What does this sag guy want from me?
This topic was created in the Sagittarius forum by BCJ on Saturday, January 18, 2014 and has 6 replies.
I am distant friends with this sag guy, who I only bump into occasionally.
we both like each other and went on a few dates mid 2013, but nothing more as he wasn't ready for a relationship. I told him that I would wait for him for a while if he saw something with me in the future, but he never gave me an answer, so thought he expected me to wait.
He seems to flirt when I see him, but know he is a flirty person in general with other girls aswell.
Bumped into him recently twice, one he bent right into my car talking and staring into my eyes for a good 10 seconds. The next time I mentioned I was thinking of doing a parachute jump, and he was seemingly trying to talk me out of it, and concerned I may die if something went wrong, but he never directly told me he cared or was concerned for me.
Feels like he blows on and off, one minute flirting and staring, the next telling me to find someone else and he can't offer me the relationship he thinks I want.
I was dragged to a psychic evening recently in the local pub and was told that he expects and assumes that I will wait around for him.
Why would he expect me to wait around for him when he's not giving me much hope to hold into? I'm not waiting around, but are his intentions to get back with me when he feels ready, and just flirting with other girls for fun or is he just keeping me around and trying to keep me interested so I don't find someone else, so I'm there as an option?
we both like each other and went on a few dates mid 2013, but nothing more as he wasn't ready for a relationship. I told him that I would wait for him for a while if he saw something with me in the future, but he never gave me an answer, so thought he expected me to wait.
He seems to flirt when I see him, but know he is a flirty person in general with other girls aswell.
Bumped into him recently twice, one he bent right into my car talking and staring into my eyes for a good 10 seconds. The next time I mentioned I was thinking of doing a parachute jump, and he was seemingly trying to talk me out of it, and concerned I may die if something went wrong, but he never directly told me he cared or was concerned for me.
Feels like he blows on and off, one minute flirting and staring, the next telling me to find someone else and he can't offer me the relationship he thinks I want.
I was dragged to a psychic evening recently in the local pub and was told that he expects and assumes that I will wait around for him.
Why would he expect me to wait around for him when he's not giving me much hope to hold into? I'm not waiting around, but are his intentions to get back with me when he feels ready, and just flirting with other girls for fun or is he just keeping me around and trying to keep me interested so I don't find someone else, so I'm there as an option?
He feels concerned for you as he dont want to see you die anytime soon and felt that by doing a parachute jump itd be doomed at that time. However things have changed and its a different times so who knows what is going on with him
I would not listen to anyone else but yourself for the answers to these questions, how do you feel towards these happenings?
He may be expecting you to wait around for him as well as for you to get on with your lifes, its more of a see how things go where in by you both get out and meet others and get to be with others.
Just coz you both like each other doesnt mean it will work out, so move on and go find others to be with, and in the meantime it will work itself out if thats how its meant to go, sometimes people have a way with them where they make things happen that arent meant to happen at all and make a big mess of it at a later date and this situation is dangerously close to that, not sure if it meant to be or meant to be met you then and had learning experience then so can move on.
Why is it you can not move on from this is there something you must learn from this?
Sometimes people are in our lives only for a brief moment or two and then we learn from them and then move on and meet others and learn from them (need to learn to see this and live this and learn this and elet go of this) thats how it goes and thats how it is, sometimes you learn from others and move on to others to learn from and then when both people are ready to learn again form each other weave inadn out of each others lives on and off how ever long it takes for the individual to learn what they do to move on, now what have you learnt you not willing to accept to move on to?
I would not listen to anyone else but yourself for the answers to these questions, how do you feel towards these happenings?
He may be expecting you to wait around for him as well as for you to get on with your lifes, its more of a see how things go where in by you both get out and meet others and get to be with others.
Just coz you both like each other doesnt mean it will work out, so move on and go find others to be with, and in the meantime it will work itself out if thats how its meant to go, sometimes people have a way with them where they make things happen that arent meant to happen at all and make a big mess of it at a later date and this situation is dangerously close to that, not sure if it meant to be or meant to be met you then and had learning experience then so can move on.
Why is it you can not move on from this is there something you must learn from this?
Sometimes people are in our lives only for a brief moment or two and then we learn from them and then move on and meet others and learn from them (need to learn to see this and live this and learn this and elet go of this) thats how it goes and thats how it is, sometimes you learn from others and move on to others to learn from and then when both people are ready to learn again form each other weave inadn out of each others lives on and off how ever long it takes for the individual to learn what they do to move on, now what have you learnt you not willing to accept to move on to?
Sometimes even flirting with others is a learning experience and by you not allowing him his flirting learning experience your actually impeding his learning not only of himself but that of others which he needs in order to live in this world
This is why jealousy (and other issues)of self and of others is a learning experience to be had and learnt from so that people can become whole within themselves and stop their own self-destructive behaviours
This is why jealousy (and other issues)of self and of others is a learning experience to be had and learnt from so that people can become whole within themselves and stop their own self-destructive behaviours
I do not know wha the sag guy want maybe you can ask him next time you see him
I feel he wants to be a friend to you although he does like you, its best to move on so you dont get hurt coz he likes to see what others are like and knows that because you are hurt by his flirting its better off being a platonic hub, interest is there but due to his flirting and the fact that this does hurt you that its best for both of you to remain friends if possible or be together and set out the guidelines for this relationship to work as you both are going to need them coz you both hurt easy enough not only that its more common to have something like this going on abouts but then again would you really ever partake in such
Hes likes to play around you are obvious hurt by this is there any way of this not happening where you dont get hurt by his playing around and he does get to play around, its not like you two are together just interested in each other so how is this to develop? or will it develop into something more?
How long does this go on for? Is it time for this? Many questions to be told
Hey maybe its at a level where you both can try to be atleast comfortable around each other as I still feel hes got more to learn before being with you if that is the way its to go, now whether or not he can learn these things by being with you or not is another thing I am trying to understand. May he can maybe he cant also theres things for you to learn from him if not done so already so must take that into consideration.
Hes likes to play around you are obvious hurt by this is there any way of this not happening where you dont get hurt by his playing around and he does get to play around, its not like you two are together just interested in each other so how is this to develop? or will it develop into something more?
How long does this go on for? Is it time for this? Many questions to be told
Hey maybe its at a level where you both can try to be atleast comfortable around each other as I still feel hes got more to learn before being with you if that is the way its to go, now whether or not he can learn these things by being with you or not is another thing I am trying to understand. May he can maybe he cant also theres things for you to learn from him if not done so already so must take that into consideration.
Holy crap. You're still wasting your time with this guy?
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