SirHorns
@SirHorns
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A Wall
I lose interest.
Posted by SirHorns
You can get various intimate details from you and have pried in on them to the point they make not of how "interested" you are in their life.
Can you please clarify this^^^ so I can answer this:
Posted by SirHorns
What do you do? Try to breach the wall or lose interest and find someone else to bond with?click to expand
Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by SirHorns
You can get various intimate details from you and have pried in on them to the point they make not of how "interested" you are in their life.
Can you please clarify this^^^
click to expand
You know about exs, family, friends, pets, life goals, enough about their money situation, favorite hobbies, and a few regrets they have.
Depends on timing and the dynamic between people.
I've walked away, I also stayed and it worked.
I won't force it either way. It should happen organically or not at all.
I've walked away, I also stayed and it worked.
I won't force it either way. It should happen organically or not at all.
Actually, I think I got it now.
The person is indirectly telling you they are not ready. If you have to "pry" anything from this person, then this attraction is not being reciprocated to the extent that you would like it to be.
To be clear, I am not saying the person is not attracted, I really have no clue, but it's not enough, otherwise you wouldn't be here asking us this because you would know.
Simply answer: If you're trying to get info out of me that requires maneuvering and "prying" then I'm not feeling you like that. Move on.
More thoughtful and requires more work on your part: Tell said Scorp directly that you are interested and would like to pursue something, but you feel there is a wall/barrier. ask her if she feels the same and what can be done to slowly bring this percieved wall down.
The person is indirectly telling you they are not ready. If you have to "pry" anything from this person, then this attraction is not being reciprocated to the extent that you would like it to be.
To be clear, I am not saying the person is not attracted, I really have no clue, but it's not enough, otherwise you wouldn't be here asking us this because you would know.
Simply answer: If you're trying to get info out of me that requires maneuvering and "prying" then I'm not feeling you like that. Move on.
More thoughtful and requires more work on your part: Tell said Scorp directly that you are interested and would like to pursue something, but you feel there is a wall/barrier. ask her if she feels the same and what can be done to slowly bring this percieved wall down.
Posted by SirHornsPosted by PhoenixRisingPosted by SirHorns
You can get various intimate details from you and have pried in on them to the point they make not of how "interested" you are in their life.
Can you please clarify this^^^
You know about exs, family, friends, pets, life goals, enough about their money situation, favorite hobbies, and a few regrets they have.click to expand
Got it. I was stuck on the "you" can get intimate details from "you" bit Cappy. I'm good.
^^^^So then to go further, just because you know this about me, does not mean you are interested in me in a romantic way. I don't assume things with men. Spit it out in a direct way, or I'm going to assume you are just a caring friend. Be direct with her.
P.S. I had to smirk at this:
Such a Cappy.
P.S. I had to smirk at this:
Posted by SirHorns
You know about exs, family, friends, pets, life goals, enough about their money situation, favorite hobbies, and a few regrets they have.
Such a Cappy.
Posted by tiziani
Usually it leads to two people being exhausted by the time they actually get into a commitment.
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exhausted is a good word for it. kinda like someone youre dating having to get through your bad side before getting to know your good sde.
This question is a hypothetical.
I already know how to win a Scorpio over:
- feed them
-solve mysteries with them
-Say that you find a lover craving "MINE" into your flesh during sex, hot.
- —
- Profit
I already know how to win a Scorpio over:
- feed them
-solve mysteries with them
-Say that you find a lover craving "MINE" into your flesh during sex, hot.
- —
- Profit
Posted by tizianiPosted by DMVPosted by tiziani
Usually it leads to two people being exhausted by the time they actually get into a commitment.
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exhausted is a good word for it. kinda like someone youre dating having to get through your bad side before getting to know your good sde.
Yeah, and to be honest how many times does that happen in the world today as an expectation? More often than we'd like to admit, I'm guessing. I guess that's why we can't force the issue when the timing isn't right.click to expand
totally. i am a strong believer in that everything comes down to timing.
As a Scorp moon, i dont have a wall up in the beginning, but a few or even one misstep by someone and the wall goes up and doesnt come down. nothing is ever quite the same especially if theyve broken the connection.
i wouldnt bother with any walls.
i wouldnt bother with any walls.
Posted by SirHorns
So you're with a person, you share stuff and you know you can bond with them sexually, however you feel a wall between you both. One that doesn't seem to be coming down soon. You can get various intimate details from you and have pried in on them to the point they make not of how "interested" you are in their life.
Okay, one last thought. When I read "doesn't seem to be coming down soon" it leads me to think communication and having certain expectation are an issue. If she is not fully aware of your interest, however you are expecting that her guard should fall simply because she's opened up and shared "intimate" details, then you have a problem. You're not on the same page and this will lead to frustration on your part, and in fairness to her she has no clue that this was expected of her.
What you view as intimate enough to create a bond, is not necessarily the same for another. I share all sort of things that others view as intimate, but I don't view them as such (or it's not enough to create a whole picture) and therefore doesn't mean I am any closer to a man's bed then if I had not shared these things. Sharing and opening up with the intention of getting closer to a man is different than opening up because we're simply chatting as friends or you've asked me a million questions to get to know me a bit better, if that makes any sense. If I share/open up to you without any questions on your part, you're "in". The wall is coming down enough for you, and only you to climb over--but be quick about it. It won't stay down for long.
If you haven't done so, tell her what you want. Directly. See what happens to the wall then. If she knows your intension and interest and she is guarded, then this is happening for other reasons and that requires patience.
Posted by SirHornsPosted by PhoenixRisingPosted by SirHorns
This question is a hypothetical.
*Hmph*
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😆, and here I thought you understood Scorps. Setting me on fire doesn't require an apology. Actions > words.
Anyway, for future reference, "hmph" translated:
1) *pondering* or *reflecting*
2) very good point
3) TRUTH!!!!!
4) you're full of sh*t/bulls*t
5) F*ck off
6) I'm intrigued
7) I'm turned on 😈
8) well played
9) I'm bored with this convo and *this* is better than saying "stfu"
10) I see where this convo is going and *this* is the best way to end it now
Posted by PhoenixRising
9) I'm bored with this convo and *this* is better than saying "stfu"
Ha, I gotcha!
There are different kind of "HMPH"s though. Sometimes you just leave it at "hmph", other times you quote someone, say hmph and then follow up with some general gemini moon hidden sarcastic remark. I always chuckle and take it to mean "lol, PR has had enough with this poster"
Posted by PhoenixRising
^^^^So then to go further, just because you know this about me, does not mean you are interested in me in a romantic way. I don't assume things with men. Spit it out in a direct way, or I'm going to assume you are just a caring friend. Be direct with her.
P.S. I had to smirk at this:
Posted by SirHorns
You know about exs, family, friends, pets, life goals, enough about their money situation, favorite hobbies, and a few regrets they have.
Such a Cappy.
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That caught my attention too !! 😄
You sound so much like one of my Cap exes.
We don't know any details but just give her time to open up. Exes, family, money... these subjects have always seemed insignificant to me. For the first month that we were dating/seeing each other I talked so much about everything in the world. And guess what he told me ? ' I know nothing about you!'
I wasn't using facebook at the time and apparently, I had to, if I wanted to keep dating him. Just being me, was not enough. As if I didn't exist.
Sirhorns,
My bf taurus man told me that there is *wall* in our relationship that caused twice break up and make up
thing. I don't call it *wall* I call it *Reserve*.
Posted by M143
Sirhorns,
My bf taurus man told me that there is *wall* in our relationship that caused twice break up and make up
thing. I don't call it *wall* I call it *Reserve*.
+1
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What do you do? Try to breach the wall or lose interest and find someone else to bond with?