Long story short, I can add to it this more if need be. I don't know much of anything about this placement so I looked it up really quick. Adventurous, freedom loving and non committal.
I recently got back into contact with my HS sweetheart/first love after several decades. When we were teenagers he was what I would call a bad boy. I was curious to see how he was as an adult.
I found out that he's recently going through a divorce. So I immediately put the breaks on any prospect of rekindling anything. He has been wanting to meet with me which I agreed to do as friends. I can definitely see the sag in him. He talked a lot about traveling and vacationing, he plays contact sports, talked about wanting to sky dive, bungee jump, basically an adrenaline junky. Even his work is what I consider dangerous. The part that I don't see, which I would think would be very obvious with a venus in sag is the non committal part.
I gave him the standard advice I give all guys I've known going through a divorce: Stay single, play the field, sew your wild oats, heal whatever hurt you from your marriage.
His answer was no lol He is referring to me as his girlfriend and suggested that I allow him to move in with me. I put all of this to a screeching and grinding halt.
I was very honest in that it's not as if I'm completely uninterested BUT his situation is not something I want to be involved in. I don't want to be/ won't be a FWB's or rebound. He says he understands and we'll take things day by day. He probably finds my caution incredibly boring lol
So anyway, what do you think gives with this guy? Is it that his seeming to want to commit to me is being non committal to the person he's still married to, so in a way that's still like cheating? Or maybe that he's just being impulsive and this feels adventures to him?
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Jun 15, 2015Comments: 0 · Posts: 728 · Topics: 12
Sounds like he's feeling all over the place emotionally, you were right to put a halt to his wanting to move in together, bless him, hes lucky to have a friend in you by the sounds of it, he just needs time to get himself together, be there for him, he will slowly start to get himself together and realize what he really wants, give it a few months, if you like him talk again, just be there for him in between x
Went for a friendly hang out type date yesterday, had no problem keeping the panties on without a friends assistance lol
Funny because he came to my house and I met him at his car door as he was getting out. I guess he thought he was coming inside.
The purpose of the thread is that I thought Venus in Sag was more non committal but I feel like I'm more non committal than he is at this point. Kinda confused about that is all.
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Jul 09, 2015Comments: 9 · Posts: 3024 · Topics: 377
I have Venus in Sag and I think I mostly just don't like when people come on too strong. If I am into you I may like it but I wont know how to react properly to it. If I am not into you it freaks me out. I think Sag Venus just makes me adventurous in love and I want an intelligent partner. I also like to study them inside and out I want to know everything about them.
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Venus in Sag men are usually attracted to wild women, perhaps his sun mellows him out a bit.
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Oct 06, 2015Comments: 0 · Posts: 474 · Topics: 24
I'm a Venus in sag. I think we want a partner who will help us grow and evolve. Someone who will be a friend as well as a lover, a companion: I dated a Venus in sag for 10 years and she was the most loyal woman I've ever met and why? Because she wanted to be. I didn't try and control her at all, it was just her nature. So I think it's a missconception that they are non commit all. I feel like we won't jump into marriage unless we're sure. We just won't take any b.s when we're done we're done. Good luck changing their mind then.