Arguing with a Scorpio

Posted by CrabNextDoor

So me and my scorpio got into it and I’m just wondering about when they argue do they usually mean everything that they say . Me as a cancer I know I don’t mean everything I say ; I told him I hate him one time and no I don’t nor did I hate him but I said it just to get under his skin 😁. But the thing that’s bothering me since we got into it is he said ‘you don’t even talk a lot when we’re together’ and I kno I don’t I’m not really talkative I’m a listener so a few days after the argument I brought this up to him and he has a case of amnesia and claims he doesn’t remember telling me this. So what’s the verdict I’m not asking for relationship advice I just wanna kno if Scorpios say what they usually mean or do they say things when provoked that they really don’t care about

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Well, when angry we spill all the truth.

I don’t believe that... I think we can control our mouths even when angry.

not if merc is in scorp...they sure as hell do spill all the truth and all those little faults and insecurities and things you thought they never noticed


but they did

Some people do that.

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Posted by peachy06

Well, when angry we spill all the truth.

I don’t believe that... I think we can control our mouths even when angry.

not if merc is in scorp...they sure as hell do spill all the truth and all those little faults and insecurities and things you thought they never noticed


but they did

Some people do that.

Yes truth comes out. But that does not in any way need to be equated to talking shit to someone. The truth is the truth. Like someone being selfish or lying or immature... Things we all are at some points in our lives.

There’s never been a need for me to start hurting someone while they’re arguing...

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Beware of the lethal sting


😳😩

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They can say shit they don't mean too. I've had it happen.

You are a Scorpio and you have done this? Can you give an example? This is so foreign to me...

No, I'm a Gemini. A mad Scorpio told me to get out of his life. I took him at his word, because he had always controlled his temper before that, and I got out of his life, at some personal cost. He was trying to talk to me again within a week, but nope. That's not a thing you get to take back.

Hmmm... because you say that he has always controlled himself before (meaning it’s not in his character to say things he doesn’t mean), I would still assume he meant what he said at his core.


But being a fixed sign, his letting go emotionally might have been more of a challenge. But at that point, it’s best to do what you just did. It helped him not sting himself (and you) and it also avoided a long drawn out descend.


Because the moment he said that, was just the beginning of the END. But the end was decided.

How many years of attempts to reconnect would it take for you to think otherwise?


Anyway, it wasn't some mean assessment of my character, but the way it went down, it was worse. It's one of the two most hurtful things anyone ever said to me. A Virgo said the other one.

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Posted by peachy06

Well, when angry we spill all the truth.

I don’t believe that... I think we can control our mouths even when angry.

not if merc is in scorp...they sure as hell do spill all the truth and all those little faults and insecurities and things you thought they never noticed


but they did

Some people do that.

Yes truth comes out. But that does not in any way need to be equated to talking shit to someone. The truth is the truth. Like someone being selfish or lying or immature... Things we all are at some points in our lives.

There’s never been a need for me to start hurting someone while they’re arguing...

Exactly.

Had to double take was this a mini argument lol!

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They can say shit they don't mean too. I've had it happen.

You are a Scorpio and you have done this? Can you give an example? This is so foreign to me...

No, I'm a Gemini. A mad Scorpio told me to get out of his life. I took him at his word, because he had always controlled his temper before that, and I got out of his life, at some personal cost. He was trying to talk to me again within a week, but nope. That's not a thing you get to take back.

Hmmm... because you say that he has always controlled himself before (meaning it’s not in his character to say things he doesn’t mean), I would still assume he meant what he said at his core.


But being a fixed sign, his letting go emotionally might have been more of a challenge. But at that point, it’s best to do what you just did. It helped him not sting himself (and you) and it also avoided a long drawn out descend.


Because the moment he said that, was just the beginning of the END. But the end was decided.

How many years of attempts to reconnect would it take for you to think otherwise?


Anyway, it wasn't some mean assessment of my character, but the way it went down, it was worse. It's one of the two most hurtful things anyone ever said to me. A Virgo said the other one.

I hear you...that’s why I don’t hold shit until it boiles over...so I can address an issue as it arising.

If I’ve heard get out of my life...I would just as you did because I couldn’t un-heard this and it would hunt me down to a breakup later anyway.

That’s why I am fighting quietly unless I don’t give a fuck!!!

Well, I tried to do that, but he refused to communicate clearly or timely, so, yeah...it just wasn't a good situation.

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They can say shit they don't mean too. I've had it happen.

You are a Scorpio and you have done this? Can you give an example? This is so foreign to me...

No, I'm a Gemini. A mad Scorpio told me to get out of his life. I took him at his word, because he had always controlled his temper before that, and I got out of his life, at some personal cost. He was trying to talk to me again within a week, but nope. That's not a thing you get to take back.

Hmmm... because you say that he has always controlled himself before (meaning it’s not in his character to say things he doesn’t mean), I would still assume he meant what he said at his core.


But being a fixed sign, his letting go emotionally might have been more of a challenge. But at that point, it’s best to do what you just did. It helped him not sting himself (and you) and it also avoided a long drawn out descend.


Because the moment he said that, was just the beginning of the END. But the end was decided.

How many years of attempts to reconnect would it take for you to think otherwise?


Anyway, it wasn't some mean assessment of my character, but the way it went down, it was worse. It's one of the two most hurtful things anyone ever said to me. A Virgo said the other one.

I hear you...that’s why I don’t hold shit until it boiles over...so I can address an issue as it arising.

If I’ve heard get out of my life...I would just as you did because I couldn’t un-heard this and it would hunt me down to a breakup later anyway.

That’s why I am fighting quietly unless I don’t give a fuck!!!

Well, I tried to do that, but he refused to communicate clearly or timely, so, yeah...it just wasn't a good situation.

Shit!

What has Virgo said?

And congrats on being a Gemini to the fullest! 👍

The Virgo is my sister, and I'd rather not repeat it. She said it 23 years ago, but I still remember every word, the tone of the words, and where we were standing when she said it. I've forgiven her. We get along wonderfully, but that comment is etched in my brain forever.


Oh, what do you mean by Gemini to the fullest? lol!

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Posted by Aquarius3189

13 years with a scorp girl and counting,dont listen to this people who says they dont mean what they say just because their angry,if you hit a nerve they will smash you with words and they mean it every bit of it so never piss a scorp if you dont wanna hear the truth,a scorp is in their most honest form when they are angry at you but they still love you though

Yeah, but a lot of it is irrational lashing out, projecting and gas-lighting. Moreover, I don't think I can recall a time when a Scorpio's anger left me quaking in my boots - more shaking my head in disbelief at the absurdity of it all...

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Posted by MareInfame

If he said some ugly truths to you while angry, I would believe him 100% .


IME as a Scorpio and with Scorpios I’ve encountered, we always say what we mean.


I’ve noticed other signs saying things like “I said it bc I was angry but I didn’t mean it”


But for us it’s more like “I said it in a rough tone and regret that, but meant every bit of it”.


I have never apologized for something I’ve said. I’ve only apologized for the manner it which it has been said (tact vs. lack of tact).


And the tact and tone had all to do with that moment that made me get angry. Which... I don’t like to do. I don’t like losing my temper, as I see it as a weakness (losing control).