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best reading ever found on scorpio men
This could go on for years until he feels "ready" (read: safe enough) to come a centimeter closer.
Scorpio is the sign of death and rebirth...You may have several breakups or relationship phases en route to fully committing. Though they will be harrowing for you, he considers these fiery emotional trials a purification ritual. In his mind, the more your relationship withstands turmoil, the more "real" your connection is. Hardcore? You bet.
With a Scorpio, no relationship is ever really over. He has a powerful memory, especially for pain, and he can't stand to let go of anything. Although he may obsess over you for decades, his modus operandi is usually to ice you out faster than a Subzero freezer..
Breaking up with a Scorpio:
He will obsess over you for years on end. Scorpio men bond at a soul level, so when you leave him, it will feel like you've ripped out a piece of his insides. Even if you break up with him because he won't commit, or you're sick of waiting, it doesn't matter. He will still resent you in some way.
He is the king of the "curtain call", so don't be surprised if he makes a comeback a few months later, attempting to charm you back..
Getting over him: When a Scorpio Dumps You
Trying to get over a Scorpio? Approach it like detoxing from a drug. Your body will ache for everything you loved and hated.. If you can't pick up and move to another continent, take a long no-contact break. He will probably stalk you on the internet, even though you may never know.
Scorpio is the sign of death and rebirth...You may have several breakups or relationship phases en route to fully committing. Though they will be harrowing for you, he considers these fiery emotional trials a purification ritual. In his mind, the more your relationship withstands turmoil, the more "real" your connection is. Hardcore? You bet.
With a Scorpio, no relationship is ever really over. He has a powerful memory, especially for pain, and he can't stand to let go of anything. Although he may obsess over you for decades, his modus operandi is usually to ice you out faster than a Subzero freezer..
Breaking up with a Scorpio:
He will obsess over you for years on end. Scorpio men bond at a soul level, so when you leave him, it will feel like you've ripped out a piece of his insides. Even if you break up with him because he won't commit, or you're sick of waiting, it doesn't matter. He will still resent you in some way.
He is the king of the "curtain call", so don't be surprised if he makes a comeback a few months later, attempting to charm you back..
Getting over him: When a Scorpio Dumps You
Trying to get over a Scorpio? Approach it like detoxing from a drug. Your body will ache for everything you loved and hated.. If you can't pick up and move to another continent, take a long no-contact break. He will probably stalk you on the internet, even though you may never know.
omg! that's beginning to make total sense. this is the 1st info that doesn't say how amazingly great they are. most of it describes what i'm dealing with. lately it's began getting a bit hard for me. it's like 50% of his life is with me and 50% is not. it's like he says "i'm not ready to take the next step in our relationship right now (not sure what he means by that "next step" statement) but i'm loyal and willing to take this relationship as far as it goes. i don't understand what that means. unless, "take this relationship as far as it goes" means until i can't take it anymore and leave him? it feels like he puts whatever goes in his life he puts it before me and he explained why. it's like he approaches the relationship with a 95% logic and 5% emotion. not any of that glamourized sexual mysterious being that scorps are often portrayed
i have a friend who's a libra with venus in scorpio. sex obsessed and gets obsessive over guys
irishlibraiskatie - are you over react and analyze every single thing that a guy says or does. want to break it off, punish him and then do the opposite and stay with him. meanwhile, plotting on how to punish him? all your relationship progress straight to sex and then you start wondering why a guy only wants you for sex and nothing else? my friend is that way
Articles and books like these are always good to read but that's pretty much it. Tips on who you should become in order to handle someone, don't work. At the end readers act according to their nature and can't change their nature upon finishing an article or a book. I say knowledge of self is the answer to whoever you're dealing with, Scorpio or not. Have a good knowledge of who you are, where you're from and headed. Love those who embraces your essence and destination. Off course some adjustments are needed but a few compromise here and there, won't be a problem to someone who's at peace with who you are.
Yup that was very on point.
Turned me on LOL
Turned me on LOL
I agree with Satori. I think it might LOOK as though they are 'turned on by the threat of rejection' but my experience is that it's more likely to be that they are 'turned on by someone strong enough not to be hurt if they disappear on her.' lol
The guy I'm seeing WARNED me before we ever went out that I would most probably get hurt. Then disappeared, then after a year - A YEAR! - of encouraging me to date other guys (because he said he wasn't good enough for me! Yeah right) finally believed that it was really him I was interested in.
But I do think he's free to be with me because he knows I actually survived a break-up. They do worry a lot about the people they care for, and they still care for you forever (unless it was a bad break-up). So I think some of those 'tests' are actually about, if things ever go wrong, will you be able to cope and survive? perversely, they may actually be doing it out of love!
The guy I'm seeing WARNED me before we ever went out that I would most probably get hurt. Then disappeared, then after a year - A YEAR! - of encouraging me to date other guys (because he said he wasn't good enough for me! Yeah right) finally believed that it was really him I was interested in.
But I do think he's free to be with me because he knows I actually survived a break-up. They do worry a lot about the people they care for, and they still care for you forever (unless it was a bad break-up). So I think some of those 'tests' are actually about, if things ever go wrong, will you be able to cope and survive? perversely, they may actually be doing it out of love!
Congratulations! Everything you have said is absolutely true.
I've always wondered.....when VGM posts, do people read them? Just curious.
irish: i have venus in scorpio....it's a curse i believe
nah - it's virgo rising, trust me 🙂
nah - it's virgo rising, trust me 🙂
Wow. I have just read this and even though it's a few moths old I wish I would have seen it sooner. This really makes sense of a lot for me about my guy.
I love him but I break up with him at least once every three weeks because he will say or do some insensitive shit. Then he will tell me I'm too overly sensitive and sweet talk me back.
I thought it was because I'm a cancer but then when I told my story to other girls I'm friends with (all different signes) they all agreed it wasn't me. Now I read this and I'm like OMG thats my guy!
I won't take his shit though. It's like if I don't freak out or get all sad and upset he feels like I don't really love him. The worst is he never says "I love you" all he will say is "who do you belong to?" I of course being absolutly in love with him always respond the same " only you".
I don't know who is more twisted me or him.
I love him but I break up with him at least once every three weeks because he will say or do some insensitive shit. Then he will tell me I'm too overly sensitive and sweet talk me back.
I thought it was because I'm a cancer but then when I told my story to other girls I'm friends with (all different signes) they all agreed it wasn't me. Now I read this and I'm like OMG thats my guy!
I won't take his shit though. It's like if I don't freak out or get all sad and upset he feels like I don't really love him. The worst is he never says "I love you" all he will say is "who do you belong to?" I of course being absolutly in love with him always respond the same " only you".
I don't know who is more twisted me or him.
"I won't take his butter though. It's like if I don't freak out or get all sad and upset he feels like I don't really love him. The worst is he never says "I love you" all he will say is "who do you belong to?" I of course being absolutly in love with him always respond the same " only you".
Ha! I don't think so, ..you're a better woman than i cause i would not tell scorpio "only you". I would not fall in scorpios web, there are other ways of him knowing you belong only to him...when will they learn...i can definitly say i didn't get the 2c from my scorpio fiance like that. To each his own Good Luck with that!
Ha! I don't think so, ..you're a better woman than i cause i would not tell scorpio "only you". I would not fall in scorpios web, there are other ways of him knowing you belong only to him...when will they learn...i can definitly say i didn't get the 2c from my scorpio fiance like that. To each his own Good Luck with that!
Really BlueAqua... Pray tell... a 2C— that is ONE over the moon guy for you! Hmmm--- If I changed my answer from "only you" to something else I think he would--- well I dunno what he would do.
As for the bull shit did your guy ever give you any? Mine does. The minute I call him out on his bad behaviour he twists it back to me. Usally hitting below the belt. I'm rendered defenseless. He does it evey time. He know what hurts the most and I don't know why he always goes for the jugular. Then when I retreat after a day or so he will act like nothing is wrong. AND never with a phone call always a text, as if to see how angry I am with him. If I bring up whatever hurtful thing he says, he will say something like "awww your too sensitive" or "stop reading into things".
I think he is so used to my "retreating" he just waits for the smoke to clear and then comes back. It hurts me though because I don't know why he says some of the insensitive shit he says to begin with. It's like he wants a reaction and when i flip he acts all like "whats wrong now?".
I probably should just ignore him. I bet that would get the best reaction. Then every time he says something I don't like just ignore it and him. Politly leave. Maybe then he will get the message.
Or not, who knows. I'm so deeply in love with him. I never say it, but he knows. Its uncanny how he always knows what I'm thinking even if I don't say a word. He'll pop out with something as though he was peeking into my thoughts.
As for the bull shit did your guy ever give you any? Mine does. The minute I call him out on his bad behaviour he twists it back to me. Usally hitting below the belt. I'm rendered defenseless. He does it evey time. He know what hurts the most and I don't know why he always goes for the jugular. Then when I retreat after a day or so he will act like nothing is wrong. AND never with a phone call always a text, as if to see how angry I am with him. If I bring up whatever hurtful thing he says, he will say something like "awww your too sensitive" or "stop reading into things".
I think he is so used to my "retreating" he just waits for the smoke to clear and then comes back. It hurts me though because I don't know why he says some of the insensitive shit he says to begin with. It's like he wants a reaction and when i flip he acts all like "whats wrong now?".
I probably should just ignore him. I bet that would get the best reaction. Then every time he says something I don't like just ignore it and him. Politly leave. Maybe then he will get the message.
Or not, who knows. I'm so deeply in love with him. I never say it, but he knows. Its uncanny how he always knows what I'm thinking even if I don't say a word. He'll pop out with something as though he was peeking into my thoughts.
"Really BlueAqua... Pray tell... a 2C— that is ONE over the moon guy for you! Hmmm--- If I changed my answer from "only you" to something else I think he would--- well I dunno what he would do.
As for the bull butter did your guy ever give you any? Mine does. The minute I call him out on his bad behaviour he twists it back to me. Usally hitting below the belt. I'm rendered defenseless. He does it evey time. He know what hurts the most and I don't know why he always goes for the jugular. Then when I retreat after a day or so he will act like nothing is wrong. AND never with a phone call always a text, as if to see how angry I am with him. If I bring up whatever hurtful thing he says, he will say something like "awww your too sensitive" or "stop reading into things". "
Lovelymoongirl, welcome to Scorpioland. Are we with the same Scorpio?? because this sounds exactly like my fiance*giggles*im jokn,..you have to get your control *back*. You don't have to be rude to him or make him feel like he's not the "only one",.just come accross like you are your own woman . I know you love him alot but if something happens who's there in the end? You, Yourself and You. Take care of you first, if he really loves you he will be there no matter what and you will know this from scorpio . Never let a scorpio know or think he has total control of you. Try to keep him guessing,(which doesn't take much effort on your part) one way, to do this is do your own thing girl, take care of your man but when you're done,.. do for you. He's knows what you're thinking because there is no change in *You*.
As for the bull butter did your guy ever give you any? Mine does. The minute I call him out on his bad behaviour he twists it back to me. Usally hitting below the belt. I'm rendered defenseless. He does it evey time. He know what hurts the most and I don't know why he always goes for the jugular. Then when I retreat after a day or so he will act like nothing is wrong. AND never with a phone call always a text, as if to see how angry I am with him. If I bring up whatever hurtful thing he says, he will say something like "awww your too sensitive" or "stop reading into things". "
Lovelymoongirl, welcome to Scorpioland. Are we with the same Scorpio?? because this sounds exactly like my fiance*giggles*im jokn,..you have to get your control *back*. You don't have to be rude to him or make him feel like he's not the "only one",.just come accross like you are your own woman . I know you love him alot but if something happens who's there in the end? You, Yourself and You. Take care of you first, if he really loves you he will be there no matter what and you will know this from scorpio . Never let a scorpio know or think he has total control of you. Try to keep him guessing,(which doesn't take much effort on your part) one way, to do this is do your own thing girl, take care of your man but when you're done,.. do for you. He's knows what you're thinking because there is no change in *You*.
'- lol. right. they agreed it wasn't u even though u let him talk to u like u are trash out of a dumpster. some friends u have. how embarrassing'
*giggles*
*giggles*
Thanks BlueAqua. I think I may have read your advice a bit too late.
I was so disgusted by his latest display of insensitivity that I told him things between us were too uneven for me. I explained to him in between tears on the phone and text messages that I have had it. I explained to him CLEARLY (as to avoid any of his famous "misunderstandings") that I felt like only I cared for him and that it appeared to be a sad fact that he does not care for me.
Then I told him that if he wants to be in a more steady relationship to call me.
BUT, BUT, BUT then I texted 5 minutes after I hung up and wrote him that the more I think about it there can be no future for us because his actions speack louder than his words ever could. His actions show me how he truly feels so why bother going on seeing each other.
I haven't had anymore contact or heard anything. My friends said I'm crazy because he may be sick of my shit in regards to the constant breaking up (which would never happen if he acted more normal) and wont come running back to me.
I don't want him if he keeps treating me like this. I am so sad. I have been in tears for hours. I feel so lost and it's only been a few hours. Why are they so protected? What will it take to let his guard down and let me in? and if he
dosen't want me then why does he always come back? If I am so horrible why be with me?
I think my friends are wrong. I think I need to not answer if he calls or texts. I once read somewhere if a man loves you REALLY loves you he will move heaven and earth to get you back. I think a good break away will do him and me some good.
Or I'm wrong, he wont change and all have left after a year and a half will be a broken heart.
I was so disgusted by his latest display of insensitivity that I told him things between us were too uneven for me. I explained to him in between tears on the phone and text messages that I have had it. I explained to him CLEARLY (as to avoid any of his famous "misunderstandings") that I felt like only I cared for him and that it appeared to be a sad fact that he does not care for me.
Then I told him that if he wants to be in a more steady relationship to call me.
BUT, BUT, BUT then I texted 5 minutes after I hung up and wrote him that the more I think about it there can be no future for us because his actions speack louder than his words ever could. His actions show me how he truly feels so why bother going on seeing each other.
I haven't had anymore contact or heard anything. My friends said I'm crazy because he may be sick of my shit in regards to the constant breaking up (which would never happen if he acted more normal) and wont come running back to me.
I don't want him if he keeps treating me like this. I am so sad. I have been in tears for hours. I feel so lost and it's only been a few hours. Why are they so protected? What will it take to let his guard down and let me in? and if he
dosen't want me then why does he always come back? If I am so horrible why be with me?
I think my friends are wrong. I think I need to not answer if he calls or texts. I once read somewhere if a man loves you REALLY loves you he will move heaven and earth to get you back. I think a good break away will do him and me some good.
Or I'm wrong, he wont change and all have left after a year and a half will be a broken heart.
Oh I wanted to add I have NEVER in the whole year and a half we were together cried or got upset to this extent. I have gotten mad and yelled a bit (not much I'm not a yeller) but never like this.
I don't know what came over me I think it was everything building up and I just exploded. Being a Cancer it takes a lot to get me upset but when I do finally get there it's BIG AND MESSY.
I am a mess right now. My best friend keeps telling me it was a bad move on my part, but what do you do when a man wont treat you like you should be?
I don't think it's a Scorpio thing (or is it?) maybe it's a man thing. Well maybe all the games are a Scorpio thing and the treating you right if he loves you is an any man thing.
Any advice is greatly appreacated.
Not to single anybody out but no further insults will be necessary. They really serve no purpose except to hurt a persons feelings and honestly I don't understand what's the purpose behind hurting somebodys feelings(anybodys not just mine). Thanks.
I don't know what came over me I think it was everything building up and I just exploded. Being a Cancer it takes a lot to get me upset but when I do finally get there it's BIG AND MESSY.
I am a mess right now. My best friend keeps telling me it was a bad move on my part, but what do you do when a man wont treat you like you should be?
I don't think it's a Scorpio thing (or is it?) maybe it's a man thing. Well maybe all the games are a Scorpio thing and the treating you right if he loves you is an any man thing.
Any advice is greatly appreacated.
Not to single anybody out but no further insults will be necessary. They really serve no purpose except to hurt a persons feelings and honestly I don't understand what's the purpose behind hurting somebodys feelings(anybodys not just mine). Thanks.
Tasha may be harsh but she's right. Sorry. I understand you are sensitive but that right there is the major problem... not him. I've always said Scorps are WAY too harsh for Cancers.
You said that he uses the word "misunderstandings" alot? We ... he's genuinely probably confused as to why you are offended SO easily. We are harsh. We have a mouth on us and sometimes our words cut more so then ever we think. You can't be thin skinned to be with a Scorp. I get very annoyed at people who get offended easily and would have dated a Cancer man myself but a joke offended him. I was turned off and we never dated.
Honestly you need to toughen up. AND you also need to quit breaking up with him every time he "offends" you with a insensitive comment. You are manipulating him and trying to control him. It's very clear that you don't want to break up with him but you are "punishing" him for upsetting you. Either stick it out or be done with it but quit swinging back and forth. Your just messing with his head. Thats not nice and it's not mature.
Instead of doing the passive aggressive BS you need to explain to him when something hurts your feelings and DROP IT. Honesty works. Theres no need for head games and drama just because your feelings got hurt.
You said that he uses the word "misunderstandings" alot? We ... he's genuinely probably confused as to why you are offended SO easily. We are harsh. We have a mouth on us and sometimes our words cut more so then ever we think. You can't be thin skinned to be with a Scorp. I get very annoyed at people who get offended easily and would have dated a Cancer man myself but a joke offended him. I was turned off and we never dated.
Honestly you need to toughen up. AND you also need to quit breaking up with him every time he "offends" you with a insensitive comment. You are manipulating him and trying to control him. It's very clear that you don't want to break up with him but you are "punishing" him for upsetting you. Either stick it out or be done with it but quit swinging back and forth. Your just messing with his head. Thats not nice and it's not mature.
Instead of doing the passive aggressive BS you need to explain to him when something hurts your feelings and DROP IT. Honesty works. Theres no need for head games and drama just because your feelings got hurt.
Ginger Scorp I do agree about constantly breaking up with him but he makes comments in the most harsh of ways. Like one was that he hates my style , my clothing choics, but likes my looks, hair and body. So I slowly change and start shopping smarter WITH A PROFESSIONAL STYLIST and then when I'm all dressed and looking good he says things like "who the f-ck are you trying to meet?" This is when we are in his house mind you. Then he insults me some more telling me I look like a "biiigggg girl" in the outfit and tells me to go home and change and not to come back until I'm normal. So I leave and he texts me like an hour later "why did you leave I was just playing with you".
Or he says that we cant have a closer relationship until I start to look like somebody he can be proud of. So I stomp off (after I call him a jerk of course) and then he will call a day or two later asking me to go to the movies with him. when I bring up what he said he tells me I read too much into things. WHY WOULD HE WANT TO GO TO THE MOVIES WITH ME IF I'M NOT SOMEBODY HE CAN BE PROUD OF—
I DON"T LOOK THAT BAD! I GET ASKED OUT ALL THE TIME. I always tell the guys I already have a guy who is better then they can ever be. One time he sat back and watched me from a distance for quite a bit in a bar while I was waiting for him! He watched me the whole time. He still doesnt know I know he was there watching.
It feels like he breaks me down because he dosen't want me to leave him. I try to show and tell him I care for only him his response? is to then get even meaner (temoraroraly). Then a bit later he is nice again.
The worst is after we have ***. During we are so connected it's like magic (and I tell him) and then right after he is like "I gotta get outta here early day tomorrow" or something similiar. It rips my heart out. When I tell him it hurts me he says I'm over reacting. He gets so cold and detached.
He texted and called me last night. I ignored both. His text was like nothing was wrong again and it's as if he paid no attention to what was upsetting me.
I am in love with the most F-up-ed man.
Sorry tasha I'm all emotional right now. I'm usally not so sassy to people.
I am at a loss on what to do. My friends all have their hearts in the right place but just because he is good looking and has a great job and house doesnt mean everything should be swallowed by me. I'm a woman in my own right I have a job and house too I don't need him anymore than he needs
Or he says that we cant have a closer relationship until I start to look like somebody he can be proud of. So I stomp off (after I call him a jerk of course) and then he will call a day or two later asking me to go to the movies with him. when I bring up what he said he tells me I read too much into things. WHY WOULD HE WANT TO GO TO THE MOVIES WITH ME IF I'M NOT SOMEBODY HE CAN BE PROUD OF—
I DON"T LOOK THAT BAD! I GET ASKED OUT ALL THE TIME. I always tell the guys I already have a guy who is better then they can ever be. One time he sat back and watched me from a distance for quite a bit in a bar while I was waiting for him! He watched me the whole time. He still doesnt know I know he was there watching.
It feels like he breaks me down because he dosen't want me to leave him. I try to show and tell him I care for only him his response? is to then get even meaner (temoraroraly). Then a bit later he is nice again.
The worst is after we have ***. During we are so connected it's like magic (and I tell him) and then right after he is like "I gotta get outta here early day tomorrow" or something similiar. It rips my heart out. When I tell him it hurts me he says I'm over reacting. He gets so cold and detached.
He texted and called me last night. I ignored both. His text was like nothing was wrong again and it's as if he paid no attention to what was upsetting me.
I am in love with the most F-up-ed man.
Sorry tasha I'm all emotional right now. I'm usally not so sassy to people.
I am at a loss on what to do. My friends all have their hearts in the right place but just because he is good looking and has a great job and house doesnt mean everything should be swallowed by me. I'm a woman in my own right I have a job and house too I don't need him anymore than he needs
(cut off) needs me. OR am i that thin skinned and I need to toughen up. My friend thinks he may have another girl on the side and thats why he is acting this way. All I know is I can't stop crying. I can hardly function today. I'm a mess.
advice anyone? Scorpio's please help me out.
Does he realize his bad behavior or are Scorp guys really that blind?
Or am I just too sensitive?
advice anyone? Scorpio's please help me out.
Does he realize his bad behavior or are Scorp guys really that blind?
Or am I just too sensitive?
"I am in love with the most F-up-ed man."
I think that sentence says it all. Accept it or leave it.
I think that sentence says it all. Accept it or leave it.
Personally, I would leave it... with a couple of birds sticking out of the car window.
"Ices you out completely but rages/obsesses about you for months, even years. May Google you for life."
The female scorps do it too!!
My best friend is a Scorpio and she's been myspacing and googling her exes lately.. correction that is a collaboration we started on together not too long ago. It's a tad bit fun.
It actually makes me feel better to read this, because the scorpio I just broke up with for similar reasons should feel horrible. He has put me through hell in the past few months with his disregard to my growing concern about our relationship.
(Reasons I refer to are insensitive about my needs, expects the fact that he pampers me few days a month that he has time to be enough, uneven, inconsistent etc)
(Reasons I refer to are insensitive about my needs, expects the fact that he pampers me few days a month that he has time to be enough, uneven, inconsistent etc)
Breakups:
Ices you out completely but rages/obsesses about you for months, even years.
True.
May Google you for life.
Not true. More like a few months. Then one day it just stops.
This is the day Taurus girls dread - no more attention or value.
What He's All About:
..The Scorpio man will plunge into his passions, studying and experimenting until he's a walking encyclopedia on the topic. Mastery is his ultimate goal.
True.
What he wants in a woman:
-Rule #1: Never, ever, EVER kiss his ass.
... unless you should.
-Rule #2: Never show him that you want him more than he wants you.
... if you want him to let you go. ( Your talking like a girl who was close to marriage 8 times. )
The biggest turn on to a Scorpio man is your self-respect.
If that were true, we'd never be attracted to Aries girls. lol
After all, it's a rare woman who can keep hers intact around him.
The Sags sure try.
The Scorpio man loves powerful women-- but it has to be the "right" kind of power. In a nutshell, you have to be just a little too good for him, just out of his league.
We date UP to a classier woman ... unless we're slumming for easy prey.
Question is - are you aware of which one you are?
Masochistic as it sounds, the threat of rejection turns him on.
Actually, the turn-on is that the plotting of your demise
will have a greater probability of being implemented.
The Scorpio man's greatest fear his also his greatest desire. The woman who can patiently remain unrattled through all his turbulent cycles and many rebirths will keep him around for a lifetime.
Actually, we'll stay with someone who is NOTHING like that, as long as she is
FAITHFUL
SOLID in direction
Initiates sex from time to time, or who at least NEVER refuses for ANY reason short of a life-threatening condition or death in your immediate family. Spread your legs or get out my bed - this is what you were born to do and if you weren't, your in the wrong place.
Scorpio is the sign of deep bonding and extreme detachment, making him a bit schizophrenic about intimacy.
INTIMACY - is that a new fragrance by Calvin Klein?
Who is the author of this?
Posted by feliciaf
I can be patient but they like to push people to their limit until u explode. They never learn when enough is enough. They want u to be mystified by them, because technically there are not as complicated as they would like u to think. their own worst enemy.
Not sure if I'm a good kisser lol, but this stuff is all true.
And everything QS quoted.
I love this thread-- and how it keeps popppppppping right back up!
My (ex)boyfriend and I just broke up - he called it this time (we've had fights before, and I've broke up with him once for a few days, but I caved and we got back together).
I'm a Cancer & he is a Scorpio. He recently pointed out that there is a SUPPORT DAY for those married to Scorpios -- http://www.zanyholidays.com/2008/11/married-to-scorpio-support-day.html -- Go figure, right?
So I'm trying to either get the will to move on, or the will to be patient enough for him...
Which is more likely to happen first?
I'm a Cancer & he is a Scorpio. He recently pointed out that there is a SUPPORT DAY for those married to Scorpios -- http://www.zanyholidays.com/2008/11/married-to-scorpio-support-day.html -- Go figure, right?
So I'm trying to either get the will to move on, or the will to be patient enough for him...
Which is more likely to happen first?
pls start a new thread and give us all the deets.
Damn..this shit is on point. You dump me..I'll not talk to you but i'll stalk the sh!t outta yo @ $ $ Lmao. Not really, but I'll check to see what you're up to. The wierd part is..I don't know why I do that..I can have a new girl..really like her and still wonder about my ex from time to time and look to see what she's doing..even though I may not want to speak to her or anything. I just thought I was nosey as F!ck. Smh
I really love this reading because it gets to some of the core issues that don't show themselves for years. I can only speak about my Scorpio, but he's the type that said he doesn't like to play games but in actuality is the biggest game player I've met. Like in an argument he'll just make up stuff and claim it as fact to win an argument. You have to call them on this kind of bullshit. He also has a martyr syndrome and can convince himself that he's doing more, giving more and sacrificing more than anyone else when it's about equal or even less.
I've been with my Scorpio guy for almost 19 years now (17 married) - I'm a southern Virgo and can tell him to kiss my ass while making it sound like a compliment which seems to keep him in line. He's a combination of extremes and it takes a very calm person to balance him out. When we were dating he would get himself freaked out over commitment, saying "I Love You" or whatever the current issue was. I would drink enough to tune him out and wait for him to wear himself out eventually. I remember him getting all weird on our 3rd or 4th date because he thought I wanted a serious relationship - I told him point blank that I'd just gotten out of a serious relationship and had no plans on getting married anytime soon so he was safe. He visibly relaxed after than and gave me a big hug that was almost full of gratitude.
He's very protective of our family and of me in particular, is a good and reliable provider, but at the same time he wants to be taken care of, almost in a childlike way. Like he needs lots of ego stroking and displays of service to feel appreciated and admired. He would love for me to make all of his doctor's appointments and run around taking care of him like I do our children. He wants to be mothered, but if I did he would feel like he was being smothered and needed to rebel. The secret seems to be in doing just enough, but not so much that you become a staff member.
My Scorpio is also jealous and insecure - I used to dress very modestly to make him feel more secure but eventually realized he likes being kept a little off balance. They want to be with the prettiest girl in the room (because they want to feel that others envy them), but then worry about keeping her.
All in all, I'd say that this is not an easy relationship and it takes awhile to figure out how to handle Scorpio men - and they do need handling. They want to be with a woman who is strong enough to steer the ship if
I've been with my Scorpio guy for almost 19 years now (17 married) - I'm a southern Virgo and can tell him to kiss my ass while making it sound like a compliment which seems to keep him in line. He's a combination of extremes and it takes a very calm person to balance him out. When we were dating he would get himself freaked out over commitment, saying "I Love You" or whatever the current issue was. I would drink enough to tune him out and wait for him to wear himself out eventually. I remember him getting all weird on our 3rd or 4th date because he thought I wanted a serious relationship - I told him point blank that I'd just gotten out of a serious relationship and had no plans on getting married anytime soon so he was safe. He visibly relaxed after than and gave me a big hug that was almost full of gratitude.
He's very protective of our family and of me in particular, is a good and reliable provider, but at the same time he wants to be taken care of, almost in a childlike way. Like he needs lots of ego stroking and displays of service to feel appreciated and admired. He would love for me to make all of his doctor's appointments and run around taking care of him like I do our children. He wants to be mothered, but if I did he would feel like he was being smothered and needed to rebel. The secret seems to be in doing just enough, but not so much that you become a staff member.
My Scorpio is also jealous and insecure - I used to dress very modestly to make him feel more secure but eventually realized he likes being kept a little off balance. They want to be with the prettiest girl in the room (because they want to feel that others envy them), but then worry about keeping her.
All in all, I'd say that this is not an easy relationship and it takes awhile to figure out how to handle Scorpio men - and they do need handling. They want to be with a woman who is strong enough to steer the ship if
— He's a combination of extremes and it takes a very calm person to balance him out.??
I'm glad to see earth water=grounded relationship. A calm lazy Taurus chills a volcano scorpion from time to time.
—Scorpio is the sign of death and rebirth...You may have several breakups or relationship phases en route to fully committing. Though they will be harrowing for you, he considers these fiery emotional trials a purification ritual. In his mind, the more your relationship withstands turmoil, the more "real" your connection is. Hardcore? You bet.??
+10000 he waited for 3 years to have his second chance after stalking me over internet+ friends etc. funny enough the connection when we re-united is stronger than ever??_ waiting for another death so we can reconnected again..
I'm excited for our new rebirth.
I'm glad to see earth water=grounded relationship. A calm lazy Taurus chills a volcano scorpion from time to time.
—Scorpio is the sign of death and rebirth...You may have several breakups or relationship phases en route to fully committing. Though they will be harrowing for you, he considers these fiery emotional trials a purification ritual. In his mind, the more your relationship withstands turmoil, the more "real" your connection is. Hardcore? You bet.??
+10000 he waited for 3 years to have his second chance after stalking me over internet+ friends etc. funny enough the connection when we re-united is stronger than ever??_ waiting for another death so we can reconnected again..
I'm excited for our new rebirth.
Posted by ladymacbeth
..In typical extreme fashion, he can be as self-absorbed as he is silent.
What he wants in a woman:
-Rule #1: Never, ever, EVER kiss his ass.
-Rule #2: Never show him that you want him more than he wants you.
The biggest turn on to a Scorpio man is your self-respect. After all, it's a rare woman who can keep hers intact around him.
The Scorpio man loves powerful women-- but it has to be the "right" kind of power. In a nutshell, you have to be just a little too good for him, just out of his league.. Masochistic as it sounds, the threat of rejection turns him on.
..Ultimately, he longs for a spiritual and sexual soul mate, someone to "become one with" on a truly intimate level. The Scorpio man's greatest fear his also his greatest desire. The woman who can patiently remain unrattled through all his turbulent cycles and many rebirths will keep him around for a lifetime.
Scorpio is the sign of deep bonding and extreme detachment, making him a bit schizophrenic about intimacy. Closeness frightens him because deep down, he fears separation. Abandonment issues? He's got 'em for days. While he longs to merge souls with you, another part of him is terrified to lose control. He feels pain at a deeper level than any other sign, and breakups can haunt him for decades. To protect himself, he'll try to keep a sense of "space" in the relationship-- having a long-distance relationship, working late, or keeping his own apartment. If you push him before he's ready, he'll draw back. This could go
aww this post, makes a woman just wanna huggles and snuggles. So true in so many ways -this post. Especially extra especially with scorpio venus too.
Except, no. 2 is broken. Broken! I tell my husband i love him for days and days and nights and nights and hours and hours. (feels snuggly warm)
@ Lisa....
This >>>> The woman who can patiently remain unrattled through all his turbulent cycles and many rebirths will keep him around for a lifetime.
This >>>> The woman who can patiently remain unrattled through all his turbulent cycles and many rebirths will keep him around for a lifetime.
Okay, what do you do to get the Scorpio man back? If you've
-Rule #1: Never, ever, EVER kiss his ass.
-Rule #2: Never show him that you want him more than he wants you.
already done the opposite of this to him?
I made him feel like a King, gifts, cards, time, space, etc. I was always there for him. I am still in love with him. I'm a Pisces. I cannot stop thinking about him and how he changed my life. We were soul mates. I want him back. There has to be a way. He was the one that approached me. Please help me. I love him.
-Rule #1: Never, ever, EVER kiss his ass.
-Rule #2: Never show him that you want him more than he wants you.
already done the opposite of this to him?
I made him feel like a King, gifts, cards, time, space, etc. I was always there for him. I am still in love with him. I'm a Pisces. I cannot stop thinking about him and how he changed my life. We were soul mates. I want him back. There has to be a way. He was the one that approached me. Please help me. I love him.
Posted by IrresistableScorp
Number two is complete bs. Scorp men loved to be adored. Also honesty. If you are playing games with your emotions like number two ( hehe) suggests that wont work. My two cents
+1000...
why play games by trying to be number 2 ?! sincere warm hearted ..is the way 2 go. ..love that way is a reward regardless of the outcome... and i do believe if its meant 2 be it will be....
i have been dating a scorpio man for a year and i am absolutely head over heels in love. this is definitely the man i want to spend my future with. we have been through numerous short-term breakups and i wish i would have read this info before all our trouble started. unfortunately , i have not been "just out of reach" , "just a little better than him" and i have let him know how much more i want him than he admits about me. I have also been very emotional at times. crap. i wish i would have read all this before, i would have handled it all differently. at this point, i don't know if things can be saved in our relationship. any advice on how to turn it around—?? i can do all those things but don't know if it is possible since i have already (not knowing it was the worst things i could do) shown my hand and vunerable side. the only thing i have done right is that i am very loyal and have not given up on him during any of the times "trial by fire" we have broken up.
oh and by the way, i am a leo (august 5th)
Posted by IrresistableScorp
Number two is complete bs. Scorp men loved to be adored. Also honesty. If you are playing games with your emotions like number two ( hehe) suggests that wont work. My two cents
From my understanding... they love to be adored by the one they adore the most.
I'm sure like all men they like flattery but it doesn't mean much unless it's coming from the one they place onto a pedestal.
^ I concur
So how do you get him back ? Space ? Do nothing ?
What an old thread! Why did we resurrect it?
I have mixed feelings/opinions on the OP.
#1- Agreed about power. He likes power and confidence in a woman. I am older than my Scorp, I make more money, have more education, etc. I agree with never kiss his ass. Bonus points if you can put him in his place once in awhile. But definitely in private; not publicly.
#2- I would add you have to have a lot of self control. He does, for sure. He can handle your emotions just fine, if you have a meltdown, he will console you. He loves being the hero and he wants to help you, if he cares about you. But if you are an emotional mess and cause scenes, or you are clingy or needy, I can't see that working out for you.
#3-About being out of his league, not sure about that, but he does like a well-dressed woman, and he likes pretty and shiny things. lol. Mine hates when I wear sweatpants or pajama pants around the house, he likes it when I am dressed up. He expects makeup and hair done.
I have mixed feelings/opinions on the OP.
#1- Agreed about power. He likes power and confidence in a woman. I am older than my Scorp, I make more money, have more education, etc. I agree with never kiss his ass. Bonus points if you can put him in his place once in awhile. But definitely in private; not publicly.
#2- I would add you have to have a lot of self control. He does, for sure. He can handle your emotions just fine, if you have a meltdown, he will console you. He loves being the hero and he wants to help you, if he cares about you. But if you are an emotional mess and cause scenes, or you are clingy or needy, I can't see that working out for you.
#3-About being out of his league, not sure about that, but he does like a well-dressed woman, and he likes pretty and shiny things. lol. Mine hates when I wear sweatpants or pajama pants around the house, he likes it when I am dressed up. He expects makeup and hair done.
Posted by IrresistableScorp
Number two is complete bs. Scorp men loved to be adored.
I know a ScorpioMonkey and he 'd like it.
Now Scorpio mixed with Capricorn, do you think they accept it? I bet they would start doubting your intentions.
Posted by BlueAqua
"Really BlueAqua... Pray tell... a 2C— that is ONE over the moon guy for you! Hmmm--- If I changed my answer from "only you" to something else I think he would--- well I dunno what he would do.
As for the bull butter did your guy ever give you any? Mine does. The minute I call him out on his bad behaviour he twists it back to me. Usally hitting below the belt. I'm rendered defenseless. He does it evey time. He know what hurts the most and I don't know why he always goes for the jugular. Then when I retreat after a day or so he will act like nothing is wrong. AND never with a phone call always a text, as if to see how angry I am with him. If I bring up whatever hurtful thing he says, he will say something like "awww your too sensitive" or "stop reading into things". "
Lovelymoongirl, welcome to Scorpioland. Are we with the same Scorpio?? because this sounds exactly like my fiance*giggles*im jokn,..you have to get your control *back*. You don't have to be rude to him or make him feel like he's not the "only one",.just come accross like you are your own woman . I know you love him alot but if something happens who's there in the end? You, Yourself and You. Take care of you first, if he really loves you he will be there no matter what and you will know this from scorpio . Never let a scorpio know or think he has total control of you. Try to keep him guessing,(which doesn't take much effort on your part) one way, to do this is do your own thing girl, take care of your man but when you're done,.. do for you. He's knows what you're thinking because there is no change in *You*.
My ex-scorpio boyfriend just came back in my life a week ago and he has already pissed me off beyond belief. I did not realize we were clorox and ammonia. But I love him. He said somethings to me that were epic and I know he means it but after our recent blow up....oh my God I thought he was insane. Researching Scorpio traits later to better understand what Im dealing with as a Gemini Woman I find his weaknesses to be illogical. I don't like being dictated too or being leashed. The jealousy part is CRAZY to me as well, because as any Gemini will understand we thrive on communication with anyone anywhere because we seek knowledge or sales. So I feel like being with him is like being on a damn leash. He will be the only Scorpio I will ever deal with in life.
This is a well written blog because it's dead on. I like a challenge and I think this will allow me to explore other methods of getting what I want without showing anger. I can be emotionless when I don't love someone. But when I do I can show my hand. Thats gonna be on restriction with him. This is gonna be fun. Because I am going to rise to a level that will break any barrier.
Game on!
This is a well written blog because it's dead on. I like a challenge and I think this will allow me to explore other methods of getting what I want without showing anger. I can be emotionless when I don't love someone. But when I do I can show my hand. Thats gonna be on restriction with him. This is gonna be fun. Because I am going to rise to a level that will break any barrier.
Game on!
By the way thank you for the advice everyone. Now off to application of my new found tools!
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..In typical extreme fashion, he can be as self-absorbed as he is silent.
What he wants in a woman:
-Rule #1: Never, ever, EVER kiss his ass.
-Rule #2: Never show him that you want him more than he wants you.
The biggest turn on to a Scorpio man is your self-respect. After all, it's a rare woman who can keep hers intact around him.
The Scorpio man loves powerful women-- but it has to be the "right" kind of power. In a nutshell, you have to be just a little too good for him, just out of his league.. Masochistic as it sounds, the threat of rejection turns him on.
..Ultimately, he longs for a spiritual and sexual soul mate, someone to "become one with" on a truly intimate level. The Scorpio man's greatest fear his also his greatest desire. The woman who can patiently remain unrattled through all his turbulent cycles and many rebirths will keep him around for a lifetime.
Scorpio is the sign of deep bonding and extreme detachment, making him a bit schizophrenic about intimacy. Closeness frightens him because deep down, he fears separation. Abandonment issues? He's got 'em for days. While he longs to merge souls with you, another part of him is terrified to lose control. He feels pain at a deeper level than any other sign, and breakups can haunt him for decades. To protect himself, he'll try to keep a sense of "space" in the relationship-- having a long-distance relationship, working late, or keeping his own apartment. If you push him before he's ready, he'll draw back. This could go