Can Scorpios forgive Cancers?
This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by cancerchic on Tuesday, April 18, 2006 and has 27 replies.
I'm a Cancer woman who dated a Scorpio man for less than two months...He came on very strong, talking about how much he enjoyed spending time with me, how he never pursues a woman so strongly and lets a woman have so much control, etc. I told him I was worried about him being a player, and I told him I don't get physically involved with very many men. At the time I was still spending time with an ex (he was already an ex), and my Scorpio encouraged me to stop that. So I did--I told my ex I was seeing someone else and we couldn't hang out like we were anymore.
When I told my Scorpio that, he said I was scaring him and backed off a little. I was confused. A few days later, I told him I might go grab dinner with my ex. I explained that it was because my ex really wanted to see me and was hurt and told him that I wouldn't go if he didn't want me to. He freaked out. He claimed I lied to him and clearly still wanted to be with the ex. I didn't see my ex; I apologized for the stupid idea, more than once. But apparently the damage was done. We hung out a couple of times the next couple of weeks (as opposed to before, when we saw each other every day), and it clearly wasn't the same. He kept bringing up the "lie." He finally told me that he wasn't looking at things the same way and couldn't convince himself that we should date.
I'm sad--I really liked him. And I'm a little angry because I told him I don't enter into things lightly, and he didn't respect that. I hurt a close friend of mine (my ex) for him, and it wasn't good enough. Yet...I still miss him. I really felt a connection.
I know Scorpios are unforgiving. But what about when it's clearly a miscommunication? I also read that they're more likely to try to forgive a Cancer than any other sign. Is there any chance? Does he just need time? We haven't had any contact for a week now. What's really awful is we're neighbors and have to see each other all the time.
When I told my Scorpio that, he said I was scaring him and backed off a little. I was confused. A few days later, I told him I might go grab dinner with my ex. I explained that it was because my ex really wanted to see me and was hurt and told him that I wouldn't go if he didn't want me to. He freaked out. He claimed I lied to him and clearly still wanted to be with the ex. I didn't see my ex; I apologized for the stupid idea, more than once. But apparently the damage was done. We hung out a couple of times the next couple of weeks (as opposed to before, when we saw each other every day), and it clearly wasn't the same. He kept bringing up the "lie." He finally told me that he wasn't looking at things the same way and couldn't convince himself that we should date.
I'm sad--I really liked him. And I'm a little angry because I told him I don't enter into things lightly, and he didn't respect that. I hurt a close friend of mine (my ex) for him, and it wasn't good enough. Yet...I still miss him. I really felt a connection.
I know Scorpios are unforgiving. But what about when it's clearly a miscommunication? I also read that they're more likely to try to forgive a Cancer than any other sign. Is there any chance? Does he just need time? We haven't had any contact for a week now. What's really awful is we're neighbors and have to see each other all the time.
scorpios are only unforgiving to their enemies, you didnt do anything wrong, really. In time he will have to forgive you, I know i would not that i feel you did anything wrong but that says alot.
My scorpio friend has forgiven me 100 times before, but I have also forgave him...I am cancer too..
you see, cancers and scorpios are meant to be...so you hit a few bumpy roads but it will work out. my wife was a cancer and i couldnt have asked for a better wife.
Thanks--you guys are making me feel better. But how can it happen? Do I just wait for him to cave and contact me? I don't want to be pushy. I know Cancers can be clingy, and during those two weeks when things were weird, and I became insecure, he did say I was "nagging" him a little.
well thats not scorpio talk, you being clingy should make him feel better about himself, its like saying "here i am! posses me" and then he would do so, youd get a safe feeling and it should always get better. somethings wrong here and i sont know what to say. But when the time is right he will come to you if he has any sense.
Just relax a little...As a Cancer I can be real insecure and anxious to make things right, just so I can quit torturing myself......But I think they just need time...I think if they care about you,,they'll be back...but they also have alot of patience and it probably won't be as quick as u like,,,,just my opionion
I think it will work out for you 
I don't like cancerian men..they are too clingy and needy..not to mention mummys boys..
yea i agree with the men but i like the women. the men are kinda women though so i guess both are ok if i was to switch sides..lol
My friend (cancer) painted his basement pink!..PINK? oh my god..I was like..are yu batting for the other team sunshine?..he just laughed..
would be nice with a green accent color along the borders. perhaps some purple drapes too. OH, Oh and just just HAS to get those fuzzy pillows to realy benefit the room.
yea right, just kidding thats pretty gay. not that thats bad, whoevers gay
yea right, just kidding thats pretty gay. not that thats bad, whoevers gay
Miss Morals have you heard teh phrase "Real men can wear pink"?....By the way,,I'm a cancer woman and I don't like Cancer men either...
so anyway, about cancers scorpio, yea just be patient and he'll come around. as soon as he realizes how loyal you are being a cancer.
yea right, real men wear orange with numbers.
LOL, havent laughed this hard in ages.
nope not today anyways.
I think you should let him know that you have no interest in your ex and that he (scorp male) means alot to you. My scorpio (seperated) husband of 10 yrs loves to be doted on. Wanted to be praised and told that he was great and everything. tho he might have been shocked and pulled away, he would have taken a step back for a minute, but then would have opened up to you esp if you didnt go back to you ex and now you did, you have to explain that "lie" to him and make him understand and make him feel like you want to be with him or however it is that you feel about him at this time. If he's pissed he might not give you a chance if you wait around for him to come back if he thinks your a cheating type or into your ex again. jealousy is a big thing for a scorpio regardless if you do anything wrong or not. Goodluck Cancer!
I think you should dump him. He is a control freak.
After two months of dating he is telling you who you can and cannot be friends with? I don't like it.
After two months of dating he is telling you who you can and cannot be friends with? I don't like it.
non-sense hes just being moody, they'll be a pefect couple soon as they work this out.
Yeah, I'm worried either way--if I don't contact him and soothe him, he'll be angry, and if I do, he'll be like, "I told you I was done" and be annoyed. He did say before this happened that he has zero tolerance for lies (but I didn't lie!) and that he writes people off easily, but that's a Scorpio trait, right? And when it first happened, he said he wanted some time to think about it, but then we saw each other those couple more times, so maybe that wasn't enough time. When we saw each other the first time after this all went down, about a week later (he called me), he was clearly so happy to see me and back to his old self, but it didn't last. And when he finally called things off, he said he'd been hoping that seeing me less often would make him be more into it again, but nothing was changing. I feel like I should wait and give him a lot of time because I did tell him, when it first happened, that I wanted to work through this and that I won't see my ex at all anymore. Also, since we are neighbors, he'll be able to see that I'm not hanging out with my ex, so maybe in time...I don't know.
Hey!
I keep giving you guys the old college try. Three Scorps! Three of them! I am determined to find a good one in the bunch. lol!
I keep giving you guys the old college try. Three Scorps! Three of them! I am determined to find a good one in the bunch. lol!
I guess...I didn't get the feeling that he was angry with me exactly, just that he was done. And I think that's sad because of how well we clicked in a lot of ways. To do that over one misunderstanding...had he explicitly told me what he expected (in terms of the ex), I of course would've respected that. But instead, he got kind of panicked, saying my talking to the ex scared him and put a lot of pressure on us. So he was giving me very mixed signals, like he wasn't into any kind of commitment. He also makes anti-relationship comments (in general, about how he rarely has a girlfriend and he doesn't expect relationships to ever work) quite a bit. And now I've lost my chance completely because I couldn't read his mind? It makes me sad.
> you're such a tease littlespadge
Yes. But I am just so damn good at it.
> just used the 'I'm a scorpio' line to get in your pants!!) ....
I suspect you are right Mr. Bling. I suspect you are right.
Yes. But I am just so damn good at it.
> just used the 'I'm a scorpio' line to get in your pants!!) ....
I suspect you are right Mr. Bling. I suspect you are right.
I read somewhere that Cancer was the one sign Scorpio can forgive....
honey girl, your right abt the cancers. if they do anything wrong which in my eyes is very seldom, we will forgive them and them only.
Well, guess he's not coming back--since we're neighbors, I was able to see that he had an overnight guest the other night. One week exactly from officially ending things. That's pretty classy. And sensitive. It's bordering on cruel, really. He knows how much that would hurt me and how rarely I get involved with men. I'm shocked that I was so wrong about his character--or maybe, I was right, since I did worry in the beginning that he was a player and this was a game, that he just wanted to see if he could pull me away from my ex. Cancers are intuitive. I should've listened to myself.
Thanks for all the good advice. Even if he came back now, though, I wouldn't have him. That's the kind of thing I can't get over.
Thanks for all the good advice. Even if he came back now, though, I wouldn't have him. That's the kind of thing I can't get over.
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