when is too soon for sex?

This topic was created in the Sagittarius forum by ariesheart on Sunday, July 30, 2017 and has 24 replies.
I'm a 35yrs old Aries woman dating a 35yrs old Sagittarius man for 8 months long distance. We've never had sex, never even really talked about our feelings although he has came and house searched with me for a home for us and our kids. Next week we're going on vacation for a week and maybe I'm nervous or over thinking it, but how soon is too soon for sex when dating long distance? Also because I've heard that Sagittarius loses interest fast after getting what they want.
As an Aries-dominant, I can say with certainty that "too soon" is NOT in a Sag's vocabulary or programming.

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Okay so your going to move in with him before having sex with him??
The time is now
if you are worried that he actually might lose interest as soon as you have sex with him

it sounds like you are in the wrong relationship
same thing goes if you think he will break up with you for waiting too long btw
You're a 35 year old woman asking a bunch of 17 year olds when it's too soon to have sex?
Posted by ariesheart
I'm a 35yrs old Aries woman dating a 35yrs old Sagittarius man for 8 months long distance. We've never had sex, never even really talked about our feelings although he has came and house searched with me for a home for us and our kids. Next week we're going on vacation for a week and maybe I'm nervous or over thinking it, but how soon is too soon for sex when dating long distance? Also because I've heard that Sagittarius loses interest fast after getting what they want.
What are your other placements?
Posted by Adreamuponwaking
if you are worried that he actually might lose interest as soon as you have sex with him

it sounds like you are in the wrong relationship
Seems like an elaborate scheme just to get pussy. 8 months, house hunting, etc.

There has to be easier targets out there...
Posted by LadyNeptune
Okay so your going to move in with him before having sex with him??


We wasn't planning in moving in together til next summer. And I would wait till we moved in together. Just like some wait til married.

Posted by Adreamuponwaking
if you are worried that he actually might lose interest as soon as you have sex with him

it sounds like you are in the wrong relationship
My main concern is it being too soon. I just brought up the lose interest part as " I heard " type of thing and was curious

Posted by enfant_terrible
You're a 35 year old woman asking a bunch of 17 year olds when it's too soon to have sex?
Whaaaaa... There's a bunch of 17yrs old up here?!?!

Posted by ariesheart
Posted by LadyNeptune
Okay so your going to move in with him before having sex with him??


We wasn't planning in moving in together til next summer. And I would wait till we moved in together. Just like some wait til married.

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How do you know if your sexually compatible though?
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Posted by LadyNeptune
Okay so your going to move in with him before having sex with him??


We wasn't planning in moving in together til next summer. And I would wait till we moved in together. Just like some wait til married.

How do you know if your sexually compatible though?
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It's a huge risk, I know... But so is everything else that comes with relationships

With the right man, no such thing as too soon for sex. ?
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Posted by LadyNeptune
Okay so your going to move in with him before having sex with him??


We wasn't planning in moving in together til next summer. And I would wait till we moved in together. Just like some wait til married.

How do you know if your sexually compatible though?
It's a huge risk, I know... But so is everything else that comes with relationships

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But it's a risk you don't need to take...

As an Aries, I'm never gonna buy the goods without a test drive. I could never move in with someone when I don't even know if we are sexually compatible, easiest killer of a relationship imo. Not to mention the messy break up after the fact, never happen!
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Posted by ariesheart
I'm a 35yrs old Aries woman dating a 35yrs old Sagittarius man for 8 months long distance. We've never had sex, never even really talked about our feelings although he has came and house searched with me for a home for us and our kids. Next week we're going on vacation for a week and maybe I'm nervous or over thinking it, but how soon is too soon for sex when dating long distance? Also because I've heard that Sagittarius loses interest fast after getting what they want.
What are your other placements?
Aries/cancer/aqua

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Posted by ariesheart
Posted by Adreamuponwaking
if you are worried that he actually might lose interest as soon as you have sex with him

it sounds like you are in the wrong relationship
My main concern is it being too soon. I just brought up the lose interest part as " I heard " type of thing and was curious

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follow your heart ariesheart

never have sex unless you are ready
I personally would never move in with someone I'm dating before sleeping with them.. I know all ppl & relationships are different, so for u, I would say to do it when u feel comfortable to do it
Posted by enfant_terrible
You're a 35 year old woman asking a bunch of 17 year olds when it's too soon to have sex?
and she had "kids" lol
see how the vacation goes - relax and be open to just being with him and see how things go - it should be nice - are you taking the "kids" lol
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Posted by enfant_terrible
You're a 35 year old woman asking a bunch of 17 year olds when it's too soon to have sex?
and she had "kids" lol
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I was married

I am in my 30's so Im very short on this subject. If me and someone I am seeing are having a good time and feel comfortable with each other, then I dont think trying for sex on the fourth date is going too far.

I like women who are comfortable with their sexuality. If someone has a school girlish attitude towards sex, that is a complete turn off.

Im not a young person anymore, so I expect the same mentality if someone is close to my age. That is why I usually avoid 20 something women because they're not comfortable with sex unless intoxication or getting high leads to it.