Calling out scorpio on bad behavior.....

Okay, I have to ask from a scorpio point of view. When you are not being a very nice person, moody, and just a complete jerk ......do you like for someone to call you out on this behavior ....or do you prefer that people just ignore it and know this is just part of your natural charm ...(ha)?

I was in class with scorpio .....and he was an utter jerk and called my fellow classmates under his breath a b**tch. One I thought his professionalism was definately lacking, but there is something stirring with this man and I cannot put my finger on it. Maybe things are not going well with his gal pal or his work ....whatever the reason his behavior was totally inappropriate. I was really annoyed with him in class and I know he could sense my displeasure with him. He claimed he had not ate and that is why he was moody. I did call him grumpy and than he kinda made a joke about it ....but I did not find it amusing. I was highly annoyed because he was disorganized for our class and went on about and blamed his students. So in a sense I did call him out on it, but honestly I feel like pulling him aside and pointing it out to him how inappropriate he was acting. I dunno .....how do scorpios feel when someone points out their error of their ways? I understand people have bad days and that is excuseable ....but really he needs to take responsiblity for his bad behavior.

PD

It can go one of two ways

Either they will recognize they are being a jerk and respect you for having the eye to catch it and the courage to call you out on it OR

They will wonder who the hell you think YOU are to judge them since you arent' in their shoes, don't know how you feel or what they are going through(he may be hiding something that is bothering him more then he lets on) and put you on their "you are an arrogant know it all who tried to judge me so therefor you are banished from my like list".

One of two extreams. 😛

I was just really surprised because he generally has a pretty good disposition and very easy going and laid back. This scorpio does have issues. I have sensed this about him from day one. It does not make me respect him any less, but I hope this is a one time occurance and he starts taking our class seriously and showing my fellow classmates the respect that they show him. If I reflect on his day, there was one student who continually has an excuse for not being in class and that annoys him ....and rightfully so. I think I will just let it go and pocket this episode in the back of my head and see what his future behavior is like.

I am gathering scorpios are short tempered.

I know call me a masochistic .....but I am extreamly intrigued with what troubles scorpio. I am wanting to know what is at his core. It is that damn Piscean compassion that wants to understand. I know I cannot get in the habit of rationalizing his behavior ....bottom line he was inappropriate.

Well thanks for the input.

PD

"I am gathering scorpios are short tempered."

HAHAHAHA!!!! You have no idea. To be fair my mother who is a Scorp is slow to anger but once she's there WOW. Just step away from the lady cuz she's out for blood. I'm very quick to anger depending on the situation.

"I know call me a masochistic .....but I am extreamly intrigued with what troubles scorpio."

Oooooo um good luck with that. WE want to know what troubles ourselves and we search for that ALOT. Even if you *think* you know my guess is you only are getting part of it right. More often then not a Scorp won't share a troubled core with anyone unless it's very deep love or trust.

Posted by satori
I know call me a masochistic .....but I am extreamly intrigued with what troubles scorpio. I am wanting to know what is at his core. It is that damn Piscean compassion that wants to understand. I know I cannot get in the habit of rationalizing his behavior ....bottom line he was inappropriate.

PD, how did I know you were going to say that?? 😛 😉

But actually, I have been guilty of the very same things. Infact, I am in a realtionship now with a very demanding and sometimes selfish Scorpio boy, and I am deciding how much my EXTREME attraction to him can compensate for the times that I want to tell him and his trying ways just to eff off! 😛

I feel like he will become a kinder and more sensitive person over time, and I want to be the one to help him and also who sees that side of him unfold when it does.

I just don't know, though.

I don't need someone to need me and my Scorp definitely doesn't need me, but I do need to know that I am helping him...

He helps me grow too. I would say it's mutually beneficial, really, and that's important. Just make sure you are getting what you need to... more than just the Piscean "need to be needed" that I've also exhibited through my life.

take care, PD.

*looks behind, to the side, above, and in front* Is Satori in my head— 😛

I have this weird compassion and understanding with scorpios it is weird.

i.e. The ex-scorpio friend who screwed with me in business ......I feel sorry for him that he is so troubled that he dives to the depths of alcohol, drugs, and gambeling. He lost a child and it traumatized him for a long time. The F**ker stole from me ....yet I feel sad for him. Go figure.... *Rolls eyes* I still will never have anything to do with him however there is still compassion there. I am definately not a doormat.

As for this scorpio......well I don't know. I have not written him off, but I am just disappointed in him ....and just really want to understand what is behind this behavior.

PD

PD

Posted by Gingerscorp
"I am gathering scorpios are short tempered."

HAHAHAHA!!!! You have no idea. To be fair my mother who is a Scorp is slow to anger but once she's there WOW. Just step away from the lady cuz she's out for blood. I'm very quick to anger depending on the situation.

"I know call me a masochistic .....but I am extreamly intrigued with what troubles scorpio."

Oooooo um good luck with that. WE want to know what troubles ourselves and we search for that ALOT. Even if you *think* you know my guess is you only are getting part of it right. More often then not a Scorp won't share a troubled core with anyone unless it's very deep love or trust.

I gathered that from just small interactions with scorpios. Very private people. It was weird when my ex-friend revealed the death of his child to me. Even his gf at the time was surprised because she said he does not tell anyone about that. The little girl died of leukimia (sp?).

I dunno about this scorpio. I have no expectations with him whatsoever. As a friend / professional relationship I care about how he handles himself, because he really does have a lot to offer. He is extreamly smart, and I have learned tons from him. I would hate for his behavior to suffer reprocutions ....know what I mean?

PD

Some people have many playmates.

I do think there is a line here, though.


Students who call out their disgruntlements towards teachers .... is a lose situation.


If there is a problem, then the right steps should be taken ... for a student to take measures of reprimanding into their own hands of a teacher is not the correct path.

Well the scorpio I'm dating, I call him on his shit all the time. He says I intimidate him cause he can't pull wool over my eyes so to speak. He says he likes that about me though. So I dunno maybe it'd turn him on lol.

Posted by Astrological Aftermath
eh? thought you found an aries to play with?

LOL ....as P says some ppl have many playmates. 😛 .... j/k of course I try to keep one at a time. Too many make it a bit complicated.

I am still having fun with Aries ....he seems like the safest bet, and a total blast to hang with. It is nothing serious other than fun right now.

As for Scorpio ...it was not a romantic question ...but rather a question of professional boundaries. Yes we have flirted but when it boils down to it ....I think scorpio is putting himself at risk. The students were still talking about his behavior today and this happened two days ago. I have no interest in harming his career ...he would have done that all on his own. My only motives is to help him see the error of his ways so that he does not put himself at risk.

I absolutely would want someone to call me on bullshit. It's one of the few things I won't take offense to. I would never get mad at a person for honesty. I would probably respect and trust that person more afterwards.

Posted by Ms.Pisces
I don't think its your place to say anything to him, just because you two have been flirting or whatever. This is why mixing business with pleasure, is usually a bad idea.

Please be careful with the playing captain save a scorpio. He is a grown man who doesn't need your sympathy or pity. His troubles are his own. Don't make them yours. Doing so will not put you in a place to solve them...whether you realize that now or not...

My Pisces friend was caught up with this Scorpio guy who could be a manipulative ass. Of course, she would always defend his behavior with the, "but he's such a deep and nice person usually. He's had a hard life, blah blah blah."

I've had a so called 'harder' life than a lot of ppl I know, and I don't need anyone saving me...

Ms. Pisces - That is very sound advice. Thank you. I really think I need to be a professional on this and keep my distance. This is the main reason why I backed off with focus on him and met someone new to hang with. I have not closed that door 100% but I have moved a grave distance from wanting romantic relations with him, which really has more to do with I am focused on my education. You are absolutely right ...he is a grown man. When I did speak with him I did confront him about being a total grump and was not as nice as usual. I think he knows I did not approve of his behavior. So perhaps that is enough said. He will need to figure this one out.

I cannot be the rescuing piscean ....*sigh*

PD

Posted by Scorpiosity
I absolutely would want someone to call me on bullshit. It's one of the few things I won't take offense to. I would never get mad at a person for honesty. I would probably respect and trust that person more afterwards.

Yeah .....well maybe when I go to his office this week to pick up supplements .....I can just as a friend to friend mention something to him in a light manner. Thanks for the feedback Scorpiosity. I think I agree with P-Angel ....a student reprimending a teacher for bad behavior ...maybe not such a good thing to do.

PD