Posted by DMV
Do you work? What do u do? Is the money coming in even? Are the house duties even?
Posted by SsasyPosted by DMV
Do you work? What do u do? Is the money coming in even? Are the house duties even?
Yup I work 2 jobs and im in school.
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Posted by safire
I feel for you.. I have venus in cap, whether it's the culprit here or not. Your partner sounds a lot like me in my past relationships. It has happened to me twice in the past, moving in with someone and the sexy times ending there, no matter how hot it was before.
I've thought about it a lot. Perhaps my insights are too personal, but in case you might find any of it helpful, here they are:
- I need a lot of time alone to feel like myself, to deal with the world
- I need a lot of physical space. I'm thinking I might need my own floor if I'm to live with someone again, or at least my own room and a permission from my partner to spend a lot of time alone in there.. Without having to explain why
- When I don't get enough space and time alone, during the time together with my partner, I can't focus on enjoying it at all. Instead, I keep thinking about my lost freedom (I perceive it as loss of freedom)
- As a consequence, I begin to lose respect for my partner. It is a gradual process, but in a year or two, I end up resenting my partner to the point of feeling disgusted by them, for no apparent reason
- For sexy times to happen, I keep thinking everything else needs to be in order first. It is just an illusion though, but it is how I begin to feel when I need to juggle a lot of responsibilities (my partner being one of them) and my personal time & space get substituted with time spent together. When it gets to this point, I might need a week, even two weeks alone for my mind to be able to process everything and for me to realize again what my priorities and needs in life are
- For some reason, I easily tend to forget to respect my partner as much as they should be respected. Whenever my respect for them drops, I completely lose interest in engaging physically with them. I have yet to figure this one out, but for now, hate to admit it, a bit of relationship drama initiated by my partner every couple of months helps - it's a bit of a slap in the face to humble me and remind me of how important they are to me
- Last but not least, the more I am encouraged to open up to my partner about my issues (and they actively listen and really let me talk), the more I feel emotionally connected to them. I would like to have them talk to me as well, be able to help, it is not a burden. The more I feel this connection, the more I want to bed them and show them good time.. Life can get so busy, it is very easy to forget how to have a real conversation with a loved one. Conversations are perhaps the best way display intelligence and wisdom - qualities, which I think most sags are deeply attracted to.
Good luck!
Posted by sagiluv
I'll share about me:
My sun sag Venus cap makes me a very busy person, hard working, always focused on taking care of my home
& being financially stable. I find myself sometimes drifting away & focused on what's important to me which is prosperity and reaching my daily goals. As far as sexual intimacy that is not my priority when I'm focused on my career: I do need a lot space & don't like to feel smothered or bothered when I have a goal in mind about something that is important to me. I don't like to be nagged either. & I also expect for my partner to do their part in building our empire.
Posted by AriesIntrovert16
What are your placements?
Posted by LittlePieces62Posted by sagiluv
I'll share about me:
My sun sag Venus cap makes me a very busy person, hard working, always focused on taking care of my home
& being financially stable. I find myself sometimes drifting away & focused on what's important to me which is prosperity and reaching my daily goals. As far as sexual intimacy that is not my priority when I'm focused on my career: I do need a lot space & don't like to feel smothered or bothered when I have a goal in mind about something that is important to me. I don't like to be nagged either. & I also expect for my partner to do their part in building our empire.
Sounds like me also :-)click to expand