What's up with this Venus in Sag?

This topic was created in the Sagittarius forum by RiverLee on Monday, April 18, 2016 and has 12 replies.
Long story short, I can add to it this more if need be. I don't know much of anything about this placement so I looked it up really quick. Adventurous, freedom loving and non committal.
I recently got back into contact with my HS sweetheart/first love after several decades. When we were teenagers he was what I would call a bad boy. I was curious to see how he was as an adult.
I found out that he's recently going through a divorce. So I immediately put the breaks on any prospect of rekindling anything. He has been wanting to meet with me which I agreed to do as friends. I can definitely see the sag in him. He talked a lot about traveling and vacationing, he plays contact sports, talked about wanting to sky dive, bungee jump, basically an adrenaline junky. Even his work is what I consider dangerous. The part that I don't see, which I would think would be very obvious with a venus in sag is the non committal part.
I gave him the standard advice I give all guys I've known going through a divorce: Stay single, play the field, sew your wild oats, heal whatever hurt you from your marriage.
His answer was no lol He is referring to me as his girlfriend and suggested that I allow him to move in with me. I put all of this to a screeching and grinding halt.
I was very honest in that it's not as if I'm completely uninterested BUT his situation is not something I want to be involved in. I don't want to be/ won't be a FWB's or rebound. He says he understands and we'll take things day by day. He probably finds my caution incredibly boring lol

So anyway, what do you think gives with this guy? Is it that his seeming to want to commit to me is being non committal to the person he's still married to, so in a way that's still like cheating? Or maybe that he's just being impulsive and this feels adventures to him?
Sounds like he's feeling all over the place emotionally, you were right to put a halt to his wanting to move in together, bless him, hes lucky to have a friend in you by the sounds of it, he just needs time to get himself together, be there for him, he will slowly start to get himself together and realize what he really wants, give it a few months, if you like him talk again, just be there for him in between x
He probably finds my caution incredibly boring lol

So anyway, what do you think gives with this guy? Is it that his seeming to want to commit to me is being non committal to the person he's still married to, so in a way that's still like cheating? Or maybe that he's just being impulsive and this feels adventures to him?

Whoa Nelly!!! My ex-bf (Saggy) when I met him was telling me he's NEVER getting married again (he's been married three times!!! eeek!), and less than one month later he's telling me he wants to live with me, that he LOVES the honey do list, etc, etc, etc, etc!. "Whoa Nelly!!" Just because they don't want a commitment doesn't mean that they don't want to get involved with a woman. They are FAST like "The Fast and the Furious". They DON'T like to be by themselves. They need the "tit" like I told my ex-bf; they just need a woman to cuddle with/sleep beside her/wake up in the morning to. Remember, Saggy is the Archer and they are the, "Lovers and not fighters".

Your call if you're ready for this....be ready to be suffocated by them (text you 10,000 times a day); as they just want to hear your voice when they are driving and it's a long commute.

Love, Hug

Eva
Went for a friendly hang out type date yesterday, had no problem keeping the panties on without a friends assistance lol
Funny because he came to my house and I met him at his car door as he was getting out. I guess he thought he was coming inside.
The purpose of the thread is that I thought Venus in Sag was more non committal but I feel like I'm more non committal than he is at this point. Kinda confused about that is all.
Posted by RiverLee
Went for a friendly hang out type date yesterday, had no problem keeping the panties on without a friends assistance lol
Funny because he came to my house and I met him at his car door as he was getting out. I guess he thought he was coming inside.
The purpose of the thread is that I thought Venus in Sag was more non committal but I feel like I'm more non committal than he is at this point. Kinda confused about that is all.

No worries, you can read between the lines; esp when we women read a Saggy (too easy!) Smug

Love,

Eva
Posted by EvatheDiva
He probably finds my caution incredibly boring lol

So anyway, what do you think gives with this guy? Is it that his seeming to want to commit to me is being non committal to the person he's still married to, so in a way that's still like cheating? Or maybe that he's just being impulsive and this feels adventures to him?

Whoa Nelly!!! My ex-bf (Saggy) when I met him was telling me he's NEVER getting married again (he's been married three times!!! eeek!), and less than one month later he's telling me he wants to live with me, that he LOVES the honey do list, etc, etc, etc, etc!. "Whoa Nelly!!" Just because they don't want a commitment doesn't mean that they don't want to get involved with a woman. They are FAST like "The Fast and the Furious". They DON'T like to be by themselves. They need the "tit" like I told my ex-bf; they just need a woman to cuddle with/sleep beside her/wake up in the morning to. Remember, Saggy is the Archer and they are the, "Lovers and not fighters".

Your call if you're ready for this....be ready to be suffocated by them (text you 10,000 times a day); as they just want to hear your voice when they are driving and it's a long commute.

Love, Hug

Eva

Thank you, this resonates with me. He said that we didn't have to have sex, he likes to "spoon" and is fine with just doing that if that's all I want right now. To be honest I rolled my eyes at that lol He also texted me immediately after dropping me off and then called me on his way home. He lives 2 hours away.
Thank you, this resonates with me. He said that we didn't have to have sex, he likes to "spoon" and is fine with just doing that if that's all I want right now. To be honest I rolled my eyes at that lol He also texted me immediately after dropping me off and then called me on his way home. He lives 2 hours away.

Told ya Smug

Love,

Eva
I have Venus in Sag and I think I mostly just don't like when people come on too strong. If I am into you I may like it but I wont know how to react properly to it. If I am not into you it freaks me out. I think Sag Venus just makes me adventurous in love and I want an intelligent partner. I also like to study them inside and out I want to know everything about them.
Venus in Sag men are usually attracted to wild women, perhaps his sun mellows him out a bit.
I figured you weren't being completely serious BlackNova. smile I was focused on the Venus because that sign rules matters of love & relationships, unless it's different for men? He has a Cap sun. The only other Cap I know is my best friend and she was freaked out by him calling me his girl friend lol Being that I'm also an earth sign (Taurus) I get it. I'm a slow mover. I would think he being a Capricorn would make him a slow mover also. He also has a gemini moon. But I have a gemini moon as well so I understand, from a female perspective anyway, how that makes you feel or not feel actually.

Are there any other parts of a chart that would make a person (man) want to jump into a relationship/commitment quickly?
I'm a Venus in sag. I think we want a partner who will help us grow and evolve. Someone who will be a friend as well as a lover, a companion: I dated a Venus in sag for 10 years and she was the most loyal woman I've ever met and why? Because she wanted to be. I didn't try and control her at all, it was just her nature. So I think it's a missconception that they are non commit all. I feel like we won't jump into marriage unless we're sure. We just won't take any b.s when we're done we're done. Good luck changing their mind then.
Posted by BlackNova
Posted by libraqueen
Why did his marriage end?

Probably due to Venus in Sagi commitment issues
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Well of course I'm only getting his side of things and I understand she (the wife) would probably have a different story but according to him...... their relationship has been stagnant for 6 years and he's left a couple times before but he goes back because he feels guilty about his kids. According to him, she hasn't worked since they've been married but she also doesn't clean or cook so the house is always a mess and she stays in bed for days at a time. She sounds depressed to me. He also said that she doesn't discipline the kids so they're kinda wild and then he has to be the bad guy all of the time and he has to come home from work and cook and clean. Because of this he says that he's stressed which makes him drink and her complain,t according to him, is that he drinks too much.........

So over the course of the last few days and with all of this information I've decided that this isn't a situation I want to be involved with in any way really. I would like to be a friend if I can but I'm going to have to have really strict boundaries. Yesterday he moved to a different city so instead of being 2 hours away from me he's now only 1 hour away from me. He said partly the reason he moved was so that he could be closer to me and my heart kinda sunk because I don't want to be involved in this and I never gave him a reason to think that we were going to be together. SIGH