Can it be salvaged

We met on an Astro forum. Not this one, another one 5 years ago. He helped me understand myself and why I'm acting the way I do and a relationship I had at the time with a Virgo.
When I ditched the Virgo, we started talking more and more, to the point where we started online dating. He made a Facebook for me, a Twitter, and we spent a lot of time together.
We had a very strong mental connection. I don't remember his chart, but out of the sun, moon, venus and mercury we have. 3 of them were perfect for one another, and he didn't like my Ascendent Gem because he couldn't resist them lol.

At the time though, I was in the process of moving to a new city near his, I had two jobs and I was always too tired at night to talk to him. I would fall asleep mid texting, but would leave him messages on Facebook or Twitter to explain where I was.
That's something he once told me, that he's insecure and when he has questions, I have to answer them, and I was totally fine with it. So I've always been cooperating when it came to that.

He got sick for a while, and spent a lot of time at the hospitals. I was always trying to cheer him up, or if I knew he was worried about me, I would make special efforts to tell him everything was fine to not make his health worst. Something he also liked.

When I started driving where I was moving, I told him where I would be but went MIA for 3 days and it freaked him out. He thought I was leaving him, sent me messages like, Hey where are you! kinda thing.

After the 3 days, I wrote to him and didn't hear from him. I tried getting in touch with him a couple times. Nothing. So I gave him his space, and told him I would and that he could talk to me when he was ready, but he never did.

I've always missed him, the mental connection was a powerful and amazing one.

Fast forward to a month ago.
I'm random and impulsive.
I FB messaged him. Asking if he was still using FB. He read it, but didn't answer. I sent him a friend request, it's still pending.

Then, I wrote him a message about how I'm sorry things went the way they did. Explained that I tried to get in touch, but that I thought his lack of answers meant he needed space. Told him I learn a lot from what happened about time management and that I would never neglect someone ever. But that I knew he understood because I'm a Cap.
He read it.
No answer.

What should I do next?

I would imagine he is either A.) over it. B.) has not yet decided on how to respond to your message. C.) deliberately avoiding you for manipulative reasons he feels are suitable.

Sometimes emotionally insecure individuals resort to this "punishment mode" behavior. This is where they want you to feel some sort of hurt for the "pain" they believe you have caused them. Hurt for hurt. He felt ignored and abandoned, so now he's going to ignore you in return because that will surely even the score. Honestly, I cannot stand this kind of behavior. Just that whole feeling of being left hanging. I would rather be told a huge "F off" than suspended in the air, not knowing where we stand.

I think at this point you have done enough. You have offered a valid explanation of what happened, an understanding of the ramifications of what happened, and have expressed apology for what happened. If I were you, after some time has passed.. I would perhaps send one more message expressing your desire to fully rectify the situation. However, you must ask yourself if this type of person is right for you. Emotionally insecure/immature people tend to be a lot of work. If that's the case, you don't want to feel like you are constantly walking on egg shells as to avoid upsetting this guy, do you?

Thanks for your answer Miso 🙂

(PS: If it's you in the picture, you're very pretty)

As much as I agree with Miso's post I want to ask a few things to clarify.

Anna, is this simply an online correspondence?

Have you two actually met in person?

Posted by AnnaPhototaker
Thanks for your answer Miso 🙂

(PS: If it's you in the picture, you're very pretty)

Welcs. It's likely that I actually have not a clue what i'm talking about (ha ha) but hopefully that helped you to think about the situation from a different perspective.

And aww shucks! Thank you 🙂

"What should I do next?"



Stick with the real world. For all you know he was probably D.)married 😢