.

@SagMind lol. I second that. I can be very much RAAAWWWR in your face. But when I'm turned off and I sense a scam, I start dripping with sarcasm and being a mean, vindictive bitch. Lol. And I have an aqua moon so...who knows!

Posted by SagittarianMind

Posted by beccy
you know I think alot men are afraid of confident women.
and sagittarian babes are very confident and they wont let anyone treat them like a stupid little bitch.
but men like naive little girls.
we know what we want. we are intelligent and funny.
but we can be very serious too.

I think they're just too stupid, really. and too boring. and....and....and...

they should kiss your ass because you share your time with them, but they dont see that.
lol^^

BUT....

I believe there's mister right for you.....
somewhere...

😉

It's true, a lot of men are afraid of confident women (just keeping it 100% ). There are men who are not, though. I'm not afraid of confident women, I actually encourage it. Though I have my flaws, too. It's vice verse for me, I'm afraid of insecure women.

I think if you are confident, you are not afraid of dealing with other confident people. Usually when a person is insecure, they always seem to resort to bullshit like manipulation, lying, cheating, testing, mind games, et cetera, which spoils an awesome relationship, exposing their true nature. I have to admit that I turn into a passive-aggressive psycho, and can be very vindictive (a true nightmare) if I discover my partner is playing with my emotions. But I never start the shit. Must be that Scorpio Moon.

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here here sister

the only ppl who get me are my sag sisters. theres like a mutual respect. i have an aries bff and at times, she is the bomb and at others, i need some time off.

im very much tomboyish. i dress and look like a girl but i have a trucker mouth.

theres not much i would change about me.

@DMV Sagmind is a dude lol.

LOL.....LOL....right, it does say male

correction, here here my brother from another mother

Posted by SagittarianMind

Posted by beccy
you know I think alot men are afraid of confident women.
and sagittarian babes are very confident and they wont let anyone treat them like a stupid little bitch.
but men like naive little girls.
we know what we want. we are intelligent and funny.
but we can be very serious too.

I think they're just too stupid, really. and too boring. and....and....and...

they should kiss your ass because you share your time with them, but they dont see that.
lol^^

BUT....

I believe there's mister right for you.....
somewhere...

😉

It's true, a lot of men are afraid of confident women (just keeping it 100% ). There are men who are not, though. I'm not afraid of confident women, I actually encourage it. Though I have my flaws, too. It's vice verse for me, I'm afraid of insecure women.

I think if you are confident, you are not afraid of dealing with other confident people. Usually when a person is insecure, they always seem to resort to bullshit like manipulation, lying, cheating, testing, mind games, et cetera, which spoils an awesome relationship, exposing their true nature. I have to admit that I turn into a passive-aggressive psycho, and can be very vindictive (a true nightmare) if I discover my partner is playing with my emotions. But I never start the shit. Must be that Scorpio Moon.

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So true...I do believe those who have confidence can deal with confidence in others and those that are insecure see it as a threat. Perhaps it is just the fact I haven't crossed paths with many men that are in the true sense confident and able to deal with me. I spent many years married to an insecure, don't want to repeat that mistake again.

Posted by CarbonMonoxide
I'm starting to suspect I'll prolly never get married. And I'm actually OK with this. 🙂

I just need a lot of personal space/ freedom and I refuse to submit to someone elses will and/or take orders.

If I do decide to pair up with someone, I'm pretty sure it will be an unconventional relationship. One in which we have our own separate lives and living spaces. We might even live in different provinces/countries and only see each other a few months a year.

Fine by me.

I don't think I will pro-create either. I might adopt in the future though. Gawd knows, there's a lot of kids who need love! And I don't necessarily need to pop one out/ replicate my genes in order to feel validated.🙂

I kind of feel the same way. When it comes down to it, I'm sure I could handle being single the rest of my life if that's the cards I am dealt. I spent the first half unhappily tied down...in the second half I don't want to be the same way so it's gonna take a lot to get me to even think of marriage again (if I ever do). But I am a-ok with that. Doesn't mean I will not be having my fun or not have a partner in crime 😉

SagGal: You have the same bday a I do and we have a lot of the same traits lol

Posted by Sag_Cap_Beauty*Cusp
SagGal: You have the same bday a I do and we have a lot of the same traits lol

Hiya sis! 😉 ...I find that totally wild because I've never met anyone that shared my birthday. I have a friend from back home that has a b-day on the 22nd, but that's the closest I've come. She's a lot like you and I, but slightly more "subdued" if I dare to use that word. My oldest sis is a Cap and she and the 22nd friend are very similar in nature, the only difference being is when 22nd says something smart ass and serious to someone who's being a jag, she means it and says it like she means it...my Cappy sis, on the other hand, will say something similar in nature, but with a bit of humor or laugh as she says it (perhaps to ease the sting a bit...Lol) At the core of it though, my sis doesn't like being alone...the Cap/Sag seems to handle it well (due to that Sag influence!)

The one thing I am trying to change in myself is I have a tendency to close myself off to people and can really be a hermit at times. People don't even need to piss me off for me to do this, it's something that just happens...I kind of just get sick of people in general and become a home body...interestingly, this doesn't bother me...Lol But even though it doesn't, I have realized that I shouldn't be so closed off at certain times and need open myself up a bit more to the world around me.

The art of silence though, is something I'm master at....seriously! Where most people would sound off, overreact and act like a complete moron to a certain situation if they are royally pissed, there are certain times I won't say anything and that person will not see or hear from me. Some people may laugh and associate that with weakness, but it is a total opposite reaction. It takes a strong person to keep their mouth shut as most people would expect one to fly off the handle...not to mention there are those that say things just for the sole purpose of getting a rise out of someone. I can spot that shit a mile away and it wont work on me 😉....believe me when I say, silence is an extremely powerful weapon if you know how and when to use it.

Of course, being a Sag/Cap with Sag rising, when the moment calls for a reply oozing with sharp wit and sarcasm, I will deliver it verbally poste haste without even batting an eyelash. My sister is envious of my ability to do this without even thinking

Posted by Sag_Cap_Beauty*Cusp
SagGal: You have the same bday a I do and we have a lot of the same traits lol

...and may I say how gorgeous you are!! Must be a December 21st thing 😉

Posted by Mebs
@SagMind lol. I second that. I can be very much RAAAWWWR in your face. But when I'm turned off and I sense a scam, I start dripping with sarcasm and being a mean, vindictive bitch. Lol. And I have an aqua moon so...who knows!

I envy your moon. Lol.

Posted by SagGal70

Posted by SagittarianMind

Posted by beccy
you know I think alot men are afraid of confident women.
and sagittarian babes are very confident and they wont let anyone treat them like a stupid little bitch.
but men like naive little girls.
we know what we want. we are intelligent and funny.
but we can be very serious too.

I think they're just too stupid, really. and too boring. and....and....and...

they should kiss your ass because you share your time with them, but they dont see that.
lol^^

BUT....

I believe there's mister right for you.....
somewhere...

😉

It's true, a lot of men are afraid of confident women (just keeping it 100% ). There are men who are not, though. I'm not afraid of confident women, I actually encourage it. Though I have my flaws, too. It's vice verse for me, I'm afraid of insecure women.

I think if you are confident, you are not afraid of dealing with other confident people. Usually when a person is insecure, they always seem to resort to bullshit like manipulation, lying, cheating, testing, mind games, et cetera, which spoils an awesome relationship, exposing their true nature. I have to admit that I turn into a passive-aggressive psycho, and can be very vindictive (a true nightmare) if I discover my partner is playing with my emotions. But I never start the shit. Must be that Scorpio Moon.

So true...I do believe those who have confidence can deal with confidence in others and those that are insecure see it as a threat. Perhaps it is just the fact I haven't crossed paths with many men that are in the true sense confident and able to deal with me. I spent many years married to an insecure, don't want to repeat that mistake again.

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That's what I fear, wasting time and energy on a relationship that's likely to end sooner or later. The bright side is that we learn from relationships, but is it really necessary to go through all that? Ugh.. that's why I'm taking a break from relationships. Also to detach myself from that constant need of dating someone to replace that other person, so I can take it slow, think clearly, and have more chances of choosing the right person. At this point I actually enjoy being single a bit too much, lol.

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Posted by SagittarianMind


That's what I fear, wasting time and energy on a relationship that's likely to end sooner or later. The bright side is that we learn from relationships, but is it really necessary to go through all that? Ugh.. that's why I'm taking a break from relationships. Also to detach myself from that constant need of dating someone to replace that other person, so I can take it slow, think clearly, and have more chances of choosing the right person. At this point I actually enjoy being single a bit too much, lol.

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Yes...I am passive aggressive when someone fucking pisses me off...when they are not supposed to do that.. lol.

Anyway, BELIEVE IT OR NOT - MANY PEOPLE CANNOT HANDLE BEING ALONE. I know many people..who can't handle that. But for me, I can handle it fine... I mean I don't go *emo* Q.Q I'm lonely ..*cries*. I'm either fine with being alone or having company! Most of the time, I need my time and space for myself ..it's nice to have some peace and no drama Either way, I still enjoy being a single No commitment...no mind games...no drama...no bitch controlling me...nothing I'm free like a flying bird.. *chirp*

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Yes, there are many people that can't handle being alone. One thing they don't realize is that learning to be happy with yourself and happy living alone would make future relationships 1000 times better. It releases pressure and dependency upon another human being because YOU know you're perfectly fine being alone if that's what it comes down to.
I've been divorced almost 4 years now and have yet to be in a traditional relationship. I had a few long distance, but perhaps that was my way of retaining my independence while still thinking I had someone there. I enjoy being alone, I really do. I have no one to answer to but myself, I do what I want, travel where I want, buy what I want etc...and I LOVE being in control of that and not having anyone else to answer to. A Leo GF of mine said to me one day: "You know, I have many friends that say they are perfectly fine and dandy being alone and could handle being alone no problem...and out of all of my friends that say that, you're the only one I believe because I know you can truly handle it and are happy living it."
I take that as a MAJOR compliment 🙂

Lol o wow u sound just like my sagi bff! she was raised by a single dad too and claims to have adopted his masculine traits. i think i can how u cud feel like guys don't know how to take u. it cud b the masculine and aggressive personality along with the bluntness u guys have. it's intimidating but i personally love it n that's y i think an AQUA MALE wud b perfect. esp intellectually wise. u can read the "aqua-sagi combo" in any relationship compatibility report online n it'll all tell u its an awesome thing. we complement each other and there's a mutual admiration. aquas love sagis! 🙂

Wow, I feel like I am reading about myself here. It's amazing how we are all so much alike. I am told that so many people like me but not alot of men seems to approach me. I think I scare them off my being too confident. Men have made comments about me (for instance: they would say something like, I would be with you or who wouldn't want you) The problem is: they don't do anything about it. Apparently, I am very popular because so many people know me or know who I am and I have no idea who they are sometimes. Probably because I am in my own little world when I am out and I focus on the people around me that I am socializing with and don't realize others are watching or even care. I have girls that come up to me trying to talk with me like they want to be my friend and I figured out that it's usually because a guy they like, likes me and I don't even know it until later.

I do find myself alone though, alot. I go out with friends but then I also can be a hermit as well. Not many people know the true me because I have been hurt by male and females friends when I aloud them to get too close. My relationships usually last between 1 and 3 years except for one that lasted over 7 years. I am very loyal and honest to a fault sometimes. I like to banter with my partner to keep things interesting. I hardly ever fight with the men that I have been in a relationship with. I prefer to back away and ignore to recoup my thoughts. I do however need someone who will bring me back from staying away too long. I know I can take care of myself but I really don't want too. I want someone who will see past my tough attitude and find me and be there for me. It takes a long time for me to trust people since I was hurt so badly with my 7 year relationship. I am very dominent type person and I want someone else who is more dominent than me but sweet on the outside. I even get stuck with men that I have to control in the bedroom and it gets old after a while. I want to feel wanted with passion from my partner.

By the way, my Venus is in Sag and Moon is in Pisces

My best friend, AQUARIUS21, got me into this website and told me about your post so it was the very first one I looked for... I too was raised by a man and I feel the EXACT same way as you do. It DOES have a lot to do by being raised by a man. It's like a game of chess and we know all their moves, and most men can't take that. I once read in a book, forgot which one kuz i got like 16, but it said that men start to hate what they fell in love with at the beginning. So we understand what they need to be happy, but we expect the same back and most men fail to understand that. Most men don't want an equal, they want to be the leader and we're not one to let anybody lead us. FREEDOM!! lols.. at least that's how I feel. And I know what you mean when you say that they just don't understand you... I got out of a divorce too.. so I feel like my standards have gone up way high and I want "the one" and I'm determined not to settle for less kuz I don't want to waste time or energy on somebody who's not special. You might not agree, but I feel it has a lot to do with my dad. He taught me how to be a man, not a lady... and though I'm not gay (no offense to those who are) it's hard for me to find a guy who's my equal and can keep up mentally, as well as physically. Most men are afraid that we are just too much of an equal for them, but eventually there'll be that one guy who won't mind it... let him come to you, not you to him 🙂 hope that helped lols

also... your default pix is my tattoo on my shoulder blade lols

Posted by SagGal70
Is it just me or do most men not know how to take us?

A snippet of history about me, I was one of 3 girls raised by a single Dad and have inherited many masculine traits. I am all woman mind you, but I am a woman with a mind and I'm not afraid to call it like I see it. Add that to being a Sagittarius (actually a Saggie/Cap cusp, Dec 21st) and you have what one of my co-workers coined me as "Butch-Petite"...Lol. He being Leo seems to be down with my demeanor totally, he loves the wit, humor and laid back attitude, but most men I meet aren't sure what to do with me I think...haha. I'm not saying I haven't had my fun with men, but it seems none want to stick it out for the long haul since my divorce 4 years ago and none that REALLY get me. I'm not bad looking, so I'm starting to think it's something with my demeanor that's a turn off. I don't mind being alone, not at all...but there are times I do wish I had someone there to turn to.

I guess what I am trying to find out from you Saggie girls is, do you have this problem as well? Do you ever think that there may not be anyone out there "compatible" with you, who REALLY gets you? I pride myself on being an optimist, but I sometmes wonder if Mr-Right-for-Saggiegirl is really out there. Men of other signs, please feel free to chime in as well with your thoughts on us November/December girls. I know we are all different even if we are the same sign, but I wonder if you've had any similar feelings...

Hi SagGal70!
I am a fellow Sag female myself and I will say this. I have asked this of both my female and male friends and they sum it up like this. "Men are intimidated by you. You are beautiful, strong, and intelligent and they cannot approach you, not because you are loud or voice your opinion but because they feel inferior to you."
Now that says it all! Time and time again I wondered the same things as you, and now I think like this.
Someone will accept me for who I am, but I need to accept me first.
I have finally done so, and things are a changing!
Good luck!

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Posted by CarbonMonoxide
I'm starting to suspect I'll prolly never get married. And I'm actually OK with this. 🙂

I just need a lot of personal space/ freedom and I refuse to submit to someone elses will and/or take orders.

If I do decide to pair up with someone, I'm pretty sure it will be an unconventional relationship. One in which we have our own separate lives and living spaces. We might even live in different provinces/countries and only see each other a few months a year.

Fine by me.

I don't think I will pro-create either. I might adopt in the future though. Gawd knows, there's a lot of kids who need love! And I don't necessarily need to pop one out/ replicate my genes in order to feel validated.



🙂

I don't know where you are these days Lady Monox (and I hope all is good) but you described exactly the way i feel.

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i like traditional relationships with unconventional people.